“What kind of man could be a wonderful husband for me?” “What personal qualities are important for family life?” These questions are often asked by women who dream of meeting their other half. But, oddly enough, what usually attracts most of us (especially in our youth!) to the stronger sex has practically no meaning in marriage...
Male beauty, tall stature and a pumped up body, eloquence, mystery and even self-confidence are not at all what a family man needs (although, of course, it doesn’t hurt either).
But you need to choose a husband based on completely different characteristics. So, I counted as many as twenty masculine qualities that will be very useful in marriage. It is their owners who usually become wonderful husbands and wonderful fathers.
- Reliability
- Responsibility
- Honesty and integrity
- Independence
- Initiative and entrepreneurship
- Intelligence and broad outlook
- Courage and determination
- Energy
- Balance and restraint
- Loyalty
- Resilience and fortitude
- Ability to empathize and support
- Sense of humor
- Generosity and generosity
- Romance
- Patience
- Self-sufficiency
- Discipline
- The habit of taking care of yourself
- Ability to love
Consultation with a psychologist.
Responsibility
Another most important quality of a man in the family. Because marriage is a responsibility. For the family, for its well-being, for myself. Before marriage, pay attention to how a person fulfills his obligations to you, to his loved ones, to friends and employers. If you see that a person approaches all tasks seriously and responsibly, this is most likely how he will behave in the family. By the way, some young ladies may be scared off by such a man: “He is so correct, so serious! It's boring!" This is due to their lack of knowledge.
Self-confident
Self-confident men can be harsh, even rude. They are proud and arrogant because their self-esteem, as you understand, is off the charts. True, they can also be funny and interesting, but only until the moment when you accidentally offend him with carelessly spoken words regarding his abilities, capabilities, character. Nevertheless, you can be happy with such a man; if he meets his one and only and understands that it is she, he can become quite good-natured and courteous. But all the same, it’s better to try not to touch his self-esteem - it will be worse.
With men of this psychotype, I think everything is clear. They love and know how to make interesting and beautiful jokes, they know how to get a crowd going, they literally attract and win over even those who are indifferent to them. It’s easier to communicate with the soul of the company than with a shy guy or a narcissistic upstart ; it’s easier to find a common language with him. Do you want to build a serious relationship with a funny guy? Just be yourself, unless, of course, you are a tearful beech.
Honesty and integrity
There is no need for even special explanations here. “I’m looking for an honest and decent man” is the main slogan of most marriage advertisements. But how can you understand that he is exactly like that even before the wedding? Observe carefully, pay special attention to his attitude not only towards you, but also towards other people. If a man blows away specks of dust from you, but at the same time acts unkindly towards his parents and friends, there are some suspicions of what may await you ahead... However, pay attention not only to alarm bells - appreciate manifestations of honesty and purity of character.
What adjectives can describe (characterize) a guy, a man?
separately positive, separately negative
Positive: smart, honest, frank, sincere, self-confident, decisive, purposeful, collected, courageous, courageous, balanced, calm, cold-blooded, kind, easy-going, generous, magnanimous, inventive, sensible, compliant, accommodating ,hardworking, meek, gentle, selfless, polite, sympathetic, merciful, cheerful, witty, cheerful, serious;
negative: self-righteous, vain, stupid, dishonest, deceitful, mean-spirited, cunning, insidious, insecure, insincere, indecisive, hot-tempered, angry, cruel, vindictive, greedy, stingy, slow-witted, reckless, stubborn, lazy, selfish, indifferent, rude, selfish, ruthless, boring, gloomy, gloomy, gloomy:)
Adjectives to describe a man: good, bad, lazy, hard-working, brave, cowardly, kind, evil, attentive, boorish, rude, affectionate, generous, greedy, strong, weak, smart, stupid.
A man or guy, in my opinion, can be characterized using the following adjectives that describe positive qualities of character, appearance, behavior, business qualities, attitude towards a woman:
smart, intelligent, quick-witted, understanding, witty, kind, kind, easy-going, strong, brave, powerful, courageous, proud, cheerful, joyful, active, responsible, attentive, sensitive, skillful, caring, gentle, affectionate, loving, faithful, generous, neat, neat, stylish, well-groomed.
I do not include the word “beautiful”, since this is a relative concept that God gave to whom. Beauty is often associated with masculinity and positive character traits, in my opinion.
And with these adjectives I will characterize the negative character traits, personality, qualities of a man:
stupid, incompetent, slow-witted, carefree, careless, angry, spiteful, vindictive, vindictive, jealous, callous, selfish, stingy, greedy, weak, frail, passive, proud, arrogant, arrogant, arrogant, important, ill-mannered, boorish, uncultured, ignorant, irresponsible, sloppy, dirty, unkempt.
Independence
It happens that a woman in love falls into marriage like into a pool. What awaits her there and what the essence of her chosen one is - she does not always realize. And even if she doesn’t like something, the woman is full of confidence that the man will definitely change for her sake.
But men don't change. They only adapt to new circumstances and conditions.
However, independence is a quality that can be successfully developed in marriage. Here the question is different. The chances that a student husband will become more independent over the years, including financially, are very high. And if we have before us a middle-aged man who still judges everything from the words of his mother and is in search of himself, living at the expense of his parents, then the situation is completely different. Quite sad...
Good manners
This does not necessarily mean an impeccable knowledge of etiquette and refined table manners. Although, of course, this is also welcome. We are talking about adequate behavior in society, which implies
- observance of basic rules of decency;
- delicacy;
- tact;
- politeness.
There is absolutely nothing difficult about not picking your nose while sitting at the table, not using foul language in the presence of others, giving up your seat in public transport, and the like. Such basic things should be instilled in a boy from childhood.
Initiative and entrepreneurship
These are great qualities. An active, purposeful man will be able not only to ensure the financial well-being of his family, but also to cope with the various tasks that life constantly poses to us. An enterprising person does not give in to circumstances, does not become discouraged, does not go with the flow - he acts. Sometimes it can even scare us women. We might prefer to hide from this problem. However, the “ostrich” method will not help us - we will have to learn to support our enterprising man. After all, even the strongest need support.
Intelligence and broad outlook
Firstly, it’s always interesting to be with such a person. Communication with him fills and contributes to our development. Secondly, a person who has knowledge in various fields has much more abilities and opportunities to solve various tasks and problems in family life - from repairing an electrical appliance to independently resolving legal issues. Thirdly, a truly smart (and not just well-read) man understands a woman much better. And, as my mother likes to say: “You can always come to an agreement with a smart person!” This is another significant plus.
Courage and determination
Women often complain that they are the ones who have to make strong-willed decisions in marriage. While their husband procrastinates... This can happen for two reasons: either we married a very indecisive person, or we ourselves constantly climb into the embrasure, pushing away our spouse with all our might. Everyone knows that a very strong and active woman can overshadow even a naturally courageous and decisive man. Therefore, it is so important for a woman to learn to yield the helm of the family ship to the head of the family, wisely retreating to second positions.
Energy
A man who prefers the role of a passive observer of the flow of life is of little use in marriage. Family life requires active action.
Needless to say, it is an energetic (in the right direction) spouse who is able to provide for his family and create better living conditions for it. In addition, a man full of strength and energy is very attractive. Yes, with him a woman has to keep herself in good shape, always be competitive - but that’s great! This will prevent her from blooming.
Realization
It is not at all necessary to be a successful businessman - not everyone is given this, and not everyone needs it. You can realize yourself in absolutely any field, becoming a professional or specialist of the highest class. Having golden hands and working as an electrician is no less prestigious than running your own organization.
Many people brilliantly find themselves even just in a hobby, ranging from artistic carving on eggshells or building houses from plastic bottles to jailoo tourism (have you heard of that?) or base jumping.
The point is that a man should be passionate about his business. Where there is no progressive development, the reverse process begins, that is, degradation. Of course, some hobbies require considerable financial expenses, but they provide strong motivation to strive to earn more and adequately provide not only for yourself, but also for your family.
Balance and restraint
Anything can happen in a family... And if you react to all situations extremely emotionally and unrestrainedly, you will not have enough nerves! Living like a powder keg destroys both health and relationships. A reasonable, restrained man is able to react correctly to women’s mood swings and even hysterics. It is clear that there are female specimens that can infuriate even the most imperturbable spouse.
But in most cases, male restraint is the beautiful and dignified behavior of a strong man in response to a woman’s weakness.
After all, a man hysterical and screaming in response is simply a disgusting picture.
Character
This is the core of personality, on which are strung the traits and properties that determine the behavior of a particular person and his relationships with others. It is important for a man to have a strong character, but not to be too stubborn, to be able to compromise, but not to be henpecked.
And if some character traits create serious problems, do not be shy to admit them and systematically work on developing your own personality. Which, by the way, won’t hurt women either.
Resilience and fortitude
For many women, the first reaction to unexpected unpleasant news is very emotional. Simply put, we panic. Or into a stupor. Yes, then, of course, we pull ourselves together and begin to act. But imagine if there is a panicking and trembling man next to us? This is a real nightmare!
It is the man who should always try to maintain presence of mind and be a strong support for the family. At least in appearance!
Even if his emotions are raging inside... What we see is enough for us!
Attention
Very often girls are compared to flowers, since they also need constant attention from their companion. With its deficiency, various experiences and a feeling of underappreciation arise. Attention can be manifested in small things, so it is not at all necessary to constantly be near your beloved. It is enough to support her with a kind word or an unexpected compliment, and of course hear and notice her.
Generosity and generosity
It is unlikely that anyone will want to marry Plyushkin, even despite all his wealth. Greed and stinginess turn a woman away from a potential husband candidate already in the first stages of a relationship: “Darling, could you pay for us - my finances are a little tight...” Chocolate and cloves for the entire candy-bouquet period - even the most ascetic ladies will not like this. And vice versa, the generosity of a man (to the extent of his financial capabilities) will not leave any woman indifferent. A generous attitude towards your beloved is another quality that is very valuable in marriage. After all, we are not always bunnies... And then we ourselves are very ashamed. But if a man sometimes treats our whims generously and condescendingly, it’s worth a lot!
Is appearance not the most important thing?
A real man always takes care of his appearance
What external characteristics should a real man have? Anyone who follows the latest fashion trends, dyes their hair and dresses exclusively in accordance with trends is unlikely to be the type of ideal real man.
It is enough for a real man to follow these recommendations in everyday life:
- Maintain personal hygiene. Take a shower twice a day, wear clean clothes and use antiperspirant.
- Cut your hair on time.
- Exercise. This will help keep your body in good physical shape.
- Pay attention to the cleanliness of your hands and nails.
- Wear ironed clothes and polished shoes.
Machiavellianism in psychology
Romance
We are all princesses at heart... Even if age has long stopped us from admitting it. Even if we were raised as warriors... Every woman appreciates the romantic impulses of the stronger sex. Candlelight dinners, tender confessions, compliments, bouquets of flowers, courageous deeds in our honor - all this affects us, even if for some reason we try to resist advances. Of course, complete romance in marriage is impossible - even very young girls understand this. But the romantic behavior of a husband (even occasionally!) is exactly what a wife needs in order to feel like a real woman - loved and beautiful.
Self-sufficiency
This quality seems controversial. Why does a self-sufficient man need a family? If his own company is enough for him. However, everything is not so simple. A self-sufficient person is a self-confident person who independently chooses his own path in life and does not allow himself to be manipulated. He is the master of his life. Yes, for a woman who wants to manipulate her husband according to her own understanding, such a man is definitely not suitable. But the one who wants a strong and confident person next to her, capable of taking responsibility for the family and solving problems on her own, will be next to him as if behind a stone wall. Another thing is that such a man must constantly live up to...
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Responsibility
In the first place, of course, is responsibility. It doesn’t matter what social status or appearance if a man does not know how to take responsibility for his actions. At least for mature and conscious representatives of the fair sex. After all, how can you trust a person who tries to shift the fulfillment of some of his tasks and even blame onto others? A responsible man is able to take care of his family, otherwise, in extreme cases, this responsibility will fall on fragile female shoulders, and this process does not inspire respect at all.
Determination
A person who knows exactly what he wants will definitely achieve it. And those who are accustomed to going with the flow will almost never be satisfied with the shore on which they wash up. After all, it is important for a woman to understand that her beloved has not only desires, but also clearly formed goals towards which he is moving, then she can be calm about the future. And aimlessness is the prerogative of those people who waste their lives without appreciating it.
Ability to keep your word
To be trusted and believed, you need to be able to not only promise, but also be sure to keep your promises, even if they are completely unprofitable and you change your mind. So don’t throw words to the wind, it will play a cruel joke on you; it is almost impossible to regain lost trust. If you have difficulty with this topic, check out this article.
Sense of humor
Life without stress, tension and various experiences is impossible; they await us every day and at every step, so a person who is able to defuse the situation and create a comfortable, cheerful atmosphere where you can allow yourself to relax is highly valued.
Generosity
Basically, it is not so important for a woman how much a man earns; what is more valuable is what he is ready to give her based on his financial situation. After all, even if he has millions, he can save on such vital things as medicines or groceries. Or earn a little, but still try to please your sweetheart with flowers, new clothes, etc. A greedy person is not able to give, and full-fledged harmonious relationships do not tolerate an imbalance in the “give-receive” process.
Confidence
If a person is not confident in himself, he will not believe that he deserves love, that he is worthy of it, and therefore will not take action to win the girl he likes. And being around someone who constantly doubts their abilities is difficult. Therefore, be sure to look at the article about methods on how to believe in yourself.
Care
No matter how brutal and strong a man is, it is important for a woman that he knows how to take care of loved ones and herself. It is caring that helps her feel happy in a relationship, loved and valuable. It is care that encourages you to give more in return and experience tenderness, gratitude and recognition for your chosen one.
Attention
It’s not for nothing that girls are sometimes compared to flowers that need constant attention because they will also “wither” and worry if they don’t receive it. And this doesn’t mean that you should be next to her 24 hours a day, no, it manifests itself in the little things. For example, hold the door, give an unexpected compliment and, most importantly, hear it and notice it.
Loyalty
It is a rare girl who does not dream of a man who will remain faithful to her under any circumstances, even if he is seduced by Miss World. The ability to concentrate on one thing, and not chase after quantity, is actually a sign of maturity and awareness.
Honesty
Valuable in absolutely any relationship, otherwise how can you be in them? And by basically telling the truth, you will make your life much easier because you won’t have to keep in your head a whole bunch of unnecessary information about what exactly you lied to and to whom. There are situations when, with the help of lies, we, on the contrary, try to protect loved ones from worries, but if a person uses it constantly, and even then in order to avoid responsibility for his actions and misdeeds or to appear better than he really is - the female half of humanity may not forgive.
Openness
You don’t have to shout to the whole world about your deepest thoughts, problems, etc. No, you just shouldn’t close yourself off from your loved ones and be frank with them. It will be important for a person who sincerely loves you to understand what is happening to you and what feelings you are experiencing.
Stability, stability and reliability
The unknown causes anxiety, especially when you don't know what to expect from your partner. Subconsciously, representatives of the fair sex choose a person with whom they can create a family in which it will be calm and orderly.
Sociability
Sociable people attract attention, therefore, if you want to conquer a girl, you should not sit there looking as if everything and everyone around you is not at all interesting or pleasant to you. Especially if you are among her friends. By arousing the interest of other people, you will let her know that you are truly a special person who is worth paying attention to. See how you can develop the qualities that will make you a welcome guest in any company here.
Mind
I’m sure you’ve heard more than once that cute creatures are sometimes more excited by an intelligent and well-read person than by a pumped-up or simply handsome one. Smart people strive to understand the world, they want to develop and tirelessly move forward. And this is very attractive and exciting to the weak half of humanity. And there will always be something to talk about, to admire...
Spirituality
In addition to intelligence, it is very valuable when a partner’s inner world is rich, when he is conscious and understands why he came into this world and how he can be useful. A spiritually poor person is not capable of giving love, much less appreciating it. You can get more detailed information about this here.
Neatness and sense of style
You don’t have to follow fashion, but if your shirt and trousers are always clean and ironed, and your shoes are polished, you will be able to win the attention of some beauty. But this is half the battle, you also need to worry about the cleanliness of your body, use eau de toilette sparingly and at least get a haircut periodically. It seems like I’m talking about very banal things, but in fact, not everyone considers hygiene and neatness an important component of their life.
Temperament
I may surprise you, but women want sex no less than the stronger half of humanity. Therefore, if the chosen one is simply ideal in all manifestations, but is not entirely interesting in bed, then the girl may well end the conversation. Excitement, passion, tenderness and desire of a partner strengthen and make relationships more “alive”, because sexuality is a very significant component of them.
Kindness
Heartlessness and cruelty are not only alarming, but also frightening and repulsive. Observing how the chosen one behaves with animals, children, people who need help, the girl draws conclusions regarding their further communication.
Force
Moreover, both physical and mental strength. It is important to be able to protect your loved one, but it is no less valuable to show character in overcoming difficulties, in the process of achieving your goals, and even more so when struggling with various kinds of addictions and weaknesses. By the way, you can check your willpower level using the link “Willpower Test”.
Self-love and self-respect
We are treated the way we ourselves allow; therefore, if a person is not able to take care of himself and value his life, satisfy needs and defend boundaries, he will not be able to respect himself and loved ones. And it is important for the fair sex to respect and admire their chosen one. If you have difficulties with this topic, be sure to look at the article “What does it mean to love yourself and how to learn to respect your personality?”
Discipline
Some men have been disorganized and somewhat unserious about life since their school years. They may be late, forget to complete an assigned task, do everything “behind them,” be distracted from an important task... The wives of such husbands often call them “another child in the family.” There is infantilism in behavior here. A disciplined man is the exact opposite of a “man-child.” This is a responsible person who takes the assigned tasks seriously. You can rely on him for everything. Needless to say, this is exactly the kind of life partner that most unmarried women dream of.
