The proper function of man is to live, not to exist.
- Jack London
We often live on autopilot - repeating each new day the same way as the previous one. This is convenient and saves a lot of nerve cells - until you start summing up the results of the year or even the five-year period. If you want to truly live your life, experience all the thrills and enjoy it to the fullest, you need to look for ways to break out of your routine. The Heroine editors will remind you of a few simple ideas that can be implemented this weekend.
Create a morning ritual
Say hello to the sun when you wake up and tell yourself that you won't waste your day. Do some stretching in bed, meditate, or fill out your diary. Add an unusual syrup or flavoring to your coffee. Come up with your own way to start the morning and have fun from the first minutes of waking up.
Assess problems - they provide perspective
Most of us don't like problems. And this is quite understandable. Having to go through a difficult time can be extremely painful. Such problems push us against our own limits. They show us how corruptible we are, which is why we don't like them.
However, on the other hand, challenges provide extremely rewarding learning experiences that can enrich your life. In fact, challenges, or rather the perspective they give you, can help you live a more fulfilling life. Having to go through a difficult time can give you a completely different outlook on your life. It can help you appreciate your life more. But it can also show you what truly fulfills you. Thus, problems can turn your life upside down, which will help you free yourself from everything that is not conducive to your happiness and growth.
When you face difficulties, try to find opportunities that come with it. Don't beat yourself up because it won't help your situation. Instead, try to use the remnants of a broken dream to lay the foundation for something new.
Take a chance
From time to time we all need to take risks - even if things go wrong. Get inspired by other people's success stories, try turning your hobby into a job, or ask someone you've long admired for mentorship. Invite someone you like to dinner and submit an entry to a competition you find interesting.
What are you most afraid of? What stops you on the path to your dream? Whatever your phobia is, face it head on and think about how you could overcome this fear.
Mindfulness, awareness and self-reflection
Mindfulness helps you cultivate happiness from within. It also allows you to better understand who you really are. Moreover, the habit of self-reflection will help you find more meaning in life's experiences.
This can be achieved by developing a habit of meditation or simply by trying to pay full attention to the present moment. But you can also devote yourself to reflecting on your life and your actions. This will help you identify patterns that will help you find what really matters to you.
Give up control
It's not about drinking yourself into oblivion: just giving up control over yourself and everyone around you. Your habit only leads to stress and anxiety for your loved ones, so let them live as they see fit.
Time planning
All you need to do is manage your time correctly. Many people want to do nothing, but at the same time have everything completed on time. It doesn't happen that way. Just like it is impossible to complete a difficult task quickly. Therefore, in order to manage everything, a person is required to properly plan his working day.
There is something called time management. This is the theory of time planning. It helps very well to think through all the upcoming tasks, as well as to complete them as quickly as possible. At first you will have to be persistent and make an effort. Especially if initially the person did not like to work too much. Over time, using time management techniques will become much easier.
Practice
Get out of your chair and go for a walk. Do some push-ups or stretch your toes. Buy a bike or go to the mountains - even a little exercise every day will change your life for the better.
Determine your true Wants
I want to always be with you, wherever you are, whatever you do. What I want is you yourself. Sometimes it seems that your destiny is somewhere far away, but in reality it never leaves you. Perhaps you just don’t see it yet.
Talk to yourself out loud. Use the two-chair technique for this. Place two chairs opposite each other. Sit on one of them. The idea of chairs may seem stupid to you, but believe me, doing it in your head is much more difficult. You can use this technique for any topic, but in this case, talking to each other will be based on need and want. Sit on one and speak for 5 minutes on behalf of I want. Move to another chair and criticize everything I want on behalf of the need. Then move back to the first chair. And see what happens. You will be able to discover unexpected Wants and discard false Shoulds.
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A fulfilling life starts from within
Many people who strive to live more fulfilling lives look outside themselves for possible answers. However, most completely ignore the fact that nothing on the outside can truly satisfy you unless you are happy on the inside. So instead of looking within for answers, we explore one external source of happiness after another. And while many of these external sources keep us entertained for a while, none of them can truly keep us satisfied for a longer period of time. Nothing from the outside world can truly fill our hearts and minds. Until we realize that the journey to a fulfilled life begins from within.
Once we can find happiness from within, it helps us to know what fulfills our lives. If you can bring out the happiness within you, you are more likely to discover what makes your life truly worth living.
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Discover what really matters to you
Spend an hour making a list of all the important things in your life. Comfortable apartment? Your child's laughter? New video trending? Add to this list those things that you are just going to do. Then reduce this list to five items - only the most important things at the moment. Focus your life in the coming months specifically on them and do not be distracted by all the side pleasures.
Pursuing your vision will truly satisfy you
Do you have a purpose in life? Is there anything you would absolutely love to see realized on this planet? Is there something more that you are willing to fight for?
Striving for true vision can have a significant impact on how fully you experience your life. Such a mission will not only boost your motivation, but will also help you keep going when the going gets tough.
Take the time to develop this vision. This is not something that needs to be done in an hour or even a week. But in the long run, you will benefit greatly from your dream. Instead of complaining about the difficulty of completing a certain task, you will remain focused on the importance of continuing to achieve your vision. And knowing that your desire to make this world a better place will not only give your life purpose, but it will also fill you.
The answer to what a fulfilling life is and how to achieve it is to find meaning in your life. Try to understand what matters most to you and how you can affect positive change for yourself and those around you.
Don't let yourself suffer
Life is not just about constant happiness and fun, and sadness, despair and pain are an inevitable part of life. We have to lose loved ones, get sick, get injured and need money. Learn to feel your pain and really grieve, and not forbid yourself to be upset. But when you fully experience your suffering, you can move forward to happy days.
Add joy to other people's lives
Naturally, we try to achieve satisfaction by adding joy and happiness to our own lives. As a result, we neglect the powerful impact that helping others can have on our lives. Helping others can make you happy. This will improve your psychological well-being and overall life satisfaction.
Many people feel like they are missing out on opportunities by helping others. They believe that helping other people is a waste of time. But at the same time, these people have never experienced how wonderful it is to see other people's striving. It's amazing to see others succeed because you helped them get back on their feet when they needed you most. There is no risk in helping other people, but it can bring heartfelt satisfaction.
Technique
Another very useful technique is to involve modern devices in your work. Various gadgets and equipment are not only entertainment, but also benefits for humans. You can make the most of newfangled devices to make your life easier. This way you can manage everything and not get too tired.
You can entrust cooking to a pressure cooker/multi-cooker, cleaning to a robot vacuum cleaner, and so on. This way you can save a lot of time. As a result, a person will have more opportunities to relax. Especially if you do not deviate from the previously drawn up schedule.
Be careful: some modern gadgets only waste time! It is recommended not to use the Internet (allowed only for work purposes), social networks and other entertainment during the working day. Sometimes even a banal news check can take several hours. Therefore, you should not give in to temptations.
Now it’s clear how to manage everything and relax at the same time. Everything will definitely work out, but you will have to try hard from the beginning!
Reasons that prevent you from having time to live
What prevents us from being able to do everything? Live a full life? There are several explanations.
- Time trouble. The term denotes an acute lack of time, sometimes reminiscent of the movement of a whole wall of urgent matters and tasks. Family, children, work, and something interesting is always added that fits the expression: “Not now!” Besides, we are not robots. Sometimes you want to sit down with your favorite book, watch a movie, or go somewhere you haven’t been able to get to for six months.
- Fatigue. A natural state if time pressure lasts for a long time. From the outside it may look like the person is being lazy. But still, in this case, such a state is a signal that it’s time to stop. Understand how necessary it is to continue living at this rhythm.
- Empty time. This is the main limiter on your ability to control your day from morning to evening. It is important to understand the reason for the slipping hours. For example, perhaps this is frequent viewing of news on VKontakte, photos from Instagram, or the computer game “Just for half an hour.”
- The decision is at the subconscious level. (Wait until the last moment). At the same time, people can do completely different things. Except for those that need to be completed urgently.
- Negative energy potential. Fatigue reaching the level of the limit of survival. Here, in addition to psychological reasons, there are often specific problems with well-being. They are associated with a lack of a healthy lifestyle, a minimum of movement, stress, and snacking on the go.
Priorities
How to manage everything and live a real life? For this there is a theory of planning and time distribution. She is the one who will help bring the idea to life. After a person learns to draw up a clear plan of action, and is also able to predict the duration of a particular activity, you can move on to more important points. Namely, to the correct prioritization.
Some activities are extremely important, others are secondary. And this must be taken into account. For example, you need to take your child to the doctor, wash the dishes, pick up your second child from kindergarten, cook dinner and wash the windows. In this situation, the most important things to do are going to kindergarten and to the doctor. These items are ranked first. Next, it's probably more important to cook dinner than to clean up. If there is a period of time between going to the doctor and going to the garden, you can insert some minor task into it - either cooking or minor cleaning.
This type of scheme should always be used. The most important things are put in the foreground, then less serious ones, and at the very end - what can be neglected, secondary actions. This way you will be able to do everything taking into account the time spent and importance.
