What is kindness, what does it mean to be kind, how does it manifest itself?

What is kindness

Kindness is a positive personality quality that makes a person selflessly help and treat people with care. The concept of goodness is revealed through the individual’s desire to please others with certain actions. To be kind means to always take care of others, to do something for their benefit. Here the connection between good and good can be traced. A person who does good receives true pleasure from it; he cannot do otherwise.

A synonym for kindness is virtue. This quality presupposes a person’s polite and attentive attitude towards others.

A boy gives happiness to a friend

In pedagogy, such definitions as “kindness” and “kindness” are associated with morality and ethics. But at the same time, in the explanatory dictionary of V.I. Dahl also interprets good as property and material values belonging to a person. It is no coincidence that in the old days a rich man was called kind.

The power of kindness is even seen in the fact that in the Old Slavonic alphabet one of the letters bore this name. Historians have established that the word “good” is of original Russian origin; translated from Old Slavonic it meant “oak” and was associated with strength, strength, perseverance and masculinity.

In psychology, kindness is associated with a high level of human empathy, altruism, and spiritual sensitivity. However, a person must do good wisely: his desire to please others should not negatively affect his own life. You shouldn’t take off your shirt and give it to a beggar unless you have another shirt in your closet at home.

In philosophy, kindness is part of a person’s spirituality.

Work in nature is an important means of educating humanity

In the Christian religion, much attention is paid to the eternal struggle between good and evil, because everything is known in comparison. Kindness equates to mercy. It manifests itself in the desire to help those in need. Kindness in religion is considered a spiritual quality that must be trained throughout life. The Church encourages righteous actions because they make people humane. A person who does good deeds receives love as a reward.

Islam obliges people to communicate politely with each other. This religion teaches people to help others with kind words. Kindness is an innate quality that a person must preserve and develop throughout life. This can be done if you always act according to your conscience. Islam teaches tolerance, which is also an act of kindness.

Buddhism does not contrast good and evil. The emphasis in this religion is on compassion and love, and kindness in life is a necessary condition for personal development.

In other religions, goodness and kindness are also considered signs of spirituality. God blesses a person for good deeds, because one of the names of the Almighty is Good. The ability to do good is a sign of true faith in God.

Kindness is inextricably linked with a person’s selflessness and warmth, and faith in love. If someone expects gratitude, fame and universal respect for showing kindness, then this is not a kind person, but an egoist.

What does true kindness look like?

Kindness manifests itself in actions. In a kind person, this character trait is reflected in all areas of life. A person's true goodness is judged by such things as:

acceptance of one’s own individual personal characteristics
respectful attitude towards others, manifested in tolerance;
a person’s lack of desire to re-educate and remake those around him;
altruistic attitude towards loved ones and colleagues;
ability to build constructive interpersonal relationships with colleagues;
generosity, willingness to share what a person has with others;
lack of envy.

Varieties of Virtue

This feeling is divided into many types, it manifests itself differently in each individual. One is so generous that he will not offend even a small insect, others take advantage of kindness and do not offer anything in return. There are also individuals who will not lend a helping hand until they are asked to do so. Kindness to people is shown:

In actions. It is expressed when a person does a good deed, even if he was not approached with a request, but was very much in need.
In affection and support. The person who supports everyone and gives wise advice is always the center of attention. Since each of us sometimes needs useful advice that will help solve all difficulties. If you find yourself in a difficult life situation, you are surrounded by nothing but troubles and failures, you are constantly in a bad mood, sign up for my consultation, and together we will find the root of the problem.
In selflessness. Expressed in the refusal of mutual benefit. When doing a feat, do not ask for anything in return.
For self-interest. This guy isn't that bad. For example, one asked another to provide a favor, promising to thank him later. This is a manifestation of a mutually beneficial relationship, from which both parties receive satisfaction at once. This is the most common type at present, as it occurs in almost all areas: educational, educational, medical.

Is kindness a sign of strength or weakness?

Society is a dynamically developing system. Simultaneously with the development of society, a revaluation of values occurs. Several centuries ago, kindness was considered a sign of purity of soul, nobility, good manners and selflessness. But today the situation has changed. Nowadays, a kind person who readily rushes to help others and does not demand anything in return is considered a naive eccentric. Such people are often manipulated, so sometimes kindness is considered a weakness. To prevent this from happening, a kind person should not solve the problems of friends and relatives, but should help them find ways to solve their problems.

However, in educational institutions, teachers continue to form moral foundations in children. This means that kindness remains a significant social quality. Therefore, kindness and generosity can rightfully be considered a sign of strength of character: a person has a choice. He can act in a way that is beneficial to him, and benefit from his “good” deeds. Or he can selflessly help another, do something nice for a loved one.

The power of kindness is also manifested in the fact that a person not only helps others cope with life's difficulties, but also shows them ways of personal development. Helping others become better is true virtue.

Kindness is fueled by the ability to treat any person with respect and believe in his strength.

In modern reality, it is not easy for a good person to live. He is always in a situation of moral choice. By helping others, he needs to preserve himself and his resource. If he can choose the right vector of effort, then good deeds will have a positive impact on him.

Why is kindness needed?

To understand why kindness is needed, it is enough to imagine a person living among greedy egoists, hypocrites and envious people. It is obvious that he will not be able to become happy in such a society.

The mission of kindness lies in such significant moments as:

helping the elderly, sick people and weak individuals;
openness to the world and new experiences;
social interaction will become a source of energy for a person who does good to people;
animal care;
respect for nature;
development of emotional intelligence;
gaining strength and vitality;
knowing the limits of one’s own capabilities and designing a path of self-development;
correct interpretation of other people's actions based on acceptance;
conscious refusal to judge and label;
awareness of one’s own importance, the usefulness of one’s actions;
gaining inner strength, vital core;
finding your calling and the best way of self-realization;
the opportunity to build relationships with others based on altruism;
a person will learn to distinguish good from evil, to appreciate manifestations of nobility and generosity on the part of others;
finding happiness.

Doing good deeds protects a person from degradation. Kindness as a personality trait saves a person from infantilism and dependent behavior patterns.

Without kindness, the structure of society will collapse. Individualism will flourish. But refusing to work together will not allow a person to achieve significant results. Life will become unbearable, because everyone will think only about themselves. Such phenomena as collectivism, cooperation, empathy, mutual understanding and mutual assistance will lose their force.

Who is a kind person

Someone who has the following personal characteristics can claim to be a good person:

the ability to empathize, sympathize, show compassion;
responsiveness;
caring;
tact;
friendly attitude in interpersonal interaction, friendly attitude towards others;
the ability to accept a communication partner as he is, with all his advantages and disadvantages;
a person’s lack of conviction that someone should do something for him;
providing help to another person only when he asks for it;
mercy;
the ability to put oneself in another person’s place;
emotional sensitivity;
the ability to control your emotions and show patience;
unselfishness;
generosity, breadth of soul.

The old lady treats people to her harvest, she doesn’t mind

Step-by-step instructions: how to train yourself to be kind?

Realize that the world does not revolve around you.
Start noticing other people.
Focus on the good qualities of those you interact with.
To be selfless in relation to people, and not mercantile: “you give me - I give you.”
Learn to ask them questions and listen carefully to the answers.
Show sincere attention to the destinies of other people, be able to put yourself in their place.
Do not limit yourself only to words of support, but also take action.
Learn to find positive moments around you.
Believe in the best: be sure to expect all the best from every new day.
Remember the boomerang law: when the heart is open to good, it will not take long to arrive.
When we are open to goodness, goodness comes to us.

Do good deeds! Change for the better starts small. Change yourself, even just a little, and the world will change. Remember: the best way to show kindness is through action.

What prevents a person from being kind?

Unfortunately, not all people can be called kind. Why is this happening? What prevents a person from being kind? Psychologists identify the following reasons for this:

people tend to compare themselves with others and experience a sense of superiority and arrogance, which interfere with the manifestation of their humanity;
the self-esteem of most successful people, who could be kinder to others, is inflated, as a result of which they are proud of their successes and do not want to help others become successful;
wanting to satisfy his own needs, a person ignores the needs and desires of others;
people are not always willing to offer help to each other, because they do not want to take on extra responsibility;
members of society view members of their class as competitors.

Can kindness hurt a person?

Sometimes doing good deeds gives rise to conflicting feelings in a person. This may happen if:

manifestations of kindness are regarded as a self-evident social phenomenon, therefore a benevolent, sympathetic attitude is required from the individual;
regular disinterested help, which remains without gratitude, depletes a person’s personal resource;
if a person always helps others and does good, he risks becoming a victim of manipulation;
excessive virtue and the desire to help when it is not asked for can offend a person, imposed care causes irritation;
Unsolicited advice spoils interpersonal relationships;
the desire to help a person cope with his difficulties deprives the sufferer of the opportunity to apply his own knowledge and skills to solve a difficult situation;
When helping a friend, a person often assures him that everything will be fine, but these are empty words that may not correspond to reality (it turns out that the good helper gave his friend false hope, deceived him, disappointed him);
some false good-natured people blackmail their victims with kindness;
the desire to help loved ones is fraught with falling into codependent relationships.

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How to become kind

If desired, a person can cultivate kindness in himself. To do this you need:

Learn to treat people carefully. Selfish attitudes must be left in the past. Communication should be based on politeness and gratitude for pleasant moments in communication. There is no need to be embarrassed to say words of gratitude to your comrades. It is also important to learn to express sympathy and share his grief with a person.
Anyone who has decided to become a kind person needs to smile more often. A smile can radically change thoughts. Transformation of thoughts entails changes in actions. Doing good deeds with a smile is easy and pleasant.
The predominance of material values over spiritual ones makes a person petty and mercantile. It is important to cultivate spirituality within yourself. For this, it is useful to practice meditation and yoga.
It is useful to constantly engage in self-knowledge. This allows a person to sensibly assess his resources in a critical situation when someone needs help.
If a person is focused on obtaining material gain, he needs to change his thinking. Selfish motives cannot force an individual to help someone. Only an altruistic principle can force a person to help someone for free.
Cultivating kindness requires a person to have high self-control and self-discipline. It is important to learn to promptly recognize the emergence of such feelings as pride, envy, anger and work through them. When negative emotions are processed, there will be room in the heart for good and bright things.
If negative feelings arise frequently, you need to find an effective, constructive way to deal with them. This could be systematic exercise, walks in the park, handicrafts or general cleaning. All of the above activities will help normalize the emotional state and restore personal virtuous resources.
It is important for a person to learn to adjust his self-esteem. Virtue and arrogance are incompatible.

A wise old man tells a girl about virtue

Anyone who decides to do good needs to learn to rejoice in the successes of others. Envy is a bad helper in good deeds. People around you should not be viewed as competitors.
You can discover a virtuous resource within yourself if you read fiction that describes the good deeds of this or that hero. Of course, it is easier to develop an individual’s interest in quality literature in childhood than in adulthood, but this does not mean that books about kindness will not help a person become noble and generous.
When communicating with colleagues and friends, you need to monitor your speech and choose your words for critical remarks very carefully. A carelessly spoken word or remark can hurt a person.
The ability to forgive offenders is the greatest skill that all people need to train. The desire for revenge destroys the good beginning in a person. The habit of judging and labeling leads to narrow-mindedness and does not allow a person to hear the silent cry for help from a loved one.
In every person's life there are people who can rightfully be considered kind. Anyone who wants to develop this quality in themselves can imitate good-natured acquaintances. Every adult should remember that he himself is an example for the child, so he must convey socially approved behavior options.
Participation in the volunteer movement and charity events is a great opportunity to feel useful and important for society and citizens in need.

Kindness starts with little things. A friendly smile, a compliment to the cashier at the supermarket, a woman’s heavy bags delivered to the entrance - all these are the little things that ultimately form the model of behavior of the kindest person.

Is revenge necessary?

Revenge is the destiny of a weak personality, a negative action that is aimed at causing harm to someone who previously offended you. When faced with injustice, every person has a feeling of resentment, frustration, and then a desire for revenge. This concept is viewed from several angles:

the individual must defend his opinion and the interests of others;
By taking revenge, we fall to the same level as the person who committed the bad deed.

Before retaliating and fighting for a fair relationship, first think about whether it makes sense to cause harm in return, and whether you want it at all? Maybe the best solution would be to reflect for a while and then forgive, rather than suffer from remorse later. However, this is a choice that everyone makes, guided by their own desires.

The degree of moral or physical damage is of great importance. It is easy and simple to forgive everyday quarrels or professional discussions, but it is very difficult to earn forgiveness for serious harm or caustic insults; it will take a long time. People believe that ignoring and showing indifference to negative attitudes is an expression of weakness and disrespect for oneself.

Remember that every choice we make can lead to some consequences. Having taken revenge, the individual will satisfy the desire and punish the offender, but at the same time demonstrate negative behavior.

In this article, I explained what kindness is, defined the concept of a “kind person” and described what he is like. Good deeds and polite behavior contribute to the formation of a positive assessment of society. Relatives, acquaintances, friends, colleagues will always give you a helping hand as gratitude for your generosity and support.

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Examples of kindness in life

There are many examples of kindness in everyday life:

A new employee was hired for the position of general manager, although one of the company’s employees was counting on a promotion. But by nature he was kind, so he did not envy the new employee. Instead of being hostile to him, he tried to help him, introduced him to the specifics of the work and legal acts. The initial good attitude towards the new employee eventually grew into a strong friendship.
Returning home from school in winter, the girl saw a puppy on the porch, shivering from the cold. She was afraid that her mother would not allow her to take the dog home, but she couldn’t leave the baby on the street to die. The girl brought the puppy home. Together with his mother, they tried to find his owner by posting advertisements, but no one was in a hurry to take the dog. As a result, the puppy remained in this family.

A girl saved a puppy from death on the street in the cold

The man was hurrying home from work on March 8. He dropped into the store to buy flowers for his wife and daughter. Near the flower shop table there is a boy counting coins in his palm. The man noticed that the boy was almost crying. He squatted down in front of him and asked: “Did something happen to you?” There were tears in the boy’s eyes, he quietly answered: “Today is a holiday. I wanted to buy my mother a rose, but I don’t have enough money.” Then the young man took the boy by the hand and they went into the store together. The boy chose a delicate white rose as a gift to his mother. The man nodded approvingly and paid for this flower. “Thank you, thank you!” — the boy whispered, not believing his happiness. The man smiled as he looked at him.

Quotes about kindness

Prepared by: Dmitry Sirotkin

I present to you a selection of quotes about kindness .

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Quotes are summarized by topic: people and kindness, characteristics of kindness, evil and kindness, life and kindness, attitude towards kindness, strength and kindness, woman and kindness, friends and kindness, intelligence and kindness, love and kindness, beauty and kindness, dog and kindness, firmness and kindness, religion and kindness, resentment and kindness, Russian people and kindness, parents and kindness, integrity and kindness, happiness and kindness, soul and kindness, mistakes and kindness, insincere kindness, etc.

People and kindness

We are all comically kind people. (F. Dostoevsky)

Kindness is impossible to resist. What can even the most dull person do to you if you are constantly kind to him? (M. Aurelius)

Kindness consists of loving people. (J. Joubert)

Kindness is loving people more than they deserve. (J. Joubert)

There is no person in the world who would never have good feelings for another person and who would not take advantage of someone’s kindness. (W. Thackeray)

In the inner world of a person, kindness is the sun. (V. Hugo)

The purpose of man is precisely to do good. (V. Dahl)

A generous person is characterized by the fact that he does not seek benefit for himself, but is willing to do good to others. (Aristotle)

One thing is certain: if we are not kind to ourselves, we cannot be kind to others. (Dalai Lama XIV)

The best part of a righteous person's life is his small, nameless and forgotten acts of love and kindness. (W. Wordsworth)

Above all, be kind; kindness disarms most people. (J.B.A. Lacordaire)

Doing good deeds flatters the ego, creating a feeling of superiority. (J.-J. Rousseau)

As soon as we transgress the average measure of human kindness by one step, our actions cause distrust. Virtue rests precisely “in the middle.” (F. Nietzsche)

It is not the worst things that we are most ashamed of: it is not only deceit that hides under the mask - there is so much kindness in cunning. (F. Nietzsche)

He knew that when people are kind to you, you have to pay for it eventually. You should always expect a catch. (D. Keys)

I am firmly convinced that the humanity, warmth, and kindness of any person are measured by how children treat him. The one whom children love is a real person. (V. Sukhomlinsky)

Actually, I think there are no people who are completely incapable of goodness. It happens that a person has become bitter and it seems to him that there is no room for kindness in his soul, but this is a mistake, this is temporary: without doing good deeds, a person feels uncomfortable in this world. (E. Leonov)

I will be happy if they later say about me: “He was a kind man.” This doesn't mean I'm always kind. But kindness comes first. (Yu. Nikulin)

By the way, quotes about people

Features of kindness

With gentle words and kindness you can lead an elephant by a thread. (Saadi)

Kindness is something that the deaf can hear and the blind can see. (M. Twain)

Kindness does not come from owning many things; on the contrary, only kindness transforms a person's possessions into dignity. (Socrates)

You can resist anything, but not kindness. (J.-J. Rousseau)

I know of no other signs of superiority other than kindness. (L. van Beethoven)

Kindness is the only value in this illusory world that can be an end in itself. (S. Maugham)

Kindness is a quality, the excess of which does not harm. (D. Galsworthy)

Kindness and modesty are two qualities that should never tire a person. (R.L. Stevenson)

Doing good is easier than being kind. (J. Wolfram)

Kindness is the only garment that never wears out. (G.D. Thoreau)

Constant kindness can go a long way. Just as the sun melts ice, so kindness evaporates misunderstanding, mistrust and hostility. (A. Schweitzer)

A great sign of kindness is the ability to forget the memories of others. (A. Maurois)

How much wisdom is needed to never lose kindness! (M. Ebner-Eschenbach)

Kindness, if it is not limitless, does not deserve to be called kindness. (M. Ebner-Eschenbach)

And his kindness even surpassed his generosity, because if generosity inevitably has a limit, then kindness is limitless. (J. Verne)

To help another person, you don’t have to be strong and rich—it’s enough to be kind. (Silouan of Athos)

Kindness is a defensive reaction of humor to the tragic meaninglessness of fate. (S. Maugham)

Charity is the sterilized milk of human kindness. (O. Herford)

Not everyone is given the gift of being kind; this is the same talent as an ear for music or clairvoyance, only rarer. (A. and B. Strugatsky)

Kindness is the ability to take someone else's needs into the sphere of one's own interests and act voluntarily and selflessly in the interests of another person. (M. Weller)

Kindness generally has a better effect on an artist than shouting and ordering. (Yu. Nikulin)

Evil and kindness

If you want to be good, first of all consider yourself evil. (Epictetus)

He is evil who is good only for himself. (Publius Sirus)

What evil we do with kindness! (W. Shakespeare)

Kindness can often cause harm, so when you want to do good, think it over carefully. (Hong Zichen)

People are evil, but man is good. (J.-J. Rousseau)

Eh, how good we are all individually, and how recklessly and a lot, as if on purpose, we all do evil together! (V. Rasputin)

Evil is instantaneous in this world, kindness is inescapable. (Sh. Rustaveli)

For those who have no evil, there are no good. (B. Gracian)

A little hatred purifies kindness. (J. Renard)

Kindness that does not have any evil or selfish beginning in it is empty, sleepy kindness. (J. Boehme)

Kindness has the dangerous property of forgetting evil. (A. Likhanov)

To assume that other people are evil is to admit that you yourself do not feel good. (I. Turgenev)

Evil people are often good people who become rich. (V. Shwebel)

He who is truly good must be able to be truly evil when he encounters evil, otherwise his kindness is called good-heartedness and is worth little in terms of its social value. (K. Simonov)

By the way, quotes about evil

Life and kindness

A kind mind makes any lifestyle easy. (G. Skovoroda)

How much kindness there is in a person, so much life there is in him. (R.W. Emerson)

Take away the love of goodness from our hearts - you will take away all the charm of life. (J.-J. Rousseau)

Our good qualities harm us more in life than bad ones. (L. Tolstoy)

Kindness decorates life, resolving all contradictions: it makes the confusing clear, the difficult - easy, the dark - joyful. (L. Tolstoy)

With the kindness of your heart you can ruin your entire life. (A. Gavalda)

Good people are like stars, the luminaries of the age in which they live, illuminating their times. (B. Johnson)

Life is, undoubtedly, love, kindness, and a decrease in love, kindness is always a decrease in life, there is already death. (I. Bunin)

Small, insignificant acts of love and kindness are the best moments of human life. (W. Wordsworth)

To live means to live for others. We all feed off each other. Let the light of kindness glimmer at least sometimes... There is no need to give it up. Kindness gives a person strength if life is difficult for him. (E.M. Remarque)

Kindness is not highly valued these days. People are more interested in whether a person is smart, whether he is hardworking, whether he is useful to society, and whether he fits into the accepted framework of behavior. (A. Christie)

By the way, quotes about life

Attitude towards kindness

It's so easy to be kind. (D. London)

It's so easy to be kind. You just need to imagine yourself in the place of another person before you start judging him. (M. Dietrich)

Always be a little kinder than necessary. (D.M. Barry)

Be kind whenever possible. And this is always possible. (Dalai Lama XIV)

It is good to remain decent, modest and have a good heart, even if you have to hide your kindness, as is often necessary. (V. Van Gogh)

More valuable than all titles is a kind heart. (A. Tennyson)

The greatest beauty, strength and wealth are really useless; but a kind heart surpasses everything in the world. (B. Franklin)

Nothing is real and eternal except kindness, heartfelt human kindness. Everything else is transitory, like a dream. (T. Dreiser)

The only currency that is truly valuable in our uncertain world is the kindness and generosity that people give to each other. (V. Lakhiani)

Strength and kindness

Our greatest strength lies in the kindness and tenderness of our hearts. (O. Khayyam)

Nothing is as powerful as kindness; nothing can be as soft and kind as real strength. (Francis de Sales)

True human kindness in all its purity and freedom can only manifest itself in relation to someone who does not have any power. (M. Kundera)

People have come out of the age when the strong were right. There are too many weak people in the world for this. The only truth is kindness. (I. Brodsky)

Kindness has never taken away the strength and strength of free people. To be strong, a nation does not have to become cruel. (F. Roosevelt)

The most tender plants make their way through the hardest soil, through the cracks of rocks. So is kindness. What wedge, what hammer, what ram can compare with the strength of a kind, sincere person! (G.D. Thoreau)

By the way, quotes about strength

Woman and kindness

Kindness and intelligence are properties of old age. At 20, a woman is much more interested in being heartless and frivolous. (R. Bradbury)

But, as everyone knows, not a single truly kind woman is in a hurry to forgive, and the humiliation of an enemy fills her soul with glee. (W. Thackeray)

A woman is stronger than anything in the world, stronger even than all doctors and paramedics. They study from books for several winters, but for thousands of years she creates life and heals people with her kindness. (V. Astafiev)

There was tenderness in Kerry’s gaze, femininity in her manners, kindness and trust in life in her thoughts. (T. Dreiser)

With women you always come across sharp corners, because they need something completely different from men, they are a different race. Either they give everything away, like a plant, or they scratch it, like a stone. In the whole wide world there is nothing better than female kindness. (D. Updike)

By the way, quotes about a woman

Friends and kindness

Unsophisticated kindness wins friends everywhere. (E. Gaskell)

Strength will not help you make and maintain friendship, because a friend is an animal that can be caught and tamed only by kindness and love. (Socrates)

It is not true that we lack friendship and kindness; it is friendship and kindness that we lack.. (M. Juando)

Anyone who wants to have true friends must be kind and tolerant, paying attention to the needs of others. Honor and respect are gained not by force, but by generosity and the willingness to share the last piece with those in need. (L. da Vinci)

People, I ask you, for God's sake, do not be shy about your kindness. There are not many friends on earth: Beware of losing friends. (R. Gamzatov)

By the way, quotes about friends

Intelligence and kindness

Everyone praises their kindness, but no one dares to praise their intelligence. (F. La Rochefoucauld)

The smarter and kinder a person is, the more he notices goodness in people. (B. Pascal)

A kind heart is more beautiful than all the minds in the world put together. (E. Bulwer-Lytton)

Only the one who is intelligent is truly good. (V. Belinsky)

Scoundrels are, first of all, fools. Being kind is much more fun, entertaining and ultimately more practical. (K. Chukovsky)

Neither intelligence, nor knowledge, nor even talent will ever replace on earth this amazing warmth of human kindness that heals the soul and body. (V. Rozov)

But you don’t need to be kind. And even on the contrary, sometimes I think: take a truly smart person - such a person will rarely turn out to be kind. (D. Steinbeck)

Love and kindness

Kindness in a woman, not seductive glances, will win my love. (W. Shakespeare)

They say that love is blind, but kindness must be conscious. (R.W. Emerson)

My warm old house has become cold. Like a battery, kindness has cooled down. And the lips pronounce only with difficulty the familiar, simple word “dear”. But it’s impossible to live without warmth, And I don’t understand very clearly, How you endure this cold - Do you really believe in the return of May? (Yu. Drunina)

By the way, quotes about love

Beauty and kindness

There is no beauty where there is no good and useful. (Socrates)

Kindness requires proof, but beauty does not need it. (Voltaire)

Good is beautiful in action. (J.-J. Rousseau)

Kindness is better than beauty. (G. Heine)

Beauty without kindness dies unclaimed. (S. Johnson)

Although beauty is a gift from God, it is also given to the evil, so that the good do not consider it a great good. (Augustine)

Beauty is admired, but kindness is loved. (K. Melikhan)

The expansion of beauty leads to its devaluation: what is plentiful is cheap. The kind are valued. (D. Bykov)

By the way, quotes about beauty

Dog and kindness

A dog has one wonderful quality - it remembers goodness. She guards the house of her benefactors until her death. (Anacharsis)

A kind person is ashamed even in front of a dog. (A. Chekhov)

So, to the question of which creature in the world has the most Christian, generous and loving disposition, I answer - dogs. (R. Bradbury)

A dog wags its tail with joy, all it takes is joy and a tail. (S. Jerzy Lec)

Compassion for animals is so closely connected with kindness of character that we can confidently say: whoever is cruel to animals cannot be a kind person. (A. Schopenhauer)

By the way, quotes about dogs

Firmness and kindness

We have no hatred of severity when it is justified by strong character, purity of morals, and when it is skillfully mixed with kindness. (O. Balzac)

Kindness must not lack a certain firmness, otherwise it is not kindness. When they preach love, in which there is too much whining and tearfulness, in counteraction it is necessary to teach hatred. (R.W. Emerson)

Kindness is not the opposite of firmness, even severity, when life requires it. Love itself sometimes obliges you to be firm and tough, not to be afraid of the suffering that comes with the struggle for what you love. (N. Berdyaev)

Religion and kindness

I believe that the real religion is the Good Heart. (Dalai Lama XIV)

We know from experience how great the difference is between piety and kindness. (B. Pascal)

I fled from You, but accept and forgive, And shelter under the shadow of your kindness! You cannot escape the path that You have destined, You have outlined, so You lead along the path! (O. Khayyam)

I believe not so much in faith as in kindness, which can easily be done without faith. (T. Mann)

There are such tough people among believers - they would condemn everyone to the highest degree of severe kindness. (N. Trauberg)

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Resentment and kindness

Forget insults, never forget kindness. (Confucius)

The soul will forget a good deed, but the insult will remember. (Cato Dionysius)

We are filled with tenderness for those to whom we do good, and passionately hate those to whom we have caused many offenses. (J. Labruyère)

A person has offended you, but you go and do him good, give him the warmth and affection of your soul, and the knot will be untied, the anchor will fall from your heart. After this, you will both live and breathe easier. (M. Lermontov)

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Russian people and kindness

As much as I know, there is none kinder than our Russian people and none more truthful, if only we treat them truthfully. (V. Dahl)

The Russian is kind, he will give you tea and warm you up, but he will also kill you. (V. Astafiev)

What is surprising about Russians is the fusion of relaxed kindness with extreme cruelty, and the transition from one to the other is lightning fast. (Yu. Nagibin)

The kindness of the Russian people in all layers of them is expressed, among other things, in the absence of rancor. (N. Lossky)

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Parents and kindness

The most valuable moral trait of good parents, which is passed on to children without much effort, is the spiritual kindness of the mother and father, the ability to do good to people. (V. Sukhomlinsky)

Try to be kind to your parents. If you must rebel, rebel against those who are not so easily hurt. Parents are too close a target; the distance is such that you cannot miss. (I. Brodsky)

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Integrity and kindness

Principled people are not kind. (V. Rozov)

To do good, a certain unprincipled heart is needed, which does not know general cases, but only particular ones. (B. Pasternak) People around them love not honest people, but kind ones. Not brave, but sensitive. Not principled, but condescending. In other words, unprincipled. (S. Dovlatov)

Happiness and kindness

The height of Happiness at the height of Kindness. (A. Pope)

A kind person is not always happy, but a happy person is always kind. (O. Wilde)

Happy people are the kindest and bravest on earth. (G. Serebryakova)

Unhappy people are rarely kind. (C. Bronte)

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Soul and kindness

Of all the virtues and virtues of the soul, the greatest virtue is kindness. (F. Bacon)

The most beautiful music of the soul is kindness. (R. Rolland)

Kindness is for the soul what health is for the body: it is invisible when you own it, and it gives success in every endeavor. (L. Tolstoy)

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Mistakes and kindness

You have to get old to become kinder; I don’t encounter mistakes that I haven’t already made. (I. Goethe)

To be fair, you must first be kind. And to be kind means to understand that all people make mistakes. (A. Celentano)

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Insincere kindness

Pretending kindness is more repulsive than outright malice. (L. Tolstoy)

Explicit, demonstrative kindness is compensation for secret evil. (A. Platonov)

Of all people, moralists are the most dangerous and the most worthless, because they are victims of their own kindness. There is something unnatural in the kindness of a moralist. (D. Aldridge)

Heart and kindness

True kindness grows from a person's heart. All people are born good. (Confucius)

The warmest clothing for the heart is kindness. (N. Yasminska)

Some people think they have a good heart, when in fact they only have weak nerves. (M. Ebner-Eschenbach)

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Great people and kindness

Great people are capable of great kindness. (M. Cervantes)

Be gentle, humane, accessible, compassionate and generous; Let your greatness not prevent you from being good-naturedly condescending to small people and putting yourself in their position, so that this kindness never diminishes either your power or their respect. (Catherine II the Great)

Laughter and kindness

Good laughter is sunshine in the house. (W. Thackeray)

I was always happy when I made people laugh. He who laughs with a kind laugh infects others with kindness. After such laughter, the atmosphere becomes different: we forget many of life’s troubles and inconveniences. (Yu. Nikulin)

Weakness and kindness

Weakness is not a lack of strength. Weakness is the absence of kindness. (A. Coutier)

Unfortunately, people almost always mistake kindness for weakness. (S. Mavrodi)

Sensitivity and kindness are not signs of weakness and despair, but manifestations of strength and determination. (D.H. Gibran)

Good nature and kindness

Good nature is the most common quality, kindness is the rarest virtue. (M. Ebner-Eschenbach)

The greatest quality of the soul is kindness. The most natural state of a good soul is good nature. (F. Iskander)

Anger and kindness

The anger of good people is nothing more than an urgent need to forgive. (P.O. Beaumarchais)

A state of stupid, unbridled anger is just as disastrous as a state of stupid kindness or tenderness. (K. Ushinsky)

Pride and kindness

It is not kindness, but pride that usually prompts us to admonish people who have committed wrongdoings. (F. La Rochefoucauld)

Kindness finds strength where pride finds only despair. (J. Sand)

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Justice and kindness

It is very easy to be kind, but to be fair is difficult. (V. Hugo)

We must assume that no kindness can go further than justice, otherwise we risk introducing a false understanding of kindness. (S. Weil)

Crime and kindness

Kindness is the ally of crime. (S. Lem)

Let's be kinder if we can and while we can, because we still have to commit several so-called crimes in our lives. (E.M. Remarque)

Joy and kindness

Without kindness, true joy is impossible. (T. Carlyle)

If you spend the day doing good deeds, you will always feel joy in the evening. (Thomas à Kempis)

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Family and kindness

The key to family happiness is kindness, frankness, responsiveness... (E. Zola)

Modesty and kindness are more needed in family life than wit and proud beauty. (D. Du Maurier)

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Mood and kindness

A lot of good can be done if you are in a good mood. (Yu. Nikulin)

A good mood is kindness and wisdom together. (O. Meredith)

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Dependency and kindness

The kindness shown to us by any person binds us to him. (J.-J. Rousseau)

Be kind to those who depend on you. (Kay-Kavus)

Cruelty and kindness

Sometimes we have to be cruel to be kind. (S. King)

Stupid kindness always gives rise to intelligent cruelty. (D. Updike)

About miscellaneous

Vanity is the most terrible enemy of humanity and kindness. (A. Moravia)

To be truly kind, a person must have a vivid imagination, he must be able to imagine himself in the place of another. Imagination is the best tool for moral improvement. (P.B. Shelley)

Humanity does not lack knowledge, it lacks kindness. (D. Granin)

Reading and writing do not constitute education if they do not help a person to be kinder to all creatures. (D. Reskin)

Freaks are simply varying degrees of deviation from the accepted norm. And if one child can be born without a hand, another can just as easily be born without the beginnings of kindness or conscience. (D. Steinbeck)

Kindness is unambiguous and valuable in itself, but nowhere is its need revealed with such necessity as in war. (V. Bykov)

As you can see, quotes about kindness are associated primarily with people, evil, life, strength, and the characteristics of kindness.

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Quotes from famous people

Many famous people have paid attention to the importance of kindness as a social phenomenon, as evidenced by their statements:

“If a person is kind, it doesn’t matter what he’s wearing” (G. Freytag);
“When a person does good, his soul rejoices” (Plautus);
“Children learn kindness in the family” (V.A. Sukhomlinsky);
“Kindness is the wonderful music of the soul” (R. Rolland);
“Doing a good deed is the best reward for it” (R. Emerson);
“The ability to do good is the greatest happiness” (D. Baer);
“An act that was done by decree cannot be considered good” (I. Turgenev);
“No earthly force can change the nature of kindness” (Democritus).

Qualities of a responsible person

The personality of an obligatory person is endowed with characteristic features that manifest themselves quite clearly. You will probably be able to identify them without a magnifying glass in yourself or your friends.

Confidence in your own competence.
High level of intelligence.
Strength of mind.
Punctuality.
Understanding that his present and future depend only on him.
The ability to solve other people's problems.
Independent choice.
Responsibility for your decisions and actions.
He follows his own path, not paying attention to anyone’s opinion, but also respects generally accepted rules and laws.
Initiative.
Correcting mistakes, rather than complaining about them and finding someone to blame.
He perceives failures as experience.