The art of not giving a damn or how to treat everything more simply

Why are some people chronically unlucky, while others shamelessly enjoy life and don’t give a damn? The answer is simple: the first, no matter how they hide it, are pessimists, and the second, don’t care. Pessimists watch football matches on TV, fight in a meaningless fight for their rights and constantly create problems out of nothing, and not only for themselves. Those who don’t give a damn play this football, know all their rights and make history. The line between healthy indifference and outright selfishness is very thin, and happy is the one who managed to feel this golden mean.

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Characteristics of a person who doesn't care

• He sleeps a lot, eats, drinks, dreams, travels, falls in love, relaxes.
• He lives for his own pleasure.
• He wakes up with a smile on his lips.
• Follows the motto: “If you can’t change the situation, change your attitude towards it.”
• He never complains because everything is always good with him.
• He magnetically attracts money, health and friends to himself, thanks to his optimism.
• The time that a pessimist spends on meaningless struggle with himself or suffering, a person who doesn’t give a damn, in love with life, spends on self-improvement.

“Nothing is harder than becoming lighter”

Have you ever met people who take their problems lightly, are cheerful, energetic, and cheerful? Probably, having met them, you decided that lightness is an innate quality of their character, and it is impossible to become the same on purpose. But in fact, you also need to practice joy. The ability to be happy requires training. This is a conscious choice of a person. It is not easy, but it is possible. It consists of gaining ease of being, the ability to distance yourself from problems.

How to do this, you ask? Let me explain: look for reasons to be happy. In everything. Breathing, living, moving, contemplating natural phenomena is the essence of positive thinking. The wise Dalai Lama said this:

“If a problem can be solved, there is no need to worry about it. If a problem cannot be solved, there is no point in worrying about it.”

“Let go” of your problem, trust Life, and then your problem will be resolved in the best way for you.”

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How to learn to approach life more simply?

Is it possible to change your pessimistic attitude? First of all, you need to clearly distinguish banal primitive indifference from healthy. Banal indifference is free drift with the flow, selfishness and ineradicable laziness. Healthy indifference is the talent to change the direction of the flow at the right moment, breadth of soul and ease of rise.

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The first steps to healthy not giving a fuck:

1. Rest (leisure) is time that no one will get back. Life itself depends on the fulfillment of life: positive results in positive results, negative results in progressively negative results. By filling life with positive emotions and relaxation with favorite activities, we give our consciousness the right creative attitude.
2. Whining and complaining about life is taboo. Even among family.
3. “Pitiful little people”, “vile saleswoman”, “traffic cop”... We change the setting. You can see the good in every person. You just need to want it.
4. “I will never earn money for an apartment (car, microwave, ficus...).” A rolling stone gathers no moss. To get something, you need to make an effort. And with a smile on his lips and the attitude “I can handle anything.” First - the goal, then a step-by-step plan, then - confident pursuit of the goal. Even if it takes several years to get there. Do you want to become a great photographer? So, stop drooling over the works of professionals, and grab a camera and go to the courses. Dreaming of the laurels of a writer? Find your genre and learn to burn people’s hearts with your verb.
5. “Nothing depends on me anyway,” “I still can’t do it”... The eyes are afraid, but the hands are doing! Expecting failure, a person attracts it. “Order” only positive things for yourself. The attitude is “I can do it”, “I can do it”, “I can handle it”. And remember the truth - “if you peer into an abyss for a long time, the abyss begins to peer into you.”
6. Money. There are never too many of them. It’s just that one doesn’t have enough for bread, and the other doesn’t have enough for diamond caviar or a fifth yacht. Here you will have to decide. If you’re just happy with a debt-free life, then it’s time to stop complaining about the lack of money and start enjoying fishing, picnics and intimate meetings with friends over a glass of tea. If ambitions are torn from within, then you should forget about everything written above and change your lifestyle, focusing on the road leading to enrichment.

Getting rid of perfectionism

Perfectionists are people who, no matter what they undertake, strive to do everything in an ideal way. Moreover, this perfectionism can also be directed at others, to whom they place excessive demands. Often, perfectionists themselves depend on the opinions of other people because they feel the need for praise and meeting other people's expectations.

This desire to achieve an ideal often takes a pathological form and can cause nervous breakdown. “There is no limit to perfection,” so a perfectionist is rarely satisfied with the result. He is not able to rejoice in the present, because he is haunted by a feeling of dissatisfaction, imperfection and an endless search for the ideal.

Living more simply means learning to accept the world as it is.

How to attract money? Don't care technique

First of all, you need to decide - how much do you actually need? Have you decided? Write down the amount in a notepad and read on.

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The presence of at least one of the listed points is your obstacle on the path to wealth:

• Self-pity.
• Habit of borrowing.
• The habit of spending more than your earnings.
• Greed, stinginess.
• Measuring any life values ​​exclusively in money.
• Ignoring the benefits of long, meticulous work in favor of immediate gains.
• Exhausting yourself with a job you hate.
• Constantly comparing your own and others' achievements.
• Complaints about life into every grateful ear.
• Exaltation of one’s own person over “second-class” people and other circles.

None of the points fit? Then feel free to decide on your occupation for the next few years, compare the amount written in your notebook with the chosen occupation and go ahead. Does not work? Re-read the points again.

Have a holiday!

Our stay in this mortal world is temporary, and each of us knows about it. We set goals for ourselves, strive for something, most often living our days in bustle and haste, forgetting to look at how beautiful the sky is above us, how different people are everywhere. All life is an endless miracle, and one cannot stop admiring it.

“Even though life is not tied with a bow, it is still a gift” (Regina Brett).

Therefore, celebrate your stay in this world! Celebrate your victories! Remember everything pleasant that happened to you, all your successes and achievements, you will understand that you have something to thank life for.

But this is what I love and thank life for:

I love this life for its beauty, And for the opportunity to enjoy it, For the endless heights of thoughts, And for the ability to laugh heartily...

For the light of smiles and the madness of meetings, For joys, dreams, touches, For the hands that touched my shoulders, For miracles, for bright moments...

For tears of joy, for the light of the sun, For sincere first confessions... For every amazing dawn And for this holy awareness...

Attracting health - the philosophy of a don’t care

• The truth - laughter prolongs life is known even to children. Positive thoughts can work wonders. The scheme is simple.
• We replace the attitude “everything is bad, depression, stress, inaction, negative thinking” with “positive, constructive, decisive, result-oriented.”
• The attitude – “noodles from packets, a joke with him, with caries, and eight hours of sleep is a luxury” – is changed to “healthy eating, good sleep, timely treatment.”

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You can’t buy health – it’s not for nothing that they say so. And all great earnings are dust compared to health and its role in life. First we work to spend money on pleasure. Having earned money, we understand that these pleasures are already contraindicated for us due to health reasons. Only by really working on yourself can you achieve results.

Content

1. Lower the high bar of demands on yourself and others;
2. The right attitude;
3. Don't deprive yourself of days off;
4. Spend time alone;
5. Find a place for the word “no”;
6. Set aside a few hours a week for meditation;
7. Don’t forget to write down the results of each day you live;
8. Show kindness to the people around you;
9. You are your best friend;
10. Compliments play an important role;
11. Don't neglect healthy and adequate sleep.

Healthy indifference. Postulates

Not caring is not a disregard for everyone and everything. Healthy indifference is the line between indifference to negativity and absolute indifference to everything with symptoms of selfishness.

• Healthy indifference is ignoring the negative aspects in life and, at the same time, the ability to notice all the good things.
• Healthy indifference is the absence of black streaks in life. Only white ones.
• Healthy indifference is the absence of stress, depression and unnecessary worries. A person who doesn't care doesn't notice evil, doesn't get upset over trifles, and is able to see good even where there was never any.

Ten recipes for healthy indifference:

1. Banish negative thoughts . Straightaway! As soon as such a thought tries to creep into your head. Catch her on the threshold and drive her away. There are ways to do this by car and cart. The human subconscious is a soldier, unconditionally obeying categorical orders. For example, shout to her mentally - Get out! It works.
2. Don't waste your nerve cells . They don't recover. Whatever needs to happen will still happen. Whether you want it or not. And if it has already happened, then there is no point in being nervous at all, you need to either act or give up.
3. Every day, be sure and strictly devote at least an hour (or better, two) of free time to yourself and your favorite activity. Not caring about the unwashed dishes, the piles of toys in the children's room, which resembles a minefield, and the indignation of family members, friends and everyone else.
4. Learn to love yourself. Take the time to soak in a fragrant bath and clean yourself up to almost cover-quality beauty. Brew yourself a cup of coffee and drink it with your favorite cake while reading an interesting book or gossip on the Internet.
5. Learn to abstract yourself completely from everything. At least for five minutes an hour, forget about “global scale” problems and just enjoy life.
6. Learn to greet your morning with a smile , because it is known that as you greet the morning, the whole day will pass. But you don’t need much - your favorite music, a delicious breakfast, a smile at your reflection and a psychological mood.
7. Learn to control your subconscious. It is you who must give him instructions, and not vice versa. Don't put too much emphasis on anything. Moreover, as Solomon said, everything passes.
8. Forget about the illusions of an ideal life . There will always be problems in it. Bad weather, lies and betrayals, spoiled food from the store, etc. Learn to ignore these problems.
9. Don't see the world as a place of survival . Life is too short to waste it on depression and struggle. Have fun with it and treat it like a game.
10. Accept as a fact that you are busy with something other than your own business, or are going the wrong way when something is given to you at the cost of incredible sacrifices and efforts. Find yourself . Don't be afraid to experiment.

Do not worry Be Happy!

“Don't Worry, Be Happy” - there are such words in a famous song. This, if we say it in our own way, means: “Don’t worry, be happy.” Treat life more simply and easily, cultivating a sense of humor in yourself, because humor is our shield against all troubles, it is what allows us to take them less seriously. Your head is not a trash can that can be filled with all sorts of rubbish: grievances, worries, fears and expectations. By filling your head with “garbage” and wasting energy on empty chores, you are preventing favorable changes in your life. Don’t cling to “garbage”, get rid of it as soon as possible and don’t be afraid of change. They are always for the better!

Based on the example of great people

Many outstanding scientists and artists had difficult destinies and life circumstances. But this did not stop them from overcoming difficulties and becoming famous. Today, their quotes on how to approach life more simply serve as useful guidelines for us. These are the same rules and psychological techniques that were created by someone else's bitter experience. But, as a rule, it is possible to fully realize them only after one’s own disappointments. It's worth listening to the advice of successful people. It doesn’t hurt to adopt optimism, diligence and determination from your predecessors. But you will still have your own path and mistakes.

What does it mean to live easily according to Transurfing?

The opinion of Tatyana Samarina, founder and leading trainer of Transurfing, is to make it easy, joyful and exciting - or to “carry your heavy burden”, endlessly solve problems and overcome obstacles. What choice are you making?

Comments from subscribers on social networks of Tatyana Samarina and Transurfing Center:

And here is what our readers and subscribers answered to the question “What does it mean to you to live easily?” We received a lot of interesting opinions and thoughts! Let's share some of them.

• Life is easy - to be relaxed in both joy and sorrow.

• An easy life in Divine Love, in harmony with your loved ones and people around you, good health, a resourceful state.

• Life is easy for me, it’s when your loved ones are really close, they accept and understand you in both joy and sorrow.

• The feeling of “life is easy” comes from within. Lightness in the head. Lightness in condition, mood.

• Live with the thought: “My Universe takes care of me!”

• Live in harmony with yourself and the world around you. Search and find only the good in everything.

• Be on the wave of luck, easily choosing from the variety what you want at the moment.

• To have freedom, external and internal, to choose and do what brings pleasure, joy and abundance.

• Living is easy - being in the flow.

• Flexibility in thinking and action, suppression of excess potentials.

• Find your goal, which turns life into a holiday, and enjoy it.

How to turn on the “calm and tranquility” mode? 6 secret basics.

Have you been to the gym? They immediately explain: you can’t “lose weight” just on your stomach. You need to work with all muscle groups, then abs will appear. The situation is the same with appeasement - you will have to work on all fronts:

1. Health.

It is very difficult to remain unshakable if something somewhere persistently hurts. And worries about a possible illness also poison existence. A healthy body and a normal spirit, the ancients guessed this.

Where to begin? Sleep 7-8 hours a day, drink 2-3 liters of water a day, eat a balanced diet. There is no need to immediately rush into the dietary whirlpool. It is enough to remember cereals, fish and vegetables, and slightly cut back on rolls with sweets.

2. Thinking.

Working with the head is the most difficult thing. Many people need the help of a psychologist for this. In order to implement new installations, one must admit that the existing ones do not work as desired. Facing your own imperfections is another challenge.

Decided to make a change offline? Psychologists' blogs will help. On their pages, professional soul experts often answer questions. This will help outline a plan of action.

Books work too. To tune in to calm and begin to appreciate small victories, you can read the following works:

• Henry Thoreau's Walden or Life in the Woods;
• Sharon Melnick “Resilience to Stress”;
• Owen Okane "Ten Minutes to Zen";
• Ronald Schweppe, “The ability to let go”;
• Lucy Irving Breathe. How to tame demons";
• Editors of Breathe magazine “Breathe. Practices of happiness";
• Francesc Miralles "Ikigai";
• Mike Viking "The Little Book of Hygge"

3. Proper sport.

Our goal is calm and tranquility. Then you need to think and try. Yoga, meditation, running and qigong will help some.

Others need to vent their anger and a flurry of energy so as not to take it out on their loved ones. With such a request - for any martial arts, energetic dancing, aerobics, team sports.