How to understand by a man's behavior that he is interested in you

There are various signs that indicate a man's interest in a woman. And since guys are sometimes embarrassed to reveal their feelings, especially if they are deep and real, girls need to learn to “read” such signals.

A man who is interested in you often makes eye contact

In our article you will find practical ways and reliable methods to reveal the sympathy of even the most reserved and reserved guy.

The expression on his face

An attentive girl will feel a man’s interest in her by minor changes in his face:

Light blush . Reddening of the cheeks indicates the guy's interest and possible shyness.
Smile . It is impossible to “pull” a sincere, joyful and happy smile onto yourself. It is a sign of good attitude, friendly disposition, sympathy.
Slightly raised eyebrows . This facial gesture indicates the interlocutor’s interest and concentration.
Lips . When he sees the object of passion, a man involuntarily opens his lips.

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Random encounters

Your meetings have become increasingly casual. Sometimes you notice him in the store or he started working out at the same gym where you do your training. Even if he says that these meetings are random, then more often this is not the case, since a man in love increasingly wants to be close to the object of his adoration.

Having familiarized yourself with all the signs, you can now correctly assess his actions and draw the right conclusions. And all we can do is wish you happiness and sincere love.

Language of the body

If a girl is attractive to a man, then he will want to look favorably in front of her. He will show his feelings with gestures:

Posture . Next to an interesting girl, the guy becomes poised, spreads his shoulders, and sucks in his stomach. These movements are unconscious.
Trying to look perfect . During a conversation, an interested man smooths his hair, straightens the collar of his shirt or other clothing, and fiddles with buttons. With these gestures, he sends a signal that he wants to look the best in front of the girl.
Accidental touches . Random light touches indicate the companion's interest. He can touch the lady during a conversation, help her stand up, or offer his hand.
Open pose . Is the guy sitting with his hands behind his head or on his hips, exposing his chest area? He clearly wants to impress you.
Hidden hugs . When talking, guys often put their hand on the back of a girl's chair. Sometimes they take an open position, put their hand on the railing or lean against the wall. This is how they demonstrate a subconscious desire to hug a woman.

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Signs of a man's sexual desire

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Direct signs of sexual interest

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He leans forward if he is sitting, as if he wants to hug and protect a fragile lady with his body.
Keeps his hands on his belt or in his trouser pockets, drawing attention to his “dignity.”
A clear sign of desire is a half-open mouth when a girl appears for whom he feels sympathy.
The guy's voice becomes low and guttural.

Positions that signal a man wants you

All that remains is to figure out how an unfamiliar man shows interest in a woman.

Upon careful but unobtrusive examination of a man, you will find the following:

Rapid breathing, accompanied by dilatation of the nostrils.
An undressing gaze, sometimes moving below the décolleté area.
The guy's body is constantly directed at you. Even if you are walking, the man turns around so that he can control his lady with his eyes.

His gaze and the distance between you

Pay attention to the eyes of your interlocutor. A man holds his gaze longer on a woman he likes. At the same time, he should not be dissatisfied or critical. The eyes of a guy in love look with warmth. You can read in them that everything is fine in the girl. His pupils are usually dilated.

If he looks appraisingly and his pupils remain narrow, then he is in thought. The guy is still looking at you.

Not all men are brave and decisive. Some guys hide their gaze and avoid direct eye contact. He is interested, but shy.

An interested guy comes as close as possible, moves to the edge of the chair to be closer, tilts his head towards the girl. A man will try to catch every word, look, smile.

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Signs of a man's attention to a woman

Now you know how a man’s interest in a woman is expressed, although there can be many signs of attention. These include gifts, an invitation to sit in a cafe, and just a call during illness. The young man shows his devotion and willingness to be useful when he accompanies her home, taking care of the girl’s safety.

Of course, one should not confuse simple good manners with passion. Everything manifests itself individually. The main thing to remember is that girls are able to instantly calculate and evaluate the necessary information. 40 seconds are enough to accurately determine whether she likes a guy or not, whether he is married or single, well-groomed or sloppy, and whether he might be interested in her.

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And in order to win the heart of a young lady, you need not only to show signs of attention to her person, but also to have a whole set of advantages. At the same time, every girl appreciates care, love, respect, and understanding in her man.

He really listens to you

A man is not distracted by his mobile phone and conversations with other people.
If someone calls him, he invites the interlocutor to reschedule the conversation. The gentleman maintains the topic of conversation not with banal phrases, but shows sincere interest, asks counter or clarifying questions. He jokes and laughs at your jokes.

For example, he will express his opinion on the topic of the dialogue, remember an incident from life, etc.

An interested man looks a girl in the eyes, does not sit with an absent look. He may move slightly closer to the interlocutor.

When communicating, he makes jokes and tries to be cheerful and funny.

Attention! If the interlocutor yawns, this often indicates his inner excitement and high interest. Don't be offended and don't think that the guy is bored with you.

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He repeated your gestures

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There is technology that allows you to track the so-called principles of interpersonal communication. It's called neurolinguistic programming

. Many consider this direction to be pseudoscientific, but the fact is that a number of the principles of this technology work quite well in practice.

In particular, it was noticed that one person in the process of communication

often begins to copy some gestures of another person.

This behavior can often be observed among old friends, colleagues, married couples, and so on. According to experts, the fact that one person involuntarily repeats gestures

another, may indicate, for example, that the first person considers the interlocutor interesting, falling subconsciously under his influence.

For example, if you crossed your arms, then your interlocutor can do the same; crossed your legs - your counterpart can also repeat this movement. Lean back in your chair - the person who is talking to you

, can also lean back in his chair. If your new acquaintance demonstrated similar behavior during your date, then this may indicate that he was at least interested in you. At the very least, he liked you.

He compliments you

It is believed that only women use hints in conversation. Men also resort to veiled phrases. A guy usually gives compliments in order to win over a girl and express his attitude towards her.

A truly interested young man rarely says rote and standard phrases instead of compliments. A real compliment surprises with its spontaneity and surprise. Don't be surprised if a guy says that you have the same beautiful eyes as his dog.

Sign No. 2. A man in love cares about his woman

He asks if you're wearing a hat and gloves on a cold winter day and if you'd like coffee or a snack. Before going to bed, he will call you to say good night, and in the morning he will definitely instruct you on how to drive your car carefully.

A man in love helps with deeds, not words.

The feelings of a man in love are not expressed as expressively and vividly as those of a woman. Stormy emotions and clarification of relationships in a woman’s character. A man, if he loves, acts.

Whether your kitchen faucet is leaking or you need to take your cat to the vet, a man puts the difficulties on his strong shoulders.

Gifts are another indicator of caring. A man gives flowers, pays the bill in a cafe.

He asks you personal questions

Over time, light conversations with a man may fade into the background. He may begin to become interested in more personal matters. This category includes information about relationships, family, and material values.

Firstly, this is a sign that the guy has become more confident and is no longer shy.

Secondly, he adapts your answers to his worldview and life situation. He sees you as a possible partner in a relationship, and not just a friend or a good conversationalist.

If a guy is comfortable with you, he won’t keep silent either. He will tell about his childhood memories, youthful dreams, about pranks at school, about his parents.

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Laughter

Laughter, of course, is usually one of the signs that a person is pleased, that he feels comfortable and enjoys something. On the other hand, laughter may be a nervous reaction of the subject to any situation or circumstances

. Either way, if your date was downright fun and accompanied by frequent bursts of laughter (from both sides, otherwise it looks weird!), this is a good sign.

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Agree, a man may well be nervous because he really liked you very much. Perhaps he even laughed out of place at your jokes that were not the funniest, and sometimes looked a little stupid

. However, the reaction was still laughter, and not indifference or awkward silence. And so a little nervous laughter is also a pretty good sign, indicating that the date didn’t go so bad.

It is not at all necessary that the reaction was laughter. Just remember how often he smiled at you

. And if the smile practically never left his lips, this may also indicate that the man clearly liked you.

Touches

Verbal communication is easy to control, but the world of gestures is controlled by the subconscious. The human body gives unconscious signals. An attentive interlocutor can decipher them.

Touch means a lot in the interaction between a man and a woman. What can they tell you?

Pat on the back. The guy sees you as a friend, a great conversationalist, and expresses his approval.
Handshake. An invitation to light flirting.
Distance violation. The guy likes you, but he is still embarrassed to say it openly.
Holds your hand. Symbol of romance, close relationships.
Touching feet. A man enjoys your company. Perhaps he would like intimacy with you.

Patting on the back. A sign of deep sympathy and tenderness.
Embrace. A sign of strong feelings, a desire to continue the relationship.
Long hugs. The guy doesn't want to break up with you.
Forehead touch. He is embarrassed to express his feelings in words, but is ready for a serious relationship.
Hugs from the back. A man wants to protect you, make you less vulnerable.
Close, strong hugs. A hint of intimacy.

Touch

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Touching is one of the key moments of any flirting. Of course, we are not talking about vulgar manifestations, passionate embraces

and kisses. But even on the first date, a man may, as if by chance, touch your elbow or shoulder.

He may, as if by accident, remove a strand of hair that is bothering you from your face, or gently cover your palm

with his palm, as if supporting you during the conversation, agreeing with you or calming you down.

However, there are usually no accidents in this situation.

Any such touch, even fleeting, indicates that the man subconsciously wants to be closer to you. By the way, if his random touches are quite frivolous in nature

(he tries to kiss you on the first date, touches your knee, hugs your waist), then his goal is most likely not a serious acquaintance, but a desire to get you into bed today.

Keep in mind that touching may also be absent because your new acquaintance may be very shy

. However, this does not change the fact that he might like you a lot.

He fulfills small requests and comes to the rescue in difficult situations

Sympathy and love include in a man the desire to be a noble knight. This applies not only to banal rules of decency like helping with a heavy bag and holding the door. He tries to show concern for you - treat you to coffee, pick up a fallen object, suggest something.

If there are any doubts about his feelings, then give the guy a little test. Say that your phone is malfunctioning, your keys are lost, or you don’t know which soccer ball to buy your brother.

An interested man will try to help.

You discussed so many topics that the date dragged on

What can you talk about on the first date? You never know about anything - after all, you have just met a person, so almost any topic is unsolved for you from the point of view that you have not exchanged your views on this or that issue

.
If your date was fleeting, ending with the rather quick routine phrase “well, I’ll call you sometime
,” then you should not cherish false hopes that this man will appear in your life.

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It’s a completely different matter if during your first date you managed to discuss a lot of different issues and exchange your points of view on a variety of topics. And we started talking so much that we didn’t notice how several hours

. There is almost no doubt that you aroused genuine interest in your new acquaintance, and he tried to embrace the immensity, not wanting to part with you.

In this case, you can be sure that he will soon call you to continue your fascinating conversation. Or type it yourself!

He introduces you to his friends and family

This indicates the seriousness of his intentions. Such a gesture of trust cannot be missed. A pleasant impression and successful acquaintance with friends will raise your status in his eyes.

Sometimes this can be regarded as a show, but there is nothing wrong with that. It's much worse if he doesn't tell his friends about you at all.

It is generally accepted that if a man introduces a girl to his parents, then he is serious about her.

Rather, it depends on the perception of the man himself. Perhaps his parents are simply very hospitable, always happy to see his friends and comrades, ready to treat them and pay attention. Maybe the parents themselves insisted on coming to visit with the girl. That is, acquaintance is a simple formality.

For some guys, introducing a girl to his family is considered a serious step. With this event he wants to demonstrate the importance in his life. He wouldn't bring an ordinary girlfriend into the house. If a guy belongs to this category of people, perhaps he will soon propose marriage.

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He tried to impress you

Men almost always and everywhere try to impress the lady they like. Think back to when you were still in kindergarten! Did you have such a street fan around your age

, who likes to ride in front of you on his tricycle, driving around the yard back and forth and doing not the safest pirouettes?

Older male representatives behave in approximately the same way, demonstrating various techniques aimed at causing surprise or, God forbid, admiration in the lady. Try to remember what exactly it was about

your new acquaintance said when the conversation directly related to his personality (after all, you couldn’t talk only about your person all the time?).

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Perhaps he was talking about how he managed to make a dizzying career? Or about how fast (reliable/rare/powerful) his car is? Did he speak with enthusiasm about what goals he pursues in life?

, what does he dream about? And were these goals lofty, noble, or simply very attractive from an ordinary everyday point of view?

The fact is that men, having met a representative of the fair sex whom they liked, try to appear before her in a good light (women, by the way, behave the same way). Talking about your achievements

or plans for the future, he will “show off” his best qualities, carefully disguising what may raise doubts about his positive image.

How to behave if you notice a man is interested

It's nice to know that a young man likes you. It's especially exciting if you have the same feelings. How to behave with him?

Be confident, men like that.
Love yourself, don't doubt your own attractiveness.
Look to the future, not the past. Don't compare a guy to your exes.
Respond with a warm attitude on your part. Don't miss the opportunity to chat with him and flirt.
Try to stand a little closer to him than usual.
Try to spend time alone with him. It will be easier for you to talk about feelings.
Smile, look into his eyes, touch him casually.
Respond to his flirting in real or virtual communication.
Don't be afraid to be yourself, be playful, funny, slightly childish. In the eyes of a guy, this will make you even more attractive.

Don't pretend to be someone you are not. The deception will still be revealed.
Unobtrusively invite him to spend time together. For example, go to the cinema to see a new film if you two are interested in it.
Give him compliments sometimes.
Don't speak negatively about his friends and acquaintances. They may not be ideal, but they are no less dear to him.
Sometimes you have to become helpless, shy or forgetful so that he can show you care and feel like a real man. But don't overdo it!
Is the guy acting very modest and hesitant? Hint to him about your feelings if you are sure of mutual sympathy.
Work on yourself, develop, become better, take care of yourself.

Attention! Before starting a relationship, figure out whether you really like the man. There is no need to reciprocate if it doesn't really exist. This is unfair.

Glances, so greedily, so timidly caught...3

Yes, the eternal sign of a man’s love is glances. More than one poem has been written about them, and not in vain. No matter how much a young man in love hides his feelings, his gaze will definitely give him away. Well, he can’t help but look at the object of his desire! And when a young lady catches the eye of the same man every now and then, there is no doubt that he is simply in love with her.

If a guy is not interested (his behavior)

A few sure signs that a girl is indifferent to a guy:

You yourself initiate communication with him. This happens all the time. Even a very shy guy can overcome himself.
Rarely responds to messages or ignores them.
Communicates indifferently, reluctantly, strives to end the conversation quickly, answers inappropriately.
Talks on banal and abstract topics. Doesn't share what's important to him.
Smiles strained or does not smile at all.
Does not invite you to meetings and does not agree to your invitations.
May cancel plans or fail to show up for a meeting without warning.
Discusses other girls in your presence.
Stands or sits in a closed position, does not allow anyone into his personal space.
Doesn't introduce him to friends, acquaintances, or parents.
Refers to being busy when asking for help.

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Liking test

How can you tell if a young man likes you? A test or, rather, an experiment will help you understand your feelings and the situation. Carry out the following simple tasks that will lift the “veil of secrecy”.

Of course, they cannot confirm or refute your assumption about the presence of sympathy with an absolute guarantee, but you will be able to think through a strategy of behavior.

Request for help

To understand the guy’s level of interest, try breaking, for example, a pencil and asking the young man to sharpen it (you might “accidentally” drop an earring, for example). If a guy agrees to help you without persuasion, we can talk about his sympathy.

Sight

This test is associated with such a psychological feature as mirroring the movements of a sympathetic interlocutor. Catch a man's gaze and immediately look at the clock, then look at the man again. If he also turned his gaze to your watch, and then began to look at you again, this is another sign of interest in your person.

"Provocation"

The next test is a bit like a provocation, but there is nothing you can do to find out whether a young man cares about you. Come up with a story that you and your friend were going to the cinema, but in the end you were left without a companion. If a guy likes you, he will offer his company without further ado.

There should not be too many such experiments, otherwise the young man will understand that you are testing him. Who knows how he will react to such “testing”.

Question answer

A man helped me with a report at work. Does this mean he likes me?

Perhaps he helped out of politeness. Pay attention to his further behavior, your communication, voice, facial expressions.

The guy doesn't write to me or like me on social networks. Doesn't he like me anymore?

If a guy spends a lot of time with you outside the Internet, it means he just doesn’t like to communicate virtually. No real communication? Most likely, he doesn't care about you.

I'm being courted by a guy I don't like. What to do?

Don’t come up with excuses like “I’m busy right now” or “I have a lot of work to do.” The guy will hope that time will appear. It's better to have an honest conversation with him and tactfully tell him that you don't see him as a soul mate. Don't be rude to him, don't humiliate him!

How can I tell if a guy doesn't like me?

Does not show initiative, does not support communication, is reluctant to engage in dialogue, and constantly refers to being busy.

Is it possible to understand that a stranger liked me?

An interested stranger usually does the following:

He looks at the girl furtively.
Try to catch her eye as often as possible.
Smiles when we meet.
Will try to find it on social networks.
He is interested in the object of his affection from mutual acquaintances.
He gets embarrassed and makes awkward movements.

The guy got to know me easily, says a lot of compliments, and behaves cheerfully and relaxed in company. What does it mean?

Most likely, in front of you is an ordinary womanizer who is flattered by female attention. Try to be alone with him and observe his behavior.

My boyfriend didn't answer my message. Has he got another one?

If this happened once, then most likely there was a good reason for it (problems with communication, being busy, just got tired and forgot). Does this happen regularly? Think about his behavior.

A guy in love, even if he is very busy, will always find 2 minutes for a phone call or message.

He agreed with you

What did you tell your new friend on your first date? Have you told him about any conflict situations in which you showed an unshakable position? And how he commented

your story? If a man takes your side, quite actively supporting your position with additional arguments, then he most likely likes you. If, on the contrary, he condemned your position, the chances of a second date are very low.

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It’s a good sign if a man nodded actively during your story, often saying something like “yes, yes, exactly!”

,
"I totally agree with you!"
,
“That’s what I think”
and the like.

Did he support your views on life, did he share your tastes related, for example, to music or cinema? It may well be that he does not like the same films and the same music as you - time will tell.

if you continue to communicate. But if on the first date a man made it clear that he has the same tastes as you, then you must have a second date!

If this is a work colleague

A person spends a lot of time at work. If the team is diverse, then sympathies may arise between employees. How do male colleagues show interest?

Tries to be in the woman's field of vision.
Strives to be closer (sit next to her at a meeting, share a table with a girl during lunch, invites her for tea during a break).
Initiates a conversation, asks questions, is interested in the lady’s opinion.
He looks tenderly, carefully, studying.
Smiles when meeting, is in high spirits.
Tries to casually touch.
When addressing an object of sympathy, the voice becomes more tender, deep, and sensual.

Carefully selects words during a conversation (short pauses indicate this).
Notices changes in appearance and success at work. Never misses an opportunity to give a compliment.
Offers his help.
Is active on social networks.
He tenses up and frowns if other men approach the object of his passion.
Tries to learn more about the girl, her tastes, habits.

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Tips and tricks

Psychologists warn against misinterpretation of male behavior when a woman acts out wishful thinking. Some gentlemen are charming and courteous, but at the same time they are indifferent to the lady. It is necessary to consider in detail the signs and situations:

Invitations for a cup of tea during a lunch break are considered a sign of business etiquette, so they often do not carry any hidden meaning. The man is simply discussing work issues in order to complete the project by the end of the working day, and the girl is already mentally trying on a wedding outfit and coming up with names for the children.
The guy is incredibly pleasant to talk to, he will always help with advice and listen to the problem. Women have higher emotional intelligence, but empathetic men are not uncommon. Developed communication skills can be misinterpreted, so other signs need to be analyzed.
A man says hello, does not allow him to carry heavy packages, or opens the door to let a lady go first - you need to say “thank you” to his parents, who raised a worthy person. It’s time to include good manners in the Red Book as a rare and endangered type of communication, since in 80% of cases modern women take them for flirting and a desire to please.
Experienced seducers use playful jokes, ambiguous hints and compliments as their main weapons. For womanizers, this behavior is considered the norm, so it is useful to observe the behavior of an imaginary lover with other women.

Men are not always ready to boldly talk about their feelings, fearing ridicule or rejection. It may take a long time before the gentleman decides to take a serious step. Sympathy and love manifest themselves in different ways, so women can only observe.

How can you tell if a man is interested in a woman but is hiding it?

It happens that a guy is in love with a girl, but does not admit it. He is afraid of rejection, ridicule, is not ready for a new relationship, has not overcome shyness. This behavior makes the girl doubt: “Maybe everything seems to me?” How to understand his feelings?

The one who hides sympathy is afraid of being recognized. The guy hides his eyes and behaves insecurely.
Keeps his hands in his pockets.
The young man carefully monitors hygiene and is responsible in his choice of clothing.
His mood often changes.
There is tension and nervousness in the voice.
He does not ask direct questions about his personal life and likes, so as not to declassify himself. Tries to find out this information indirectly.
Can indulge in rudeness, ridicule, sarcasm (this is typical for schoolchildren and young men).
At the mention of you, he suddenly becomes awkward and irritable.
He pointedly ignores your presence.
He tries to avoid touching, but still reaches out to you.

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Always nearby

Yes, if a man likes a girl, he will try to always be with her. Of course, this is not always within his capabilities - there is still work, home life, study, but at the first opportunity, a young man in love will be nearby. Because he is attracted to his beloved person, he does not have the strength to be far away, not to see her, not to hear, not to know what she is doing now.

Therefore, if some absent-minded young man is constantly with you, pay attention to him, maybe this is the person who is ready to pluck a star from the sky for you?

Is it worth building a relationship with a married man?

A woman can also be driven by selfish motives. For example, this is her boss, and she expects to make a career through the connection. Or he is a very wealthy person. A married lover has fallen in love with a beauty, provides for her, but has no intention of leaving the family. In such situations, homewreckers are of little interest in the broken family of the gentleman.

But many girls are concerned about the ethical side of the issue. Such women will not think about a possible romance with a non-free guy. The practice is that a person who is capable of betraying will not be able to become a reliable support in future relationships.

Many are not ready to leave their family for another passion. They are trying to “sit on two chairs” only for their own benefit. For them, having an affair on the side is simply an opportunity to gain new emotions and pleasant sex. Making claims here is pointless.

The first steps towards a stranger

It’s great if a determined young man is the first to try to get close to the girl he likes. For example, when a potential couple has mutual friends, the guy finds a way to “approach” the lady and start a conversation. However, sometimes things are different!

Of course, girls have an opinion: a young man is obliged to take the initiative, it is easier for him than for the weaker sex. But what in reality? Try to imagine yourself in a similar situation! Do you know for sure that the feelings are mutual? How then can you not worry, not be afraid of being rejected?

That's why it's not terrible to take the initiative yourself. It is worth noting: in some cases such an initiative is simply necessary, and the young man is waiting for this “signal”. What can you do? Why not introduce yourself, say your name and find out the name of your interlocutor? A great option when it comes to sharing a social circle.

It's important to understand

: Not every person is capable of being so straightforward, and there is nothing shameful in that. It's worth trying to use the setting. The most common methods: in an educational institution, find out the lesson plan, at work - ask for advice on writing a report, in a cafe - ask about your favorite dish, and so on.

Don’t forget: when a young man has sincere sympathy, he will either happily or with sweet embarrassment continue the conversation, begin to act, try to get closer, and show care and respect. Are the feelings not mutual? It happens! Why not create lasting friendships or warm conversations without worrying about a bad opinion? An intelligent and worthy person will never shame someone for having romantic feelings.

He constantly calls you when he's drunk

Calling your ex while drunk is a classic of the genre, of course. However, these calls gradually fade away as time passes

. And only over the strongest feelings time has no power. Only alcohol has power, because, as you know, what is on the mind of a sober person is on the tongue of a drunken person.

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And if your ex, as soon as he gets drunk, constantly calls you, most likely he still loves you and misses you. And alcohol only helps him remove obstacles

who do not allow you to express your feelings in a sober manner. Perhaps the two of you should consider trying again?

The main thing is that his alcohol addictions are not the very reason why you broke up!

Man showing initiative

Signs of a man's interest in a woman will become obvious to you if you discover the nuances of male behavior and psychology.

The guy fixes his gaze on your person for more than 8 seconds, and then sharply looks away so as not to give himself away.
Offers friendly help and asks about business, mood, plans.
Makes you laugh by telling jokes and funny incidents from your own life experience.
Seeks meetings based on common hobbies. Maybe sign up for yoga just because they can see you there again.

a) tells you jokes; b) begins to share your hobby