13 types of sexual orientation you might not know about

September 5, 2018
Mental disorders
Denis Dmitriev

At all times, there has been a category of people who do not like society in all its manifestations. Such misanthropes were called misanthropes, and the disease was called misanthropy. Such people have recently become popular in media culture. Directors and book authors choose people with this character trait as the main characters in films and literary works.

Bisexuals

These people are capable of being attracted to both men and women. They do not give preference to any one gender, and admit that they never know who will become the object of their passion.

It is wrong to assume that bisexuals have not decided on their orientation; they really, by nature, love both men and women equally.

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Behavior adjustment

Set aside specific days for cleaning
If you realize that you spend too much time putting things in order and your loved ones have repeatedly pointed out to you that you need to change something in your life and stop focusing on cleanliness, then you can listen to the following advice.

Try to limit yourself from daily cleaning. Set aside specific days of the week for this process. To begin with, you can choose two such days and clean only on them. Once you get used to this routine, you can move on to cleaning once a week.
Learn relaxation techniques, do yoga, devote time to meditation.
If, while cleaning, you find yourself, feel that you are bringing some benefit, and get satisfaction from it, then you can try to decide on a hobby and devote all your free time to it. This way you can feel complete and see the results of your work. But this choice will be better than obsessing over cleaning.
If you have a fear of infection, it is better to seek help from a psychotherapist, since it is unlikely that you will be able to get rid of such fear on your own.
If the desire to restore order is dictated by the need to get rid of bad thoughts, then it is better to be distracted by some other matter in moments of anxiety, remember the positive moments of your life, and think about the good.
If the love of cleanliness is, in fact, the result of self-doubt, it’s time to work on your own self-esteem, stop focusing on your failures and shortcomings, identify your strengths and improve them.
A woman absolutely does not need to lick her apartment every day until it shines. Not every man will appreciate such an impulse. Your partner will be much more grateful if you spend more time on him and not on the dishes.
Psychoanalysis. It is necessary when the patient cannot overcome his manic addiction on his own. A specialist will be able to identify the exact cause of this disorder and prescribe appropriate therapy:

it can be, for example, a group one, where a person encounters other people who have similar problems;
There may also be hypnosis therapy - the patient is put into a trance, a model of behavior that is correct is suggested;
and cognitive-behavioral. A person realizes that not everything has to be perfect. The specialist rebuilds the patient’s way of thinking, changing lifestyles and habits.

Pansexuals

People with this type of sexual orientation can be attracted to absolutely all individuals of the human race. They don't care whether their partner is male, female, transgender, intersex or transgender.

For a pansexual, the personal qualities of a potential partner, the essence of the relationship with him and the emotions that they receive in the process of communication are more important.

They are able to fall in love with a person suffering from the last stage of obesity or serious developmental anomalies. Pansexuals do not pay attention to age differences; for them, a difference of 50 years may be acceptable. They build relationships on common hobbies and life goals, and this makes such unions strong and interesting.

How to help a misanthrope

Psychologists suggest that such individuals can radically change their attitude towards humanity only with the appearance of true love or their own child in their lives. Despite the lingering hatred and contempt for all people, instinctive paternal or maternal feelings will inevitably break out sooner or later and, perhaps, somewhat soften the attitude of a person who does not like society and opposes himself to it.

Living together with such a person, many try to somehow influence the misanthrope’s worldview and correct his character. In some cases this actually works. It is enough to show the misanthrope that he is not so different from other people, that he also has his own advantages and disadvantages, needs and weaknesses.

Nevertheless, some character traits that appeared during the formation and development of personality will remain with the misanthrope, in all likelihood, until the end of his life. Examples of such traits are pride, vanity, swagger and arrogance. It is important to remember that even a person who does not like people has the right to happiness and peace.

Litsexuals

These are people who are capable of loving and falling in love, but quickly lose interest in the object of love if he reciprocates. As a rule, they do not have the experience of long-term relationships with the objects of their desires, because they feel uncomfortable in them.

Litsexuals often live in the world of their fantasies: they may be in love with characters from books and films, non-existent characters or TV stars. And in such love they feel great, because there is no threat of receiving reciprocal recognition.

It is noteworthy that some of the litsexuals create families, but not out of love, but out of convenience. At the same time, all their lives they do not experience sexual attraction to their own spouse, but are in love with a completely inaccessible person, and... happy!

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Who are misanthropes

Misanthrope is a synonym for misanthrope in Greek, and comes from two words, respectively: “man” and “hatred.” Misanthropes do not show the usual interest in society, try to avoid the company of other people whenever possible, and can be aggressive in behavior.

If we consider misanthropy as a disease, then its definition will sound like rejection and a feeling of hatred towards all of humanity, moral principles, as well as the rules of behavior established in society. This term quite succinctly expresses the essence of the life position of a person who does not like people.

Asexuals

These people do not experience sexual attraction in principle. By the way, this does not mean that they do not enter into intimate relationships! If an asexual gets married, then he will certainly have sex to conceive or to satisfy the needs of his spouse, because he understands the need for procreation and the need of other people for sex.

According to asexuals themselves, intimate relationships do not cause any emotions in them, everything happens “automatically”, technically they are quite capable of handling the matter. But with feelings and sensations things are very bad.

Fear of evaluation

There are many types of fear: evaluations, consequences, loss of comfort, fear of not being recognized, fear of loss of significance and others. An introvert has everything, but most of all, of course, fear of evaluation. Each time, acting as fear wants, a person stews in it more and more, and each time in a similar situation, fear intensifies and a process begins that leads to isolation, closedness and hatred of the whole world.

Fear simply permeates the entire essence of such people, but they can fiercely deny it and throw anger at it. This illusion is a direct negation. For example, a mother asks her son: “Why did you stop communicating with people?”, and he told her: “They are all idiots, they are not interesting to me!” And it's not even cheating! If you combine anger with fear, then you end up with something similar to what was said.

Fearing the activities of the surrounding world, the introvert’s brain does not allow him to admit that he is afraid of any rustle, but putting a ton of anger on top of this fear is much more comfortable, and the tension will not be as hellish as when realizing that a person is simply afraid to talk to a stranger .

Greysexuals

These are people who are on the border of asexuality and conventional sexuality. They may only be sexually attracted to a certain type of person. Alternatively, they are only aroused by people in certain circumstances. Let's say a flight attendant on a Moscow-Shanghai flight. At the same time, the flight attendants of the Kaliningrad-Magadan flight are not the same.

In this case, gender, age, nationality and other conventions do not matter. For a graysexual, only the context of the situation in which they find themselves with their sexual partner is important.

Misanthrope Character Traits

How to distinguish a person who does not like people from a simple person in the street who is suddenly in a bad mood caused by traffic jams or a quarrel with his beloved? Misanthropes have some traits that you should pay attention to when communicating:

They do not accept social, behavioral or religious norms. They don’t like humanity as a whole and speak negatively about people.
Often, in a defiant and provocative form, they contrast their own personality with society or all of humanity.
They relate well to friends and close people, the number of which is calculated in a few units.

Misanthropes prefer communicating with old friends to making new acquaintances. Rejection of human weaknesses and shortcomings does not allow misanthropes to fully communicate and make a favorable impression on unfamiliar people.

Demisexuals

This type most often includes women. Demisexuals do not experience sexual attraction to a person until they have formed a spiritual attachment towards him.

An example from life: a man and a woman had been friends since school, continued to communicate in adulthood, without having any romantic relationship. None of them had a good personal life, and after 30 years they suddenly realized that they were sexually attracted only to that same “desk neighbor.”

In the situation described, deep emotional intimacy and attachment was formed and became the basis for sexual attraction.

Causes of misanthropy

Such an attitude towards humanity can be formed even in childhood, when consciousness and worldview are in their infancy, and the child absorbs all the information about the surrounding reality. Of course, becoming a misanthrope is also acceptable in adulthood. To do this, a person just needs to find a number of compelling reasons, which are often associated with single or multiple negative experiences of communicating with people.

A person who does not like society as a whole may transfer onto it the negative traits he sees in specific individuals. Often, such feelings are caused by seeing unpleasant activities of people, for example, inappropriate behavior in a public place, political wars, harming the environment or cruelty to animals.

Autocoresexuals

They prefer to watch other people having sex and, when aroused, satisfy their sexual needs on their own.

An autocorysexual may be turned on by fantasies, watching classic or other types of porn, but he himself refuses to enter into sexual contact with anyone, engaging exclusively in masturbation.

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Is complete isolation necessary?

Common sense is a useful skill or quality that allows a person to judge a situation correctly and do the right thing. When you sit down, cutting yourself off from everyone else, you don't realize you have a problem. He explained everything to himself in such colors that everything was just perfect, and if he took any actions that would return him to society, it would be just hell.

It is difficult to help a person who refuses to help. Although there are still introverts who find the strength to take an honest look at themselves and accept the help of a psychiatrist.

There is only degradation in complete isolation, and that is where every introvert goes. Even if he locks himself in his apartment and reads (this cannot be called degradation), he is still at high risk of mental changes, because they cannot be developed without contact with society.

The process of losing common sense is slow, but it is almost impossible to regain it. Over time, strange thoughts can materialize into actions that can cause irreparable harm to the introvert himself and even to those around him.

Sapiosexuals

If most people are turned on by watching porn, then a sapiosexual can get pleasure from watching the programs “Custom Game” or “What? Where? When?". The thing is that these people are excited by the outstanding intellectual abilities of the object of desire.

It is believed that there are more sapiosexuals among women than among men. For such couples, long philosophizing and intellectual conversations are like foreplay. According to sapiosexuals themselves, they are especially sexually attracted to people who are capable of convincingly changing their own point of view in an intellectual debate. Wasserman, your way out!

Meaning of the word

The concept came to us from Ancient Greece. Back in 720 BC, the city of Sybaris (or Sybaris) was founded in southern Italy, in Lucania. The lifestyle of the sybarites determined the modern meaning of the word. The population lived in idleness and laziness. The favorable climate made it possible to harvest three crops per year. Trade routes passed through the city, and the Sybarites were famous for their grip in this area. They traded their own wine and also sought profit through cunning and deception. In the end, they became so lazy that they perceived any work as an unworthy pastime.

The main causes of spiritual emptiness

Like any other disease, the appearance of this disorder was preceded by certain factors. Indifference itself cannot arise out of nowhere, without any reason. Most often, apathy, due to which a person does not want to communicate with anyone, is a consequence of harsh self-criticism and dissatisfaction with oneself, which leads to a refusal to implement important plans.

Gossipers

The main motive of such a person is the desire to belittle other people. His words are always saturated with poison and bile, and addressed to mutual acquaintances. They constantly gossip, share other people's secrets, discuss the personal lives of mutual friends, criticize and condemn them. The desire to break off relations with such a person arises naturally, but there are also more subtle representatives of this category who behave in a veiled manner. They feel by the reaction of their interlocutor when they cross the line, and stop in time. The only thing that truly scares a toxic gossip is the risk of experiencing their own pain.

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Sybarite lifestyle

In carelessness the good one lives like a sybarite (A. S. Griboedov)

Luxury and laziness

They lived in luxury. In Sybaris, for the first time, society was divided into two parts, not only according to material principles, but also according to areas of residence. Rich sybarites evicted all artisans and other working people to the outskirts of the city. The workers got up early and got to work. This prevented the sybarites, who led a nocturnal, riotous lifestyle, from sleeping until lunch. For the same reason, there were no roosters in rich areas. At the same time, the rest of the population of Sybaris was by no means in poverty. Both ordinary people and slaves made good money from the lazy rich.

Idleness and gluttony

The Sybarites, they say, sent out invitations to their women a year in advance, so that they would have time to dress up for the feast (Plutarch)

The life of the sybarites was spent in idleness. Society was judged by clothing, the decoration of houses and the luxury of feasts. Legends were made about the gluttony of sybarites in the ancient Greek world.

The chefs tried to outdo each other in the sophistication of their dishes. The tables were laden with food. The sybarite's menu included seafood, including giant oysters, crabs, lobsters, and a variety of shellfish. They prepared for each feast for several weeks, carefully thinking through clothing, hairstyle and decorations. Cooks and fabric dyers made fabulous money from this.

We learned a lot about the life of the Sybarites from the works of Herodotus, who himself was a citizen of Sybaris and died there in 425 BC. We can judge the morals and psychological portrait of the sybarite from Herodotus’ description of the matchmaking of the local rich man Smindirids. He fell in love with the daughter of the ruler of the polis Sikyon, Cleisthenes, and went to woo her, accompanied by thousands of bird catchers, fishermen and cooks. While boasting about the skills of his slaves, he once again emphasized his inadequacy as a complete incompetent. Legend has it that the girl decided to give her hand to any of the workers, but not to the lazy Smindirid.

Destruction of the city of Sybaris

Sybarite even rolls into the abyss with comfort (Valentina Bednova)

Next to Sybaris there was another ancient Greek city, Croton. The neighbors were complete opposites and quietly despised each other. The hardworking and ascetic Crotonians, who accepted the teachings of Pythagoras, were irritated by the ever-merry and idle sybarites. They considered their neighbors to be the source of evil and rightly believed that this evil should be destroyed. Chance brought them to the battlefield.

This happened in 510 BC. Five hundred inhabitants of Sybaris sought refuge in Croton. Apparently, not everyone liked the order of the tyrant Telius, established in the “city of dreams.” The rulers of Croton agreed to accept the fugitives and sent a delegation to their neighbors to give explanations. The Sybarites did not listen to the ambassadors, but simply executed them. This was unheard of blasphemy. The Pythagoreans gathered an army and marched against the hated sissies under the leadership of the Olympic champion Milo.

Judging by the chronicles, this was not a battle, but a reality show for the amusement of the audience. As the sybarite cavalry approached, the Crotonian musicians began to play flutes. Horses trained to dance began to beat the step with their hooves, and the discouraged sybarites fell dead from the arrows and swords of their opponents.

In order to completely forget about the riotous past of its neighbors, after the victory, Sybaris, like Sodom and Gomorrah, was flooded by the waters of the Kratis River. The winners specially brought the riverbed to the plundered city and buried it under a layer of river silt. The remaining sybarites scattered along the coast and found shelter in other policies. Three times they tried to revive Sybaris, but without success.

You need to love people not in words, but in deeds

On the one hand, in our society there is a huge deficit of philanthropy. People are increasingly moving away from each other and are not interested in the affairs of even their parents and relatives. It is no secret that the consumer attitude in modern society already extends not only to consumer goods, but it has already “eaten through” human relationships. On the other hand, there has been a resurgence in the culture of giving and all sorts of studies show that people are giving more and more every year.

Another question is in what form this happens. We see how at other charity events there are women and men dressed in furs and diamonds who raise money for an orphanage, a hospital or for targeted assistance. Frankly, such events have little to do with true philanthropy. In this case, for many characters this is an opportunity to simply attract attention and create an informational occasion. Not to mention such things when numerous charitable foundations are just a cover for laundering and siphoning money from people and the budget. However, let’s not talk about sad things, because there must be true philanthropists on Earth...

Desperate pedestrians

Lifehacker dedicated a separate article to auto-hammers. But there are also complaints about other road users. They also often create dangerous situations.

They cross the road right in front of the car

For pedestrians, the Russian Federation Traffic Regulations are provided, 4. Responsibilities of pedestrians: There are many ways to safely cross the road. Running out onto the roadway in front of a car is not one of them. Wedging into traffic 50 meters from a traffic light is the same. This endangers not only the life and health of the offender. Firstly, the driver can suddenly brake to save the life of a pedestrian, which will lead to an accident involving several cars. Secondly, the car may not have time to stop. And even if the driver is found not guilty, a fatal accident is a very traumatic experience.

Walking along the side of the road at night without reflective elements

A car is a source of increased danger, and therefore the driver must be careful. But supernatural vision is not given along with a license, so irresponsible walks can end sadly.

Abuse the power given to them by traffic rules

A car must allow a person to cross a zebra crossing at an unregulated crossing. But this does not mean that he should slow down to a minimum and cross the road at a snail’s pace. Mutual respect is the key to good relations on the road.

Moving along a strange trajectory

Let's move from the road to the sidewalk. A good pedestrian is a predictable pedestrian. Anyone who constantly rushes from side to side and suddenly stops creates a lot of problems for others.

Loud people

Loud sounds irritate, interfere with concentration, and make you feel uncomfortable. People around you are not annoying out of spite. The areas of the brain responsible for processing sound control The cognitive determinants of behavioral distraction by deviant auditory stimuli: a review mental and physiological processes necessary for concentration and creativity. Accordingly, it is impossible to be distracted. All that remains for listeners, involuntarily, is to hate people who mock other people’s ears. By the way, here they are.

Loud music lovers

Some seem to listen to music on headphones, but turn up the volume to such a level that the sound waves blow away those around them. Others are not at all embarrassed to watch videos and enjoy songs in a crowded place directly from their phone or tablet, or even from a portable speaker. It is noteworthy that usually the ears of others are raped with very specific music. Apparently, tastes and upbringing are more closely connected than it seems.

Neighbors who are music lovers

They could well fall into the category of loud music lovers, but it would be more correct to single out a separate item for them. Because your music-loving neighbors don’t catch you in line at the doctor’s office or on the trolleybus. They penetrate your apartment - a place intended for relaxation. Moreover, often these same people completely ignore the so-called law on silence, which regulates when you can’t make noise.

A special greeting should be conveyed to the owners of subwoofers in high-rise buildings, especially panel and monolithic ones. Vibrations from bass can easily travel through structures. As a result, half the house is shaking - and this is in the best case.

Phone maniacs

Many people are annoyed by bloggers who broadcast their every move on social networks, but at least you can unsubscribe from them. It’s much worse when you find yourself in a queue or on a trolleybus with a person who decides right now to tell your telephone interlocutor where you went, what you did, what you ate. On the one hand, the sound is annoying, on the other hand, listeners feel uncomfortable because they don’t want to know the details of a stranger’s personal life.

However, there is a good chance that your torment will not end when the telephone maniac ends the call and starts typing something on the device. Some people do not turn off the keyboard sound when they first unpack the phone, but prefer to cheer up those around them with squeaks and beeps.

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What should a person who loves people do?

What the charity is called - philanthropy, sponsorship, patronage, patronage - does not matter. The main thing is not the form, but the content. A true philanthropist is a person who sacrifices his time, funds, personal comfort and convenience to improve and alleviate the lot of someone who needs it.

Modern philanthropists are far from their predecessors both in the size of donated amounts and in the technology of providing assistance. Today, no one, at least in the civilized world and among truly respectable, large-scale philanthropists, gives money, so to speak, “just like that.” These people came up with entire financing systems, which include various funds, companies, organizations that control the receipt and expenditure of funds.

Features of toxic relationships

The main characteristic of relationships with such people is expressed in constant negativity and emotional suppression. This does not always happen clearly, but over time the negative psychological background of the relationship becomes more and more obvious. What is very important is that “victims” are not always aware of whose fault it is that their quality of life is deteriorating. Even when they identify a toxic person in their environment, banal psychological manipulation prevents them from breaking out of his network. The ability to manage people in one’s own interests is another negative factor that aggravates the situation of others.

Inadequate dog owners

Let’s agree right away: dogs are nice and are not to blame for anything. Although they are smart animals, they are not smart enough to participate in human agreements. This is the law of the Civil Code of the Russian Federation, Article 137. Animals recognize: its owner is responsible for the behavior of a pet. But some owners are truly real pests.

Do not put a leash on your dog when walking

Dog lovers have all kinds of excuses for bitten victims, and they all boil down to the fact that the victim himself is to blame: there was no need to be afraid, and in general, animals sense bad people and do not bite good people. But it’s much easier to pacify a dog than a feeling of panic. If someone is able to control the surge of adrenaline 100% in any situation, let him share this knowledge with everyone.

The problem is solved with a leash. By the way, appearing with a dog without it in places not intended for walking is, in principle, illegal.

Walking on playgrounds

If you can find the least suitable place for walking, this is it. A sandbox is a bad choice for a dog's pee.

They do not remove excrement

There seems to be no need for long introductions here. Few people like to see feces, step in them with clean new shoes, or wash their children off dog poop.

Feeding stray dogs

You don't have to have a dog at home to harm others. You can do this in another way. Among animal lovers, there are those who help them and those who “help”. The first ones take dogs from the streets, sterilize them, give them to foster care and place them in good hands. They also organize or support animal shelters with rubles, work there as volunteers in their free time and generally do a great job.

The latter calm their conscience by taking scraps or cheap food into the yard. As a result, a pack of stray dogs gathers in the yard, unpredictable in their behavior and multiplying uncontrollably. It’s only worse when animals are fed not in their own, but in someone else’s yard.

People who don't protect themselves

Incredible, but true: sexually transmitted diseases are named so for a reason. They are spread through genital contact. And their presence is not always obvious, especially to a non-specialist and in a fit of passion. Spreading harmful bacteria and viruses is very bad. When a person knows about his illness and still does not protect himself, it is terrible, and in some cases even criminal, of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation Article 122. Infection with HIV infection, if we are talking about, for example, HIV. Thanks to opponents of protection, a disease that is not obvious to the eye will be transmitted further and further.

It is naive to believe that anyone is safe. For example, it is still believed that HIV is a disease of homosexuals (sexual transmission) and drug addicts (injection transmission). In Russia and not only this is a completely heterosexual story, and now young married women are at risk of becoming victims of infidelity. They get the virus from spouses who cheat in marriage or who got the disease before.

Unwanted pregnancy, although not a disease, is also not the most pleasant consequence of sex, as the name suggests. So a separate cauldron in hell (boomerang, karma - depending on what you believe) is reserved for myth-makers who convince that it is impossible to get pregnant after interrupted sexual intercourse, during menstruation, or if a woman has not experienced an orgasm.

Pessimists

Having experienced painful and even tragic events, such people do not let go of bad memories from their lives. They seem to revel in sad events, plunging themselves and those around them into negativity. There can be no bright future next to such a person. A pessimist tries in every possible way to instill a psychological atmosphere of decline, pain and disappointment without any hint of bright hope.

Moreover, such people are guided not by logical assumptions, but by far-fetched conjectures and fantasies with shades of pessimism. They build a picture of the world that they themselves want to see in their lives and in the destinies of those around them.

Which doctor should I contact?

This condition cannot be left to chance. To overcome apathy, you need to step over shame and shyness and turn to a specialist. You can consult a psychologist, a psychiatrist or a psychotherapist.

A psychologist has knowledge in this area and can give basic advice, but this specialist is not competent enough to make a diagnosis and prescribe medication. If the psychologist sees a problem, he refers the patient to a psychiatrist or psychotherapist. It is important to put aside all prejudices and stereotypes, because these specialists are visited not only by mentally ill people, but also by mentally healthy people. In addition, a psychiatrist can treat insomnia, various phobias, epilepsy and other diseases.