The desire to be under the protection of a man and to be married unconsciously manifests itself even in childhood, when a girl dreams of a white dress and plays with dolls. With age, dreams of a prince become conscious, relationships with the opposite sex gradually come to the fore. How do you understand that a man likes you and hasn’t fantasized about castles in the air, mistaking basic politeness for falling in love?
Does he love you or not?
Is it possible to understand that a man likes you?
If the young man is not an actor or did not serve in counterintelligence, then you can guess about his feelings by analyzing his body language, which is not controlled by his head. It is easy to hide certain thoughts and words, but it is difficult to force yourself not to blush, not to be nervous, not to tremble. The eyes give away a person's head. To hide them, you can look away, but then it will be clear to others that the person is embarrassed.
There are several reasons that force men and women to hide love:
- Fear that the person you like will not reciprocate;
- The idea that the relationship has no future. For example, a company's corporate charter prohibits personal relationships between employees;
- A man experiences only passion and understands that strong relationships cannot be built on the basis of this desire.
Even if a guy decides to hide his feelings, it will be very difficult to do so.
Sign language speaks for him
A man can remain silent about his sympathy, but body language will give him away. The main signs are as follows. Firstly, he will dignify and straighten up every time in your presence, as if trying to show himself taller and more open to communication. Secondly, he may show nervousness (fiddle with his tie, cufflinks, belt, button), constantly look at his watch or touch his own face. Thirdly, he will definitely preen himself or at least straighten his hair or clothes before turning to you.
Basic signs of sympathy
Gestures and facial expressions
Signs that a girl is in love - how to understand that a girl is in love
Much in the human body is controlled only by the brain, without the participation of consciousness, in accordance with basic settings. So, men will behave very similarly when a pretty girl appears:
- They will smooth your hair, straighten your tie, straighten your back to look in all its glory.
- They will always turn to face the lady, perhaps putting their leg forward.
- The object of dreams is so close that there is a burning desire to touch it. Therefore, men do not know where to put their hands. The modest ones will be tucked into their pockets, the open ones will subconsciously show their wrists, twirl, fiddle with, adjust something.
- Some people put their fingers in their belts or sit with their legs stretched out, showing who the man is.
- There is a desire to copy the gestures of the interlocutor. You need to change your position, and if a man cannot sit quietly, even though he does not repeat the movements exactly, then he is clearly not indifferent.
- If the posture is closed (arms or legs are crossed) and the body is turned in the other direction, then this indicates a reluctance to communicate or strong tightness and shyness.
- A smile and eyes can tell a lot without words. It is very easy to distinguish a sincere smile from a forced one, even if the person is extremely polite. By a slight blush and raised eyebrows, it is easy to determine interest in the topic of conversation or the interlocutor.
Love and tenderness can be expressed with a smile
Gaze and eye contact
A man will constantly look for the girl he likes; she attracts him like a magnet. If he decides to hide his feelings, then, on the contrary, he will never look at her, even if the situation requires it. After all, the eyes will tell a lot, besides his desire. The look of a man in love is deep, enchanted, burning and tender. The pupils may be dilated. A modest person will avert his eyes, a self-confident person will come close and begin to examine without embarrassment.
Important! If a man looks intently, but coldly, squints his eyes, his pupils are narrow, then he is simply assessing the girl.
Behavior and speech
Friends always easily recognize falling in love, since the behavior of an adult man changes greatly. In her presence, the funny guy suddenly becomes quiet; the usually taciturn guy will begin to attract attention with jokes and activity.
An irresistible desire to touch your beloved will force you to reduce your personal space. Scientists have calculated that for a European it is equal to 50 centimeters. The man makes attempts to come closer, to touch the woman or at least her personal belongings.
To attract the attention of an interesting girl, a man:
- recognizes the phone, calls, writes messages, tries to be nearby;
- wants to know everything, asks questions, listens carefully;
- makes small pleasant surprises, strives to help;
- tries to become better: looks neater, quits smoking;
- Pauses in conversation can indicate sympathy; they arise because the guy is worried and daydreaming;
- tries to make you laugh;
- tells personal things, can brag about successes, because you need to make a good impression;
- some men, who are not far behind schoolchildren in their development, begin to be rude and teasing;
- will be jealous if another man calls.
Pangs of jealousy
A clear sign that you like a woman will be a change in the timbre of your voice when talking to her. So he doesn't talk to anyone anymore. The voice becomes softer, lower, and special notes are heard in it. Tries not to use harsh words, speak softly.
Important! Some Don Juans are fluent in this technique.
Men can talk for a long time about work if they see a qualified colleague or good friend in a pretty woman. If he talks only about himself, he believes that the interlocutor is unworthy of attention and is not suitable for him.
A good way to figure out whether a man likes a woman is to ask her friends. It can be seen better from the outside. If a guy's friends start joking about this topic, there is no doubt that he is sincerely interested in communication.
What kind of women is he attracted to?
Young boys are distinguished by their ardor and recklessness. They throw words easily and are not afraid to expose their feelings. The behavior of an adult man in love is a completely different manifestation of emotions, supported by experience and rationality. For example, he is not afraid of being rejected only because of a preliminary study of the object of affection, analysis of non-verbal and verbal signs of sympathy. And if he doesn’t see reciprocity, and most importantly, the chances of success, he simply changes the vector of love. Knocking on doorsteps, spying, walking home secretly, this is no longer about him.
He also chooses the object of passion more carefully, since he already knows what he needs from the opposite sex. True, you won’t find anything strikingly different from the choice of younger guys here:
- grooming - the logic is simple, if a girl takes care of herself, then she will also take care of the housework;
- correct speech - so that you won’t be ashamed to present your new passion to your friends;
- humor - talk about the severity of life, suffer on the topic of illnesses, he can do it at home, but with a young girl you want to relax your soul, cheerfully and carefree;
- Listening is an important trait at all ages;
- tactfulness - obsessive people who monitor life on social networks and harass with dozens of calls a day are clearly not suitable here;
- ease - inviting an adult woman on a date out of town, a whole quest that must fit into the calendar, young passions are ready to go fishing in the neighboring region on Wednesday.
Grown-up men do not like to “play games”; they are firm and straightforward in their feelings, so they are usually talked about at the first one-on-one meeting.
How to determine if you are in love by correspondence
How to increase self-esteem and self-confidence for men and women
When people communicate only through the world wide web, it is difficult to understand what feelings the interlocutor is experiencing. Basic politeness and respect for women can be confused with the desire to look better, with sincere interest. People receive half of their information by assessing the appearance and behavior of others. How do you understand that a man really likes you if a stranger writes and you have to trust only words? He will:
- like and write comments under photos;
- joke, post pictures with good wishes on the wall on social networks, express feelings with emoticons;
- As soon as a girl appears online, immediately type her a message; write regularly, even if she has been absent for several days;
- ask different questions, because it’s easier to write than to ask during a meeting.
Such communication has its advantages. On the Internet it is easier to express sympathy and attract attention. To do this, you don’t need to violate personal boundaries or be afraid of getting lost in words. You can just press a few keys.
If a man does this for a girl, then he obviously likes her. However, there are young people who do not recognize social networks or use them only for work. In this case, you should not expect this kind of activity from him.
When he compliments
How do you know if a man or guy likes you? Actions, looks, gestures. And what else? Compliments can also indicate his sympathy. But be careful: it’s one thing when he gives you the most typical compliments, and quite another when he notices the slightest changes in your hairstyle, clothes, and makeup. In the second case, he undoubtedly likes you. It’s just that men are designed in such a way that they only give the most sincere compliments to the girls they like. So don't hesitate in such cases. Also, pay attention to how he behaves with other girls. At the same time, you don’t have to be upset if you hear that he gave the simplest compliment to another. After all, this may simply be an expression of his good upbringing. But if he tries to charm everyone with his compliments, then for him you are not much different from the others.
Symptoms of a married man falling in love
Will he leave or will he stay?
What is the friend zone in girls and men - the main signs
In a married suitor, these same signs will be much less pronounced. Behind him is a wedding, years of marriage, children. He understands how much trouble infidelity will bring to the family. It is quite possible that he liked the girl, but this does not mean that he is ready to cheat. He will hide his eyes, feel insecure and tense, will not be able to joke cheerfully and will have difficulty maintaining a conversation.
Much depends on the degree of love and the situation in the family, but a strong man, feeling responsible to his wife and children, will try to stop communication, hide affection and get away from temptation. When there is no way to move away, he will stop noticing the woman.
Important! If a man is cold and avoids communication, perhaps the girl is simply unpleasant to him, or he is trying not to advertise the relationship.
The weak will go with the flow following his feelings and decide to cheat. In this case, he will behave exactly the same as unmarried people. He will only make dates where he is less likely to meet people he knows. Most likely, he will update his wardrobe to please the new woman.
Behavior of a caring boss and teacher
The manager feels confident - he is in charge here. At first he smiles, looks intently, then he begins to speak outright compliments, and may delay him after the end of the working day on minor issues. Quite quickly he suggests having lunch together or meeting in an informal setting. Can issue bonuses and promotions.
The teacher behaves more modestly. The enchanting gaze of a man in love at the desired woman is used. He may frequently ask the student or make comments. When a girl answers at the blackboard, it is difficult for the teacher to sit still: she will adjust her clothes or twirl something in her hands. He communicates with the student with pleasure, smiles during the conversation, shows his palms, and says compliments. Invites you to communicate outside of school or university.
In love with a student
Psychologist's advice
Psychology will help you figure out whether a guy likes a girl or recognize hidden love if a man is silent:
- A man in love will conquer a woman, show her signs of attention: he will give her flowers, bring coffee, throw a warm jacket over his shoulders in the evening.
- He will catch your eye or, conversely, hide.
- Strives to close the distance, to touch the girl or her things.
- He will take you under his protection and guardianship. He will open the door, throw a fur coat over his shoulders, try to solve minor problems, and will not brush it off or come up with an excuse. This can be easily checked by asking a young man for help in a simple situation.
- He is often awkward and smiles or becomes embarrassed when a lady of his heart appears.
- Sometimes he behaves childishly stupid and frivolous.
- Tries to joke, demonstrates a cheerful character.
- He will find a way to find out the phone number of his chosen one, he will find it on social networks.
If a man shows himself this way, it means that the woman is sincerely interested in him.
Important! Knowing psychology and being able to think logically in order to understand feelings is great, but sometimes it is useful to listen to your heart.
It is not easy for lovers to hide their feelings. Even if they decide to remain silent, gestures and facial expressions will tell everything for them, which cannot be controlled 100%, like words and behavior. In addition, the look of a man in love and an indifferent one is difficult to confuse.
Results
If there is a suspicion of secret feelings, there is no need to use the moment to somehow ridicule or offend the man. Attempts to provoke jealousy look especially stupid. If the feelings are mutual, try in every possible way to push your chosen one to closer contact. Just don’t go ahead, be tactful. If he still hasn’t confessed his feelings, don’t put pressure on the person. Perhaps his secret passion suits him well and doesn’t count on anything else.
What age difference is optimal or acceptable for you? What other signs can you use to read a person?
