Intimate nicknames: what they really mean

Sweetheart, Beloved, Darling

It’s hard for you and yourself to call someone that – not just your lover. First of all, it's inconvenient. Such nicknames do not just pop into the mouth. Secondly, almost anyone can be called that. When you say: “Dear, can you tell me how to get to such and such a street?”, you do not want to tell a stranger that you respect him immensely. You just don't know how to contact him. If your boyfriend addresses you like this, it is likely that he is not planning a serious relationship. He just calls you words that seem to express tender feelings. Yes, we know, you think that the word “beloved” contains all his most serious feelings. But calling you that doesn’t mean confessing love at all.

How to fix the situation

It is clear that if you simply forbid your spouse to call you “mom,” nothing will change. By doing this you will only remove the effect, but the cause will not go away. Therefore, if you want your husband to see you, first of all, as a desirable and beloved woman, listen to these tips:

Bring back your sexy appearance. Even if you have a small child, this is not a reason to neglect yourself. Throw away worn-out slippers and worn-out robes. Try to let your husband see you unkempt as little as possible. Buy yourself some nice lingerie and a sexy nightgown. Then your spouse will not call you “mom”, but in more intimate and gentle words.
To be “desirable” for a man and not a “mother”, a woman must look seductive
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Take the initiative in sex. If you always remain a passionate lover for your husband, then no problems in the intimate sphere of life will arise, no matter what he calls you.
Don’t look after your husband like a child, don’t baby him. Otherwise, you yourself will provoke him into a relationship scenario in which you will play the role of a parent, and he will play the role of a small, capricious boy. Always remember that next to you is not a child who cannot take a step without you, but an adult and completely independent person. And behave accordingly.
Encourage masculine character traits in your spouse. If you see that your husband is playing “mama's boy” with you, force him to behave like a grown man. Ask him to do hard work around the house, remind him that he must provide for the family, help you raise children, and so on. Be moderately demanding. And behave with him not like a mother, but like a real woman - weak, in need of male support. This educational method works better than any persuasion and instruction.

Kisa, Zaya, Masya

A standard set of words that can be described as “neither here nor there.” It doesn’t seem like he’s lisping, but he doesn’t deal with any overly high feelings either. Most likely, you are at the very first stage of a relationship and plan to continue it, but you still don’t know how to behave with each other. So it turns out: “Zai, maybe we can go to the cinema?” It seems like he has developed tender feelings for you, but he believes that simply calling you by your name will not be enough.

Consequences

For the vast majority of men, sex means a lot. And if a husband grows cold towards his wife and begins to perceive her exclusively as a caring mother, the situation, as a rule, develops according to one of two scenarios: either he finds another woman and leaves the family, or remains in the family, but becomes jealous of his mistress. Therefore, if your spouse calls you “mom,” take immediate action. And don’t waste time, don’t expect everything to normalize on its own. Keep in mind that the longer your relationship problems continue, the harder it will be for you to get your husband's passion back.

You should not focus only on your housekeeping, your husband may lose interest in you

In our country, it is very common to find a wife stuck in the role of a mother for her husband.
This usually happens after the birth of the first child. She either controls him like a child, or cares for him like a child, and often both. When a woman spends a long time in this role, the relationship becomes distorted and becomes scripted. In such relationships, husband and wife do not see each other as real, as they are. They are lonely with each other. In their partner they see their illusions in relation to him, and not his personality. Psychologist-consultant Borodaenko Ekaterina https://www.b17.ru/article/72840/

Baby, Sunshine, My good one

He's just a piece of cotton candy! Most likely, he may still lisp when he calls you this way, he may even pat you on the cheek or hug you like a parent. This is not bad, but most often it means that he treats you lightly, albeit with tenderness. By the way, surprisingly, he won’t mind if you answer him in kind.

Sweet Nothing

Nicknames from the category of “movable property”

Do you think there is a difference between the phrases: “you are my beauty” and “you are beautiful”? Of course have. The first option sounds deeper and more soulful, but there is a slight hint of ownership. Therefore, it is not at all impossible that one fine day a person who considers you “one of his own” will, with all sternness in his voice, inquire about what you did from 15.15 to 15.45.

Nicknames from the category “celestial bodies”

There is no diversity here, just suns and stars. What associations do they evoke? Light and warmth. If a loved one calls you that, it means that he feels good and comfortable with you. But there is one “but”. The luminaries are located quite far from our planet, therefore adoration on his part will most likely be somewhat contemplative and distant. It is difficult to wait for decisive action from such a person.

Now let's decipher the meaning of each specific nickname. You shouldn’t take the meanings too seriously, just take note and don’t forget that there is a grain of humor in every joke.

Olenka, Nastenka, Lenochka

Either he is a very gentle guy, or he just can’t grow out of his mother’s care. Or perhaps he himself wants to take care of you. As a rule, if men call us by diminutive names, they dote on us. This may sound strange and even irritate you, but do not rush to frown and express dissatisfaction. What if you like it?

The meaning of affectionate nicknames

What are some affectionate nicknames?

Zoo nicknames

Such nicknames are quite common. Just look at the word “doves”, which is used to describe a couple in love. Often people even compete in zoology, sorting through all the animals, from bunnies with fish to hippos and piglets.

Here, of course, there is an endearment factor, since the animals and birds are mostly fluffy and cute. However, the emotion here is not entirely simple, because the animal world can be quite unpredictable and dangerous: for example, a tiger cub can show its teeth, and a bird can fly out of its cage.

Eared, Dumpling, Darth Vader

And everything else that sounds as stupid, strange and funny as possible, but is unique! It's like your own secret code; you can even call each other over the radio. These are the very words that reflect exclusively your story. When he calls you Pelmen, he just reminds you once again of how much he loves you. And, of course, that he is touched by your habit of gnawing on frozen dumplings... And, of course, he is in no way jealous of your favorite villain Darth Vader, because you yourself periodically come to him in a helmet and cape...

A man calls a girl or woman and says in her direction - beautiful! What could be behind these words and behavior of a strong representative of the human race? How can a beautiful woman look through the eyes of a man in the light of a consultant psychologist's lamp? Any woman will be interested to know that if your man says that you are beautiful, this does not mean that you should calm down. The thing is that any beautiful girl, even after marriage, thinks about why a man cheats on his beautiful wife with ugly ones? Spanish scientists, based on experiments conducted, concluded that short-term visual contact with an attractive woman is enough for a man to cause him stress.

Hypertension, impotence and diabetes can develop in the male body with constant or frequent communication with the fatal beauty.

Eighty-four student volunteers participated in the research. All of them were in the same room and, on the instructions of the organizers, solved crossword puzzles. Men and women unfamiliar to the participants entered the room one by one. Using special sensors, the subjects' cortisol levels were measured. When men or unattractive women appeared, this stress hormone did not manifest itself at all. As soon as a spectacular, attractive woman appeared, the level of this hormone increased sharply. The woman left the room and the stress hormone returned to its original position. The authors of the study believe that when meeting a beautiful woman, a man subconsciously experiences a desire for intimacy. Provided that there are regular visual meetings, the stress caused by this tension can lead to serious disruptions in a man’s health. However, in small “dosages” cortisol is beneficial for the male body. British scientists have found that about eighty percent of athletic men regularly cheat on their wives. Among men who are more slender in appearance or who are overweight, the number of “unfaithful” husbands is four times less. Women's sensitivity to romantic relationships is more complex. Just the appearance of an attractive man with an athletic figure is not enough. Scientists at the University of Pennsylvania (USA) conducted a study on the effect of food on female libido. The women, after an eight-hour fast, were shown photographs of two types. The first images were neutral in nature: household items, sports equipment and others. The second group of photographs contained images of couples in love and were of a romantic nature. The participants' brain reactions to all images were approximately the same. In the next experiment, after fasting and before the slides were shown, the women were fed chocolate. As a result, romantic images evoked an active response from the fair sex. Moreover, it turned out that not every food increases female libido. After eating chocolate cake, unlike vegetables, women's receptivity to romantic relationships increased sharply. Scientists explain this by an increase in the level of dopamine, the pleasure hormone, in the blood after a delicious chocolate dessert.

Baby, sweetie

Here, of course, the intonation with which he pronounces it plays a role. But more often than not, this shouldn't reassure you that he's serious. Most likely, you just enjoy spending time with each other, but this romance has a predetermined expiration date.