And if at least one of the participants in the relationship still has feelings, the conversation will be even more difficult.
Due to the peculiarities of temperament, it is always more difficult for a woman to talk about a breakup, and it is more difficult for a man to accept it. How to behave and what to say to make the break as easy as possible?
A beautiful farewell letter
The reasons for breakups are different: misunderstandings, resentments that have accumulated gradually, betrayal, or simply the feeling that love is gone. Many stories have a good start, but not everyone is able to leave love and put an end to it. It’s hard to take your thoughts into a fist and say: “Sorry, we need to break up.”
At this moment, the voice may tremble slightly, and tears may flow. If you still have to break up, then you should try to write a farewell letter to your loved one. Girls are fragile creatures, however, at times they have to pull themselves together and say goodbye. It’s easier to do it in this form, although it’s difficult.
How to prepare for a conversation about a breakup?
If you want to look decent, and not just break off the relationship and disappear from a man’s life, you need to prepare for the conversation. It is very important to choose the right words, because the reaction of the young man largely depends on what is said .
A man is a hunter by nature. It is he who chooses a partner, he who begins the relationship, which means (in his opinion) he should also initiate the breakup. Everything else is an exception or a direct blow to male pride. That is why it is necessary to end the relationship gracefully, so that the former loved one has as few claims and grievances as possible.
No matter how serious the relationship was, it would be a low blow for the ex-man.
What can you do before the conversation?:
- Reduce the number of meetings - suitable when living in different places. If you continue to meet as often and passionately, the news of the breakup will be like a bolt from the blue.
- Reduce attention and physical manifestations of feelings - kissing, touching, intimacy. Otherwise, a man may have a natural question: “What’s the matter?”, and not in its best form.
- Inform in advance about the upcoming conversation. It’s better to do this at least a couple of days in a calm, confident voice, so that the man can feel and get used to the idea of the inevitable. In this case, you should not succumb to provocations and start a conversation before the announced deadline.
Once people have gotten to know each other's personalities well enough in a relationship, it seems easy to predict how a former loved one will react.
However, men often react in an untypical manner. You can guess what to expect by determining the psychotype of a young person .
- Choleric .
He has an impulsive explosive temperament, so the reaction can be appropriate. It is better to have serious conversations with him in a public place - this will help to somehow smooth out the negative response. You can try to force a choleric man to leave his soulmate. To do this, you need to constantly be capricious, throw tantrums, demand gifts and attention, be offended with or without reason. There is a good chance that he himself will decide to break up with a girl who demands too much. - Melancholic .
This young man is overly vulnerable and touchy. It is from a melancholic person that you can hear “My life is over!” and “I can’t live without you.” Here you need to talk about feelings, perhaps even exaggerating them. You can throw out loud cinematic phrases. It is important to let your ex-lover know that he is the best thing in the girl’s life, and she will always remember him. - Sanguine . Parting with this man will most likely be quite easy and without hysterics. He is an optimist in life, so the breakup should be taken calmly. The main thing is to be frank and talk directly about your feelings without blaming your partner.
- Phlegmatic . It’s even easier to break up with him than with a sanguine person. People of this psychotype always adapt to circumstances and do not like struggle. Moreover, you can end a relationship with a phlegmatic person if you simply gradually move away.
Farewell letter to a beloved man
Forgive me, dear, that I cannot express everything to your face. I'm worried that I won't be able to find the right words. I thought of writing a farewell letter. You know very well that I have always loved you. Every day I think about those moments spent together, your frequent calls. At that time I felt like the happiest person in the world. I would give anything now just to recreate that time.
I will greatly miss your powerful and gentle hands, feel sad behind your gaze, and also want to find myself in your arms again. I think about the time we spent together every day. Our first meeting is in my thoughts. Sorry, but we have to part ways. Warm memories of us will remain in my head.
Last letter to my beloved man
I never thought that you do not strive to value our feelings and relationships. Previously, we understood each other perfectly. I wonder if we have at least a drop of love left or if we need to start life from scratch.
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After all, you feel that my love belongs to you. Your constant calls, our first date will be remembered for a long time. I'm not going to be indifferent to our relationship. I talked so little about my love. I was always worried that the fairy tale would end. I will always remember you. You are forever in my heart.
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Darling, I have long wanted to tell you about my thoughts and decided that it was time to share with you. I don’t want to keep this to myself anymore, I need to know what you think about our relationship, what you feel. I live every day with deep thoughts about our future. You yourself know that you are in my heart and that parting with you is simply unbearable.
There are always thoughts in my head about our meeting, about your stories and calls. The most important thing for me is that you are my beloved man, but I am not the one you need. If everything is as I say, at least say something, because separation is becoming more and more difficult. Whatever decision you make, I will accept everything.
Parting in prose
Goodbye. I don’t want to say a lot of unnecessary words, they won’t make anyone feel any better anyway. Just know that you will forever remain that special person who managed to touch the most intimate thing - my soul. Do I love you? I will answer, without thinking for a minute, that yes, and even very much so. But the problem is that my love is not enough to save our relationship. It always seemed to me that two people should fight for the strength of an alliance, but apparently, the opinion turned out to be wrong. Remember, all the best things are connected exclusively with you, and if you suddenly find yourself in trouble, I will undoubtedly come to the rescue. Only as a good friend, just an acquaintance, but nothing more. You are in my heart forever, and this is perhaps the saddest thing. After all, I can’t love anyone the way I love you. I sincerely believe that everything will be fine for you, that you will find your happiness. I'm sorry that everything turned out so that mutual dreams remained the sweet dreams of those who were once one.
Everything that is done is for the better. It just happens that sometimes people stop understanding each other and retreat from their ideas and aspirations. Our passion has subsided, our feelings have lost their strength. Maybe we just didn't meet for love. Parting is not always hostility and hatred. I hope we can maintain warm, friendly relations. I sincerely wish you happiness. Thank you for all the good things we had.
It just so happened that our relationship was tired of trials, quarrels and insults. Perhaps we lacked strength or mutual understanding. Perhaps we have made little effort and desire to preserve our love. I wish you only goodness and happiness. Forgive me, but it’s time to put an end to our story.
I'm sorry, but I think it would be better for both of us to separate. It's painful and unpleasant, but we have no future. We tried, but failed. I'm really sorry that we didn't have a happy ending. I sincerely wish you happiness!
There is no pain greater than separation. It's scary to lose a person to whom your heart has grown attached. But we have no future, so we should break up. It hurts me, but there is no other way. Forgive and let go...
Everything in our life has a beginning and an end. Our love with you had a happy beginning, a beautiful story, but, unfortunately, it’s time for this story to end. Forgive me for everything, please. And may our parting add strength and confidence, freedom and tranquility to both of us. Goodbye.
Sometimes we have to make very difficult decisions, especially difficult ones because of which we lose loved ones. Let our parting not be the end of the meaning of life, let it give us confidence that the best is definitely ahead. Love leaves to return with even greater strength, you just have to wait.
Sun, please forgive me, but it so happens that our roads diverge! Alas, we will have to part with you! You are a wonderful person, but we are different, so our relationship no longer makes sense! I have no doubt that you will meet your love again, and everything will be fine in your life!
I don’t want to part, I miss you so much that it seems like emptiness is everywhere and there is no escape from it. I miss you so much that words cannot express, I cannot describe the feelings and loneliness.
Breaking up does not mean falling out of love or being erased from life; a trace of a great feeling will always remain in the soul. But let this event not overshadow it, let it become a turning point to something new in fate. Let your thoughts always be pure and bright, and your heart ready to let in care and affection. Don't forget to be happy, life is short, so let it be full of emotions.
A beautiful farewell letter from my wife
“My dear husband! I was finally able to pull myself together and decide to write you a letter in which I wanted to express my feelings. Our love has turned into something else. It doesn't help that I try to turn our life into a fairy tale. You stopped calling, our meetings became rare. You must understand that I am a girl and I feel everything.
It became difficult for me to pretend. Let me cry and worry, but I will try to get through it. I want to let you go, be free. I'm sorry that I couldn't make you the happiest person. May everything be fine with you and the other one. Sorry, goodbye!"
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What mistakes should you not make?
The biggest mistake is to try to restore a broken union. It is much more difficult to accept a breakup if the young man makes various attempts to win the girl back and prove his importance to her. Playing catch-up has never made anyone happy, but it has ruined the lives of former lovers.
Harassment on social networks and real life, SMS, viewing a page on social networks. It’s much worse when all this turns into real persecution, even to the point of waiting at the door of an office, store, or apartment.
After a breakup, girls, even if they themselves became the initiator, begin to blame themselves and take the position of a victim. The suffering can be endless, and the further they push themselves into the box, the closer they come to the point of depression. Psychologists advise gaining new impressions during this period in order to displace past experiences.
There is no need to let yourself go and gradually turn into an unkempt woman in a robe and with a tousled bun on her head. One of the biggest mistakes is neglecting self-care. You need to show indifference to your ex-partner, and not to your own body.
Sometimes young ladies begin to behave inappropriately. They spy on their ex-boyfriend’s girlfriends, arrange unpleasant situations for them, even up to a scandal in a public place or belittling them on social networking pages. This will lead to a damaged reputation, which is rarely possible to restore.
It is a mistake to assume that jealousy breeds love. Guys can advertise a new relationship the next day, show off a new girl. All this is done in order to evoke a feeling of possessiveness in the ex and to show popularity. But, as a rule, such behavior destroys the last threads of a good relationship between former partners.
To let go of a person and forgive him, you have to overcome yourself. There are many ways to tell a guy that we are breaking up on good terms. However, it is important to choose one that will help minimize pain and not turn the relationship into a soap opera.
Farewell letter to an ex-man
With you I began to be able to love. You taught me to enjoy every moment. Throughout our relationship, you have become a part of my soul. Every day next to you, I will remember. I realize that tomorrow I won’t see you, I won’t touch you, I won’t smell you. It hurts me that you won't be around.
I realized that you are mine. You didn't want to change for me. And I, in turn, am not going to wait long. I don’t want to suffer and worry anymore, I hope you receive this letter and read it.
When should you break up?
CONTENT:
If mutual understanding, trust and passion have disappeared in the relationship between a man and a woman, and this has been replaced by eternal quarrels, suspicions and reluctance to intimate intimacy, most likely, it is unlikely that anything will be able to change. No one is immune from this. Immediately after meeting, everything can be just perfect, but after a year or several years, serious problems can begin in the couple. If a woman feels deeply unhappy next to a man, she should think carefully about whether to continue such a union.
The decision to end a relationship is not an easy one to make. Sometimes you have to seek psychological help to understand yourself and find out your true desires. Perhaps a visit to a psychologist will help you make a serious decision and take a step towards freedom. But if the desire to end the connection has already become very strong and conscious, all that remains is to muster up the courage and carry out your plans.
Farewell letter from a mistress to a married man
“Beloved, but not my man. It's difficult for me to write these lines. I shouldn't have loved you, but I couldn't restrain myself. Surprisingly, you couldn’t resist me either. Our relationship was like a sweet dream.
But no matter how bitter it may be, we have to part ways with you. You are a married man, I am not going to destroy your family. At first it will be difficult and difficult for us, but it is necessary to do this for our own benefit. Be happy with the one you call your wife. You loved her before, you can love her again. I don't want to cause any more suffering. Sorry, I'm leaving"
How beautiful and dignified it is to part with the man you love
In this case it will not be painless. The loved one, even if he tries to accept the situation with consent, will unconsciously open the wound. Any meeting or mention of yourself can cause pain. But there are several ways that will help reduce the negative consequences.
If you are the initiator
The reason may be coldness on the part of the man. If you feel the first signs of a breakup, keep your pride and take this step. For this:
- Be frank when talking, but restrain your emotions - don’t throw yourself around with tears, but don’t slap them in the face screaming about allowed youth.
- Don't give in to persuasion. If you decide to leave, don't give up.
- Do not give the opportunity to interpret the words differently - be extremely precise in your wording.
- You should not go to the last meetings, arrange farewell parties, they will just become another.
And if he is the initiator
In this case, you just need to maintain your own dignity and inner peace. For this:
- Find the motive. It is worth understanding why the breakup occurred. If the reason is you, this is a reason for introspection and change.
- Identify its shortcomings and list them.
- Give yourself time to cry - a day, three, a week, no more. When the term expires, cross him out of your life.
- Tell a friend, a diary, or a professional about grief - sign up for my consultation.
- Focus on yourself - on your career, appearance and sports, hobbies, new learning.
- Perceive the past positively, remember the beautiful with joy that it happened, and not with bitterness that it has passed.
