How to find what you really want to do

To understand whether you are busy with your business, it is enough to assess your moral and physical state in the morning. If you get up easily and the coming day evokes positive emotions, then you are on your way. If in the morning you are unable to lift your head from the pillow and thoughts about work make you sad, you need to change your life.

Free yourself from boundaries and follow your desires

This is perhaps the most difficult way to figure out what to do in life. As practice shows, not every person can do this.

And here there is no need to try to be ironic and ask the question: “What if I don’t want to do anything at all?” This is about something else. About the fact that you can turn an attractive field of activity into a source of income.

This is about business. This is an option for strong people. For those who will not look for excuses like these: “But I don’t have start-up capital or connections!”

Hundreds of entrepreneurs have already proven that the main thing is to have an idea and desire. So that you don't want anything else. So that it is like air. And then a person can do everything. Including freeing yourself from the framework and following your desire - doing what you love, which brings pleasure, and enjoying a prosperous life.

But what the business will be like is an individual question. Again, as practice shows, any idea “processed” by the sharp and strategic mind of an enterprising person can become profitable.

What is a favorite thing

All people have certain talents and abilities. Some people turn their skill into a hobby, while others make good money from it.

A favorite activity is an activity or activity that brings maximum pleasure and expected monetary reward.

A person who loves his job willingly goes there, gives his 100% and receives moral satisfaction from this. This is a happy individual who lives his life with pleasure.

If there is no preference

It's a little more complicated here. Many people are puzzled by the question of how to figure out what to do in life, because they simply do not know in what area they can prove themselves.

A simple exercise that may even seem stupid to some will help here. You just need to free up 2 hours, sit down at the table, write down absolutely all your skills, abilities, abilities, talents and qualities in a notebook.

Then, after resting, you need to study the resulting list with fresh eyes and “try on” the most suitable areas of activity. Perhaps one of them will spark enthusiasm.

You can do it another way - write down areas of activity and everything that a person is at least slightly interested in or fascinated by. It could even be a stream of thoughts. After resting, you will need to analyze what you have written and cross out what seems outright nonsense. It’s already simpler: there is a certain basis and direction.

Useful materials for those who want to find themselves in this world and never lose

As promised, I recommend some of the coolest courses from Wikium.

Profession

Description . A very interesting course. It is interesting because it suits almost any person. The point is this: you register for training, indicate your profession in a special form (which you have now or plan to get in the future), and the system selects the most valuable qualities for you that are necessary for success and helps you develop them.

For example, for technical specialties it is very important to be able to think, work with formulas, and do mental math. For those who want to learn languages, a good memory and the ability to work with words and text are important. Designers need different types of imagination, managers need communication skills, and so on.

To develop each quality, you will study specific theoretical material and perform unique exercises. In addition, it will be possible to take classes on simulators, which are available on the project around the clock and completely free of charge.

Authors : developers of the Vikium project.

Cost : 2,290 rub.

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Goal setting

Description . Maybe you still haven’t found yourself because you don’t know how to set goals correctly and prioritize in your life? You either set an exorbitant goal and after a few days you realize that it is unattainable, or you set too small goals and quickly lose motivation for them.

A goal setting course will help you solve this problem. When you complete the training, you will consciously set goals and plan to achieve them for the short and long term.

Believe me, mastering something new, reaching new heights, realizing yourself in something is not at all as difficult as it seems. You just need to divide the long path into segments and start walking.

There are only six lessons here, you will learn them very quickly.

Authors : developers of the Vikium project.

Cost : 990 rub.

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Mentalist

Description . A mentalist is a comprehensively developed and intelligent person who can solve a variety of problems. If you can’t find yourself in life, try to start developing in general, create a solid foundation for your prosperity, and then decide which direction to focus on.

If you can’t count in your head, you can’t work with large amounts of information, the thought of higher education or advanced training courses gives you terrible fear - this program is for you. It will teach you to think, concentrate, easily acquire the most varied knowledge and retain it in memory for a long time.

Separate blocks of the course are devoted to emotional intelligence, the ability to communicate with people, predict their psychological reactions, and so on.

Authors : developers of the Vikium project.

Cost : 1,490 rub.

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Development of attention

Description . This program will teach you to easily concentrate even on the most difficult work. It doesn’t just help you decide on a choice of area of ​​activity, it lays a solid foundation that will make many areas of self-realization “accessible” to you. Attention is needed absolutely everywhere.

There are 15 lessons and daily practical exercises. You will hone your skills on 11 simulators.

Do you often try to choose a direction in life for yourself, start learning something new, and then abruptly give up because you think: “This is not for me,” “I don’t have enough knowledge,” “Too abstruse”? Maybe you just need to improve your general ability to work with information, concentrate and think?

Authors : developers of the Vikium project.

Cost : 1,490 rub.

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If you can recommend other courses or good books on self-development, please write about it in the comments to the article. If you know courses that you definitely shouldn’t take, write about that too. I would be grateful for your feedback.

Search for patterns

How to understand what to do in life? You have to be logical. Again, you will need some free time and a notepad. It is recommended to write down your 20 favorite activities there. Even if they seem banal (let's say eating delicious food).

The finished list should be carefully studied. Are there any patterns to it? Maybe several activities are interconnected? Sometimes people don’t even notice that their hobbies, which they have been pursuing for several years, belong, in fact, to the same field.

So you need to think and break the resulting list into groups. For what? This will help a person understand what kind of life he wants to live.

// Think big

Think about who you want to remain in history: what will your grandchildren say about you, will they write about you in a textbook. You don't have to want it, but you can try.

Maybe you want to open a relief fund, create a vaccine, paint a great picture, come up with a story that will remain in the hearts of people? You really can do all this, just start right now and work with all your heart.

Can you imagine how simple it is? All that remains is to decide who you want to become. If self-determination is difficult, then read our article “Which mountain are you climbing?”

Search from reverse

Another simple and interesting way that can help you understand what is really worth doing in life. Many people actually find it easier to answer the question of what they don't want.

But even here you will need a list for visualization. You need to take a notebook and write down all the areas of activity and professions that a person would never engage in in his life.

And here honesty is important. His current profession should also be on the list if it does not suit him.

Having such a list, it is indeed much easier to identify your aptitudes for certain areas of activity.

How to understand what to do in life. Test “Are you minding your own business in life?”

Answer three questions – Yes/No

1. If you became fabulously rich, would you be engaged in the activities that you are engaged in now? 2. If you had exactly one year left to live, would you do what you are doing now? 3. If you had to pay for the opportunity to do your activity, would you pay?

If you answered “NO” to at least one question, you are not doing what you were intended for, not what you love. It's not really important to you

Maximum development!

Unfortunately, many people not only cannot understand what to do in life and how to find themselves, they even find it difficult to make the notorious lists. In this case, they have no other choice: they will have to develop.

Nothing leads to a dead end more than a closed space, lack of dynamics in life, the same social circle, and routine.

The best way to avoid this is to travel. As often as possible and over maximum distances. Not to the next city, but to the other side of the world. Each trip provides a guaranteed burst of energy. A person sees how and what people live, what they do, what hobbies they enjoy, etc.

What will this give? Food for thought, emotions and, most importantly, boundless inspiration. And it, as you know, is characterized by the highest productivity, unprecedented concentration of forces and enormous spiritual uplift. In such a state a person is capable of much.

Most people understand what is best to do in life when they are in such euphoria. And they begin to act. Inspiration frees you from unnecessary thoughts and pushes you to take concrete steps. There is no need to be afraid of traveling and look for excuses from doing it - perhaps your next trip will be a turning point in your life.

How to find your calling and yourself. Practical exercise

Take a pen and a notebook or several sheets of paper. I will share with you a fairly simple practice. It will help you answer the question: how to find your calling?

Your task is to quickly answer the questions that I will give below. It is very important to answer questions honestly and thoroughly. The more information you write, the better. This way it will be easier for you to decide on your interests and desires.

I advise you to complete the task in writing rather than orally.

I promise you will discover a lot of new things about yourself, a lot of realizations will come when you complete this exercise.

I divided all the questions into three categories:

• Past
• Future
• Emotions

So, let's go.

How to find yourself and your calling. Your past

Answer the following questions honestly, thoroughly and in as much detail as possible:

• What did you do before?
• Who did you study for, what was your specialty?
• Where did you work, in what companies, in what positions?
• What professional skills were clearly demonstrated in this job?
• What duties did you like to do while studying or working?
• What did you like to do in your free time during school, university, etc.?
• What work have you most often been praised for?
• What did you do best and what did you like to do?
• What are you particularly proud of in the past?
• Why do your bosses and people around you value you?
• What did you do with pleasure for someone, at someone’s request?
• What projects have you implemented?
• What have you created or improved?
• What things and things do you do easily and with joy?
• What are you doing that's cool?
• What did you do even if you knew you wouldn’t make money from it?

Answer these questions honestly. Write down every little detail.

In no case do not consider what you can do as a trifle. It's important to appreciate what comes easy to you.

We often devalue what we do with ease.

It’s easy, of course, so what’s special about it, right?

But this is precisely where our talents lie.

Pay attention to what you do with pleasure, without coercion from outside (parents, boss, colleagues, etc.).

Often our uniqueness becomes commonplace for us, we simply don’t notice it. This is because we are simply accustomed to the fact that everything is difficult, everything must be done with difficulty. Remember, many parents said: “You can’t catch a fish out of a pond without difficulty...”

But in fact, everything is exactly the opposite. It is precisely what we do best and without stress that is our business.

Each of us has something that others don't have. You can do what others cannot. Look for it in yourself, find it, take care of it and develop it! You will never fail doing what you are meant to do.

(c) DeepakChopra

Therefore, do not devalue what comes easy to you.

If you did everything in good faith, you will receive a sketch of a picture that gives the first clues on how to find yourself in life. But that’s not all, let’s move on and answer the following questions.

How to find yourself and your calling. Your future

Using the same principle, answer the following questions:

• Where do you see yourself in 5-10 years?
• If you could choose, what would you like to work as?
• How much money would you like to receive for your work?
• What qualities and indicators have you improved?
• Describe your ideal day (how your morning starts, what kind of people surround you, what you think and say, where you go and what you do). Imagine everything in great detail, as if it had already come true

It may seem to some that I am asking trivial questions. But think about your answers, read them again and again. You will see the true picture of your desires, what you really want.

But that is not all. The last and most important point awaits you.

Your job should give you the opportunity to live the life you want. Don't force yourself to do things you don't enjoy just so you can pay the bills.

(c) Scott Fox

How to find yourself and your calling. Your emotions

And now I invite you to mentally live one of the best days of your life and fill it with emotions and experiences. Feel with all your heart what happened to you on this wonderful day.

On the subject: On the importance of emotions during visualization of desires

Imagine there are no conventions. You don’t have to think about how to earn even more money, feed your child, or pay off loans. You can live this day the way you want. Without looking back at the tasks and problems, there are none. Only you and your desires.

Happened? If yes, congratulations! Now you know how to find yourself. All that remains is to allow yourself to become happy and live in accordance with your destiny. If you are still not very good at visualizing, answer the questions below:

• What would you do early in the morning on this day?
• Why are you willing to get up even at five in the morning?
• What are you willing to do even without money?
• What gives you true pleasure?
• What do you do that makes you lose track of time?
• What do you receive gratitude from people for? Find something for which people are grateful to you and say: “Ohhh, that’s so cool, how cool you did it, thank you!”
• What are you interested in in your free time?
• What topic do you watch videos on You Tube, what thematic accounts on Instagram do you follow?
• Write 5-10 people whose work you admire.
• What did you enjoy doing in the past?

Don’t miss a single question, answer each one in detail.

If you have any difficulty with something, ask your friends and family for help with such questions. Sometimes from the outside they can see what we ourselves do not notice in ourselves.

Did you answer? Great.

If you are in your place, doing what you want to do, what your soul is about, then this activity will never devastate and tire you, but on the contrary, fill you with energy and stimulate you.

(c) Herbert Kelleher

Reading

How to determine what to do in life if there are no thoughts in your head at all? We must “absorb” literature.

Do I need to explain the benefits of reading? Unfortunately, nowadays, yes. Here's what reading books does:

• Increased creativity.
• Expanding your horizons.
• Improving fantasy and imagination.
• Erudition, and hence - self-confidence.
• Increasing literacy, expanding vocabulary.
• Improved attention.
• Development of thinking and memory.
• Improving communication and empathy skills.

A reading person has his own worldview, a deep view of the world, high values, principles and beliefs. Plus, some books are powerful motivators! Many people were inspired to self-realization by literature.

What is human intuition, or how to learn to listen to yourself

The uniqueness of our brain lies not only in its limitless intellectual abilities, but also in the ability to send certain signals at the level of premonitions. This incredible ability of the subconscious, which every person possesses, is called intuition. It, like our other skills, can be improved with the help of special exercises and techniques.

The main feature of the manifestation of intuition is internal sensations that prompt the right decision. Due to the inability to listen to the inner voice, a person often misses the opportunity to make the right decision for him, which can radically change his life.

In order to learn to trust your own intuition and develop it sufficiently, it is worth practicing by doing some exercises.

1. To begin to feel the inner voice, you need to reduce the influence of consciousness on it. For this purpose, sports are the best choice, as a result of which physical activity increases and mental activity decreases. The person becomes calmer and more balanced, which improves the conditions for the development of this brain ability.
2. By giving your intuition freedom, you allow it to act without the control of your mind. This means it can be developed anywhere and at any time of the day. For example, predict who a message came from or an incoming call without looking at the gadget screen. Or listen carefully to yourself and guess what the friend you are going to meet is wearing.
3. An equally interesting way to improve your abilities is to observe the signs that surround us everywhere. It is very important to put aside logical thinking and take advantage of the unconscious gift of our brain. For example, the answer to a correctly asked question can be found in a book open on any page. It is also worth paying attention to the various signs that fate gives us, thereby preventing us from a bad turn of events. This could be phrases heard unintentionally, information on signs, spilled coffee, and even dreams, which can both contribute to decision-making and warn against what is planned.

“Know yourself, and you will know the whole world,” said the great Socrates, and he was absolutely right. This means that all the necessary resources for a full existence and development of individual abilities are within us. Ephemeral happiness in the form of material wealth is unlikely to ever bring moral satisfaction. But studying one’s own “I” and developing innate talents will certainly bring harmony and understanding of one’s own purpose into everyone’s life.

Communication

It is advisable to communicate with successful people. Why? Because a loser and a successful person have qualitative differences in their way of thinking. And that's it. When communicating with a loser, a person will plunge into pessimism and complaints about a bad life. Where does the desire to change something in your life for the better come from?

But a successful person, being a motivated, strong, purposeful person, radiates special energy and positivity. And he doesn’t complain, because it’s a pointless thing that doesn’t bring the slightest benefit.

A few minutes of communication with such a person is enough to recharge with optimism and the desire to act. In addition, you can learn from a successful person effective ways to interact with the world. And being next to him, you yourself want to develop.

What prevents us from finding our “I”

You need to go into a new life lightly, so that nothing pulls you back or brings you to the ground. Therefore, the first thing you need to do is get rid of unnecessary baggage. Get ready to cleanse your soul of the trash that has accumulated over the years of living a life that was not yours.

Remember what you need to get rid of first.

• Regrets about the past

Let's agree to consider today as the starting point of your new life, and leave the past behind. What happened cannot be changed, no matter how much you sprinkle ashes on your head. Regrets will only waste time and energy, preventing you from moving forward.

• Blaming yourself and others

If you think that you did something wrong, missed opportunities, did not take advantage of the chances given by fate, forgive yourself for this. Take this heavy burden off your shoulders and take a deep breath. None of us are perfect, and there is no point in beating yourself up about it.

Blaming circumstances and other people for your failures is also counterproductive. In this way, we literally acknowledge our own powerlessness. In addition, the most dear and close people - parents, relatives, friends - are most often in the dock. Stop the investigation and stop looking for someone to blame. Case is closed.

• Stereotypes

Stereotypes are the main reason why people do not live their lives. If you follow them blindly, drowning out the voice of your Self, sooner or later you will find yourself in a dead end. Or in a hole - depending on your luck. If you hear one of the following phrases, you know that you are dealing with a stereotype. Don't let him ruin your plans and dreams.

1. “You can’t make a living by dancing (music, drawing).”
2. “It’s all not serious.”
3. “After 30 years it is impossible to change profession.”
4. “You can’t get big money honestly.”
5. “It’s too late to do this, we should have started in childhood.”
6. “You can’t get anywhere without connections.”

Leaving your comfort zone

As practice shows, people who ask the question “What do I want to do in life?” either have not tried themselves in any field of activity, or have always been involved in only one professional field.

What should be done? Get out of your comfort zone. It's difficult, not everyone can do it. Many would rather continue to sit at home and complain about life than get an internship. Because in their comfort zone they feel psychologically protected. That is, safe.

This is stability to the detriment of self-deception. Standing still is comparable to degradation. If a person does not solve complex problems, then he loses clarity of thinking. The next stage is the abandonment of life goals. The result is a meaningless existence.

And besides, how can you figure out what you want to do if you don’t try?

What threatens you on the way to yourself?

Fatigue and apathy

You will start a new life, taking on a business that interests you, and at first you will experience enthusiasm and a surge of strength, after which an emotional decline may follow. You will feel tired, indifferent and think that you made a mistake, that you chose the wrong one. Don't doubt your choice. Just take a little break and continue what you started. As soon as the first results appear, self-confidence will immediately return.

Fear

Sometimes fear and self-doubt prevent you from doing something interesting. A person knows what his calling is, but he does not dare to make drastic changes in his life, for fear of making a mistake. Fear is a natural feeling in this case, but you need to step over it. Remember that the same fears overwhelmed those who achieved real success, but they managed to overcome themselves. If you are unable to cope with your worries, consult a psychologist.

Stereotypes of thinking

Learn to act and live the way you want, and not as public opinion dictates. If you follow established principles in everything, then you can say goodbye to the dream of self-expression. In our society, sudden changes in activity and search for oneself are not encouraged. You found your niche in your youth - and sit in it. Your parents, spouses, and friends will discourage you from making drastic changes. Don't listen to them - listen to yourself.

Refusal to copy

Another important point. How to find what you like? Stop living someone else's life and copying someone, start listening to your desires and thinking with your own head.

It's a classic, you might say. A person gets into a profession because it is popular or has prestigious status. He gets a job in one company or another because it is engaged in relevant activities. He is trying himself in a field that is now gaining momentum.

So, all this can be justified and profitable, but only if a person is drawn to all of the above! For desire is of great importance. And if a person acts on the principle “it’s just popular now,” then, of course, he will not feel like a fish out of water.

What we need to understand is that one person’s experience is not suitable for another. Views differ, and that's normal. Everyone has their own path. And you have to go through it yourself from beginning to end.

How to make your life's work successful

In order to do what you really like and quit your old job, you need to find something that will bring you a good income. In most cases, this means starting your own business based on your abilities and desires.

But in order for this activity to satisfy all your needs, there is a lot to go through. Let's look together at all the stages of forming a successful business.

1. Search for an idea. Based on your life preferences, desires and abilities, find an activity that you would like to do throughout your life. It is this business idea that you bring to life;
2. Testing the idea. Absolutely any business can fail. To prevent this from happening, you need to test the idea. Distribute advertisements for the service you provide or the product you manufacture. If the number of potential clients is large, then you can start implementing the idea.

For example, if you plan to make furniture for animals, you don’t need to immediately purchase a lot of material and tools. It is enough to make a few units and see how quickly they will buy them from you. Before starting any business, you need to evaluate the relevance of the product you provide and the presence of competitors in this area.

1. Drawing up a detailed plan. If you have thoroughly tested your idea and are confident that it will work, then start drawing up a detailed business plan. It is he who will help to properly organize a business that will generate income;
2. Development course. Never stop there. Develop, learn something new, expand your business. This is the only way you will feel successful, happy and financially secure.

First the goal, then the path

A very interesting tactic, but not suitable for everyone. Why do you need to do anything at all? There are a lot of reasons - self-realization, the desire to feel useful and belong to an important cause, the need for respect, etc.

But all this is not as important as the goal. Everything a person does is done for the sake of something. Therefore, you need to decide - what do you want to end up with? What is the motivation? What's the incentive? Having determined the goal, it will be possible to build a path to it and look for opportunities. And it will be much easier than before.

Because motivation is the “engine” for a person. Wanting something as badly as breathing when there is a lack of oxygen underwater, he is ready to do anything. And there is no longer time to look for excuses, laziness, a waste of time.

There is a goal. And life turns into a quest to achieve it. And a person realizes: every small step forward brings him closer to it. That’s why it’s much better than standing still.