All living things on the planet interact with each other in various ways. But there is one wonderful and harmless method of communication between people, which allows you not only to achieve balance in communication, but also to help physically and emotionally another person.
Hugs are one of the oldest and simplest ways to transfer energy between people. What good do regular hugs bring to a man? How to hug a girl with benefit? And how often should you hug?
Scientists about hugs
Carnegie Mellon University, which has repeatedly conducted research in the field of psychology, recently published the results of another experiment, during which very interesting facts were revealed about hugs. Thanks to the participation of 400 volunteers, it was possible to establish the following:
Regular hugs increase immunity and help the human body to more easily endure various viral attacks and subsequently prevent them. Also, thanks to timely “hugs,” an interlocutor or friend can help a loved one more calmly bear the stress of a social conflict or a quarrel with a loved one.
Thanks to hugs, the human body again and again experiences a release into the blood of oxytocin, the hormone of affection, devotion, and the hormone of instinctive sensation of another person. Among other things, oxytocin lowers blood pressure and promotes muscle relaxation.
And the most interesting thing is that the effect of hugs continues even the next day.
The meaning of hugs
The meaning and benefits of hugs lie not only in the pleasant effect on the emotional background. Scientists have proven and tested: there are benefits for physical health. After all, hugging increases the level of the hormone oxytocin - it is responsible for calm and good mood. In a word, with a little blues, slight sadness and the opportunity, do not hesitate to hug someone instantly to get the necessary portion of joy.
Surely you have heard that psychologists advise hugging several times a day. Then this will be an excellent prevention of anxiety, a great way to cheer up and, in general, will not be superfluous for your relationship with a loved one.
According to the observations of psychologists, it turned out that if a couple hugs several times a day, then it is easier for these guys to find a common language after a quarrel, and, by the way, they quarrel less often.
Intuition most often tells us what any touches or gestures mean, but it also helps us to suspect if there is something insincere in a person’s words.
Thus, we can most often subconsciously determine what role a loved one assigns to us, and what status he ascribes to himself.
But so that there are no misunderstandings left at all, we’ll tell you how to interpret hugs and understand people’s sincere feelings better.
Psychics about hugs2
Experts in the field of magic and esotericism claim that hugs can be very beneficial for a person, and sometimes even healing. For example, an emotionally charged person on a positive wave, hugging another, triggers the work of the solar plexus chakra, which in turn activates the production of blood leukocytes through irritation of the thymus gland.
And also, psychics, in terms of their benefits and impact on the human body, compare hugs with laughter and even meditation, since this elementary gesture unites all systems of the body in a single impulse, the breath, the heart, and feelings. Thus stabilizing your personal balance.
But the main thing that practical magicians note is that it is quite easy to influence a person with the help of hugs, since at this moment a powerful energy exchange occurs, which can calm, quench pain, and allay fears.
How many times should you hug4
In addition to research on the benefits of hugs, scientists have gone further. Since the process of contact of bodies has an almost therapeutic effect, then it must be used literally according to the recipe.
Louise Hay, an experienced psychologist and psychoanalysis specialist, believes that four hugs a day is the minimum norm necessary for a person to survive. To maintain and fully function all organs and systems of the body, you need at least eight approaches for hugging. And in order to move forward, to realize plans and dreams, you need twelve or more hugs a day.
What happens if a person does not hug5
Scientists of anatomy and physiology have proven that there is a zone of the brain that responds and actively recognizes tactile sensations - touching human skin. If a child is hugged little or not at all, the part of the brain responsible for tactile senses atrophies or simply stops developing. As a result, the nervous and immune systems as a whole suffer.
Also, a well-known fact is that children who grew up without the proper amount of love in childhood, and at a very early age it is expressed precisely in the tactile sensation of loved ones nearby, grow up incapable of love. Neuropsychologist William Priscott talks about this in more detail, according to whom such children in adulthood may be prone to murder, an antisocial lifestyle, and reclusive behavior.
And deeper expert opinions even indicate entire societies that become more aggressive and alienated if hugs are not accepted in them and people have little contact with each other in this way.
A pat on the back
If people allow each other to pat them on the back while hugging, then this indicates their confidence in each other. After all, the back is a very vulnerable part of the body. You can't see her. Therefore, allowing your partner to touch your back shows subconscious confidence in him. In addition, this position is intended to remind that people in a couple care about each other.
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What types of hugs are there?
There are many types of hugs, and each of them has its own emotional coloring and energetic message.
- Official hugs
Official hugs have their own energetic and psychological connotations. This is a type of bodily contact that could be avoided, but a slight touch of shoulders occurs between people as a sign of special affection and respect for each other. Applicable to business partners and work colleagues.
- Friendly hugs
Friendly hugs can be completely different. Most often they happen casually and do not carry any special emotional overtones. Usually, during a friendly hug, the hand is placed on the shoulders of the interlocutor. However, hugs from friends can be different. By patting, stroking or snuggling, the interlocutor can express a feeling of support, understanding, and sympathy.
- Hugs of spouses
Hugs between spouses are very diverse. But most often they are longer. People are in close contact for a long time without embarrassment, looking into each other’s eyes, touching their heads. They are like-minded people, supporting and supporting each other. A woman’s head on a man’s shoulder or chest, and his hand under her shoulders, in a lying position, indicate the patriarchal structure of the family, she is under his wing, he is her protector.
- Embrace of lovers
Lovers in their embrace are very unpredictable. Here you can find varieties of friendly shades, passion, and notes of family hugs. The feelings of lovers often play in different colors, hence this range. However, most often, lovers look into each other's eyes. The guy hugs the girl by the waist, she hugs him by the neck, as if in a slow dance. Inexperienced young people, avoiding the gaze of their beloved, resort to hugs from the side or from the back.
- Embrace of parting
Hugs when parting with loved ones for a long time are almost bearish. Most often they are silent, but the interlocutors seem to hear each other’s thoughts. Despite the relationship, be it a relative or a friend, this type of contact is very close and long-lasting. People touch their cheeks, almost intertwining their necks.
- Embrace of reconciliation
The reconciliation hug is similar in many ways to the breakup bear hug, except for the look. During a try-on hug, the faces do not touch each other. More often, the gaze runs between the eyes and lips of the partner, the interlocutor, as if in search of confirmation of the world.
- Hugs after a long separation
A characteristic feature of hugs after a long absence is that the interlocutors practically throw themselves into each other's arms. They pause for a brief glance and press close again. Further, the nature of the meeting depends on what kind of relationship the people have.
- Hugs of support
In order to support someone, people often use techniques such as patting on the back or shoulder. This technique rather means an attempt to encourage and show your participation. Stroking, more often than not, means a desire to reassure and regret.
- Formal hug
Formal hugs are somewhat similar to official hugs. But unlike the latter, such contact does not carry a warm message of emotions of affection and trust. It is more like a handshake between opponents in the ring after a fight. When no one wants to hug anyone, due to wet bodies and rivalry, but this is how it should be according to etiquette.
But in addition to the main types of hugs, contact and tactile communication with the female sex are discussed in a separate text. By nature, representatives of the fair half of society are empaths. Which means that most of them intuitively grasp and recognize information hidden from them.
For example, the true attitude of the interlocutor, his feelings and intentions. Particularly revealing in this context can be considered body language, in particular the use of hugs as a way to express any emotions.
How to hug a girl to say “I love you”7
First of all, it is important to know that the female sex is much more jealous of its personal space than the male sex. And the key to the success of a cuddling event largely lies in the guy’s ability to carry out all the maneuvers in a timely and delicate manner. An intimate hug can easily be started by extending your hand to your companion and taking her palm and placing it on your chest.
- The most popular hug in love is when the guy stands facing the girl, both of his arms hug and pull her by the waist, while the girl’s hands rest on his shoulders or close around his neck. A particularly sensual form of this hug is the contact of foreheads or noses.
- Young people who feel shy can successfully use intimate hugs from behind. The guy’s hand can be in the area of her neck, the main thing is not to overdo it with pressure, and the second one in the waist area. Or both hands clasp her from behind, completely fixing her hands, as if trying to warm her up. This position eliminates eye-to-eye contact, and at the same time gives the girl a feeling of care and security.
Why is it so important for girls to hug their man often?
Many girls believe that hugs give them a certain feeling of security. Moreover, representatives greatly value hugs that do not necessarily lead to intimacy. With their help, they are confirmed in the idea that their partner needs more than “just one thing” from them, and he really wants to show care, attention and affection “without consequences.”
Many women have a craving for hugs since childhood. As little girls, they notice that they are usually hugged by very close people who love them and who treat them well. They understand that a stranger will not hug them - only someone they can trust does this. This understanding is fixed somewhere at the subconscious level, and now it can only play into your hands.
For many girls, hugging their partner is of great importance - during a conversation, while watching a movie, after intimacy, and so on. In their understanding, this gesture is one of the indicators of good attitude towards them, care and love. If such physical contact is important for a girl, and a man does not take it seriously, then serious problems may arise in the couple’s relationship. Don’t forget to give hugs to your other half if it is meaningful to her - such gestures will benefit you and will only strengthen your union.
How to hug a girl with benefit8
- In order for the interaction of bodies to bring health benefits, you need to hug tightly so as to slightly compress the chest, remembering that such an impact stimulates the thymus gland and the production of protective blood cells.
- But most often, the benefits of hugging a guy for girls are emotional. To provide support and not violate personal space, you need to hug correctly. Standing facing the interlocutor, one of the man’s hands is placed on the back of her neck or head, the second on her shoulders or on the area of the shoulder blades, then smoothly, without sudden movements, he is pulled towards himself. Her head is placed on the guy's shoulder or chest.
"Eyes to eyes"
This type of hug speaks of a spiritual connection between two people. After all, regardless of how the partners hug each other, it is very important for them to maintain eye contact. We can say with confidence about the relationship of such a couple that they are very strong and unshakable. After all, partners understand and enjoy each other’s company very well.
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How to hug a girl without breaking the friend zone9
Among other things, it is important to remember that any touches to a girl should be soft, gentle, and careful. Even if it's a friendly pat on the back, don't do it the same way as a fellow wrestler.
- The most harmless hug is with one hand. The guy puts one hand on the girl’s shoulder, without pressing his torso too close to her. Variations are possible in which the hand is placed on the waist, or the area of the shoulder blades, if the man lets the lady forward, and makes a seeing-off gesture with a touch.
- A bear hug is a slightly tighter hug. However, it is quite suitable for physical communication with a friend. It is performed in the position of the young man next to the girl. He wraps both arms around her so that she cannot touch him back with her own hands.
