Exercises to learn how to make correct and funny jokes in any situation

Greetings, friends!

The more high technology and social networks penetrate our lives, the more people begin to wonder how to become more sociable? In modern society, where the ability to make acquaintances and maintain connections with people is one of the most important skills, it can sometimes be difficult for people who have problems with communication.

However, this problem can be solved, and today we will go through 2 important stages with you that will help you become more sociable. Of course, you will have to try a little. But you remember: you can’t even pull a fish out of a pond without effort? Let's start in order, and first let's figure out what it actually means to be sociable?

What does it mean to be sociable?

• Be able to make contacts with people. This is one of the main skills that greatly expands opportunities in life, work, and study. We are talking about the ability in the process of life to “hook” people with whom it may simply be interesting to communicate in the future, or maybe this connection will be useful in some way in the future.
• Be interesting for the interlocutor. Obviously, you can't become more social if people aren't interested in hearing what you have to say. It is important to be able to evoke emotions, interest, and help a person learn something new.
• Ability to carry on a conversation on any topic. The importance of this skill lies in the fact that all people have different interests, professions, and hobbies. Of course, if you simply nod to your interlocutor, he is unlikely to be interested. For this skill you need to develop and learn new things.
• Expand your social circle. It’s hard to even imagine how to become more sociable if your social circle only includes your neighbor on the landing. This is no good. But there is also no need to increase the number of acquaintances indefinitely. It is important to strive to find the optimal number of people who will be included in your social circle.
• Be able to maintain friendly relationships. It’s good, of course, to be able to make acquaintances. But what good is this if these acquaintances stop after the first meeting? If a person turns out to be interesting, then it will be great to be able to continue friendly communication with him.
• Don't be afraid to communicate with strangers. This is not about being able to start a conversation with anyone you meet on the street. This skill has little value. But not to be afraid to talk to a person who can help in some way (for example, a sales consultant) - this is already important, and you need to work on it.
• The ability to listen to your interlocutor. For many this is not easy. However, in an effort to become more sociable, mastering this skill is simply necessary. A person’s inability to listen in general can completely discourage another from any desire to communicate with such a person.

Well, friends, we've sorted it out. To make things easier, let's take a quick look at why some people have communication problems.

Rejoice often

Man comes to this earth to have fun. It was in the Middle Ages that people thought that earth was hell, and that heaven awaited people in the next life. Today this assertion is highly questioned. How to become cheerful and cheerful? Take a closer look at your life and learn to appreciate it. The average healthy person can find reasons to be happy every day. For example, good health, the opportunity to do what you want, a job you love, wonderful friends, a loved one nearby. All this becomes so familiar that a person takes the pleasant aspects of life for granted. Learn to appreciate every moment and understand that tomorrow you can lose what you don’t value today. Therefore, thank fate every evening for giving you a happy destiny, and for the fact that it gives you wonderful gifts that you accept with joy and a smile.

Where do communication problems come from?

Communication skills are developed throughout a person’s life, and there are several main factors that are decisive. Let's look at the most important ones.

1. Features of education. Every family has its own ideals, and often parents deliberately instill in their child traits that are not conducive to great success in life. They are proud that their child grows up modest and non-conflict , studies well, obeys parents and teachers. Unfortunately, such peculiarities of upbringing create certain difficulties for a person in adult life.

In addition, the child’s model of social behavior is completely formed by the parent’s example. If a family leads a relatively secluded lifestyle and rarely invites guests, the child simply will not learn to communicate, and in the future will experience certain difficulties because of this.

1. Negative communication experience
   . Children are very sociable and often face negative reactions to this. Parents ask them to be quiet, peers start making fun of them, teachers at school shut their mouths. The consequences of such an experience are quite obvious.
2. Lack of erudition
   . If a person has few topics of conversation available, becoming more sociable will not be easy. Therefore, it is important to constantly improve your erudition, read a lot, and take an interest in current events and news.
3. Character traits
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   There are several character types, and the level of sociability is one of their main differences. Thus, phlegmatic people are usually less talkative than choleric people. But if we talk specifically about sociability, it is more convenient to divide into introverts and extroverts. For close friends, introverts are usually open and interesting conversationalists, but communicating with unfamiliar people is not easy for them. If you are an introvert, then your difficulties with communication are understandable, but completely solvable. Read more about who an introvert is in a separate article.
4. Diffidence
   . This problem prevents self-realization in all areas of life. It is difficult for an insecure person to find a job, make friends and build romantic relationships. If this factor is present, you should start by increasing self-esteem, otherwise other efforts may be ineffective.

Well, friends, we’ve sorted out the basics, now let’s move on to the main part.

Becoming more social is easy

First of all, you need to understand that sociability is a skill , not a personality trait. And valuable skills need to be developed. This is accessible to anyone, the main thing is to continuously improve in the chosen direction. The whole process will consist of two stages: developing communication skills (i.e. the ability to communicate with people) and expanding your social circle. Without further ado, let's move on to the first stage.

Do charity work

A happy person does not save money in a chest under his bed. He is not afraid to give away what he has and believes that fate will give him good dividends for such good deeds. Don't be afraid to be an altruist, do charity work. Helping people is pleasant and rewarding. By helping someone who is in a difficult situation, you become a better person. Every person came into this world in order to make it better. So you need to justify your existence. Charity is one way to increase your karma without making Herculean efforts to improve the world.

Stage 1. Development of communication skills

First of all, you need to start developing communication skills and building self-confidence. What should you do for this?

Smile and don't be afraid to joke

If this article had to be boiled down to one single piece of advice, this would be it. Oh, how pleasant the interlocutors are who can make a great joke and make you smile - be it work colleagues, friends, or even just casual acquaintances. This rule works everywhere without exception - make a person smile and he will treat you much better.

Now an important point: if it seems to you that you don’t know how to joke at all, then believe me, this will come with time, you just have to start. The main thing is that you understand that a sense of humor is the strongest weapon for creating an easy and trusting environment. Over time, you will notice that there are reasons for jokes always and everywhere, you just need to try to notice them and not miss them! It’s also worth saying that making other people smile or laugh is a great way to increase self-esteem and create a great mood.

The main thing is to remember 2 simple rules: don’t joke about people, and joke about yourself very carefully. Otherwise, there is a reason for a joke everywhere - in school, work, in events around, and even in problems.

Give compliments

How long has it been since you last paid attention to the positive changes in people around you? If it’s been a long time, then correct it urgently. A compliment is not only a great way to give others positive emotions, but also a good reason to start a conversation on a pleasant note.

The main thing to remember is that a compliment should emphasize something that the person has worked hard on. For example, I lost weight, got a beautiful hairstyle, bought a nice suit. In addition, the compliment must be sincere, which means you must like this change. And one more thing: the compliment should be as light and simple as possible , for example: “Hello! Nice dress! (don't forget to smile). Sometimes this is enough to put a person in a great mood for the whole day.

Show interest

There is nothing difficult to ask a colleague: “How did you get to work today?” or “How was your weekend?” Of course, the interest must be sincere. After allowing the interlocutor to speak, ask a small clarifying question, showing interest. You will notice how pleasant it is for him and gain invaluable communication experience.

By the way, many consider the question: “How are you?” banal, and they try to avoid it. However, everything depends on the message with which this question is asked. If the interest is sincere, then even this simple question will be absolutely appropriate.

Learn to listen

Most people in communication strive to convey their own thoughts. Not everyone is able to listen and hear their interlocutor. However, if you really want to become more sociable, learn not to interrupt, listen to the end of a sentence , and think about what is said before responding. And never consider your loved ones to be those who must be burdened with all your problems.

Use body language

Facial expressions, the position of arms and legs, the direction and movement of the gaze - our interlocutor involuntarily notices all this. Nonverbal signals can tell a lot even to a person who has never been interested in them. For example, constantly looking at your phone will make the other person think that you are bored.

Smile often and learn to move correctly to demonstrate friendliness. Perhaps self-doubt is preventing you from becoming more sociable. Adopting a comfortable, open posture can help you overcome fear and doubt, so keep experimenting with your body language. At the same time, you will master another important skill - learn to read the mood of your interlocutor by his facial expressions and movements. And one more thing: do not cross your arms while talking - this position is closed and repulsive.

Become an interesting conversationalist

People with a good sense of humor who can easily carry on conversations on any topic are valued in any company. You don't have to be a highly educated intellectual to become a good conversationalist. It is enough to lead an active life , regularly read popular books, watch new movies being released, and take an interest in current events. If possible, then also travel.

Contact by name

Do you remember the names of all your work colleagues? If not, then it’s time to learn and start calling people by name. As Dale Carnegie said, what people love most is to hear the sound of their name. So give them this chance, and believe me, your relationships with people will begin to improve. Start mentioning the name even then. when you just say hello.

Well, dear reader, we are done with the first part. If you follow these seemingly simple tips, your communication skills will increase many times over. And we move on to the second stage.

Techniques and exercises

There are specially designed exercises, their implementation will gradually help develop a sense of humor. Repeat them every day, you will soon achieve success.

The suggested exercises will help you start making great jokes:

1. Look through the vocabulary in your mind, find words that have ambiguous meanings: this is where you should start training, inventing jokes.
2. Satirical irony. Start experiments with jokes with the opposite: expressing the opposite opinion. For example, if you meet a friend in dirty clothes, tell him how great he looks.
3. Make up associations. A situation that causes laughter should be considered from all sides: write down on paper your associations that lead your friends into cheerful hysterics.

Try going through the alphabet: remember any letter, come up with a phrase where each word begins with it.

Stage 2. Expanding your social circle

As strange as it may sound, to become more sociable, you need to communicate more. There are a few simple techniques that can move you in this direction.

Change your routine habits

Visit different stores, take new routes to work, dine in different cafes. Even during working hours, when going to the toilet, you can go up to another floor or go to the opposite end of the corridor. Every day you will see new faces, and this is a great opportunity for dating and communication.

Use social networks

Many people underestimate social networks, not realizing how often virtual communication leads to very promising real acquaintances. The main thing is not to be shy about inviting people to meetings, you can even offer to meet in a small group (if it is a group associated with common interests).

Don't mince your words

Often we limit ourselves to a simple “Please!” when we helped a colleague, or “Thank you!” when we received help. But it’s much better to say “Please! I’m sure you would help me too!” or “Thank you! And please contact me if you need help!” Phrases like these break through barriers and bring people together.

Combine business with pleasure

An interesting and exciting activity may well serve as a catalyst for new friendships. You can sign up for courses or trainings where there will be people with the same interests. Joint activities are an excellent opportunity to meet new people and start communicating. There are also special interest clubs that anyone can join, for example, there is a club for those who like to play “Mafia” in almost every city.

Invite and accept invitations

Like in the movie “Always Say Yes!” Do not refuse invitations when you are invited somewhere, and also try to invite someone yourself. This is a great way to become more sociable without creating an uncomfortable environment for yourself. You can choose how you spend your time. At best, it will be a pleasant date or a friendly conversation, at worst, it will simply be a valuable communication experience.

Don't be afraid to hear "No"

We are designed in such a way that every “No!” burns us. Therefore, adults experience panic fear of rejection and miss a lot of opportunities in life. But you don’t have to be afraid of the word “no.” Start breaking your usual behavior patterns. When you see a cute stranger (or stranger) at a bus stop, don’t hesitate to start talking. Even if the acquaintance does not work out, you will not lose anything, but will only gain valuable experience.

In conclusion, let's discuss such a simple, but at the same time such a complex question:

Play sports

How to become cheerful and cheerful? Useful advice that will help any girl become a better person is to immediately go in for sports. The modern pace of life does not leave many people time for the gym. But you can exercise not only in the gym, but also at home or in the yard. Exercising improves your body, eliminates extra pounds and cellulite, improves stamina and makes you happier. During sports, a person’s brain is filled with oxygen, and as a result, the person begins to think faster and better. It was not for nothing that our ancestors believed that a healthy mind lies in a healthy body. The outer shell is a direct reflection of a person’s inner world. If a person is happy, he will be beautiful, and if his face is distorted by grief and melancholy, no amount of cosmetics will make the person more attractive.

How to conduct a conversation correctly?

Remember that speaking and communicating are completely different genres. Always let your interlocutor speak out, but don’t be silent yourself. Feel free to talk about yourself, but do not rush to share too personal information. You can talk about your interests, leisure activities, trips to the sea, interesting events that have happened recently.

When asking your interlocutor questions, show interest in his personality, but also do not rush to ask about something too personal. Rapprochement always takes place very slowly, two people move towards this in small steps, gradually revealing certain details from their own lives. If you rush into this, you can instantly destroy the fragile trust that has not yet had time to form.

It is recommended to use open-ended questions so that the interlocutor can answer, flavoring the story with any number of details. By asking a closed question, you force him to give monosyllabic answers, even if he is in the mood for lively and interesting communication. To become more sociable, you need to understand that people love to talk about themselves, and you are guaranteed to please them by demonstrating sincere interest in them.

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Don't beat yourself up

Problems that may haunt you today will soon be resolved. There is nothing eternal in this world. So don't beat yourself up. Do you want to become cheerful and cheerful? How to achieve the desired result with the least amount of effort? Stop beating yourself up. Just because you play out all sorts of situations in your head, life will not change. Many people are used to imagining the worst possible scenarios that the event could take before an important event. This is not worth doing. Let go of the problem. If you cannot influence the outcome of events in any way, then do not take them to heart. If you have the power to change something, then change it. A person who does not worry about trifles does not undermine his nervous system and, as a result, lives much happier than people who cannot bring their raging feelings under control and calm down in time.

Make your loved ones happy

How to cheer yourself up? Surprise your friends more often. Giving pleasant gifts or creating a festive atmosphere for no reason will lift the spirits of your loved ones. And as you know, people treat you the same way you treat them. The more often you delight your surroundings with pleasant surprises, the more you will feel the gratitude of your loved ones. Don't be afraid that your imagination will run out. When a person does good, the imagination works flawlessly. Remember, the more positive you bring into this world, the more it comes back to you.

Get involved in your education

How to become an energetic and cheerful woman? Start filling in the gaps in your education. How does intelligence level affect happiness? A person who knows a lot will never get bored in his company. He can always find something to do to his liking. Reading a book, watching an educational program or simply talking to yourself will be interesting to the person. A poorly educated person cannot be alone with himself. She needs someone who will entertain her. TV, social networks or friends help a person feel complete. But such a person will not be happy. Why? Each person has his own happiness. Some people want to start a family, others want to realize themselves in their career. And the joy of a poorly educated person will be consumption. Marketers have been selling emotions, not products, for many years. And a stupid person buys them, and then is surprised at yet another deception.

Love yourself

A person who wants to become happy must love himself. A confident person who knows her strengths and accepts her shortcomings makes a good impression. If a person loves himself, then he will look good, speak well and be satisfied with his own life. A person who lives for himself and does not save money to meet his own needs is, according to statistics, more cheerful. And making others happier is easier for those who themselves experience true pleasure from every day.

How to become a cheerful and interesting girl? Don't skimp on yourself. Dress nicely, go to a beauty salon, eat from the formal service and do what you want. Don't prove anything to anyone and don't accuse anyone of anything. Plan for the future and don't cling to the past. Try to see something good in every day. Living in such a rhythm, it is very easy to understand that life is truly beautiful.