How to understand whether you have charisma: signs of female and male charisma, differences. How to determine charisma: test

What is charisma?

Charisma is a Greek word that means “divine gift.” This term was first used by the German economist and sociologist Max Weber.

• Charisma can be called a set of personal qualities of a person that make it possible for him to influence others, make him a leader, and allow him to captivate people with him and his ideas.
• Those leaders who have gone down in history with a plus or minus sign cannot be called anything other than charismatic

Can influence others

• Mussolini or Hitler, Stalin or Churchill could have been the leaders of the nation , would we remember Martin Luther King or Mahatma Gandhi, Mao or Golda Meyer, if they did not have charisma that attracts attention to them, convinces them of their opinion, leads entire peoples?
• But charismatic people are not only the leaders of a nation. In any team there is a generally recognized leader, to whom people are drawn and followed.

Signs of charisma

You can understand whether a person has innate charisma already in childhood. In games he is always the leader, in the classroom he is a recognized leader, in the yard he is the soul of the yard company. What are the characteristics of such leaders?

Signs

1. Having individuality . This applies to character, abilities, temperament, and sometimes to hobbies and habits. If a person comes across as exceptional, in most cases he is charismatic, at least to the group of people in which he occupies a leadership position. He strives in every possible way to comply with what is expected of him, thereby maintaining his status.
2. Leadership qualities , regardless of whether a person leads one class or an entire nation. The main thing is the willingness to take responsibility and make decisions that will support the team.
3. Self-confidence , i.e. belief that the goal will be achieved. Even in the event of failure, a charismatic, self-confident leader does not give up, but learns lessons and looks for other ways to achieve the goal.
4. Oratory data. Competent, figurative, emotional speech influences the mental and emotional aspects of those to whom it is addressed, evoking the feelings and perception of what is said required by the speaker. Let us remember Hitler and his pathetic and brilliant speeches, which convinced the whole nation of its exclusivity.
5. Characteristic speech that carries a “zest” that is unique only to this person. An example is Lenin's burr, Churchill's , or the deliberately slow speech of Cuban leader Fidel Castro.
6. Recognizable appearance. It is not necessary to have external attractiveness, the main thing is to find your characteristic external image and stick to it. Such originality makes a person stand out from the crowd and makes him recognizable.

Examples of charismatic people

Both positive and negative leaders can be charismatic, using their talent for harmful purposes.

The positive ones include:

Charlotte Gainsbourg. She herself has repeatedly said that she does not like her own appearance. But director Lars von Trier has a different opinion, and quite often invites the actress to star in his films.

Uma Thurman. She is tall, has size 42 feet, a heavy look and a large forehead, but this did not stop her from starring in several films by Quentin Tarantino.

Lady Gaga. The singer, on the contrary, is short in stature, and in childhood she was considered an “ugly duckling.” However, it is known all over the world and always attracts full houses.

Adriano Celentano. The actor hardly meets modern beauty standards, but still remains a favorite of the public, including women. Even after 80 years.

This list can also include Elon Musk, Bill Gates, and many other famous personalities.

A striking example of negative charisma is Adolf Hitler. Yes, he knew how to persuade and gathered a huge army, his followers stood behind him like a mountain, but nothing good came of it. He caused a lot of pain both to the German people and to the whole world.

Female charisma and male charisma: differences

• Of course there is. And it is due to our traditional ideas about the purpose of women and men.
• Male charisma is determined by our ideas about the inherent strength of a man, the instincts of a conqueror and hunter, and a straightforward leader. Recently, the formula of charisma for men includes the concepts of not only strength, but presence and warmth.
• Presence is understood as maximum concentration on one’s counterpart, and strength is understood as internal responsibility and the ability to make a decision. As for warmth, it refers to the ability to participate and support. It is in this complex that the above components add up to the concept of male charisma.

Difference by gender

• Women's charisma is characterized by qualities that are to some extent opposed to each other. So, self-confident and at the same time soft and feminine, with a firm, but at the same time light character, restrained, but femininely emotional at the right moments - this is a charismatic woman . She is charming and extraordinary, with inherent inner strength and harmony.

Why aren't all people charismatic?

Becoming charismatic is problematic for people who have the following qualities:

1. Pessimism , which prevents you from moving towards your goal.
2. Fear of taking responsibility, which is unusual for a leader .
3. Fear that prevents internal changes.
4. Complexity that makes a person uninteresting to others.
5. Lack of communication skills and the ability to listen to others. Without these qualities, it is impossible to attract the attention of even a single interlocutor, not to mention the team.
6. Incorrectly set priorities , when a person tries to succeed in many areas at the same time, which only a few succeed.
7. Excessive demands both towards oneself and towards others. It's emotionally draining and doesn't produce results.

Developing charisma using public speaking techniques

• Finding the funny in yourself and laughing at yourself increases confidence;
• find a bright joke in time and pronounce it among a crowded company (without trembling of the voice, incorrect pauses);
• adapt statements to your interlocutors so as not to offend anyone;
• select the correct “percentage” of jokes in a speech - not too many, but not too few;
• “tease” the audience - if you choose the right tone and know that the interlocutor will not be offended, such jokes help you get closer to him.

How to develop charisma?

It turns out that charisma is not only given from birth. With desire and motivation, perseverance and clear goals, charisma can be developed. There are several ways to do this.

Charisma can be developed

1. Learn public speaking. This can be done through trainings, courses, and various techniques . You can work with your voice and intonation with a teacher or in theater groups. It is important to broaden your horizons in order to speak not only beautifully, but also competently, becoming interesting to the audience.
2. Be able to free yourself from negativity and negative emotions. There are also many ways to do this - from playing sports or a favorite activity to various techniques such as shooting at a photograph of the offender or screaming loudly.
3. The ability to present yourself by developing your own style in clothing, hairstyle, conversation, and gestures. This can be achieved by carefully studying successful people and leaders, analyzing their performances and trying to understand how they differ from others.
4. Correctly set tasks, with realistic stages and deadlines. Even the most insignificant intermediate goal must be completed completely and on time - then you are worthy of praise.
5. Control your feelings and emotions, without reducing fun to a sabbath, sadness to hysteria, and joy to screaming.
6. Learn to feel your interlocutor, listen and hear his words and mood. Observe your behavior during communication and how your counterparts behave, analyze words, gestures, postures that are unpleasant to you (and therefore may be rejected by others). Work on getting rid of such phenomena.

How to define charisma?

• There is the famous Howard Friedman test , developed by a Californian psychologist. It involves determining the degree of emotional expressiveness inherent in a person.
• Answer the 16 statements below using a 9-point scale. If what is said is not typical for you, put 1, and so on, as the degree of coincidence with your habits increases.
• The highest degree of similarity is 9.

How to identify charisma?

1. I automatically sway to the beat if I hear good music.
2. I strive to look fashionably dressed in any situation .
3. I laugh so hard that it can be heard far around.
4. I tend to pay attention to the presence of minor details.
5. In a telephone conversation I do not hide my feelings.
6. I'm ready for any situation.
7. My comrades often look to me for advice, telling me certain situations.
8. I make detailed to-do lists.
9. I have a persistent desire to bring what I start to perfection.
10. I often hear the opinion that I could become a good artist.
11. I always make detailed plans and strictly adhere to them.
12. It happens that when I take food out of the refrigerator, I forget that I need to put it back.
13. Solving charades and puzzles is my strong point.
14. People around me give me fewer years than my real age.
15. At various events, I am always in the center of the crowd.
16. When communicating with a loved one, I use tactile contact.

• If you scored 1-37 points , you most likely belong to shy people who prefer loneliness.
• 38-49 points - your communication with others can be successful, but this is caused not so much by your charm as by your mental abilities. And it seems that you can use nonverbal communication techniques not subconsciously, which is typical for charismatic people, but deliberately.
• 50-60 points - you have the qualities of a leader, and by nature you are an extrovert. You definitely manage to stand out from the crowd, but sometimes attention is burdensome for you.
• 61-72 points - it seems that your charisma is at its best. In any case, you are capable of understanding the feelings and emotions of others, and they, in turn, become emotionally charged around you.

How to understand whether you are a charismatic person or not

In different areas of life, charisma is defined differently:

1. In a love relationship. If they value you, say that it’s interesting to be with you, and try to spend more time with you, you probably have charisma. In addition, charismatics are much more likely to be noticed by people of the opposite sex than others.
2. At work. If you are often asked for help, your manager is interested in your opinion on various issues, and in general you feel like a significant part of the company, most likely, it’s all about not only your professionalism, but also your charisma.
3. In friendship. If you often have guests, friends constantly invite you to all sorts of events, and in general you are the life of the party - this indicates a high level of charisma.

There are other signs by which you can understand whether you are charismatic or not:

• open attitude towards people;
• the desire to always achieve results and complete what was started;
• honesty and sincerity;
• complete dedication to what you love.

There are certain skills that charismatic people tend to use. If you know a lot of interesting stories and anecdotes, know how to ask rhetorical questions in a timely and correct manner, and have unshakable moral convictions, you are probably one of them.

Charisma test

Rate the compliance with this or that statement on a 5-point scale using the charisma test:

1. I always stand out in any company.
2. I am able to influence others.
3. I know how to lead people towards a common goal, knowing how to achieve this.
4. I always endear myself to those around me, and they like to communicate with me.
5. I almost always smile at those around me.
6. I am able to find an approach to any person.

Are you charismatic?
Now add up all the points and divide the resulting figure by 6. If the result is more than 3.7 , you have a fairly high degree of charisma, in any case, this indicator is higher than the statistical average.

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