At first he is surprised that the girl has cooled down after three years of relationship, then he shares intimate secrets with friends, and after another year he is left alone with himself, because the girl decided: there is something wrong with me, since he does not propose. Guys are sometimes so surprised when a woman begins to want a family and children, take care of everyday life and choose curtains for the nursery.
The further into the forest, the more incomprehensible the woman becomes; and the boys fall into thought, asking questions not to their life partner, but to the Internet: I don’t know what’s wrong with the girl. But it was necessary either to think earlier or to work on building a personal life, so as not to have to solve puzzles later: what does her look mean, why does the breath before bed take longer than in the morning, and what does “good luck at work” mean in general...
Level of personal cognitioni
Unfortunately, men do not have the knowledge of quantum physics and mechanics to read the thoughts of others from a distance. It’s a pity, because women, due to their upbringing and purpose, find it difficult to say directly. The vulnerability of men also complicates the “face-to-face truth.” They take everything personally, put on labels when the wife casually says “oh, how did he park like that, well done.” This sounds offensive and hurts a man’s pride.
A woman changes her attitude, worldview, adapts so as not to hurt her soul. After a year he becomes bored, he wants intrigue and scandals, how can he do without them when he is so used to blowing his mind. And then the “swing” again: he doesn’t like it, it’s boring here, and 5 months ago the words spoken sit in his head like thunder in a constant thunderstorm.
A woman grows up mentally, assessing her wasted years. Before her stands the image of a boy who capriciously demands respect. It’s harder to deserve, and that’s understandable. It’s just too late to try to sort out situations in order to understand a woman with whom you know a little or a lot, or have lived for a good half of the month. For both, this is a long time when the couple is happy and has already patented the names of their grandchildren for us in the future.
Suddenly, in an instant, there comes an eclipse, a fog of the mind, complete despair. And the whole point is the inability to listen, when the words should be read between the lines, look at facial expressions and understand hints, and not stare at the chest, coming up with names for them in case of acquaintance.
Basic
Building relationships with the opposite sex seems like a difficult task for most men. And first of all, mutual sympathy is needed, without which there can be no talk of any lasting connection. How to understand whether a girl likes you or not? Below is a list of the main signs. If there are several matches (the more, the better) - rejoice, she likes you. The main thing is to make sure you don’t make any further mistakes.
Body and legs
If a lady is interested in a young man, her body will intuitively turn towards the man. This is how she shows that the guy is not indifferent to her, and she is ready for something more than just having a conversation as friends (maybe even sex).
It is worth paying attention to where your feet are directed when communicating with a man. IMPORTANT! When a girl smiles, but the tips of her shoes (or other shoes) point in the other direction, she is talking to each other only out of politeness, there is no sympathy.
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Frequent accidental touches
Avoiding verbal confessions, young ladies can demonstrate interest by touching the object of their desire. They are looking for the slightest reason for seemingly innocent physical contact:
- brushing an invisible speck of dust off their shoulder;
- lean on a man when exiting a vehicle;
- playfully pinching during a conversation;
- “accidentally” bump into a guy in the hallway.
Many girls like to hug, but often they do it purely for friendly reasons. A good sign is an unexpected touch, complemented by a feeling of awkwardness and a smile.
Embarrassment
Some young ladies tend to blush if a guy they like suddenly looks at them. Their cheeks turn crimson and they immediately look away or look down.
Of course, embarrassment is not a 100% guarantee of mutual sympathy. Perhaps a girl reacts this way in an unfamiliar situation or when she becomes the object of everyone's attention. It is enough to observe her under various circumstances.
Sight
A girl's attraction to a certain man can be determined by the duration of eye contact. During a normal conversation, a person will not linger for long on the interlocutor, as this can cause discomfort.
But if a guy is interested in a young lady, she will deliberately maintain visual contact for as long as possible. An alternative option is that the girl looks at the guy for 2-5 seconds, looks away, then looks again, as if she is afraid of being declassified.
Strong excitement
A common reaction to the presence of a person you really like is anxiety, confusion, and nervousness. Usually this behavior is typical of too shy ladies or girls who do not know a man.
Signs that indicate sympathy:
- frequent touching of the face;
- pursing of lips;
- twirling hair on a finger;
- squeezing and unclenching intertwined fingers;
- confused speech.
If a guy really likes a shy young lady, her inhibitions will fade away over time. The same goes for the stranger. As soon as she gets to know the man who interests her better, she will become more confident.
Observing a man's reaction
This is one of the obvious signs that proves that “she” is really interested in a guy. This behavior is very easy to notice if communication takes place in a small company.
When a girl is not indifferent to a man, then when talking about something, the first thing she will do is immediately observe his reaction. At the same time, she can smile, be embarrassed, or, conversely, look intently into his eyes.
At the same time, “visually exposing”, demonstrating maximum sincerity.
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Joyful acceptance of jokes (even if humor is bad)
In the arsenal of a man who wants to get the attention of women, there will always be some jokes, anecdotes, funny stories from real life. This technique is especially relevant when you need to understand how much a lady likes you.
If a girl is attracted to her interlocutor, then even banal jokes and inappropriate statements will provoke sincere laughter from her. Sympathy is even more obvious when several people are having a conversation at the same time.
Communication on social networks
You can find out about a girl’s relationship with a guy by correspondence. Of course, live communication provides more opportunities to assess the situation, but even by the manner of writing it is possible to determine the chances of “taking the fortress quickly.”
Signs of genuine interest (a combination of several at once is important):
- subscription in all social networks;
- likes under every post, regular comments;
- initiative when sending messages;
- quick, detailed answers to any question and a simple greeting.
BUT! It also happens that when a young lady writes first and responds quickly, perhaps she just wants communication, and her actions do not mean anything more. It is important to be able to differentiate. One of the proofs of sympathy for a man is that a girl sends messages while drunk.
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The desire to please
Women on a subconscious level feel how to attract the attention of the man they are interested in. This is expressed in their behavior and appearance. When the object of desire comes into view, interesting changes occur.
The most common sign is an attractive posture. The lady deliberately tries to show her femininity and sexuality, straightens her shoulders back, sucks in her stomach, sticks out her chest (sometimes also her buttocks).
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Interest in personal life
If a young lady is not indifferent to a young man, she mentally imagines herself next to him, she will certainly be interested in the presence of a possible rival. Usually, this technique is resorted to by ladies who know practically nothing about a man.
At the first opportunity, the girl will try to find out if the guy is dating someone. If he gives a negative answer, her face will light up, her eyes will sparkle, and a happy (genuine!) smile will appear.
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What phrases should have been understood differently?2
First, you need to remember what the girl constantly talked about and asked her to do. Probably, it has to do with certain features of the manifestation of attention, accents, appearance and attitude in general. In order not to torment yourself with the questions “I don’t know what’s wrong with the girl” and “what does she need from me,” you need to put yourself in her place. Since approaching the terrarium with a conversation is too difficult, men are not looking for easy and shortcuts, which means we need to prepare for war.
You won’t have to build a training ground, but you still need to develop understanding tactics.
How to understand a girl's hints
The easiest way to recognize a hidden hint is to ask directly. If a girl says that she has long wanted to go to see a wildly relevant arthouse film, ask a counter question - maybe we can go together? If she agreed, it’s a done deal, she definitely likes you. If she refused, perhaps she saw it as too obvious a “trick” or realized that she might fall for a lie (after all, very few people like arthouse cinema).
The girl says she needs help? Feel free to volunteer. There is nothing to hide here: firstly, you are clearly stronger than her physically, and secondly, if help is needed not in carrying seven heavy bags or screwing in light bulbs, you can certainly provide moral support. Asking for help is an excellent sign that the object of your affection is not ashamed of his weakness and wants to accept your support. Have you been asked to help? She's starting to like you!
I can't do this!3
This is a standard phrase that implies denial of everything that is happening. Sounds more often during sex. She dresses guiltily, the man remains in excited bewilderment, looking like an underdeveloped animal that thinks in one place and not with its head. That is, how can it not “like this” if this happened every time?
There is an answer here: the woman constantly endured such antics, could not say it directly (the guy is touchy, does not want to think about it), her nerves gave way and everything resulted in words. This means that the way this happens standardly for a man is unacceptable for a woman. Time passes, but he does not see any hints of behavior adjustment. To resolve this conflict, you need to remember what initially scared or alerted the girl. Maybe laundry with minions or bright lights in the kitchen?
The phrase doesn't just apply to sex. A priori, incorrect behavior is implied, not the actions that she would like to see, either after the announcement of the verdict, or after hints. Here we must carefully remember.
By behavior
If a man is attractive to a woman, then she will flirt with him, smile, and demonstrate her interest in communication. When a girl wants sex, these signs are added to:
- Desire for tactile contact. A woman will not miss the opportunity to touch the interlocutor’s hair, arms, shoulders, and will try to reduce the physical distance during the conversation.
- Deep and rapid breathing, dilated pupils.
- Redness of the face and other manifestations of excitement. Psychologists have noticed that when communicating with people they like, interlocutors more often show signs of mild nervousness.
- Overtly sexual behavior by a girl, such as playing with her own hair.
What, did you buy meat again?4
If at one time she would prefer a piece of meat to a bouquet, but in family life you will not be satisfied with herbs, do not despair. She does not want to return to the bouquet-candy period and courtship. It’s just that lately the man has been inattentive, doesn’t listen to her requests, doesn’t want to understand her condition and fatigue. Either there are problems at work, or at home they don’t clean up their socks, or they haven’t learned how to turn on the washing machine. And then there’s this meat, from which you can cook borscht again half the night, so that it turns out like your mother-in-law’s.
A man should be wary of a woman's reaction. Getting scared and swearing is unnecessary. In such cases, psychologists recommend taking a break to deal with all the problems and difficulties in life.
According to a social survey conducted among couples who had been married for at least 5 years and couples who were just starting a relationship, problems overtook everyone in the same proportion. Half of them solved problems without leaving. More than 23% of couples tried to maintain neutrality, while the rest separated for several weeks. As a result, women became more decisive and were able to express all dissatisfaction so that it did not grow like a snowball. The men were ready to do anything to ensure that their beloved continued to be close.
Ways to determine sympathy
You may not notice any of the above signs in a girl who likes you. The best way is to spend as much time with her as possible and monitor the development of your relationship.
If a girl is too shy and can't seem to start a conversation with you in person, but you communicate well online, then check her out. Smile at her when you meet her, ask how she is doing. You will definitely win her with your attention.
By the way, some psychologists advise testing sympathy with a smile. Try to smile at a girl when she looks at you, just like that. If she smiles back, that's a good sign. You will seem like a happy person to her, and she will associate all positive emotions with you.
Other psychologists suggest testing a girl’s sympathy with jealousy. They advise you to flirt with her friends in her presence. But don't rush to do this. The girl may decide that you like someone else and stop trying to attract your attention.
Of course, indirect signs do not provide a 100% guarantee that a girl likes you. The best thing to do is to ask her out and clear your doubts.
