What is the manifestation of strength and strength of character and how to cultivate these qualities in yourself? We often talk about this with our daughter, who talks about the problems of her friends and girlfriends. Some people lack the strength of character to defend their point of view, while others cannot fight back against hooligans in the yard. What is strength of character and what does it depend on? How to express yourself in this world so that others begin to respect and appreciate you? I want to tell you about this in this article.
Self confidence
A psychologically strong person knows that his beliefs greatly influence whether he achieves success. This is not just a matter of motivation, it is a real fact. Researchers have found that more confident people earn more and move up the career ladder faster. True confidence is always visible and cannot be confused with the false confidence that people use to hide their fears. Psychologically strong people know how to inspire others with their confidence, so everything works out better in their lives.
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Emotional intellect
Psychological strength is determined by emotional intelligence. You cannot be a psychologically strong person if you do not understand negative emotions, do not know how to manage them and achieve a productive result in spite of everything. The moments in which your psychological strength is tested also test your emotional intelligence. This is a flexible skill that you can develop through conscious effort. All the most successful people have high emotional intelligence. It is relatively rare: only thirty-six percent of people are able to recognize what emotions they are experiencing.
Essay on the topic Strength of Character
Strength of character is the courage that everyone wants to have. It is the ability to confront fear, despite the fact that obstacles may lie in one's path. For centuries, our culture has been filled with stories about the strength of character that helps us be courageous. One of the best examples is the story of David and Goliath, where a man defeats a giant that no one dares approach. Courage can be physical and moral. If physical strength can be acquired by engaging in strength sports, then moral strength should be cultivated in oneself from youth. After all, it is in youth that a person most often encounters failures. Strength of character helps to pass all the tests and maintain a spirit of optimism. After all, having this power, a person believes in himself, and accordingly, in his abilities.
Character strengths are the positive aspects of your personality that influence the way you think, feel, and behave, and are key to becoming a better person. When used effectively, strength of character is beneficial both to oneself and to society as a whole. They are different from your other strengths, such as your unique skills, talents, interests, and resources.
Advice from Pavel Rakov
To strengthen your character, will and spirit, do the things you need to do every day:
- Show the people you care about love and appreciation.
- Devote 10-15 minutes daily to cleaning.
- Drink a glass of water daily.
- Every day take a step towards your goal.
- Learn something new.
- Do push-ups.
- Praise at least one person every day (deservedly).
- Organize 5 minutes of silence for yourself.
- Think about the positive things that are present in your life.
- Engage in any type of physical activity.
- Pretend to be a superhero. Until you really become one.
- Say thank you for another day of your life.
It’s worth taking part in Pavel Rakov’s trainings. For example, “Summer Camp” is a large eight-day training session that brings together 1,000 people. This program is based on strengthening character, fortitude, and willpower.
Character is a kind of core of a person. The stronger the character, the more successful the person. Weak-willed and weak-willed people never achieve their goals and do not have what they really want. Only a person with a strong character will be able to show determination, perseverance, integrity, endurance, self-control, courage and courage. All these traits are inherent exclusively to people with a tempered character, will and spirit. Set a goal for yourself and become a strong person.
How to become a stronger woman in spirit and character
Girls are more fragile creatures than men. Of course, there are exceptions when the “woman” is not afraid to get into a fight and pulls the “TV” guy and a bunch of children. But every exception was preceded by its own sad story, when there was no one who would stand like a mountain in front of her and look into the eyes of all her difficulties. It's not about that kind of “power”. Now society places high demands on women.
Many people respect strong-willed women who will not give up in any difficulty and will not give up in problems. Who will support their man and show a radiant face and kindness, and their best friend will be a pillow (that’s what our grandmothers used to say - that’s where strong women were!). How to strengthen the spirit of gentle female personalities when there are so many demands placed on them from the outside:
- We don't expect much from others. Women are susceptible to beautiful words, they are gullible, and they sometimes take advantage of this. Therefore, you need to free yourself from illusions about other people. We tend to expect from others what we would do ourselves, but no! Don’t expect the same reaction as you, the same spiritual closeness that you experience, the same return. If you are disappointed, then this is not the person for you.
- Use your femininity correctly. Don’t take everything upon yourself, but don’t sit on someone’s neck with your legs dangling either. A strong-willed woman knows when to “turn on” a weak woman and when to show her back.
- Free yourself from psychological trauma. Many women had to experience moral or other pressure. Some endured and “moved on,” while others broke. To develop fortitude, you need to free yourself from past baggage. And if you need specialist help, don’t delay. You know, it’s better to sit at an appointment with a psychologist than to lie comfortably in a psychiatry.
- Take care of yourself. Any woman dreams of looking better, looking younger, this inspires her, energizes her and gives her confidence. To develop moral strength, tidy up your face, figure, and apartment. Cleaning, you know, also has psychotherapeutic value!
- Say no to procrastination. This is a habit of postponing everything until later. It takes a lot of energy, time and effort. Learn to finish what you start. It will be difficult at first, but then you will say “thank you” to yourself or me after reading this article!
- Set personal boundaries. Don't allow anyone to treat you with disrespect. Be it parents, husband, children, etc. If you decide to inflict offense in response, I do not advise it. This will also destroy you as a person. Just learn to say “no”, leave on time, burn bridges when it comes to health and life.
- Well, develop yourself. Many strong women are characterized by a constant craving for new things: new knowledge, new skills, new income!
Strong-willed woman
Thinking
A person’s thinking can also affect their character. To develop a strong character, you need to think positively. As practice shows, you can work on character at any time; if a person is strong, then he will be able to rebuild and change.
It is worth noting that what a person constantly thinks about and what he imagines in his thinking becomes his reality after some time. After all, how a person thinks is how he lives. Any wise and intelligent person thinks only positively, he considers himself confident and that he will succeed. If you want to attract success, you must think that you will succeed and have enough strength for everything. It’s not for nothing that people say that thoughts are material.
When it comes to women, they believe that next to him is a loved one who is the best, even if this is actually not the case. It is with such thoughts that women can be happy and have a good mood.
What qualities are inherent in people with a strong-willed character?
Positive traits are common to all people. It cannot be said that a person possessing these qualities automatically becomes the owner of a strong-willed character. However, these qualities contribute to the development of a strong character and their absence should be compensated for.
So, people with a strong character have:
- discipline and responsibility;
- honesty;
- courage, determination and boldness;
- self-confidence and leadership;
- respect;
- compassion;
- loyalty and reliability;
- patience and attention;
- ambition and motivation;
- determination;
- justice.
The set of qualities of a woman with a strong character differs from that of a man. For representatives of the stronger sex, the following signs of strong-willed character are added to the above:
- respect in society;
- success in the chosen type of activity;
- loyalty to family and ideal;
- following your purpose.
A woman with a strong-willed character also has the following traits:
- independence;
- ability to collaborate with other people;
- taking care of yourself and loved ones;
- accepting others as they are;
- trusting your intuition.
A child can also have the makings of a strong character. These include the following qualities:
- anger and stubbornness (not to be confused with aggression and capriciousness);
- desire for independent decision making;
- it is difficult to force a child to do something without his consent;
- emotional response to failures, the desire to deal with it and complete the work started.
Of course, we are not talking about small children whose character is just beginning to form. And their protests and stubbornness may be the product of another age crisis.
Ways to become a strong-willed man
Let's look at the top 8 ways to become a strong-willed man, based on the image and expectations put forward by society.
In the minds of most people, a strong man is one who is developed and healthy physically and intellectually, has an entrepreneurial spirit and is able to provide for himself and his family. He is also someone who maintains composure in all situations.
Personally, I am against such stereotypes, but the reality is this: men are expected to be successful in everything, and society is prohibited from expressing their feelings.
What then should you do to become strong in spirit?
Release your emotions
Since we're talking about stereotypes, I'll start with this. Psychology, no matter who you are - a man or a woman - the mental endurance of any person has a limit.
Emotions and feelings do not depend on gender. You cannot blame or scold yourself for something or block some feelings just because society supposedly expects this. It is important to accept and work through any of your conditions.
Yes, you don’t have to show it to other people if you really want to live up to stereotypes, but when you’re alone with yourself, you need to be yourself. This is the only way to achieve self-acceptance and maintain mental health. Anyone who suppresses or denies something in themselves cannot, a priori, be a strong person.
Play sports
The best way, acting on several fronts: improving health and improving appearance, releasing negative emotions, preventing burnout and combating other undesirable conditions (sport reduces the level of the stress hormone - cortisol and increases the production of serotonin - the hormone of joy).
If you don’t have time or other resources for the gym yet, then start with a small daily morning workout:
Ask for help
Be honest with yourself and others. Don’t be afraid to have a heart-to-heart talk with a friend, or tell your wife about something personal, ask a colleague for help, or talk to a psychologist. You're not trying to cure your own tooth, are you?
Although there are men who always play heroes in everything, for example, they endure toothache. True, this only makes things worse - then they still end up in the doctor’s office, but for extraction, and not for treatment of the tooth. The same applies to any other problems.
It's okay to ask for help. This is the skill of a strong personality.
Don't feel sorry for yourself, but don't be a hero either
Sitting on the neck of your mother or wife, drinking beer on the sofa, and working four jobs without sleep or rest in order to provide for yourself and a horde of people are two extremes of the same essence. A healthy balance is important in everything.
Wife and child are on maternity leave
? Yes, you need to provide for yourself and your family. There are no children, your wife doesn’t work and doesn’t do anything around the house (she lives by the principle “My husband works, but I’m beautiful”), but this model of relationship doesn’t suit you?
We need to say this directly
. If a woman works and adheres to the principle “My money is my money, and yours is ours,” and you are not satisfied with this, then this also needs to be said, etc.
Take a break
Before you start working on yourself, you need to take a break. It is necessary to take time for introspection and think about what you want to change in life and yourself, what to give up, and what to leave. First, think about what you would like to do under any circumstances, and what you absolutely do not want to do. Then decide on your life values and principles. Make a list of rules for your life.
Don't expect instant success and don't create an idol for yourself
Remember that each person has their own pace of development. And also, from birth, each person is given a different base for starting in life. There is no need to be upset if at the age of 30 you still do not have your own apartment or have not built a family or achieved something else that is of value to you (or to another person - the one with whom you compare yourself). Compare yourself only to yourself.
Take a week-long intensive course from E.B. Larssen
In the book “At the Limit” (see in the Litres library), the coach talks about how to change yourself in seven days, and what you need to do to become stronger in spirit.
The book describes the general rules of Hell Week and breaks down the transformation plan day by day. With its help, you will learn to fight laziness and fears, overcome difficulties, and get rid of shortcomings.
Don't boast about your strength
Some men try on an exaggerated image of a physically and psychologically strong person. They suppress others with their power and force others to obey them.
In fact, this is the behavior of a weak person.
Do not focus on your power and do not sort things out in a fight - “beat” with words. But at the same time, be prepared to give physical resistance, to protect yourself and those around you.
Exercises to determine your personal capabilities
- Analyze your strengths and weaknesses. To do this, you need to remember which actions cause you the most positive emotions. Write them down in a notebook, starting from the most significant to those that are least pleasant.
- The next step will be a reassessment of values. Rethink your life beliefs to understand which ones are strengths and which are disadvantages.
- Remember the people whose opinions are valuable to you. Why do you respect them? What traits do they have? Do you have these virtues?
- Remember the last time you were happy? What was happening at that moment? Why were you happy?
- After studying your answers, try to find similarities in them. Those features that will be repeated in most answers are your ideals, what you strive for.
- Determine if your beliefs match your real life.
- Study what is an advantage and what is a disadvantage in the area in which you live and work.
- Determine whether the environment is optimal for your personality development.
- Conduct a survey in which you ask people who know you what personality traits you have.
- Having received answers from loved ones, you should find all the common points in them. Make a list of character traits that most people find in you.
- Make a self-portrait. You will end up with a deep characterization of personal qualities.
- Make a list of things you need to do to improve your strengths and minimize your weaknesses.
Methods to become stronger in spirit
Do you want to become a strong personality? The strong in spirit do not have unnecessary suffering, dramatic attachments to the past, hesitation and affairs abandoned halfway. A strong person realizes what he wants and strives for it. He does not look for excuses or excuses, but brings what he starts to the desired result.
If you do not have these characteristics, strengthen your fortitude.
Why is it important:
- a strong person is attractive, he is respected, his opinion is taken into account;
- he controls his life, overcomes obstacles, does not bend to circumstances;
- copes with adverse conditions without stooping to questionable or dishonest actions;
- achieves success, does not waste time on nonsense, does not pay attention to trifles.
There are many other reasons that make you want to become mentally strong. Have you decided to strengthen your inner core? What has been done for this?
How to gain mental strength
Some people gain inner strength from birth, while others have to develop it.
Psychologists recommend following simple recommendations for those who are thinking about how to become a strong personality:
- Don't be afraid in advance
. Fear hinders development and ruins many endeavors in the bud. Are you haunted by negative, depressing thoughts? Get rid of them, don't be influenced by them. Fight your fears - distinguish reasonable worries from empty ones. - Don't feel sorry for yourself
. You need to love yourself, but there is destructive pity. Make responsible decisions, do not vainly blame others. Only you are responsible for what happens in your life. - Live in the present, minimize thinking about the past
. Focus on the current state, realize your current situation, feel it. Live today - neither in the past nor in the future. - Don't ignore your inner desires
. Do as you see fit, as long as it does not fundamentally conflict with ethics and the criminal code. - You cannot become a strong person if you do not appreciate all the good things that happen in life
. Appreciate the actions done for you, the support, the pleasant moments. - Don't worry about what is beyond your control
. If you cannot change the situation, do not worsen your situation by wasting energy. Let go of events, do what is under your control. - Accept failures with grace
. Look at missteps and unfulfilled hopes from a different perspective: it's a chance to try again and a lesson that gives you experience and extra strength.
Getting rid of old things
You definitely need to get rid of old things that are dragging you down. Those things that you haven’t used for several months should either be given to someone or thrown away. The same applies to people, if you do not communicate with a person and it is unlikely that he will be useful to you, then you need to boldly part with him. And don’t worry about those things and people you broke up with. Remember that there will be many useful and necessary acquaintances in your life. You just have to wait.
It is also imperative to part with those people and things that make you sad and remind you of something unpleasant. If you get rid of negativity in time, you will be able to find harmony and focus on what you really need.
You need to give up everything that you don't need. And you shouldn’t think about leaving this or that thing. You need to understand that you need to live in the present and make room in your life for the present, getting rid of the old and unnecessary.
