Why you're unlucky in love and what to do to be lucky

Reasons for bad luck

• Low self-esteem. If a girl underestimates her self-esteem, then she chooses a mate that is far from the best options;
• Inflated self-esteem will also not lead to anything good. In this case, the chances of having a strong relationship are minimal;
• Fear of loneliness. Many people, after breaking up one unsuccessful relationship, immediately try to create new ones and again make the same mistakes. New relationships also turn out to be unsuccessful. There is no need to rush to make new acquaintances just because you are afraid of being lonely. Take a break from your relationship and enjoy your solitude. You will have time to think about which half you need;
• Wrong choice of partner. You can't change an adult. And if you like a certain type of personality, but the relationship with him is not going well, then you need to think and change your preferences. It's time to stop stepping on the same rake, i.e. meet a person whose relationship will lead to another separation;
• Wrong behavior in relationships. Quarrels occur when both people do not know how to behave correctly. Men act like women or weaklings, and women act like bitches. Until the couple stops sorting things out and proving which of them should dominate, nothing good will come of it.

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When you are unlucky in love and relationships, you should not blame only yourself, but first of all you need to look for the reasons in yourself. This is the first step that any lady who has difficulty communicating with men should take. Many immediately take to aggression, saying that all men are the same and they only need one thing. The more you think biasedly, the worse it is for you. Prejudices kill objectivity, which many people lack in order to recognize their negative sides and correct them.

Inattention, unwillingness to learn

The fact is that we all make mistakes from time to time. In love, mistakes are the norm, otherwise every person would fall in love only once. It is important to learn not only from your own shortcomings, but also from those of others. If there are many quite realistic films about love. You can learn from them. Life situations from which you can learn some important lessons are not uncommon. Often women do what they did before. Maybe you are stepping on the same rake?

For example, you put too much pressure on your man, you were jealous of his every post. He left you. Now you're in a new relationship, but you do the same thing, and then you wonder why it doesn't work out. Look at your behavior objectively. Look at yourself as an imperfect person. Every life lesson brings you closer to your ideal, but we don’t know how many of these lessons we need to take. Some people need to get rid of minor shortcomings, while others need to reconsider absolutely their entire behavior. Change, don't think in stereotypes.

The purely physical basis of love

It is quite possible that you focus too much on your intimate life, forgetting that love is a symbiosis of spiritual and physical love. You need to change your approach. A man takes what he is allowed to take. When you come to the store, you see only one type of sausage. You buy it because you want it. The same thing happens with the physical aspect of love. If you cannot or do not want to give warmth to a man, then love will not even appear. It is very difficult for a man to even call such a relationship love. This model of behavior will be ideal only if you just need sex without commitment.

If you don’t have a relationship and can’t start one, then you should pay attention to your appearance. If you dress provocatively, a man will see you only as an object of physical lust. The same thing happens when you are too easily accessible in terms of behavior.

Purely spiritual love

This is the other side of the coin. You can give warmth, but for some reason you don’t bring physical satisfaction. This leads to the man looking for a woman on the side.

We are not yet talking about the reasons for the impossibility of physical contact, but if there is none, then nothing will come of it. If you want to be with a man, you will have to give yourself to him completely, not partially.

You're stressed and lack confidence

Liberation plays a very important role. If you feel free, men will immediately feel it. Tightness is a consequence of many reasons or one significant reason. Perhaps you have complexes. Of course, they should be, but they should not force you to consider yourself a lower being. There are many examples of women with very ordinary appearance being hugely successful with men. The secret is simple - they are confident in themselves. They know they can't please everyone, but they can please many. They don’t need anyone’s approval, because they know that they have the right to happiness, and therefore they don’t wait for it, but go towards it. Love yourself.

You don't take care of yourself

Even the highest self-esteem will not save you if you cannot make yourself beautiful - reveal your advantages and hide your disadvantages. There is no need to undergo expensive plastic surgery because every girl and woman is beautiful. You just need to take care of yourself in general. If you don't do this, problems will appear again and again, again and again. Dressing beautifully does not mean expensive. If you wear glasses, you can buy nicer frames. You can always change your hair color. In the modern world, looking decent is not so difficult if you try. You will start to have luck in finding a man, and you will be better able to keep your existing partner.

You are arrogant

This is the other side of uncertainty. Some girls are too unavailable. Perhaps men do not want to get to know you because you are too pompous, incredibly ambitious, and overly uncompromising.

Learn to respect men and their attention to you. You won't always be young and beautiful - sooner or later everyone gets old. That's when you will regret that you neglected male attention. Keep it simple. If you don't like a man, tell him so. Nobody will hate you if you are honest and open, without negativity.

You are too childish

Many women and girls perceive everything as child's play. This is undoubtedly a big plus, but when your immaturity is moderate. Ease is good, but overly childish views on love slow down the search for a life partner. Most likely, you are young and your parents are demanding. You are looking for a husband or boyfriend not for yourself, but for your mother, who thinks she knows absolutely everything about you. Even you don’t know anything about yourself at the beginning of your “love career.” This is the main reason for the mistakes you make. Quite often, infantilism persists in marriage. We need to get rid of it. It's not easy, but you have to try, otherwise such a marriage will not last long.

Manifestations of infantility are your stereotypes: a woman is weak, a man is strong, you need to wait for a prince, a man must provide for your family, a woman must give birth to children. There are no rules in relationships. You are looking for happiness. If it consists of not having children, but devoting yourself to a career, then why not? Look for a man with your feelings and intuition, and don’t try him on the template your parents gave you.

It's just a black streak

This option also cannot be ignored. If, after complete self-analysis, you do not have any thoughts about your shortcomings, then you should think about the fact that this is simply a period in life when luck has turned away from you. This is the most reasonable explanation if you cannot identify the problem of loneliness or relationship troubles.

Perhaps you are simply going through a difficult time right now. There is no need to think that this is some kind of curse. Coincidences and strange coincidences have not yet been canceled. Just wait a little longer, don’t give up, because faith in a bright future is no less important than faith in yourself.

Relationships require dedication because without it you will not be able to maintain balance. It is important not only to accept, but also to give in return. Open up to this world, let it in, so that love will come unexpectedly. Don't wait for the weather at sea - try to seduce the man you like.

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28.04.2018 01:45

Why you're unlucky in love

It is simply impossible to be happy without love. But not many people manage to meet true love and keep it for life. Mutual love makes people better and stronger. But if you are unlucky in your personal life, the relationship ends before it even begins, any person begins to lose faith in himself and look for reasons why he is haunted by failures.

Each person is unhappy in his own way, but everyone has similar reasons.

The main reason for bad luck in love is negative attitudes. Those. this is a subconscious conviction that “all men are the same”, “love passes over time”, “even good relationships pass and fall apart”.

These attitudes are laid down in childhood due to negative examples seen or formed in adulthood due to unsuccessful relationships experienced. And as a result, a person cannot decide on a new relationship. And when everything is decided, he cannot make a choice or a responsible step and remains lonely for a long time. You need to get rid of negative attitudes, and then happiness will smile on you.

The second reason is dislike for yourself. If you give to your loved one more than you receive in return, most likely you are not confident in yourself and do not love yourself.

Anyone who does not feel worthy of love, respect and self-care is unlikely to meet a worthy life partner.

It is necessary to get rid of low self-esteem, feel confident, learn not only to give to your loved one, but also to receive something in return.

A cheerful person who exudes confidence and energy will be able to attract a worthy partner.

Methods for dealing with bad luck in your personal life

Now I want to give advice that is a dime a dozen on the Internet. The most interesting thing is that they are distributed right and left by those who themselves do not have a family, who do not have children, but they “understand a lot” about why they have no luck in their personal lives with men)))

When I read their recommendations, I clutch my head because someone will read this. Will take and follow these tips. Do you know what will happen?

You will be like a squirrel in a wheel spinning from one partner to another! From one relationship to another. And at this time the cats will scratch your soul. And there will still be no light in life.

This is what “smart” and “advanced egoists” without a family advise.

Why beautiful and smart girls are unlucky in love

It is no coincidence that people have a saying “Don’t be born beautiful, but be born happy.”

Why are beauties often unlucky in their personal lives?

Here are some main reasons:

• Excessive demands on a partner. Beautiful women usually get used to the increased attention of men, so they rarely agree to serious relationships with fans. It seems to them that they deserve the best and wait for their “prince on a white horse” for years, forgetting that every man has shortcomings;
• Oddly enough, few people want to meet a beautiful girl. Potential suitors believe that they are simply unworthy of such a beauty and do not make any attempts to get to know each other;
• Many beautiful women are selfish and have bad character. Therefore, men do not want to build their lives with such a partner;
• Some girls are taught from childhood that they should have all the best. Therefore, they remain in search all their lives and cannot find a worthy match for themselves;
• Men like beautiful, liberated women, but they choose completely different ones as wives.

For a man to create a family, it is not enough for a woman to be beautiful. In addition, she must have other qualities. Be gentle, caring, a good housewife, know how to cook, keep the house clean, respect your husband.

Women's happiness depends on a woman's ability to perceive any situation easily, with humor and accept people for who they really are. Such qualities indicate that the girl has adequate self-esteem, she respects herself and the people around her, and this is invaluable for building personal happiness.

How can you scare off girls?

Some girls, after the first meeting with a guy, constantly avoid further dates, fearing ridicule from an overly arrogant young man. You must convince your chosen one of your own authority and not show her your arrogant side. There are men who consider themselves confident and successful, but do not take responsibility for their words, which many girls do not like.

Important: if a guy on a date starts a conversation by discussing other people's mistakes in order to show his best side, then he likes to gossip.

By taking pleasure in making someone's life unhappy, the gossiper can entertain her date. Unfortunately, over time, such treatment from men begins to tire women and offend them. As a result, they no longer go on dates.

Arrogance

No girl would like a guy who takes it upon himself to lend money to others. If he is confident in himself, does not forget about his rights, protects himself and his loved ones in difficult situations. An arrogant egoist cares only about himself, knowing that he can get lucky in the process of manipulating a woman.

An arrogant man can always be recognized at a glance. Only a confident man can look a woman in the face when talking to her. He will not look into a crowd of people he knows to approach her.

A woman knows how to appreciate modesty in the character of a man who does not remind her of his achievements every time. An arrogant person makes others think that he is picky and self-confident. This rush is because he is ashamed to admit his incompetence in the face of the problem.

Fact! An arrogant man talking to a girl makes her feel uncomfortable, which makes her doubt his experience and knowledge.

Arrogant guys' mannerisms reveal their arrogance and they are so confident in their presentation that they have complete confidence. An overly arrogant interlocutor can be recognized by a condescending tone of voice, constant interruption of someone else's speech and the inability to correct it.

With serious intentions

Often a man is rejected by single women who do not like the fact that their chosen one is starting a serious relationship with them. He does this to guide someone's love life. Girls don't like it when their partner declares his serious intentions, implying that he is constantly monitoring their actions.

Important! A man who demands information from his partner every hour about her affairs stops attracting women to him.

A man's serious intentions can also be related to the bride's financial situation. As the owner of a house or apartment, she cannot imagine herself as someone else’s thing or girl for her partner. If the guy realizes this in a timely manner, there may be no problems in the relationship.

What to do to be lucky in love

Here are some recommendations:

• If you broke up with your loved one, don't try to get him back. Don't be sad about parting with him. On the contrary, let him worry that he missed his happiness, underestimated you;
• You must clearly understand who you need, with whom you would like to build a serious relationship and stay for life;
• Do not open your soul to another immediately, when you first meet. Do it gradually. Share, look at his reaction. If there is no reaction or it is negative, then this is not the person you need;
• Don't rush to jump into his bed. We must first understand what kind of person he is;
• Don't feel sorry for yourself. Everyone has failures, and pity deprives you of strength. Complaining and feeling sorry for yourself will not help you become happy and loved;
• Love yourself simply for being you and respect yourself for everything you have achieved in life. If you don't love yourself, then no one else will love you.
• Very often, women idealize the image of their future partner. They want to see in him something that is not and will not be. In real life, dreams are broken. You must look at your chosen one wisely;
• Analyze your past mistakes and try to avoid them in a new relationship.

It happens that a woman says to herself “I will never get married,” “I will always be lonely.” This is the case when it is necessary to solve psychological problems and this requires the help of a psychologist.

It depends only on you whether the relationship with a worthy person will be strong and mutual. And remember that all accidents in life are not accidental. They are predetermined by your attitude towards yourself, emotions and behavior.

General advice from psychologists, real examples that work

To start building a romance correctly, psychologists recommend following recommendations that allow each partner to feel comfortable:

1. People need to be given freedom. Constant calls and control over the situation exhausts both of them and leads to separation.
2. The ability to give thanks is important. Your other half will want to do something nice. Even if you didn’t like your beloved’s dinner or your boyfriend’s gift, you can’t say this: this is how a person loses the desire to do things for his chosen one or chosen one.
3. You can't be monotonous. It is important to change your image, your date place, anything, so as not to make your partner feel bored and look for something new!

Often men are lonely because of the prevailing stereotypes that before starting a family, you need to be successful. With this behavior they provoke women to be materialistic.

Millions of families work, make money together and are happy at the same time, because they have an incentive, grow, and develop. In pursuit of material values, people risk missing out on love and being left with acquired wealth without happiness.

Tips on how to become loved

A woman needs to feel needed, and this is the main thing for which she lives. And she feels needed only when a loved one appears in her life.

As a rule, the one who loves and appreciates herself becomes happy. This is what makes it unique and special. She is not looking for a relationship just so as not to be left alone. She knows her own worth, does not try to change people to suit her interests, but perceives them as they really are.

Such a woman knows that any man will be happy next to her. And she has her own point of view on relationships with the opposite sex: will she be happy with her chosen one, will he not suppress her personality, will she still have the opportunity for personal growth.

She has her own interests and passions in life. She knows what she wants and will be able to fight for her happiness. If a relationship with a man causes only negative emotions, she will break off this relationship without an ounce of doubt.

She understands that strong, stable relationships can only exist between people who have similar views on life, goals, aspirations and life values. She is sure that she will definitely be lucky in love.

And now specific actions and practices

• You need to learn to think positively and be filled with the energy of happiness. When you have happiness inside, you will be able to radiate it and give it to others. As you know, everyone is drawn to positive people, but why? Remember, someone comes, the life of the party, and a crowd immediately surrounds him - he radiates energy that everyone wants to partake of. It doesn’t matter who it is, a man or a woman, everyone wants to communicate with him at least a little. Because how you can profit from this very energy. Become such a person, a Sunshine person.

I am a practical person in life, I don’t like to talk a lot, I like to take things and do them. Therefore, from words to deeds. Below is a short video practice. Do it right now, it's easy.

• Learn to interact with nature. To start, just spend more time in nature. Mother Nature will always help restore internal imbalance.

We remember why we have no luck in our personal lives with men. Because something inside us, some kind of program does not allow us to do this. Accordingly, there is an internal imbalance, and it needs to be eliminated.

You are probably familiar with the feeling of complete harmony, happiness, and euphoria after relaxing in the forest. Remember that feeling of inner fullness when, just sitting for an hour by the river, you looked at the water, and you felt warm and good. Sometimes a half-hour walk in the park will bring many times more benefits than going to a psychologist. We are children of nature, and it helps us. You need to notice it, appreciate it and use it to your advantage. Interact correctly with nature, learn to feel yourself, hear yourself, your true desires.

Get rid of the past, practice!

For those who are ready to act, and not just read about this topic and sigh, I give you another highly effective practice. In it we will work through the corridor of the past and get rid of the burden of the past. You need to break these ties that are weighing you down. And also drive fears out of yourself.

Fear is most often the subpersonality of the hare, which is registered in you. Once you get rid of the hare, you will stop being afraid. Finally, take a deep breath and look to the future with confidence. I wrote about subpersonalities in one of my articles, here

Cleaning the corridor of the past

Why are you unlucky in your personal life with men? How can I get rid of this problem right now?

You need to mentally, right now, imagine the most painful, most unpleasant relationship. Clearly remember this relationship, scroll through the painful scenes. Imagine your partner, here he is in front of you.

Most likely you feel uncomfortable right now, this is normal and exactly how it should be. Through pain, through tears, we will now get rid of these ballasts forever.

So. You need 5-7 minutes to remember all the pain that this relationship brought you. All the most difficult, unpleasant moments. All the phrases, words that were said to each other. You need to remember all this as deeply as possible. To get completely angry and reach the boiling point now. This is for a good cause. You can cry at this stage, but just complete the practice. Honestly, honestly, reveal everything within yourself. All the pain and resentment that lurks within you. What you have hidden deep down - bring it out.

Now, imagine that in front of you is a deep abyss, an abyss. And now you need to take together everything, everything that you have just been turning around in yourself, in your head. All this needs to be put in a bag. Perhaps the bag will be huge, it doesn’t matter. Everyone was shoved in there, including the partner, his image. And the bag was thrown into the abyss. Huh!

My soul felt a little better, but that’s not all. You need to do the practice several times. To such a state that when you even want to imagine your relationship, you want to get angry, but that’s it! Nothing seems to be happening anymore. No images. No emotions.

This is an incredibly effective practice. She works wonders.

It would seem that only 5-7 minutes need to be spent on doing it in order to get rid of the pain of the past. And sometimes we can’t get out of problems for years. In the course “Teaching Esoterics Online” we do similar practices using my videos, it’s much simpler, more effective and clearer. Watch the course introductory video for FREE. And after it you will notice the first results, changes in your life.

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Signs for good luck in love

In mythology, there were androgynes - the first people who combined the characteristics of a man and a woman.

Androgynes are people endowed with external characteristics of both sexes.

Source Wikipedia

Like the Titans, they were very strong and encroached on the power of the gods. Zeus decided to cut them in half to halve their strength and scatter them throughout the world. Since then, people are doomed to search for their soulmate.

Every person dreams of finding his partner, with whom he will find spiritual and physical harmony, with whom he will feel comfortable and to whom he can entrust his innermost dreams.

Many people pass by their love or have simply lost faith that they can find their soul mate.

To prevent this from happening, you should pay attention to folk signs, belief in which will help attract love:

• Unlucky in little things, lucky in love;
• If a woman has changed her image, then she subconsciously prepares for a meeting with her betrothed;
• A precious piece of jewelry lost by a woman at home is interpreted by occultists as an offering to the god of love. A lost ring means that a loved one is on the threshold, an earring means a wedding is coming;
• The appearance of a dove on the windowsill means an imminent marriage.

Signs for luck can be used by romantic and impressionable people for decisive action.

Unwillingness to take responsibility4

Most often it sounds like this: “Before I start with a girl, I have to earn a million, and also buy a car, a house, apartments for my future children...”. On the one hand, it seems that this is a concern for the future. But in fact, this is not why many men are in no hurry to build a serious relationship. They are simply afraid of responsibility.

If a good girl appears nearby, ready to go through any crisis with her beloved and generally live with her sweetheart in a hut, the guy begins to push her away. “Let’s wait,” “It’s not time yet,” “Don’t rush things,” etc. – these are just another excuse from a boy who is afraid of serious intentions. The partner feels this and leaves. And then it seems that the guy just has no luck with girls.

How to become happy

In fact, life is wonderful. Look around you, because happiness is always nearby. And it is in simple things - the bright sun, the blue cloudless sky, the happy eyes of children.

You must understand that your life depends on you, only you can manage it as you see fit. Therefore, you need to live today, think about the present, because these moments will soon pass and remain in the past. But you can’t change the past, just as we can’t control the future.

It is very important to realize that you need to be happy now, and not put off this moment for later.

If you think that you have no one to love right now, this is not true at all. Love yourself, your surroundings, the world around you. And then life will return this love to you. Remember that everything you give will come back to you many times over. Maintain good relationships with the people around you.

Every person needs communication, and communication can make a person happy or, on the contrary, unhappy. These are family, neighbors, colleagues, friends. Communicate only with those people who give you positivity.

Smile more often and you will feel much better.

Thank God and the Universe for everything you have now. This way you open yourself up to something new that needs to happen in your life.

Reason #2 - incorrect settings, like dead ballast

Why is it difficult to build relationships? Have you paid attention to who is asking this question? As a rule, these are people over 30, who certainly live with their parents. Or people who have achieved much greater heights than perhaps they themselves planned. These people have one thing in common - in addition to problems in their personal lives - these are their attitudes.

“You should only communicate with people in your circle!” “It’s not appropriate for people in our society to communicate with people like that...” “People like him are no match for you!” “Don’t you dare even think about...” Sounds familiar? And try “disobey”!

The law of opposites attracting rarely fails. It was “thanks to him” that kings fell in love with beggar women, intellectuals with representatives of the middle class, there are a lot of similar examples.

Wrong attitudes imposed by our parents, environment, and sometimes we impose them on ourselves, are one of the reasons why we have no luck in our personal lives with men.

Hypopituitarism is a disease that prevents you from falling in love

Have you ever heard the term hypopituitarism? No? Consider yourself lucky, because hypopituitarism is a serious endocrine disease associated with the inability of the anterior pituitary gland to produce hormones. Other depressing consequences of the disease include the inability to love. The scary thing is that hypopituitarism has no cure. And although the condition can be controlled with hormone replacement therapy, not every person will be capable of such a feat as throwing tons of pills into the body every day, putting up with the side effects just to get a ghostly chance of loving someone. But let's not go into details and move on to less sad reasons.

Low self-esteem5

Appearance problems, speech impediments, unfulfilled dreams and much more can lead to an inferiority complex. The guy feels insecure in the company of girls, and if he does achieve one of them, he begins to behave, roughly speaking, like a doormat. If he has low self-esteem, he believes that he is not worthy of a good girl. Allows her absolutely everything, is afraid to express her opinion, refuses to take the position of a leader or at least an equal in the relationship.

This has a negative effect on women - they do not want to bear all the responsibility on themselves.

As a result, conflicts arise due to complexities. If a guy thinks that he is a loser who no one needs, then situations will happen that only confirm this. Therefore, it is important to develop self-love. You can sign up for a sports section. The first successes in this industry will add confidence. Reading literature on the topic, attending social events, and expanding your circle of acquaintances are suitable.

Problems with the fair sex should not always be blamed on the girls themselves. Sometimes the reasons why a guy has no luck with girls lies in his own mistakes.