How to become a psychologically strong person - 6 exercises

In today's world there is very little room for humanism and mutual assistance. Alas, the principle “Survival of the fittest” works much more often. And those who are internally weak very quickly become a victim of natural selection - they are simply “eaten up.” Inner strength is what separates a potential winner from a potential victim. You can see it in your eyes, in your gait, and in your tone of voice. Women are drawn to the owners of this inner core, as if spellbound.

Do you want to stand on a par with those who have made success their life position? Then you must learn how to become stronger mentally and psychologically.

Don't give in to difficulties

Life is always ready to surprise us and, alas, these surprises are not always pleasant. The difference between a weak and a strong person is that the weak, being knocked down by some kind of life collision, falls into a stupor and becomes unprepared for active action for a long time. A strong person immediately mobilizes all resources to restore his position or, if this is impossible, to adapt to the new “rules of the game” with minimal losses.

Don’t waste time complaining, gather yourself together, draw the necessary conclusions and continue moving along your vector, otherwise you will quickly be thrown to the sidelines!

Positive thinking

Life can be hard and unfair, but by focusing on the feeling that you are unworthy, that you don’t deserve better, you completely exclude the possibility of controlling your destiny. Mentally strong people develop a positive thinking strategy and look for the positive in the worst situations. They do not try on the role of a victim, do not look for those to blame for their defeats and troubles, and do not compare their problems with those of others. They view every failure as a kind of “challenge of fate”, look for ways out, and improve themselves. Such people have enough flexibility to adapt to unexpected circumstances and benefit from the most difficult situations.

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In the eyes of fear

Fear is a normal reaction of any person to something that threatens his life or well-being. But a morally strong person will never allow fear to control him or influence important decisions. Therefore, it is necessary to get rid of fears. The best way to do this is to face your fears. Do again and again what you were afraid to do before, and then fear will give in and will no longer have control over you. Let fear into your thoughts more often, analyze it, break it down into its components. Any phobia is irrational and therefore does not tolerate clear analysis, releasing its “carrier” to freedom.

What is a strong personality

A strong personality is a person who is ready to solve his problems and overcome difficulties. He does not shift responsibility for his life onto the shoulders of others, does not blame other people and does not take the position of a victim. He is used to taking action rather than sitting idly by.

What else distinguishes a strong personality? The ability to maintain psychological and emotional stability in any situation, to make informed and independent decisions.

Important! A person with a strong character becomes the master of his life. He controls her and controls her completely.

Tomorrow has already come

Our perception does not know the word “tomorrow”. Every person lives today, at this hour and this minute. Therefore, the words “I’ll put it off until tomorrow” are very often synonymous with “I’ll never do it.” This applies not only to your career, it applies to all areas of life - recreation, hobbies, sports. How do you want to become morally and psychologically stronger if you put off “until tomorrow” the opportunity to approach the woman you like? Live and enjoy the present moment, discarding the past and without fear of the future!

Give your power to another

Giving away your power is the worst thing you can do! If you want to be mentally strong, stop giving your strength to someone else.

Don't wait for others to take your side. Go your own way, taking other people with you.

This will help you take control of your actions. It will also increase your ability to achieve your goals.

Let's take Oprah Winfrey as an example. She encountered poverty and sexual violence very early in her life. But she did not feel sorry for herself and did not give her life to someone else.

So don't give up your power!

The world is not perfect

Some things are beyond human ability to change and you have to put up with them. You're not trying to persuade a volcano to stop erupting, are you? So you shouldn’t waste time on people whose attitudes and principles differ from yours, trying to convince them that you are right. In this way, you put yourself in a position of justification, and in the end it may turn out quite the opposite - you will accept a set of attitudes that is alien to you. If someone simply annoys you, learn to be forgiving of other people's weaknesses. Forgiveness and forbearance are a sign of strength.

Feeling sorry for yourself

Mentally strong people have healthy habits. You must control your thoughts, behavior and emotions.

So, have you decided to become mentally strong? The first thing you should avoid is “self-pity.”

This is a completely normal feeling for every person. If things don't go your way, you fail and then wallow in self-pity.

Well, feeling sorry for yourself won't do you any good. This makes it difficult to breathe deeply and wastes time and energy. Self-pity harms relationships with other people and leads to negative emotions.

You need it? Negative energy only brings disappointment.

So what should you do? You need to appreciate what you have. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, feel grateful for the gift of life!

Accept the inevitable

There are things, often unpleasant ones, that a person cannot change, no matter what internal psychological and moral strength he possesses. These include illnesses, congenital physical disabilities, and the death of loved ones. To be a strong person means to be able to accept what we cannot change and begin to build a life taking into account new circumstances and conditions. Complaining about circumstances, wringing your hands and falling into inactivity under the influence of external factors is the lot of the weak. A morally strong person quickly realizes the difference between what he can influence and what is a priori stronger than him. Draws conclusions and moves on.

It remains to add that moral and psychological strength should not be confused with “walking on corpses.” Ruthlessness is the lot of a weak person who indulges his complexes at the expense of those who are even weaker than himself. A strong person is not only purposeful and collected, he is kind and generous!

© Author of the article: your reliable friend - the magician Fose (Boris Shabrin): practicing psychologist, psychic.

Morally strong person - who is this?

People who have failed, suffered a loss, or are in a difficult situation are usually told: “Be strong!” Of course, this does not mean physical strength, but moral strength. Who are these strong people who don’t care about anything?

Morally strong people are ordinary people living among us. However, unlike many, they have the ability to control their passions and emotions, not allowing them to take over and dominate them. It is morally strong people who do not follow their weaknesses and desires and are able to withstand unfavorable circumstances who achieve success in life.

Their opposites are morally weak people who, even having great abilities and talents, end up left with nothing, because they are unable to pull themselves together, resist troubles and most often are victims of their own emotions and weaknesses. They lack such a quality as determination, and when faced with difficulties, they, as a rule, “break down.”

A strong person differs from a weak person in that if something doesn’t go well in his life, he blames himself, and a weak person blames others and circumstances.

However, people are often mistaken for strong people who are rude, insensitive, characterized by boorish behavior, who, in order to get what they want, are ready to “walk over corpses” and step over generally accepted moral values. Such behavior is precisely a manifestation of weakness.

At the same time, people who are kind, vulnerable, and sensitive are often considered weak. But people who seem weak at first glance in difficult circumstances can show character and strength. So we cannot judge by first impression whether the person in front of us is strong or weak. What can we say about others! Sometimes we cannot judge for ourselves what type of people we are until we find ourselves in difficult circumstances.

Of course, being morally strong is much better than being weak.

Other people are drawn to morally strong people - obviously, in order to feel support or to become infected with their energy, to learn from them how to be strong. Whether this quality is innate - moral strength - does not matter. The main thing is that you can cultivate it in yourself. True, in order to overcome your weaknesses and become strong, you again need moral strength.

Lack of gossip and intrigue

“Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people,” said the first lady of the United States, wife of 32nd President Franklin Roosevelt, Anna Eleanor. Mentally strong people really have a special way of thinking: they focus on planning, achieving goals, and not on other people's mistakes. They have no need to waste their energy on gossip, intrigue, or eliminate competitors using unworthy methods. Mentally strong people radiate positivity and act constructively - and this helps them achieve what they want.

Instead of discussing the failures or successes of others, engage in self-improvement. Focus on your inner self, identify your strengths and weaknesses, try to turn your weaknesses into strengths. Consider the people around you as colleagues and companions, look for like-minded people, expand your circle of acquaintances. Avoid communicating with hypocritical and deceitful people so as not to become a victim of intrigue and slander. When you build a powerful and reliable team, your chances of success increase significantly.

Ability to accept change

Psychologically strong people are flexible and adapt easily. They know that fear of change only gets in the way and becomes an obstacle to success. Such a person is ready for change and easily creates a plan of action. Only when you are ready for change will you get the good out of it. You have to be open to what's happening and that will help you.

A resilient person: benefits

How to become reckless by the standards of modern society, and develop strong qualities in yourself that allow you to successfully withstand life’s adversities, be able to defend your own interests and the interests of your immediate environment? It is enough to develop moral stability in yourself, and these tasks can be successfully solved.

The benefits of resilience as a moral quality are obvious:

• gives strength to overcome obstacles and difficulties;
• ensures respect for others and for oneself;
• gives positivity about the future;
• gives inner peace to external circumstances;
• gives freedom from fears and uncertainty.

Resilience in a person is expressed as a character trait (the ability to control emotions, calmness, determination) and physical capabilities (the ability to withstand significant loads).

Active life position

The main characteristics of mentally strong people are an active life position, initiative, courage, and activity. Such features imply control over the situation, the presence of certain goals, control of one’s life and destiny. Simply put, a mentally strong person always knows what he is doing and why he is doing it. He has aspirations and dreams, he does not live every day aimlessly. He takes responsibility for his own life, focuses on the main thing, and slowly but surely moves towards his goal.

They forgive without expecting an apology

Mentally tough people understand that life goes much easier if you let go of grievances and forgive even those who never apologized. Resentment allows unpleasant moments from the past to destroy your happiness in the present. Hatred and anger as emotional parasites destroy the joy of life.

Negative emotions stemming from long-term grudges cause a stress response in your body, and stress can have devastating effects (both physical and mental). When you forgive someone, it doesn't excuse their actions, it frees you from existing as their victim.

Regular training

Research has shown that people who exercise twice a week feel more competent socially, intellectually and physically. They value themselves higher and raise their self-esteem. Finally, physical changes in the body help them to be more confident, which is the key to mental strength. It turns out that if you want to become mentally stronger, start training your body!

Kindness

For some reason, kindness has always been considered synonymous with weakness and naivety. In fact, being kind is not that easy. To do this you need to be a self-sufficient, self-confident, decisive person. Mentally strong people engage in self-improvement, develop high standards, have good self-awareness, and therefore do not envy or compete with others. At the same time, they do not focus on themselves, they are not selfish and self-centered. Such people see other people's problems and are always ready to help those in need. They build healthy relationships through warmth and trust. They care about others, and this care usually leads them to successful interpersonal relationships. They find time and energy for those around them. By radiating goodness, mentally strong people feel moral satisfaction.

Do you consider yourself a mentally strong person?

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Emotional intellect

Psychological strength is determined by emotional intelligence. You cannot be a psychologically strong person if you do not understand negative emotions, do not know how to manage them and achieve a productive result in spite of everything. The moments in which your psychological strength is tested also test your emotional intelligence. This is a flexible skill that you can develop through conscious effort. All the most successful people have high emotional intelligence. It is relatively rare: only thirty-six percent of people are able to recognize what emotions they are experiencing.

Getting enough sleep

The importance of sleep for moral strength cannot be overstated. When you sleep, your brain gets rid of toxic proteins that are byproducts of nervous activity. This only happens in a dream. If you don't rest, proteins remain in your brain cells and prevent you from thinking. A mentally strong person knows that his self-control and attention suffer from lack of rest, so sleep is his priority. Remember this and always try to allow yourself to rest.

My experience

Once upon a time I couldn’t stand up for myself, didn’t accept myself, didn’t know how to say “no” and was afraid to express my opinion. The maximum that I could do was to push him away with my rudeness, aggressiveness and unpleasant appearance even before meeting a person. This is how my defense mechanism worked.

One day I decided that it was time to fight my problems, and not run away from them. I can no longer remember exactly when and how it started. But I remember exactly how my transformation from a victim into a strong person took place. It all started with the fact that I drew up a portrait of the person I want to be. Moreover, this concerned both internal qualities and appearance and behavior.