#Resourcefulness
There are days when you don’t want to get out of bed and do your daily activities. It’s good that if they happen infrequently, this condition quickly passes and we can again respond to the challenges of the world and remain in service. But what if laziness and apathy accompany you constantly? Why does this happen and is it necessary to fight this condition?
Article by Karina Richtere for the website “organicwoman.ru”,
original article
Content:
- Reasons for laziness
- How to overcome laziness and apathy
- How to overcome laziness and fatigue
- How to overcome laziness and start taking action
- How to overcome laziness and start playing sports
- How to overcome laziness and develop determination
Laziness is a strange human condition that cripples his life and prevents him from realizing his talents.
Moral fatigue, accumulated tension and intrapersonal conflicts are often mistaken for laziness.
But as soon as a person rests, relieves tension and resolves intrapersonal conflict, he comes to life and becomes active again.
What is laziness?
Laziness is a psychological state in which there is no desire and motivation for any action.
I will tell you my purely personal opinion, which was formed on the basis of many years of working with people. There are not as many truly lazy people as you might think.
A little theory or what laziness is
In psychology, laziness is viewed as the opposite of will, having a negative connotation.
Will is a psychological process by which a person regulates his behavior and actions necessary to achieve a particular goal. Laziness “blocks” this process, thereby preventing you from living a full life: solving assigned tasks, getting results, reaching new heights, learning the unknown. Laziness covers all areas of life. She has no age or gender, education or social status. Don't confuse laziness and procrastination . Procrastination is the tendency to put off doing or thinking for later. Instead of doing useful things, a person is constantly distracted by unimportant ones: looking at the news or a page on social networks, talking on the phone, putting things in order in the workplace. At its core, procrastination is chaos.
In a state of procrastination, a person understands perfectly well that completing this or that work is important, but will procrastinate until the very last moment, when all deadlines are already running out.
The “classic” lazy person not only does not want to do anything, but also does not experience the joy of new tasks. Procrastinators take on new projects with great enthusiasm and like to take on a huge number of tasks. But they can’t cope with them in time (there are still a lot of other more “important”) ones. As a result, the ongoing struggle with procrastination becomes their constant companion.
A lazy person is not at all worried about the fact that the work is not completed on time, while a procrastinator is ready to simply “tear his hair out.”
If a procrastinator manages to finish things on time, he experiences great elation, while a lazy person is indifferent.
Reasons for laziness
For the majority of people, the state of “laziness” has reasons.
-Lack of perspective -Internal protest against something -Internal protest against someone’s psychological pressure -Negative emotional state -Fears -Negative life experiences -Lack of skills necessary for action -Dependence on the opinions and assessments of others -Low self-esteem -Inflated self-esteem - Loss of self-confidence - Disappointment in life - Loss of moral and life guidelines - Demotivation
If the cause of “laziness” is not found and removed, the problem may worsen. As a result, a person can drive himself to the brink. This can cause apathy, gambling addiction, alcoholism or procrastination. As a rule, the hidden cause of laziness “corrodes” a person from the inside and does not give him peace. Those. laziness is a consequence of another problem!!!
Basically, the problem of “laziness” concerns primarily men.
Of course, I would like to say that the reason for the large number of men suffering from laziness is our subtle mental organization, but this is not so.
The reason for the common male laziness, especially the functioning of the male brain. The male brain is more conservative and less plastic than the female brain.
Many men, finding themselves in a difficult situation and not understanding how, what and when to do, end up in a dead-end state of consciousness. And until they see a solution to the problem that has arisen, they cannot get out of this state.
This is often the cause of so-called laziness.
Of course there are other reasons.
For example, if a person was brought up only with the “stick” motivation and never saw the “carrot”. Such a person remains “allergic” to pressure, demands and coercion for the rest of his life, especially from close people. And when such pressure begins, a person unconsciously avoids the necessary action. The most difficult thing is that all this happens at the subconscious level and the person does not understand what is happening to him.
Or
If a person has a negative experience and is afraid to make mistakes. Accordingly, in difficult situations, he unconsciously avoids performing an important or significant action. What looks like reluctance and laziness.
Or
If a person is dependent on the assessment of others and has low self-esteem. Such a person tries to do everything to earn due appreciation. And his whole life is a desire to earn the necessary assessment from the outside by “correct” deeds and actions.
But a moment comes when a person has neither the strength nor the desire to live further with such a motive. And then “laziness” appears.
And sometimes it’s just fatigue, which sometimes accumulates for years.
Many different subconscious reasons can be a trigger for laziness. And they need to be dealt with. I described only a few possible options
How apathetic depression affects family and work
Regardless of the form and neglect of the situation, apathetic depression affects everyday life, work and family. For example, a caring mother and loving wife, until she became psychologically ill, was actively involved with her children, preparing them for school, and trying to pamper them with delicious dishes. But with the onset of apathetic depression, the person lost motivation along with vital energy. He can continue to do the same thing, but without the positive emotions, as it was before.
An apathetic state encourages you to work only because of the need to get money. And previously favorite things and hobbies may disappear from everyday life.
All this needs to be observed. Family members and friends are usually the first to notice problems.
How to overcome laziness and apathy
Apathy appears, as a rule, on the basis of accumulated nervous tension.
The cause of tension may be:
-Intrapersonal conflicts that torment a person for a long time.
- Unresolved conflicts with other people (especially with loved ones) that last a long time.
-Hard to solve problems that a person spends a lot of time trying to solve.
-A difficult atmosphere at home or at work, which burdens a person for a long time.
Or something similar.
Considering the reason that has been pressing on a person’s psyche for a long time, it is necessary to select something that will help him cope with apathy and laziness.
The simplest and most effective thing that I usually recommend to my clients in such situations is high-quality physical activity.
Physical activity: Relieves tension. Shift attention away from the problem. They give new impressions, sensations, emotions and strength. Raises self-esteem.
When a person begins to exercise regularly, within 2 - 3 days he receives the first results. Energy, interest in life and even a good mood appear. He begins to feel the taste of life again.
But the unresolved problem may continue to weigh on us.
The second tool I usually recommend is changing the atmosphere. Go on vacation. Start visiting cultural institutions (theaters, concerts, exhibitions, etc.). This will allow you to switch and get new impressions and emotions that are not related to the problem.
But even in this case, sometimes the problem remains a problem and continues to press.
If sports and a change of atmosphere do not help, then it is necessary to deal with the unconscious. We need to find what weighs on us from within and free a person from it. I usually resolve this issue through human consultation. This can be done by another quality specialist. As a rule, either a psychologist or a psychotherapist.
But basically, sports and a change of atmosphere are enough. You can sign up for a consultation with me here .
TOP 3 effective exercises to combat laziness
If you don’t know how to get rid of fatigue and drowsiness, laziness and temporary apathy, try these exercises. They definitely won’t cause any harm, but they may well help.
Exercise 1. In this case, the wedge is knocked out with a wedge. You need to sit on the couch alone and do nothing. Nothing at all - don’t turn on the TV, don’t listen to music, don’t read a book, don’t pick up your phone. Just sit for at least 20 minutes. Try not to think about anything. Most likely, after the allotted time has passed, you will discover a strong desire to do something that you did not want to do before.
Exercise 2. In this case, you need to try to find motivation. The place of execution is again the sofa. We sit down, close our eyes and mentally transport ourselves to the future. It is necessary to imagine all the circumstances that will occur after completing the task in front of you. You will be paid money, you will get an excellent mark on the exam, you will be thanked. Imagine the task completed and try to feel your state at the same time.
Exercise 3. Particularly effective for gambling people. You need to make a bet with one of your relatives or friends. At the same time, it is important to involve the other person in the argument - you should receive a reward for doing something. The easiest way to do this is to make a bet with the initiator of the action. That is, the person asks you to do something that you are frankly too lazy to do. Make a bet with him - then there will be much more motivation.
How to overcome laziness and fatigue
In the previous example, we looked at cases in which some external or internal problem leads to apathy and laziness.
Now let's look at another option. A person has accumulated fatigue, which leads to a lack of desire and strength to do anything.
In this case, the cause is often workaholism, high responsibility, perfectionism and inability to rest.
Workaholics devote their entire lives to work activity. Work for them is the meaning of life. If they don't have a job, they feel lost.
The problem is not even workaholism, but what makes them so? And why do they feel uncomfortable without active work?
Basically, the cause of workaholism is a false attitude located in the subconscious.
Here are examples of such settings:
-A good person must be hardworking! - Selfish people don’t like to work! -Only constant work will give you the respect of the people around you! -To achieve success, you need to constantly work! -You can’t catch a fish from a pond without difficulty. And so on.
A person, under the influence of such attitudes, “works hard” around the clock. He realizes the meaning of his unconscious attitude into life day after day. He plows in order to be respected, appreciated and loved! In order to achieve success or fulfillment! So that he is not considered lazy or selfish! In order to secure a future for yourself and your children!
But no matter how strong a person is, mental resources have a limit. As you reach your limit, forcing yourself to work becomes more and more difficult every day. A workaholic begins to feel lazy more and more often.
In the case described above, a person needs to learn how to rest effectively.
In such cases, I usually recommend that the person choose daily and weekly rest options. Rest should bring joy, new impressions and emotions.
Plus, a hard-working person simply needs to rest for 10-30 days, twice a year at least! But this vacation should be filled with impressions and a change in atmosphere, climate and living conditions!
In addition to all this, the workaholic needs to get out of the influence of false attitudes. Because it’s not so much work that takes strength, but unconscious motives coming from limiting attitudes.
This can be done either independently or by contacting a specialist who understands such problems.
You can sign up for my consultation here .
In perfectionism, hyper-responsibility, as well as in workaholism, there are attitudes that have become a false motive for a person’s life. People with such attitudes do not live, but implement their attitudes.
And until you resolve the issue of attitudes, perfectionism or hyper-responsibility will not go away.
How to overcome laziness and start taking action
Very often, the root of laziness is a lack of perspective. A person performs a familiar set of actions at work and at home day after day. But he doesn’t see any prospects.
Basically, this happens when some more or less comfortable life has been achieved. There is housing There is a set of necessary material goods There is a job that brings the necessary income
Everything is fine. Everything has been worked out.
This is where some people have a dangerous moment! There is nothing to strive for! Why stress if everything is fine?
Laziness appears. Or it would be more accurate to say - lack of purpose. The goals have been achieved - there is no motive.
A person may begin to look for a motive in harmful activities. And they can delay it.
Some people who find themselves in such a situation begin to unconsciously destroy what they have. And they do it without realizing it themselves.
Having destroyed what they have, they come to life again and start their lives all over again. And life is in full swing for them again.
In such cases, it is necessary to develop your life and define new goals. There is always something that can be improved.
You need to consciously look for something new for yourself that will impress. Communication with more successful people who constantly find something new helps with this.
New types of recreation, communication with new active people give new ideas and desires!
Treatment and prevention
To cure apathy, it is necessary to accurately determine its cause. The treatment program and its duration will depend on the root cause. Sometimes, if apathy appears against a background of stress and overexertion and it lasts for a short time, it will be enough for a person to rest well in a calm environment.
A treatment program for apathy may include:
- psychotherapy;
- physiotherapy;
- physical exercise;
- medications.
To prevent apathy, it is necessary to avoid stress, follow a work and rest schedule, get enough sleep, take daily walks in the fresh air, and watch your diet. Vitamin and mineral complexes will be useful. You should also limit your alcohol consumption and give up other bad habits.
If you notice that you have lost your “thirst for life” or that your favorite activities no longer bring you joy, consult a doctor. Medical specialists will make a diagnosis and suggest a course of treatment. It should be remembered that apathy can be a symptom of a serious illness that requires immediate treatment. Contact the SM-Clinic for qualified medical care for you and your loved ones.
How to overcome laziness and start playing sports
If a person avoids playing sports, he most likely associates playing sports with suffering.
The person himself may want this, but the body resists. And as soon as a person gives up the idea of going in for sports, he feels good.
A person can understand that he simply needs sports!!! The motive - to be healthy or strong, or energetic, or beautiful - loses to the fact that for this you have to constantly suffer.
Such people have practically no feelings of joy, pleasure or self-realization associated with sports activities in their body memory. It is not uncommon for such people to associate sports activities with negative experiences from the past (bullying by peers, defeats during sports games, mental violence from authority figures during training, demotivation).
In this case: - It is necessary to select a sport for which a person has a physiological predisposition. -It is necessary to find a place where a person can study comfortably. -It is necessary to choose a training regime and duration that will be comfortable for the person. -And think through many different motives. Under the influence of which a person will engage.
At first, a person will gain positive experience from sports. Under the influence of classes and positive experiences, intrapersonal conflicts will be resolved. Interest and desire will grow.
When a person has the first real results at the level of the body and sensations, this will become a driving force. This happens already from the second week of daily classes.
To make it easier, it is better to find yourself a good trainer who will help you practice and motivate you to practice.
Problems associated with playing sports are often hampered by dependence on the opinions and assessments of other people.
Such a person in the gym constantly feels someone’s attention on him. It takes a lot of mental strength.
If a person constantly feels the attention of others during classes, and needs support from loved ones regarding choices and results, it is better to solve this with a specialist. A quality psychologist or psychotherapist will help with this!
When does it occur
Frequent worries and stress at work and in the family lead to emotional exhaustion. At the same time, the person constantly wants to sleep, he does not have the energy to engage in even ordinary activities. Over time, a person's condition worsens, and fatigue becomes chronic. This is mixed with diseases of the heart, blood vessels, and digestive tract.
Lack of life goals
Constant fatigue and drowsiness occurs in those who are not satisfied with their life. This is what leads to a job you don’t like, when you force yourself to go to the office or enterprise every morning. Those who stop developing, not realizing their potential, become emotionally burnt out.
The same result awaits workers who devote all their strength to the work they love, but do not receive a final positive result. A reduced emotional background causes muscle weakness and irritability.
Nervous tension, shock
Everyone has enough troubles in life. When life goes through a dark period: a loved one dies, a divorce is coming, children bring grief - then the body cannot cope with the stress and fails. It is expressed by the appearance of drowsiness and fatigue. You give up, it seems that life is over. It is in this situation that depression develops.
It’s important to set yourself up for the fact that everything will pass. Problems will subside and life will return to normal.
No support
An adult’s psyche suffers when loved ones do not support him in difficult life situations. When faced with a choice, it is difficult to determine what the right thing to do is. And when there is no person nearby who can understand and forgive, then lethargy and apathy come. At the same time, they feel muscle weakness and a reluctance to think and reason. With a long-term condition, a feeling of anxiety, suspiciousness, and irritability is mixed in.
Weakness of character
Personality traits influence why fatigue occurs. For pampered people it is more difficult to deal with problems. Any deviation from everyday life in one direction or another causes panic. And decision making is difficult.
The weak-willed person always needs support like no one else. Without it, you give up, panic and stress begin. They are accompanied by irritability and anxiety in some, and lethargy and drowsiness in others.
Increased fatigue
Chronic fatigue syndrome is the scourge of modern people, especially residents of big cities. Excessive fatigue due to poor nutrition, prolonged exposure to high or low temperatures, diseases associated with metabolic disorders, major bleeding, and injuries can lead to weakness of the body.
Often, for six months, a state persists when you don’t want to do anything, just sleep. After all, at this time the level of melatonin in the blood is increased. Fatigue syndrome complicates life, lasting for a long time with varying severity of symptoms. Women between 20 and 40 years of age suffer from the pathology more often.
Stress
Everyone knows what it means to feel tired, exhausted, weak and depressed, and what suffering this brings. Everyday stress negatively affects the entire body:
- increased blood pressure;
- increased heart rate;
- suppression of the immune system.
The release of stress hormones leads to the fact that energy reserves are depleted, reducing the protective response. The supply of nutrients, B vitamins, antioxidants, zinc and other substances necessary for the functioning of the immune system is depleted. The body begins to age faster. It’s not for nothing that stress is called the silent killer. If you do not remove stress using reasonable methods, its consequences will negatively affect your health.
