How to ask a man for money or gifts without getting rejected?

06.09.201604.07.2017 Nadezhda Plotnikova 23 comments

Not all girls agree to heaven in a temporary home with a loved one. Some enterprising representatives of the fairer sex want to meet a wealthy and generous gentleman who can solve all their financial problems: give gifts, give money for expensive things.

However, the problem is that such men are often wary of any attacks on their hefty wallets.

In this case, young ladies will have to try hard to scam a man out of money. But how can this be done gracefully, unnoticed by a man and with the maximum return from oneself? Very important question!

Should you ask a man for money?

Any man, regardless of status - boyfriend, lover, husband - must provide his beloved with everything necessary. It is quite natural to receive money or gifts from a man.

It is very important to choose the moment when you decide to ask for money

Not every man will often give expensive things or give cash on his own initiative. It is important for a woman to be able to properly promote him for money: with hints, cunning, and direct requests. How - read on.

Dating websites

“As long as fools live in the world, we can live by deception” is not just a line from a children’s song, but a harsh reality. Scammers use social networks, trading platforms, and dating sites. A list of popular methods has been compiled:

1. “Can you put money on the Internet, and I’ll give you cash when we meet?” Complicated version of divorce. An attacker can spend weeks or even months ingratiating himself with the victim's trust. On the day of the long-awaited meeting, on the way to the house of the chosen one or chosen one, a request is received to pay for some service. After all, it’s still on the way. Everything except the account into which the money goes is a lie. The phone number is unavailable and the address is incorrect.
2. Express divorce. One of the leaders in the rating. The basis is a request for help in any emergency situation: the death of a cat/hamster, illness of a mother/sister/great-niece. A real gentleman cannot refuse a little financial help to an attractive girl. In fact, behind the graceful forms and sweet smile, a two-meter hairy criminal may be hiding.
3. “How about nude photos?” Preliminary preparation - the attacker asks the target about close friends, relatives, and colleagues. After flirting comes a more intimate stage. The exchange of candid photographs is offered. Having received the pictures, the guy changes the tone of the conversation and threatens to send erotic content to everyone he knows if he does not receive a monetary reward.
4. “I’m selling the photo.” For a fee, a woman (less often a man) offers to send a video or photo archive with perky pictures.
5. The foreigner promises to send an original and very valuable gift by mail. All that remains is to pay the customs fee. Afterwards – blacklisting.

The list is completed by an epic scheme called “Anti-cinema for two.” One of the newest methods. The chosen one invites her gentleman to watch a movie in an intimate setting. She knows a great atmospheric place. A few thousand rubles per session on the big screen for two is acceptable, the victim thinks. The result is that the funds are sent directly to the scammers. There is no place with that name.

How to promote a man with money: advice from a psychologist

It is very important to choose the moment when you decide to ask for money.

The gentleman must be:

• in good spirits;
• calm;
• full;
• relaxed;
• mentally “disconnected” from work issues.

It is easy for a woman to help her boyfriend achieve this state. For example, after a working day, wait for him with a delicious dinner. During the meal, it is important to let the man talk. To do this, you should ask how his day was.

In the evening you can give him a small massage. Once the emotions have been spilled out, you should move on to the request.

Method of promoting a man 1: Give a hint

To begin with, you can try to simply hint to the man about what you need.

To begin with, you can simply try to hint to the man about what you need.

This can be done virtually without words. There are several ways:

1. On a social network, send a link to the item you like. Write that you want to buy it and are waiting for his advice. A normal man will either order the item himself or give money to buy it.
2. Write down on a piece of paper a list of the things you would like to receive by a certain date. Accidentally leave a piece of paper in a visible place. If your boyfriend didn't notice the piece of paper right away, ask him about it under the pretext that you can't find it. When he finds it, he will read it, willingly or unwillingly. At a minimum, he will buy one thing, and at a maximum, he will give money to buy all things.
3. Dreamily talk about what you want: “Darling, how I would like a new phone! I saw an interesting model in the store. We could take photos together in excellent quality!” The main thing is to indicate that the purchase will be useful to him. If the man does not respond, repeat what you said a few days later.

Method of promoting a man 2: Push him to envy

Share your impressions of the day with your gentleman. Be sure to tell them that you met your friend on the street. She was going to the beauty salon. Her husband (lover) gave her money for the procedures.

We voice the request correctly

Of course, every man (with the exception of notorious misers) will be happy to support his beloved, be a noble knight for her and wrap her in furs. However, all this is possible if the girl correctly, without demands and hysterics, addresses this delicate issue to her chosen one.

Method number 1. Personal request

This is an ideal way to ask for gifts from men. Firstly, you will be able to clearly explain the need for financial “infusions”, and secondly, to be honest, this way he will have fewer reasons to refuse you. What should you keep in mind?

1. Choose the right time to talk. If your lover’s day is not going well (conflicts at work, just hungry), the chance of hearing a negative answer increases sharply.
2. Voice your request confidently, without awkward movements or a trembling voice. In any case, you are not asking for alms!
3. Men love specifics, so your phrase about “what a beautiful dress that actress is wearing over there” is unlikely to be considered a request for money. Try to explain clearly, but without unnecessary details, why this money is needed.
4. Give arguments that will interest your lover. For example, colorfully describe how wonderful you will look at an upcoming corporate party after purchasing a dress and going to a beauty salon.
5. Be sure to thank the guy after your request is granted. And do it very dignified - for example, confidently state that you would not expect anything different from a generous, caring and real man with whom you are very lucky. The main thing is to praise sincerely.

Method number 2. Written message

You can be creative and ask for money, for example, in a letter. However, here you need to behave much more carefully, since a direct text in which there will be a demand for a certain amount can anger your lover. You risk getting a lecture about the difficulty of getting cash and your extravagance.

Using a magnet, stick a picture of a gorgeous set of underwear and a small text on the refrigerator: “If the best guy in the world helps with the finances, this beauty will be on me at night.” It's a rare man who can resist such a promise.

Hints are not the best option, but if the guy understands you well, send him a photo of your bare feet on social networks, then a photo of cute shoes, and at the end - your own sad face. This hint cannot be misunderstood.

How to trick a man into giving gifts: advice from a psychologist

Take a young man with you on a shopping trip
In order for a man to happily give you gifts and willingly give you money, you must adhere to some rules of divorce:

1. Give him a small but nice gift yourself. For example, knit a scarf. Justify the gift as a sign of caring for the man. After such an act, he will definitely want to thank you.
2. Be sure to walk with your boyfriend past shop windows before holidays: birthday, March 8, New Year, Valentine's Day or relationship anniversary. Hint to him about the gifts you want to receive from him.
3. Invite your man to go shopping or to a restaurant on his pay day.
4. On your birthday , talk about what other gifts you would like to receive additionally.
5. Always proudly tell third parties about a man's gifts in his presence. He needs to hear your words and other people's reactions.
6. Admire a man's success and give him little surprises. In return, he will also want to give something.

Why doesn't a man give gifts to his beloved?

There is a category of men who do not give gifts to the woman they love at all, or who give them only on major holidays.

There are different reasons for this behavior:

• peculiarities of upbringing (in his family, the father does not give gifts to the mother);
• greed;
• lack of confidence in the future of the relationship;
• bitter experience (if a man spent a lot of money and energy on his previous passion, and she used him and then abandoned him);
• a blow to pride (if he previously gave something that caused bewilderment, disappointment or laughter);
• not knowing what to give a woman, fear of making a mistake;
• poor memory for dates and significant events.

Important! A generous, well-mannered man will always give small gifts and surprises.

Enemy Weapon

Dear women! Don’t be naive and don’t think that you are surrounded entirely by fools and suckers. There are also many hunters among men. And do you know what main weapon they use? Pressure on pity, on the ability to sympathize, on decency, in the end. Therefore, if suddenly after dinner at a restaurant a man is surprised to discover that he “forgot his money at home,” this should alert you. And if the next time he suddenly gets a “stomach grip” and he urgently demands that you immediately buy a fast-acting medicine, this is another bell.

Or, passing by a cinema, he reads the poster and says that this film reminds him so much of your relationship and awakens such warm or passionate feelings that you need to watch it immediately, but bad luck, there’s not enough money for tickets... And you, touched, go buy tickets. What do you think? It simply accustoms you to the idea that paying for it is normal, and there is nothing wrong with such a situation. By the way, the “rule of three payments” is one of the favorite techniques of pick-up artists. Don't give in to provocations. And if you go hunting, then this is clearly not your prey. Run away from such men and quickly!

How to ask money from a man or guy?

To ask for money, you need special tricks:

1. It is important to create a special mood before asking, so that the gentleman is ready to listen and understand you. A direct request will have no effect.
2. Start asking for small amounts of money so as not to immediately scare off your suitor. This way you will also check for greed. A generous gentleman will definitely support you and give you a larger amount.
3. Give the man time to make a decision. Don't put pressure on him.
4. Realistically assess the guy's capabilities. Don't demand the impossible from him.
5. Be sure to thank the man for the money you received.

What should you remember when dating a divorced man, and when should you not marry him?

It’s not worth jumping out to marry a divorced man (it makes sense to at least wait and take a closer look) if...

• His feelings for his ex-wife have not cooled down.
• You feel like you are being used.
• Instead of a strong, calm (albeit burned) man, you see in front of you an irritated whiner who complains to you from morning to evening that he “wasted his whole life on her” and is waiting for your approval and support.

Important to remember:

A divorced man who has had a really hard time with his divorce is unlikely to cry to his new woman about it. And in general, real men don’t discuss their problems and don’t like to answer uncomfortable questions.

You shouldn’t take his side if he suddenly opens up - “that’s an infection, well, you had to get yourself into such a mess!” Maintain neutrality and just be a listener. Discussing his ex-wife will not benefit your relationship.

Don't try to outdo his ex-wife in culinary and other arts. If he really loves you, it won’t be because you cook borscht better than his ex. Be yourself.

If a man speaks badly about his ex-half, this at least does not characterize him from the best side.

Don't be jealous of a man about his past. If love is real, it doesn’t matter what he had or with whom – it’s already a closed book. And you have your own, from scratch.

A divorced man is always internally ready for a divorce. This is a psychological “law” that you can’t escape. Firstly, the man is already prepared in advance for problems in the relationship, and secondly, he will not weigh the pros and cons for a long time if the thought of breaking up arises (he already has experience).

Don’t rush to take on all your man’s problems. This applies to both “psychological assistance to a divorced man” and material problems. Don’t rush to hand him the keys to your apartment, give him your salary and... get married

Time will tell whether this is your prince or just a divorced man who needs a place to live, a “vest” and a pretty comforter.

Find out the reason for the divorce and pay attention to the man’s voluntary and involuntary behavior. A divorced man may turn out to be an eternal “child” who cannot exist without “mom” - without buns for tea, borscht, ironed shirts and soup in a jar to take to work

Or a despot from whom his ex-wife simply ran away in the middle of the night.

Of course, everything is individual - all the pros and cons, all the “peculiarities” of divorced men, their reactions and feelings. In most cases, a man’s divorce is just one stage of his life, which does not affect his relationship with a new woman.

There is no point in rushing to “legitimize” relationships (time puts everything in its place), but distrust of your other half, even a divorced one, is the first step towards separation.

If you liked our article and have any thoughts on this matter, share with us! It is very important for us to know your opinion!

What mistakes should you not make?

Usually married lovers are the most generous with money and gifts.
To successfully deceive a man with money, you absolutely cannot:

• raise your voice;
• give an ultimatum;
• blackmail;
• humiliate his dignity;
• enter into the image of a victim who needs means to survive (to evoke pity);
• abuse requests;
• forget to thank for any gift.

Preparing the battlefield

How to breed a man “naturally”? Intrigue and make a man pursue you. The male passion of a hunter will force him to fork out money even in the process of courtship, and on the way to his cherished goal, men do not skimp. After all, they are sure that they are doing this for themselves, and not for the woman.

When thinking about how to deceive a man, remember: very wealthy and wealthy men are sincerely confident that beautiful women want to meet them only for money. Of course (let's not lie), in fact, this is the case, but they don't need to know about it. True, because of their wealth, some men simply go crazy, considering themselves an unappreciated treasure, the navel of the Earth and downright utter happiness, which they also have to run after. Well, let them think so.

It is useless to convince such fools (well, what else can you call such specimens?) Your task is to strengthen him in these thoughts and awaken in him the desire to make you happy. Or it is necessary to provoke the moneybag to constantly strive to prove his worth.

How? First of all, when going hunting, be fully armed. Get ready to first invest in creating your own image of a wealthy and unapproachable beauty. An impeccable appearance, “traces” of visiting expensive beauty salons, branded accessories should become your weapon in this hunt.

By the way, the Pygmalion complex lives and flourishes in some men: they are simply looking everywhere for “material” to create their Galatea. Therefore, the exact opposite image of a simpleton (with inclinations!) will also help to hook the moneybag, who imagines himself to be an educator and connoisseur of beauty. True, it is almost impossible to recognize when and which particular image will “work”. So you can only rely on your intuition.

Bottom line

At the same time, it is worth understanding one more idea: there are simply greedy men, and no matter what you do, do not promote them with money. They may be rich, have enough money, but all this will not save them from greed. Such men will refuse to give you money, get annoyed every time you need financial help, convince you that money and gifts are not the main thing, every time ask about what his money went for, share with you expenses and just spend money only on yourself.

Such people don't change. The reasons for their greed lie not so much in you, but in those women, situations or even mothers when their work and money were taken away. There is no way to eliminate greed. Therefore, immediately make a decision whether to be with such men or look for more generous gentlemen.

Women's tricks and tricks

How to trick a guy into expensive gifts without him guessing about your intentions? Saying directly that you need money is often not an option. Judging by women’s forums, the techniques of “selfish” girls largely coincide, the most important thing is that they work.

How to do it right, read on.

Don't show much happiness over small gifts. Your task is to convey to your beau that you prefer luxurious gifts. However, you shouldn’t give up small souvenirs and things either, just try to say or show that you are striving for more. In order for a man to continue to give money, know how to thank him for every gift he gives. Naturally, the amount of gratitude will depend on the amount of money the gentleman will spend. However, if only demands come from you, without giving back, there is a chance that the guy will go in search of a more accommodating partner. Never directly ask how much your date earns, especially during first meetings. In general, at first it is better not to touch upon money issues, showing that the person himself is important to you in a relationship, and not the volume of his wallet or the fullness of his credit card. At first, pay (or pretend that you want to pay) your expenses, for example, when visiting a restaurant. When the waiter brings the bill, take it yourself and show your intentions to pay, at least for yourself. This way you will show your own independence, and also check how generous or greedy the potential sponsor is. In the latter case, you should not waste your time and energy on it. Don't show that you can't buy something expensive for yourself. If you spot a chic bag or gloves in a store, don’t say that you are unable to purchase such an item. Just sigh a little, lick it, or try saying that this hat would go great with your suit. At first, you shouldn’t say directly that you need these gloves. The next step is to give it a try and ask for money for something.

At the same time, it is important not to push the man and not openly demand. It is important to guess the moment so that the request for sponsorship is received adequately and even with joy

After all, many guys like it when a self-sufficient woman asks for something. Promoting a representative of the stronger sex for gifts without sexual return is your task at the beginning of a relationship. And it's not even about the moral side of the issue. Easy prey will most likely attract a guy, but only for a short period of time. If, after the first dates, a gentleman offers to go to his home for a “cup of coffee,” politely but firmly refuse. Let him understand that a lot needs to be done to get such a valuable trophy. If you definitely feel that the “client is ripe,” try making an unexpected move - give the man something serious yourself (within reasonable limits). This way you will show that you don’t really need money or gifts from him, you just want to give him a surprise. Most likely, in the near future you will receive an expensive present that will cover your necessary expenses many times over. To make a man spend money on you, convince him that all the money (even indirectly) goes to him. For example, a trip to distant countries is paid for so that he feels good, and you only enhance the pleasant impressions. A beautiful dress for a companion accompanying a guy to a corporate party will demonstrate his status, etc.

Tricks and recommendations on how to cheat a guy out of gifts and money do not work on all representatives of the stronger sex. Some men are categorically against any spending on fickle life partners, other gentlemen themselves seek to profit at the expense of the girls, and still others are simply unable to satisfy the girls’ appetites.

If you notice that a man cannot be promoted, switch to other potential “victims”.

And one more important point - do not let the gentleman fully study and understand you. To keep him close to you for as long as possible, be a mystery, constantly change, surprise him with your changeable mood and behavior.

Otherwise, the man will understand that he has conquered you, and, therefore, it is no longer necessary to spend gifts and money on you. Do you need it?

Scheme 5 Tearful legend

Even if the agreement on a date looks quite plausible - for example, to meet in the center and figure out where to go next on the spot, it is too early to let down your guard: scammers know how to spin this situation to their advantage. When there are only a few hours left before the meeting, the “girl” suddenly has a problem: her wallet was stolen. To pity her interlocutor, she can add a sob story: she supposedly went to visit her sick grandmother in a village outside the city.

In an attempt to impress his interlocutor, the man offers to transfer money without even waiting for a request from the girl. Naturally, the answer he hears is agreement, but no one comes to the date.

Sometimes they tell another legend: supposedly the temperature suddenly rose, but this is not a reason to cancel the meeting - you can meet right away at the girl’s home. When the man arrives, the new “friend” wants to cook dinner and asks to put money on her card to buy groceries. As soon as the victim transfers the amount, a blacklist awaits him.

Those men who want to bring groceries themselves are also deceived: when the victim calls from the store to discuss the shopping list, the girl asks at the same time to put money on her mobile phone, at least 1000 rubles. Having paid, the man finds himself with nothing: no one answers the phone, and other people live at the given address.

How to avoid getting caught. Do not transfer money to strangers.

How women lose money on dating sites

Sometimes after meeting someone, the adventures just begin. Read amazing stories about how:

1. The wife took over the shared house and evicted her husband onto the street.
2. After the death of her husband, the new wife took all the property from his children.
3. The husband almost left his wife with nothing using a piece of paper.