Everyone knows that sometimes women are able to very “softly and tenderly” take over the dominant role in a relationship; in this case, the man is unconsciously relegated to the second role, only periodically making different decisions. However, some representatives of the stronger sex sometimes begin to wonder, how to be a man in a relationship with a woman? What should a real man do to show his independence and at the same time hold a girl, make her respect him and not allow her to manipulate.
Henpecked men are those who allow a woman to insult and humiliate them. They do not react to her betrayals and manipulations.
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When breaking up, henpecked men beg their girlfriend to give them a second chance, crawling to her on their knees. In some cases, they behave very passively, shifting almost all matters to their chosen one. Nobody likes those who creep, regardless of gender.
Know how to listen
Be attentive to the girl’s words, show your interest. When a story is told about an important experience or life events, remember more details. This will help you get out of it if your beloved suddenly assumes that you turned a deaf ear to her speech. Learn to understand body language so you can see what isn't being said. For example, if a lady is silent and twirls her hair, it means she is nervous and worried.
How to be a man in a relationship with a woman
You need to show yourself as a real man not only in terms of relationships. A guy should be able to satisfy his girlfriend’s needs, not only because otherwise he faces a scandal, but because he is attentive to her and wants to please her on his own.
Women are characterized by a very significant egocentrism. Having started dating a man and falling in love with him, a woman is able to reshape his character, force him to change his clothing style, hairstyle, and all in order for the man to correspond to her ideas about the ideal gentleman. If a man begins to fulfill her requests, then he has a high risk of facing the fact that the woman no longer loves him, because he has changed too much. Feelings will begin to fade, a crisis will come. Therefore, a man must be able to resist her egocentrism, without allowing her to intrude too deeply into his personality.
Intimacy plays one of the most important roles in a relationship. The main problem is that many are too afraid to express what they are not happy with in their partner at the moment.
Both need satisfaction, so it is necessary to communicate on the topic of sex so that both can enjoy the process. A man should not be embarrassed to express his fantasies and desire variety, and a woman should also make her suggestions. The norms here are set by the couple themselves, so there should be no shame.
A man needs to actively participate in a girl’s life, help her and support her in a difficult situation. A woman must understand that in front of her is a man whom she can rely on at any moment in her life.
Make surprises
Pay attention more often. Choose gifts thoughtfully. Let it be something simple and sweet, but necessary, useful, related to her profession, favorite activities, dreams. Arrange surprises for your joint memorable dates, holidays, events. Don’t forget to sometimes do something romantic unexpectedly, just like that. I like it, remember it, and make it even more attractive.
What to consider
Since being a man in relationships with women means working on yourself, it is important to understand that not all qualities will be easy to cultivate in yourself.
Emotions are what distinguishes a man from a woman. Girls are rarely guided by cold calculation when making decisions, relying more on their feelings. They use a similar approach in relationships, unlike the stronger sex. Hysterics, impulsiveness, not entirely logical conclusions drawn hastily - all this is the work of hormones that can influence decisions made.
What qualities should you pay attention to:
- Calm. He should not descend into an answering cry. If a man behaves like a hysteric, then no woman can feel calm next to him, and even during quarrels, such behavior can lead to sad consequences.
- Determination. Having received a goal, a man must begin to achieve it, without stopping even with repeated failures. You need to make plans on your own and start discussing the future, otherwise a woman will start doing this, taking over the leadership.
- Willingness to make a decision. Yes, women can manage the family for some time, but they cannot take on all the responsibility. When it is necessary to act, a man must instantly cast aside doubts and then get down to business.
- Don't worry for no reason. A real man is not paranoid; he will not secretly spy on a girl or hack her accounts on social networks. If he has a reason to worry, he only needs to arrange a serious conversation, his authority will do the rest.
Also, a real man should have some interests other than work and just lying on the couch. Having a good hobby not only allows you to become more confident, but also gives you the opportunity to become higher in the eyes of a woman, which is quite important for maintaining leadership.
At the same time, a man must be ready to be distracted at any moment in order to spend time with his beloved, so he can show her that he is a real man.
Don't act to your detriment4
You're familiar with this situation, when you're already getting ready to go fishing for the weekend, have been thinking about a luxurious vacation all week, and suddenly you get a call: your friends want you to help them put up wallpaper. You reluctantly agree and your dreams crumble right before your eyes.
An upset wife and children are sitting nearby, who so wanted to watch dad catch fish. But you couldn't say no. And there are countless such situations. No doubt you are a good friend. But when you dare to ask them for help in return, they always find excuses, don't they? It’s high time for you to think about whether they are real friends or just taking advantage of your reliability. Learn to say no!
Think first of all about yourself and your family and never act to the detriment of your interests. True friends will always understand if you tell them that you had other plans. As a last resort, it is possible to find a compromise that takes into account the wishes of both parties. It’s not as difficult as it seems, and by saying “no” once, you will feel unprecedented freedom and finally realize your old dream.
However, there are situations when your help is simply needed. You should not constantly refuse your loved ones and put your interests above all else. We must soberly assess the situation and act appropriately. Otherwise, rumors about your selfishness will spread at the speed of light, and even your true friends will turn their backs on you.
Basic rules of a “bad” guy2
First of all, you need to change your behavior. If you are used to bending under others to the detriment of yourself, you should urgently change tactics. Yes, this will not be easy to do. People who are used to you being “good” will not be at all happy about your changes, but you shouldn’t pay attention to them. To make it easier for you to transform from a wimp into a real man, follow a few important rules:
Some tips
No one is born into this world as a formed person, everything depends on external and internal factors that constantly influence the life, character, consciousness and events around a man. Not every boy is lucky enough to receive a proper upbringing in a full-fledged family, so you need to cultivate a real warrior and a strong man on your own.
The first thing you need to overcome is laziness, for this you can attend trainings, seminars, study the biography of famous male figures . The second equally important activity for every man is sports, which disciplines and improves physical fitness. The third aspect on the path to growth and development is intelligence, which is best improved by reading. At the same time, it is important to choose the right literature, and not read pulp novels and detective stories.
5 Kindness
Do you agree that a unique man is an exclusive man? I think yes. Let's remember approximately what the average modern man looks like? And let’s think about how we can show off our exclusivity against its background .
Let's talk about it in a positive way - this is a person with a sense of humor, who knows his worth, and knows how to stand up for himself. And what follows from this? Aggressiveness. Bitterness. Selfishness and indifference to others, closedness and callousness. Oh yes, how many times does all this creep out at the most unnecessary moment and push girls away from you forever.
Unfortunately, the modern world forces people to become like this. Driving all our humanity deep, deep. Well, you already guessed what the quality is that will instantly set you apart from all men and put you on a pedestal. kindness in the modern world .
And a man, a kind man, is a rarity and a one-off. But again, guys, I'm not talking about excesses. Not when you allow everyone to “plow” you, silently putting their backs on you. I'm talking about a different kindness.
Help an old man, take pity on a kitten, treat someone with understanding (not judgment). Justify someone else's mistake (out loud).
There is no need to allow yourself to be used out of the “kindness of your heart.” It is important to do things of your own accord and impulse that demonstrate your good soul. And it is advisable to do all this in front of the girl. Yes, this is such commercialism and thoughtfulness.
And one more thing: do not confuse aggressiveness with brutality. The second is when a slight movement demonstrates courage and strength, in a positive sense. Protection, care, guardianship. Aggressiveness has a negative connotation, and the goal is not unification, but opposition.
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I warned you at the beginning that there are a lot of categorical judgments in this post; I am expressing here my subjective position based on my experience.
If any of the phrases offended or pricked you in any way, I apologize, I had no such intention. I would be grateful if you would share your insights from your experience of following the male path in the comments.
Words or actions?
Famous actress Tatyana Arntgolts said: “An action is the main thing a man can do for a woman. Appreciating this act is the main thing a woman can do for a man.” I think you will agree that words are less important for the fair half than actions. Unfortunately, there are many strong men in the world who do not want and do not do the simplest, most banal things that please the ladies. Therefore, when choosing between someone who can sing sweetly and beautifully and someone who is ready to do things for her, a woman most often focuses her attention on the second.
Your own teacher
Let now each of the men who reads these lines honestly answer HIMSELF the question: “Am I worthy to call myself a real man?”
Honestly! To myself. Without the need to justify yourself to anyone, without the desire to please someone or the shame of admitting your shortcomings to other people.
You are the person who knows much more about yourself than others. Answer yourself: there are qualities in you that you would like to eradicate, and in their place grow something more than just “quality.”
We are all not perfect, but a man who is aware of his status will not waste his life and time on pettiness and baseness. If you decide to take charge of your upbringing, then cast aside all doubts and act.
So, first you need to identify for yourself the areas in which you need to work on corrections. It is better to write down this and subsequent work on paper - visualizing goals greatly helps in their implementation.
