14 reasons why a woman needs a man

“It’s good for me alone,” say men who don’t have good relationships with women. The reasons may be very different, but now we are not talking about them, but about why relationships are needed. If you don’t know whether you need to give up your free life for the sake of women’s claims and whims, then look at the situation from different angles.

In psychology, there is a concept of false motivation - this is when a person comes up with an excuse for his actions, replacing values. For example, a man wants to look presentable and is sure that for this he needs a beautiful wife and seven children. When and at what moment such a position was formed is unknown, but he goes towards his goal, and when he achieves it, he understands that everything is wrong. He doesn’t love his wife, that’s why he has a mistress, and the children are annoying and very far from his ideal idea. As a result, disappointment due to high expectations and the belief that women are evil. So, what are relationships for? Let's figure it out together!

The value of relationships from a scientific point of view

There is a theory that the institution of family played an important role in human evolution. Stable relationships help to accumulate material wealth, increase the level of comfort and security. As a result, people gain capital and longer life, as well as dominance over other animals.

A “lone wolf” is more difficult to control, so on the other hand, the imposition of family values can be compared to religion. But people for the most part are social and have difficulty living outside society, so by creating “their own cell,” they gain status and can not be distracted by finding a partner, focusing on work and the development of society. The man receives emotional stability, the “instinct of the breadwinner” and the head of the family is activated. Bearing responsibility for your beloved and children, you have to be more active, stronger, more decisive, which is why a man ultimately reaches greater heights than if he were alone. Psychology speaks about this, but there are other benefits of a stable relationship.

Mom + dad2

It is rare that a woman does not experience maternal instinct. Despite the growing childfree movement, sooner or later the hour comes when the need for her own child will prevail over all other areas of her life and becomes a priority. And in order to be able to change diapers, wash her butt and buy toys, a woman needs a man. Of course, there are other opportunities to have a child, but the natural approach is somehow closer, easier and, most importantly, cheaper.

And with the birth of a baby, the feminist in a woman dies out, giving way to a caring mother who tries with all her might to make the world around the child complete and bright. And for this it is necessary that both parents be near him, because he loves both equally. According to statistics, many families try to maintain relationships, avoiding divorce, just for the sake of the child. And according to psychologists, a woman only becomes completely happy when all her needs and those of the baby are satisfied. Therefore, in this case, she simply needs a man.

Why does a man need a relationship?

So why do you need a relationship: the psychology of dates, there are many pros and very specific points. To begin with, relationships lead to the creation of a family and procreation. You can say that in order to conceive a child, you don’t have to get married. This is true, but in order to continue your family line and pass on the legacy, you cannot do without a stable relationship. Genes are genes, but no one has canceled upbringing. There are other reasons:

Social status. A man in a relationship seems more responsible and serious than a flighty womanizer who doesn’t know what he wants from life. Even more suspicious are introverted loners who spend weekends at home on the computer and avoid corporate events. Status helps you move up the career ladder and improves your image in the eyes of others.
Psychological comfort. After “grinding in”, the man receives support and a reliable rear. He can direct his energies to other areas of life, because he has already established himself in a relationship.
An additional motive for self-development. Responsibility for another person forces you to look for ways to increase your income and improve your living conditions. Many men will not “stress” for themselves, but will do it for the sake of their beloved.
The opportunity to feel like a man. Every day you will receive confirmation that you are a man: in bed, when solving everyday issues, in the admiring glances of your beloved.
To understand what love is. Only in a relationship can you understand what love is. The realization comes that falling in love is a completely different feeling.
The need for attention is abundantly satisfied in relationships. Although, sometimes female attention is even stifling and there is too much of it.

There are other motives that guide men, which is not always good. For example, some people marry for stable sex, or even to be like everyone else. Parents and friends say that it’s time, and the man begins to think that he is somehow different, since he is already over 30, and there is no permanent girlfriend. All this pushes a man towards a relationship, but sometimes it’s better not to rush and first understand for yourself: “Do I need a relationship?”

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Vladimir Levi about love

If love is the highest form of relationship between a man and a woman, a logical question arises: can the desire for love be the reason that motivates one to strive for a relationship? Or can love be seen solely as a result of relationships? And can we say that love is what relationships are for?

Perhaps this relationship was most clearly defined by the great scientist Vladimir Levi: “They love those who are loved. They love you for anything and for nothing. They love for what they love. No attractiveness has anything to do with love, no success, no strength and beauty. Love cannot be earned, love is only given and is accepted or not accepted.”

But, if so, why not leave this one point instead of all the main reasons why people build relationships? Simply because no one can ever predict how long love will last. And if love is the only reason for the relationship, then when it ends, the relationship will end.

Few people strive to be left alone with the consequences of lost love: destroyed hopes, unresolved material problems, raising children alone. Therefore, relationships, after all, are not identical to love, although without love in this life it is bad and sad. If love arises, according to Levi’s teaching, without any conscious motives, then relationships can have many reasons from those that we have considered.

So what is the answer to the question in the title of this article? Why does a person need a relationship? In fact, this is not the point. The answer can be any of the given options or your own, exclusive, unique, like love. Therefore, love and be loved! The rest really doesn't matter!

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How to know if you need a relationship

In theory, everything is beautiful, but there will be quarrels and problems that you want to run away from. Stability is not a sign of a healthy relationship, but an indicator that problems are being kept silent about. In addition to the advantages, you will also get a whole bunch of disadvantages, but today we are not talking about them. It’s better to see how to understand whether you need a relationship. Look out for these signs:

You lack communication, so you happily spend more time at work or communicate with complete strangers.
You want a family and children. How do you know if you need a relationship? Answer yourself honestly: are you ready to give up your life and comfort for the sake of your beloved and child.
You miss someone close to you, support and care, you want someone to love.
You are ready to compromise and agree to make concessions. You think that you can even change for the sake of another person: give up your favorite hobby, familiar things. Look at how to understand whether you need this relationship: imagine that a child broke your collectible toy, and your beloved forbade you to sit with friends on the weekend. If you feel not anger, but tenderness, then you are definitely ready for a relationship.
You are afraid of loneliness. You understand that now you have friends and family, but then many will leave your life and there will be no one left if you don’t have a wife, children and grandchildren.

He and She

Just recently, a woman sewed, knitted, raised children and prepared beshbarmak for dinner, and now she is a businesswoman who manages factories and factories. Today, asking her to change the plugs or change the faucet is not scary, she can handle it. But no, there are companies that will send a husband for an hour and everything is ready. So why then does she need someone who will lie on the sofa with beer and fray her nerves “why is the soup under-salted.”

Such modern ladies do not need a mediocre man; she will not be content with little. You can’t do without someone unique here. But alas, there are few of these left. There is not enough Putin for everyone. So the woman is left alone rather than living her life with just anyone. But still the moment comes when she begins to understand that the heart requires love, and the soul requires family warmth. And here we need a prince on a white horse. And facts are stubborn things, he and she need each other.

Appreciate those who respect you

It should not be denied that even the basis of humanism is selfishness, but this is not a sin if the actions of an individual do not harm anyone. A smart girl will take seriously not someone who will consider her an empty place or his own thing, but a young man who will see in her what she respects herself for.

By the way, it is quite common for teenage girls to fall in love with bad boys and long for the moment when their heart will thaw. Of course, he will remain the same reckless daredevil, and only she will have complete control over him, only she will know his tenderness and sincere devotion. These are girls' dreams. There are also opposite situations, when young guys pursue the first beauties of their course at the university, and they don’t even look at them.

In both cases, there is usually someone nearby who looks at us with admiration, who can be a fairly loyal and devoted companion. But as stated earlier, forbidden fruit is sweeter.

Awareness of the value of calm, trusting relationships comes when the torment of the heart and excessive passions are too tiring and you just want to have a heart-to-heart talk, take a walk holding hands, feel that you are accepted, appreciated, respected. No matter how self-sufficient a person is, he needs all this. After all, people are creatures created to live in society, so we need communication, especially such a warm and pleasant one, like air.

Tie thread

Okay, we understand how it shouldn't be. But what kind of relationships need to be built so that in your personal life everything is quiet, peaceful and adequate? A partner should be treated, first of all, not as a means of satisfying lust or as a service personnel, but as a companion, friend, ally.

In addition to everyday life and bed, you should have common values. This doesn't mean that your hobbies have to be completely identical. You can be interested in completely different things that do not intersect in any way. The concepts of moral principles, rules of conduct, and life priorities should be common.

For example, if a man considers money to be the most important thing in life, and a woman considers spiritual development, they are unlikely to agree on everything. It also happens the other way around. One way or another, one will be accused of insensitivity, and the other of childishness. A smart girl or boy is looking for a mate who can understand and not call the most valuable thing nonsense.

To spite society6

Another important fact is why a woman needs a man – society. If a woman tries not to get married before the age of 30, neighbors, girlfriends, relatives, colleagues, etc. will peck at you. Here, like it or not, the word “must” works on a subconscious level. Get married urgently. Give birth urgently. And it’s embarrassing to look into your eyes and you’re tired of answering questions. Hence another reason for the desire to quickly find a man and get married.

And if a woman is with a child, then her heels are on fire. Then the criteria are lowered and the number of claims decreases. In this case, the mansion on Rublyovka is not so important, and the Khrushchev house will do. And salary requirements are rapidly falling exponentially. But the man is in the house, and now let them bite their tongue.

Argument 6. For protection

Every man is capable of protecting his lady love and is ready to rush into battle with any difficulties. Wherever and whenever a woman is in trouble, a loving gentleman will go to the rescue of his princess. It will help overcome fear when a woman is afraid. He will stand up like a stone wall, shielding his soul mate from offenders. In addition to physical protection, he will lend his courageous shoulder, helping his lady financially. He will protect the woman from evil gossip and caustic ridicule. But all this will happen only if the girl is not indifferent to him and is dear to him.

However, such gentlemen are increasingly rare in the modern world; there are fewer and fewer individuals who are strong both spiritually and physically. Therefore, a woman should not rely solely on a man’s abilities, but also learn to confront difficulties on her own. Develop spiritually, play sports, gain life knowledge, then you will be able to cope with problems yourself and help others.

Why are we important to each other?

The man is the first to take a step to further develop the relationship, but the woman pushes him to do so: with a look, a gesture, a smile. Without her love, he cannot live happily, it is important for him to feel needed, in demand, every achievement of a goal is like defeating a dragon in the Middle Ages for the sake of a princess (after all, thousands of brave men did not sacrifice themselves out of sporting interest). A man feels his importance, his masculine strength only next to Her.

And who is a woman without a reliable male shoulder? Boy-woman, who “gallops into the fire”? Without male love and attention, the flower of femininity will never bloom, but will remain a withered bud of uncertain purpose.

It is important for a woman to feel his protection; thanks to a man, she gains confidence in the future. The man teaches her the art of love and forgiveness, just as she teaches him to be strong and persistent, for his sake she strives to become more beautiful, wiser and more feminine.

Why does an extrovert need a woman?

An extroverted man can be identified by several characteristics. He grew up in a strong family and was raised in such a way that he believes that only a man should lead the family. This is a strong and strong-willed nature, full of strength, energy and enthusiasm. It is not surprising that most extroverts are womanizers and romantics. They are looking for a woman for several reasons:

Every man needs a beautiful companion who will make him feel confident. Among them you can meet well-groomed socialites who know everything about fashion. An extroverted man always feels at his best and should have an appropriate companion;
He certainly needs a long-term, strong relationship. For what? Extroverts need a constant “source for sex”;
An extrovert should always have someone he can control. Most often, his role is played by a girlfriend or wife.

Stone wall5

While children are small, parents act as protectors from all adversities. You can often hear the phrase “I’ll fight for my child.” So, when a child, especially a girl, grows up, she wants to hear the same thing. Just not from mom and dad, but from your husband or boyfriend.

Any heterosexual representative of the fairer sex dreams of having a reliable support, a stone wall, a strong male shoulder nearby. This is the only way she gains peace of mind, knowing that there is someone to stand up for her. Of course, you can take karate classes and, in the event of an attack, give hara-kiri to the offenders, but it is much more pleasant if the man you love does it. Deep down, women are very defenseless creatures, still living in a stone cave while their husband catches a mammoth and collects shells for beads.

In addition to some kind of physical reprisal against enemies, a woman also needs emotional support. So that in case of frustration, there is someone to cry into the vest. A girlfriend and a glass of wine also look good, but a man is better, his shoulder is wider. And what can we say, if suddenly a pipe bursts or the traffic jams are knocked out, who else but him, the hero of all Rus', will save the apartment from the flood.

And those men who tolerate and support a woman throughout her pregnancy generally deserve a monument during their lifetime. Not everyone would take their pregnant wife out at 2 a.m. to sniff the rails or chew rusty nails. And this is only a small fraction of all a woman’s desires while expecting a child. You don’t even need to mention the smell of kerosene, tires, cucumbers with honey or herring with chocolate.

Sexual addiction3

Yes, today there are many intimate stores offering a huge range of toys for adults, with the help of which a woman can independently obtain sexual release. In addition, many of them go, so to speak, to another clan, that is, they change their orientation. However, no dildo can replace the living flesh of a real man. Regular sex life is necessary for the full functioning of the reproductive system of the female body. Endorphins, which are released during sexual intercourse, will lift a woman's mood, making her happy.

Some modern girls claim that they are satisfied with one-time sex, without obligations. But according to psychologists, this is nothing more than fear. The fear of trusting a man, of opening her soul to him, forces a woman to keep her distance. Although, according to the same psychologists, most women get a real orgasm only when sex becomes part of their life together and is accompanied by deep feelings.

The era of loneliness

Why is this happening? In a world where there is a lot of information and opportunities, it is difficult to make acquaintances, people move away from each other and lose their warmth. This may be due to the fact that every more or less ambitious person who has at least some talents or a banal desire to work has thousands of opportunities to fill his day with a variety of activities, work, hobbies, and at the end of the day just come home and watch a TV series and fall without hind legs. And tomorrow the same series of changing tasks will begin.

In general, time is spent, something happens, life is not so empty, there is even some meaning, goals and objectives. But every time a smiling couple passes nearby, holding hands, an alarming thought about loneliness can flash through your head and sting painfully in your heart. On Valentine's Day, many single people generally experience depression and hatred towards others.