My husband said that he doesn’t love me - how can I understand, and most importantly, accept these words?
People tend to talk about their feelings for each other. This is especially necessary for women - verbal expression of emotions is in their blood.
Why men don’t like to talk about secrets and remain silent until the last moment, that there is no more love - find out from this article.
Why does a husband tell his wife that he doesn’t love him: possible reasons
Feelings don’t just go away—something always precedes this event. Sometimes the woman herself is to blame for what happened, sometimes both spouses are to blame. Why this happens, what are the main reasons for the cooling of relations - let’s look at it in more detail.
In the heat of a quarrel
During family conflicts, many spouses cannot contain their emotions. Words spoken in the heat of the moment do not mean that there really is no more love. Most likely, your husband just wants to hurt you.
How to react is up to everyone to decide for themselves.
If such words in conflicts are commonplace, many women stop paying attention to it. After all, the husband does not leave the family, therefore there is no reason to worry.
When silence is not your option, talk to a man. Explain to him that you love him and don’t want to lose him. If there is still respect on his part, he will understand.
Signs of lost love
Are there clear signs that will indicate that the husband has grown cold? Yes, these include the following:
- offensive language towards the spouse;
- showing dissatisfaction with the appearance and behavior of the wife in order to offend her;
- ridicule in the company of acquaintances and friends;
- blackmail, screams, threats;
- physical violence, beating.
A man who uses physical and psychological violence and raises his hand is unlikely to love his chosen one. He can find a thousand excuses for his actions and swear his love until the grave, but such a union does not have a happy future. It is worth carefully weighing all the pros and cons of such a marriage before continuing to live with your husband.
Reviews
Find out what those women who feel or already probably know that they are unloved say about this:
- Christina is 33 years old, married for 9 years, has a growing son. All the years of marriage, she understood that her husband did not feel much love for her. She hoped that she could love for two and that over time her husband would reciprocate. Unfortunately, it did not happen. I found out that he had been living in two families for a long time. She filed for divorce, although he himself did not plan to break off the relationship;
- Olga - 25 years old, married for 4 years, no children. I have never heard words of love from my husband, but I am sure of the sincerity of his feelings. Believes that the main thing is actions, and happiness loves silence;
- Tatyana is 47 years old, married for 23. She has adult children. I found out by chance that my husband no longer loved me and was having an affair. After a frank conversation, the husband admitted that he never loved Tatyana;
- Irina - 29 years old. Divorced, alone raising a small child, whose father said he no longer loves her - in the eighth month of pregnancy. She forcibly pulled herself out of depression - her husband was her first love. Now in a relationship, but she doesn’t want to fall in love anymore - the fear of feeling pain and betrayal again is too great.
Psychologist's advice
