“I can’t forget my ex”: the most honest guide on how to act in this case

Every day, more than a hundred thousand couples break up around the world. However, the decision to separate is not always mutual. What to do if the thought “I want to leave my girlfriend” flashes more and more often in a young man’s head. How to prepare your beloved for separation so that it passes with minimal losses? How to behave if your partner presses for pity and begs to give her a chance? These and many other questions will be discussed in this article.

Determine the reason for the separation

Before you tell your beloved the news of the breakup, you need to understand for yourself the reason for the breakup. Why did you suddenly decide to break up? Is this really a balanced and thoughtful decision? Try to analyze your relationship and understand at what point thoughts about breaking up began to appear in your head.

If the decision to break up is made after a quarrel or scandal, perhaps it is just an emotional outburst. Then give yourself some time to cool down and calm down. Perhaps after some time, you will realize that your feelings are still strong, and thoughts of separation were premature.

Things will be completely different if feelings for your partner have cooled. You are no longer attracted to her, thoughts of intimacy no longer bring the same delight, and spending time together no longer brings pleasure. The decision to break up is firmly stuck in your head and, like a sore callus, does not allow you to live in peace. In this case, you shouldn’t pull the strap, but rather honestly dot the i’s as quickly as possible and go on a solo voyage.

Other reasons why guys leave girls

It happens that there is no obvious explanation why the guy left the girl. He stopped calling, communicating, and does not answer your calls. But know that a normal person would not do this. If the guy left, then there was a reason. But stop tormenting yourself with thoughts and looking for her. Move on with your life, because if a person leaves without an explanation, then it is not your fault.

But guys may leave because girls are more interested in their lives. Men don’t like it when girls forget about themselves and direct all their energy towards them. All people have the right to their own space, which cannot be invaded even by loved ones.

If a man left for someone else, it was not because of your appearance. The motive lies elsewhere. There are several of them: the rival turned out to be close and interesting to the guy, she has a trait that you are not endowed with.

It happens that a guy is afraid to get attached to a girl. He believes that you will cause him pain and suffering, so he does not want a serious relationship. Most likely, he will immediately run away as soon as the relationship develops. Unreasonable jealousy, hysterics, anger - no one likes these qualities. If you recognize yourself in this description, then don’t be surprised why the guy left.

It is worth mentioning that there are stupid reasons for leaving. These include relationships “on a dare” to prove to friends that he is cool. You shouldn’t think about guys like this and suffer because of a breakup. If this happened, then it is not your fault, you met an unworthy individual. Be glad you were able to get rid of it so easily.

A decision needs to be made2

“Love has passed - the tomatoes have wilted,” so we should break up with the girl. Everything seems clear and simple, but where can you find the strength and courage to say this to your girlfriend? You can, of course, wait until the feelings suddenly fade away on her part. But where are the guarantees that in the next fifty years, she will realize that you are not the hero of her novel. No, you shouldn’t count on your partner’s extrasensory abilities, but you need to take everything into your own hands.

Of course, the separation procedure is not the most pleasant, but if you have already decided that you want to leave your girlfriend, then you will have to go through it. By the way, psychologists say that if you talk about a problem, it makes it easier to solve.

Stand in front of the mirror and start a conversation with yourself. “I want to leave the girl because I don’t love her anymore, I don’t want her, I don’t see a future with her. I have to be honest and frank with her. And no matter how hard she took this news, in the future it will be better for both of us. I’m not a scoundrel or a goat, this happens sometimes and no one is immune from it.”

After this short session of self-hypnosis, you should feel better, because you really aren’t doing anything wrong and it’s not your fault that you stopped loving your partner. There will be confidence in the correctness of the decision made.

What is not recommended to do

There is no need to allow a scandal, shout and insult a girl if you want to break up with her

If you decide to leave a girl, then it is important to think about her feelings and put yourself in her place. The action must be deliberate.

1. You cannot break up by text or phone call.
2. You cannot insult, try to humiliate a girl, or blame her for all the problems.
3. You should not point out her shortcomings, especially when it comes to her figure and appearance in general. This could seriously harm her self-esteem.
4. There is no need to pretend to be a macho man, smiling mysteriously.
5. You can't say that she won't be with anyone. Often such statements program a girl for loneliness in the future.
6. You can’t break up without explaining anything, simply disappearing from her life.
7. You can’t cheat on purpose, so that the girl finds out everything and decides to leave you.
8. You can't start a new relationship before you finally explain yourself to your current girlfriend.

Choose a day to break up3

No matter how much you would like to end your old relationship as quickly as possible, wait for the right moment. Be prepared for the conversation to be long and difficult. Therefore, it is very important that none of you are in a hurry or late. It’s better to find out in advance about your girlfriend’s plans for the next few days and choose an evening that is free in her schedule.

You should not risk your health and break up the news on the eve of holidays, such as New Year, Valentine's Day or International Women's Day. If you announced your breakup the day before the holidays and remained alive and well, get ready for contemptuous looks and moral condemnation from mutual friends. “What a scoundrel, he ruined all the holidays for the poor thing. Couldn't wait." And all your assurances that you wanted the best will not correct the general impression of your “vile and vile” act.

My boyfriend left me a week before New Year's. He said that he wanted to start the New Year with a clean slate and leave everything bad in the old year. In response to my question about whether I was the bad thing in his life, he turned around and left. (Lera, 23 years old)

Model "Constant Confrontation"

A characteristic feature of this type of relationship is the constant confrontation between two partners who daily try to pull the “blanket” over themselves. When they don’t quarrel over one issue or another for several days, it surprises both of them. However, not for long, because a calm life together is not their theme, and very soon everything will return to normal.

“Constant confrontation” is accompanied by regular complaints against each other. For example:

• “You are talking nonsense again”;
• “You never pay attention to me”;
• “You are not at all interested in how I am doing”;
• “Why should we always do what you want?”;
• “Why do you constantly forbid me to do what I want?”;
• “You spend too much time with your boyfriends.”

This list can be continued endlessly, but I hope the main idea is clear. Partners in such relationships constantly experience emotional exhaustion, denial, anger, fatigue, irritation and a host of other negative emotions.

In addition, their discontent accumulates over time, the state of confrontation becomes the foundation of the relationship, and every day it becomes more and more difficult to change the established order of things.

However, despite the constant confrontation of both partners, their separation can be very painful. And subsequently, one of them suddenly catches himself thinking: “What should I do if I can’t forget her/him?”

House or cafe, cafe or house?4

How to be? Where to tell your girlfriend about the breakup? At home or in a cafe? Good question. It all depends, of course, on the temperament of your woman. You can inform about the separation at home if you are sure that she will not throw a tantrum and will not hit and crush all the objects that come into her hand on your head.

Of course, she can act as in that joke: “I told the girl about the breakup. I walked out the door and heard a shot. I thought I shot myself. I'm coming back. No, the champagne was opened by a bitch. Celebrating." However, the likelihood of such an outcome is very low.

Psychologists recommend reporting such news in public places. It is advisable to choose a small and uncrowded cafe. Also make sure that it is not far from home and that your girlfriend can easily find her way back if she is upset.

Just don't be thick-skinned and choose a place to break up that was special to your couple. “Darling, do you remember how I invited you to this restaurant, confessed my love and proposed to date you? I decided that where we started our relationship is where we should end.

So you can order your favorite fish and dessert for the last time, we’ll have a quiet dinner, and then we’ll go home, I’ll pack my things and move back to my mother.” At best, she will order all the dishes on the menu and ruin you; at worst, all visitors to the restaurant will learn a lot of interesting things about you.

“My ex turned out to be such a bug. He invited me to the restaurant and was so gallant and polite all evening. Maybe more wine? Let's try their signature salad? If you want, I'll order you a light dessert. I’m still thinking to myself where such miracles of generosity come from from this pathological greedy person. And at the end of dinner I gave out the news, they say, I’m leaving you. That's when I realized what the catch was. He specially created an atmosphere so that I would relax and would not want to spoil the last evening together. (Katya, 21 years old)

So what should we do in the end?

Naturally, the above-described relationship models represent two polar worlds. Most couples are somewhere between these worlds and either quarrel or live in harmony with each other, enjoying every day together. However, you need to make a choice, decide, understand, gather strength and take a fateful step that will affect all future events in your life.

I propose to do this in the following way - use all your senses, open your heart, turn on your brain, delve into your subconscious and try to classify your relationships into one of the categories I suggested. Either everything that happened to you was “Constant Confrontation” or “Complete Harmony”.

If this is the first option (confrontation), you should leave this relationship in the past. Perhaps it will be better for both of you. Naturally, at first it will be difficult, and no one will definitely answer your question: “When will I stop thinking about her and yearning for her?”

But later, you will both come to the understanding that it was the right thing to do, and if you break up in a timely manner and refrain from scandals, it is quite possible that you will be able to maintain good friendly relations.

If you understand that your relationship is more likely to belong to the second type (harmony), you can make an attempt to return everything to the way it was. I can't know (unless you write in the comments) why you broke up, but if it's not something terrible, make an effort and get a second chance.

However, there is a possibility that she will not be ready to get closer to you. In this case, you should not terrorize her with constant demands to go back. So you will lose your dignity and begin to cause rejection.

Try to do everything wisely and don’t lose your head, otherwise you will suffer defeat, from which it will be even more difficult to recover.

Arguments decide everything!5

So, you're more determined than ever, the place and time have been chosen, and your girlfriend has been warned that you're going out to dinner together on Thursday night. Now you need to clearly think through what and how you will say.

The voice should be confident and categorical, because if a girl feels even the slightest bit of doubt in it, she will cling to you like a bulldog to a bone and will not let go. You can again resort to the help of a mirror and rehearse.

Think what you say and don't say what you think. In general, this golden rule must always be followed. And in the event of a painful separation, retreating from it is tantamount to execution.

Naturally, it would be like a man if you take all the blame for the breakup. “You are wonderful, you are every man’s dream. But, unfortunately, I don’t love you.” There is no need for unnecessary words or phrases, say everything clearly and to the point. State the facts and do not allow yourself to be drawn into an argument or dialogue. Let your girlfriend understand that you have made a decision for yourself and it is not subject to discussion.

Before returning the girl, you need to let her go on all four sides. Maybe that's what she's afraid of

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Hello everyone, Roman Vinilov is in touch again!

Most men have a very big fear that they may not realize. In fact, most often it is what motivates those who turn to us for help in getting their girl back. After all, not everyone sincerely loves their girlfriends and wives, and they begin to move only when they are left alone. And then this fear comes - to understand that no one needs you, that you are weak, not attractive and not in demand. That is why a man clings with all his might to the one who is leaving him: he asks, begs to return, humiliates himself and gives gifts. And he can’t even think about telling her: “You are free! And now I am free." With returns, the logic is often reversed, the idea being to let go completely before attempting to return.

These are all lyrical digressions, and for our today’s hero everything was not entirely like that. Although his situation is similar to most others. Today we will look at a new story of return - quite quick and uncomplicated, but indicative.

So, to the point.

Relationship

The guy and the girl dated for 2.5 years. He is 26, and she is three years younger than him. The girl’s parents, whose opinions she listened to, played an important role in this story. Only for the last few months they lived together in a rented apartment, and before that - like her parents. By the way, they were opposed to the guy, in particular, they believed that he earned little. Their opinion was important to the girl, and perhaps they became more active when the couple decided to live separately. At the same time, the guy and the girl themselves almost never quarreled. But she didn’t like the fact that he sometimes spoke unflatteringly about her family.

Parting

A few months before the breakup, the girl’s feelings began to cool. One day he accompanied her to the train to see her parents and kissed her, and she later admitted that she was already unpleasant then.

“She began to slowly cool down towards me. I brought her into a serious conversation, she admitted to me that she had stopped loving me, that sometimes she didn’t want me to kiss and hug her, etc., because. she is not pleased. At the same time, everyone, there are situations when she presses herself against me with all the warmth and I see that she likes it when I press her to me and kiss her.”

The girl asked the guy to move out, and he did. Although at the same time she assured that she continued to love him and he was very dear to her. But she still clarified that she would like to continue communication, because he is dear to her as a person [hello, friend zone!] . Like almost every man, he finally decided to seriously mess up: he shed a tear after she talked about breaking up, and then sent her a bouquet of roses with a note by courier. The second problem was the sex that happened when he came to pick up his things. After this she says: “We probably shouldn’t have done this.”

The guy can be understood. He, like many, is not very well versed in the psychology of a girl. She asks him to leave, but says that she still loves him. Then they have sex. He is confused and does not understand what is happening. “She probably expects me to fight for her,” he thinks, and considers his further plan of action. But it’s so easy to become a backup airfield for a girl who doesn’t respect you. Sex in itself means nothing.

Attempts to hold

When a girl sends a guy, you need to leave as soon as possible and cut off all communication. Our hero did not understand this - even when he had already arrived at the forum. Instead, he tries to somehow hold on to the relationship. Imagine that a person was kicked out the door, but he put his foot down and consoles himself with the illusion that he is still in the house. Although he is almost entirely outside and in the rain, he smiles and looks through the crack. This is roughly how he behaved after the breakup: he invited the girl to the theater. She was happy and agreed [why not? She suggested not to break off communication] .

“On the phone, she told me not to think anything of anything to myself because of the violent sex that had happened and that she felt guilty after that. I replied that there was nothing to blame myself for and that there was no breakup as such, she agreed, but said that everything was heading towards a breakup.”

And in another month they were scheduled to have an already paid vacation. In general, our hero would like to pretend that nothing happened. The guy urgently needs to regain his own dignity, otherwise they will wipe their feet on him all his life. In addition, in a month the girl will graduate from university and, most likely, will go to her parents, who live 500 km away. In short, the guy is in panic and has an irresistible desire to fix everything as soon as possible.

The guy clung to the last possibilities and imagined that everything would be fine and the girl would come to her senses: sex (which was supposedly for love), the still hanging “in love” status in VK with a link to his page, a quick trip to the theater together.

Return

1. First of all, the guy needed to understand that separation is inevitable . A break must occur on his part. In such cases, you need to initiate a conversation with the girl and say: “You’re right, we need to break up. You are free". After that, go into deaf ignore.

2. The guy almost immediately turned to our expert for help , together with whom he quickly brought the situation to a return. As soon as the girl lost control over him, she got scared and realized that she could lose everything. At that moment, she remembered that she did not have time to burn all her bridges (partly due to the fact that the guy continued to pretend for some time that everything was normal), and used it. She said that she still loved her - she asked for forgiveness and returned.

3. The girl came to her senses , realizing that her boyfriend has balls, and he does not intend to tolerate such an attitude towards himself: he will not be an alternate airfield with whom he can have sex at any time. He does not agree to “just communication”, and is ready to continue his happy life without her - in search of someone with whom he can build a harmonious relationship.

4. The girl returned and began to treat the guy as before. According to his observations, this was a test. She received what she did not expect and calmed down. At the moment, their relationship is quiet and smooth, and even her mother has changed her anger to mercy.

This is such a quick but significant return. In such situations, it is easy to predict what would have happened if the guy had behaved incorrectly. If he continued to pretend that nothing had happened, the girl would soon throw out something else - to see if he would eat that too. As he lost self-respect, her respect would also disappear. It’s difficult to say what will happen next in this relationship - it all depends on the guy.

conclusions:

1. I can repeat it once again: you shouldn’t listen to what a girl says - you need to watch what she does. She says “I love you, we have a lot in common, this decision is difficult for me,” but in fact she leaves the guy.
2. It is very important to leave if you are actually sent away (how else can you interpret the words “We need to break up”?). A man must respect himself and be independent. And if he holds on to the person who is throwing him around, it means that he will continue to allow his feet to be wiped all over him. Such men do not evoke any feelings in girls other than contempt.
3. A girl's family can influence her quite strongly; she may have a strong emotional attachment to her parents. This must be taken into account, especially if she lives far from them, but the attachment is strong. It is worth trying to build relationships with them, and it is better that they are allies rather than opponents.
4. It’s good that the guy contacted the forum right away. In fact, he had not yet had time to tire of her with his affection. But you definitely shouldn’t relax in this relationship. Perhaps everything happened on emotions, and problems - deeper ones that we are not aware of - will make themselves felt. Emotions will end, and unresolved issues will return. But the most important thing is that the guy understood: you can’t let the relationship take its course. Especially in a situation where a girl is influenced by her parents. You definitely need to establish relationships with them.

Options for how a girl should respond to a breakup message6

Girls are unpredictable creatures, so how she will react to the news of a breakup is impossible to predict. Just be emotionally prepared for your options.

In case she suddenly starts screaming, hysterical and shedding tears, it would be a good idea to take earplugs and a pack of paper napkins with her. Things will get worse if the girl suddenly starts talking about her love, falls to her knees and begs for a second chance. Here you will need to show steely restraint and let her understand that all her persuasion, broadcasts and requests are meaningless.

Another behavior option on the girl’s part is to calmly accept the news of a breakup. “Do you want to break up with me? OK. I agree. I also think that you are not worthy of me. Of course I'll find something better. Do not worry. The main thing is that you can find someone like me. By the way, don’t ask me back - I won’t accept it.” After such words, even the most strong-willed man suddenly doubts his decision.

When my Andryusha told me about the breakup, I was already ready for it. Our relationship recently was far from ideal, and separation was inevitable. I received the news coldly and distantly; it seems to me that he was even confused by my reaction. After he left, I howled like a beluga for three days, but I was proud that I didn’t show him how bad I was. (Ira, 29 years old)

Requests for help Write your story How tired I am of all this.... They don’t hire me anywhere and I’m only 28 and have a diploma (but not initially needed). For the last 5 years I have been working part-time, but for various reasons I cannot obtain accelerated citizenship of the Russian Federation (I am a citizen of Kazakhstan). 2 years ago, due to medical negligence, the only person I needed died at the age of 30 from cirrhosis and internal bleeding. We were lucky to find him in time and from this year we lived for half a year without 2 weeks, at least in poverty but in safety. Apart from small part-time jobs, they still don’t hire me anywhere. I’m terribly tired, and even my friends, realizing that I didn’t immediately get into a large company, simply devoured me. 2 months after His death, His friend found me. I moved in with him, but after another 4 months he died of a heart attack at 38 and the ambulance was late. Sometimes there is no exact news about a friend who is 2 years younger than me for 2-3 years. The last 2 living friends (one year and 3 years younger than me) have no time, and I don’t want to be an extra burden for them. I want to give up any attempts at employment. The only thing I’ve lived for for more than 10 years now is that because of poverty, it’s also unlikely that I’ll get the chance, even though I’m saving as much as I can. It’s kind of a vicious circle, but maybe they’ll advise me on a new approach?? After such a quick departure from the lives of those two (who, by the way, had been close friends with each other for as long as 8 years), I was only glad to have time to find them. Now I’m 28 and I remember myself from the age of 5 (and until I was 15, I was beaten by my grandmother while my mother - RSP wandered around married people at work in a neighboring town). Until I was 15, I couldn’t even go 3 floors down to the store—they immediately beat me up. Dad didn’t even pick us up from the maternity hospital and kicked us out in ’93 without a damn and did everything so that his wife wouldn’t lose any inheritance or money because of my rights. He didn’t even give his date of birth on the Internet when it was urgently necessary; because of poverty, neither abroad nor good, there was nothing good for a long time, and even for my height 177, I heard a lot from my grandmother and her daughter and granddaughter of everyone, especially behind their backs (my maternal aunt is a RSP and her daughter) Are there any ways to evacuate already with a guarantee without consequences, it’s even worse, or maybe they’ll at least give me some advice on where to go with such citizenship and lack of work experience? Or is it time to retire to hell by the age of 30 (especially according to the example of the RSP)?

Me, age: 28 / 07/22/2021

Responses:

Hello, I am! What can I say? I am a three-time suicide, so no one will give you a guarantee, especially without consequences. I was very lucky - the consequences were minimal. And about your life, I can say from my own experience (I’m almost 42) - life always turns for the better. You just have to wait, live to see the light streak. My bright streak began after 13 years of dark, when I was completely desperate. I didn’t even suspect those aspects of life that were revealed to me now. And how grateful I am to God that He saved my life! Fight for yourself! I advise you to find an ACA group (adult children of alcoholics and dysfunctional families) in your city or on the Internet. Your family is described as extremely dysfunctional. Having worked through problems with your family, you will gain a second wind and a new outlook on life. And a new outlook on life will give new opportunities. There is a self-acceptance course by Dmitry Semenik at the Correspondence School of Love, there are crisis centers, there are helplines - there are many opportunities to get help. You just ran out of resources. There wasn’t much of it anyway, with your childhood, and also problems in life. Anyone in your place would break down, but suicide is not an option. It will still happen, I know that for sure! Start looking for help in real life, be more tolerant and gentle with yourself, give yourself time and rest. Everything will work out, you'll see! And if you engage in psychotherapy (I wrote the cheapest methods above), then everything will work out much faster! Good luck!

Lyasine, age: 41 / 07/23/2021

Good afternoon You have experienced a loss, after which life is seen in dark colors. Unfortunately, it happens that people die very early, life is unpredictable. It is important for you not to bury yourself with him, but to live to the fullest. Live life to the fullest, I think your loved one would like to know that you will be happy! For work, focus on your search and be willing to try different options. Often the hotlines of medical clinics or banks require employees, these are massive vacancies, they hire a lot of people, taxi dispatchers don’t make bad money, sign up for a bunch of interviews, go there every day, I think you will be able to find a suitable option. If the city has a million people, then there is definitely a good place for you, focus on that. As for the fact that your friends laughed, forget it, try to talk to them more about your successes. Our acquaintances often say about us what we say and think about ourselves. Now you can deliver food, as a last resort, it is very common in large cities, you can find something there even unofficially. Set yourself up for success, you are a winner, the world loves you and you will definitely find the job you want and meet your love!

Alisa, age: 26 / 07/24/2021

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How to behave after a breakup7

“I want to leave my girlfriend, but I don’t know how to do it.” Psychologists advise men to avoid the following mistakes:

• Even if you really want to avoid an unpleasant conversation and report this news by phone or through social networks, you should not do this. This will be a cowardly and vile step on your part. No girl deserves to be treated this way;
• in any situation, behave like a real man. If your tongue is very itchy and you want to make unflattering comments about her culinary or other abilities, then just bite your tongue;
• be honest, don’t lie and don’t get your hopes up. A phrase like: “There is always a chance” will become a signal for a girl to take active action and action. Do not be surprised after such words if two days later she greets you after work with a bouquet of flowers;

• After a breakup, don’t look for reasons to call or meet. Every time you have no one to talk to or nowhere to spend the night, you shouldn’t think about your ex, who is always happy to see you;
• no sex. Even if your girlfriend is a fan of the movie “Sex for Friendship” and is tempting you into intimacy, answer with a categorical refusal. Remember that life is not a movie and there is no script;
• give her time to recover. Of course, during your relationship, you have made mutual friends who will continue to invite both her and you to common gatherings. Be a gentleman, refuse meetings, at least at the beginning of the breakup. Give your ex-lover time to be in public and take a break from your grief for a while.

By following the advice of psychologists, you can avoid common mistakes and make life easier for yourself and your ex-lover.

I never thought that I would be friends with my ex, but it so happens that now he is my good friend. Although after he left me, I hated him. But then I cooled down and realized that he treated me very honestly. He didn’t drag his feet, but admitted that he had strong feelings for someone else and wanted to be with her. (Darina is 30 years old)

Breaking up with your girlfriend

Sometimes you have to let go of a relationship when you love deeply.
There is also a situation when a young man is in love, but notices that his partner does not reciprocate his feelings and continues to be there only out of politeness or fear of offending the person. In such a situation, it is important to gather courage and realize that the girl will be better off with someone else.

1. Talk to her, tell her about your decision, give reasons for it.
2. Stay calm and cut off all contacts.
3. It is important not to fall into a depressed state after a breakup. Find a passion, go on a trip. It is important to occupy your thoughts with something else. Throw away anything that might remind you of your ex.

Loud breakups of stars8

“People meet, people fall in love...” And unfortunately, people break up. And the news about the separation of a star couple always causes special interest. It would seem that on the TV screen and the covers of glossy magazines, they look at each other with happy eyes. And then, like a bolt from the blue, the news about the divorce. A selection of the most notorious divorces over the past few years:

1. Jennifer Aniston and Justin Theroux. After it became known about the separation of one of the most beautiful couples in Hollywood, Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt, Aniston's fans rejoiced. Many began to hope that the relationship between Brad and Jennifer would resume, despite the fact that she was married. But in 2021, Aniston and her husband Justin Theroux separated after two years of official marriage. The star couple named the reason as “incompatibility of characters.”

1. Rita Dakota and Vlad Sokolovsky. Treason, betrayal, divorce and division of property. The story of the relationship between Dakota and Sokolovsky could serve as a script for a melodrama. Before falling in love, Rita and Vlad were good friends for many years. Then their friendship grew into love, they got married and became the parents of a wonderful baby Mia.
2. The guys actively posted their photos on Instagram and confessed their feelings to each other. In general, not life, but a beautiful fairy tale. That’s why when Rita announced the breakup on her social network page, fans were shocked. It turned out that throughout the marriage, the husband was unfaithful to her, as many relatives and mutual friends of the couple knew about. The parting was painful for Rita, but she bravely endured all the hardships.
3. Jenna Dewan and Channing Tatum. Unfortunately, this beautiful couple also broke up after 9 years of relationship. However, the reason for their breakup still remains a mystery to many. The stars themselves do not name any specific reason, but answer that it was necessary. Even after the separation, in his interviews Channing speaks very affectionately about his ex-wife and calls her “my love.”

1. Ani Lorak and Murat Nalchadzhi-oglu. Beautiful, stately and successful. And shocking news in the media about the betrayal of Murat, who was photographed by the paparazzi in one of the Kyiv cafes with another girl. Despite the assurances of relatives that everything was fine with the spouses and that they loved each other, the divorce still took place.
2. Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck. The divorce of this couple lasted almost 3 years. But all this time, the spouses were not dividing property, but could not resolve the issue of child custody. The couple nevertheless came to a compromise and resolved this issue.
3. Alexander Kerzhakov and Milana Tyulpanova. Their marriage lasted less than 2 years, after which Milana admitted that her husband beat her and did not allow her to see her son. In turn, Kerzhakov accused his wife of drug addiction. And although the couple officially divorced, they still cannot resolve the issue of custody of their son.

Breaking up is always a difficult process. But every man has the power to make it less painful for his other half. If you want to leave a girl, then at this moment think not only about yourself, but also about her. And no matter how hard it is for both of you, but where the flame has already died out, a fire cannot be lit. Therefore, we recommend reading our article on how to leave a girl. Love and be happy.

What to do if a girl doesn't let go

1. Having made your decision, don’t hesitate. State your decision firmly and confidently.
2. If a girl tries to place all the blame on you, then ask for forgiveness for the entire past, apologize for promises that could lead her astray.
3. It is possible that the girl may begin to blackmail you, threatening suicide or problems at work. If you know about her such tendencies, then it is better to enlist the help of a psychologist, lawyer or police. It is important to think about how best to present the news of the breakup.
4. If she's trying to beg for a second chance, don't go along with it if you know nothing will change. Under no circumstances should you agree to have sex. This may be a desperate desire to get pregnant in order to prevent separation.

There was one story in my life. The guy repeatedly tried to break up with the girl. But every time he started talking about it, she threatened to jump out of the window or throw herself under a train. The guy doubted that she would do this, but he was still afraid of being responsible for someone’s life. Therefore, he stayed with her, despite the fact that the relationship simply poisoned his life. And, probably, he would have suffered for a long time if not for a happy accident. The girl was invited to her cousin's birthday party, where she met a new object of adoration. As a result, she herself left the poor fellow in order to be with her new lover. By the way, the new romance ended in marriage for her.