Why do girls cheat on guys and what to do in this case?

• Was there treason?
• Reasons for cheating on a girl
• What does a girl do after cheating?
• What should a guy do if a girl cheated on him?
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A very offensive and unpleasant situation is if a girl cheats on her boyfriend. When this news is learned, you don’t want to think about anything or think rationally. I just want to do what my emotions tell me. However, contradictory feelings can be intertwined here: love and hatred, affection and fear. What is the right thing to do so that later, at least in your own eyes, you don’t look like a loser? This is exactly what the specialists of the men's magazine masculino.ru will talk about.

Why is cheating so offensive? The girl, firstly, slept with another guy. Secondly, all the ideals of a serious relationship where partners love each other were refuted.

If people were not constrained by conventions, then serious relationships would be created exclusively between loving partners. If a man and a woman did not love each other, then they could build an open relationship, where sex with other partners is not considered cheating.

When building relationships based on love, people tacitly assume that their loving partners only want to be with them. This means that a loving person gives love, body, money, time, attention and other resources only to the beloved object.

Cheating means there is no love. Serious relationships also do not exist, since the partner initially did not intend to build and develop them. Although on an external level the guy and the girl may already be married. But inside they remain not mutually in love.

Cheating is a refutation of love. And the only thing that offends a guy about a woman’s infidelity is that his time and energy were taken away, his hopes and expectations were deceived, his love was betrayed.

But let's not get too lyrical. Cheating happens, no matter how you look at it. What to do if cheating happens in your relationship? We'll talk about this further.

Was there treason?

To begin with, you should clearly determine whether there was betrayal. Often a guy learns about the infidelity of his chosen one from other people. Sorry, but rumors and gossip may be false. If you believe the words of strangers, and not your beloved, then you are acting treacherously, not she.

Unfortunately, many people may envy your love with your girl. You may not realize that your best friend is secretly in love with your girlfriend. It may turn out that her best friend is jealous of her and wants to break off your relationship. If your enemies, whom you do not suspect, want to deceive you, they can tell you a lot of nasty things about the girl.

Moreover, your enemies also tell your girlfriend a lot of unpleasant things about you. How would you like a girl to act in a situation where they are slandering you? If you want the girl to find out the truth from you first or find evidence, then why don't you do the same?

If you did not witness a girl cheating, but someone told you that he saw your beloved somewhere with someone, then do not believe the rumors, even if they come from your relatives or close friends. First check the authenticity of these words, and then take decisive steps.

If you yourself saw that a girl is cheating on you, there is no need for comments. Decide what to do next with your relationship.

Wardrobe update, mood change

Psychologists warn that men who suspect their loved one of infidelity should not rush to conclusions. Experts recommend observing her for some time. If the chosen one begins to cheat, this may be signaled by a change in her wardrobe, hairstyle or mood. But even in this case, do not rush to check your wife’s phone. If you have had a difficult time in your relationship, perhaps by changing her image, she is simply trying to revive your former passion.

Reasons for cheating on a girl

If anyone is interested in understanding the question of why the girl cheated, then read this paragraph. The reasons for female infidelity should be clarified, if only so that you don’t mess up again in the next relationship. After all, a guy himself often becomes the cause of a woman’s infidelity. And if he doesn’t correct himself, then his next lover will cheat on him.

To prevent betrayal in a relationship and no longer push a girl to cheat, we find out the reasons for her betrayal:

1. Bad sex. Cheating is sexual intercourse with another person. If a girl is not having sex with her boyfriend, it means that the girl is not satisfied with sexual relations with her significant other. Anything can happen here: lack of orgasm, lack of foreplay, quick completion of the process, lack of variety in sex, etc.

Each person has their own preferences in sex. If a girl doesn’t get what she wants, then she may not break up with the guy, but simply start cheating on him.

1. Benefit and money. Often relationships are built with a poor guy. However, the girl needs money. Or she is busy building useful connections. As they say, people “make their way” through bed. If a girl has ambitions, then she can sleep with other men.

1. Provocation or revenge. The provocation is the girl’s desire to make her boyfriend jealous. She wants to be jealous. Or she wants to show that she is interested in other men.

If the guy himself cheated on his girlfriend, then she can cheat on him in return. This is the so-called revenge. The girl sleeps to take revenge, or because she suffers because of her boyfriend’s betrayal.

1. Weak on the front. Well, there are girls who will not refuse or who will not infringe on themselves. Such girls often have low self-esteem. Through sex they prove to themselves that they are interesting, beautiful and loved. They cannot settle on one partner; they need several men.

Tips for saving relationships

Trust is the foundation of partnerships. It is difficult to get along with an unreliable person, so waiting for the immediate restoration of the couple even after the man has forgiven the betrayal is stupid. This takes some time, just like healing any wound. There are several recommendations in this regard:

1. Be honest. You shouldn't promise eternal devotion and love by downloading a dating app.
2. Spend more time with your partner. This way he will be able to trust the girl without imagining pictures of another betrayal.
3. Try not to hide from your loved one even over small things. Don't flinch when he enters the room and don't delete your browser history.

Only deeply loving people are able to forgive betrayal. This should be appreciated and previous mistakes should not be repeated. There will definitely not be a second chance.

Female infidelity differs from male infidelity, but is often almost unconscious. It's better to keep everything a secret. If he finds out about the misconduct, then to regain the favor of his partner he will have to go through a difficult path.

What does a girl do after cheating?

It may also be interesting how the girl herself behaves after she cheated on her boyfriend. Two behavior models can be distinguished here:

1. The girl admits to cheating. She is ashamed of her action, feels guilty, or simply understands that the relationship has exhausted itself. She cheated and now suffers or, on the contrary, feels nothing. Here she wants to directly tell the guy about her actions.

A girl who is suffering can beg for forgiveness. She repents, promises a lot, swears love. What should a guy do? It’s up to him to decide: he can either forgive or break up. The interesting thing is that a girl, after some time of remorse, can cheat again. It will only hurt her at first, but then she will get used to solving her problems through betrayal.

A girl who understands that the relationship has exhausted itself admits to cheating in order to break up. She will not ask for forgiveness and beg her to forgive her. She will coldly tell you what she did and then break off the relationship. The girl may offer to remain friends. However, experts do not advise agreeing to her proposal. This is humiliating: first she cheated on you, and then she left you, offering to remain friends. Only a loser would agree to be her friend.

1. The girl moves the arrows. In other words, she blames the guy for her cheating. Like, he did something that made her cheat on him. It is he who loves her little, does not trust her, is constantly jealous, etc., which is why she slept with someone else.

All this is manipulation aimed at justifying oneself. The girl cheated - that's a fact! Cheating was her decision. You didn't put her in bed with another guy. This means there is no need to apologize and forgive her.

Partner knows nothing

In this case, it is worth starting from how serious the betrayal was:

1. A simple affair on the side, when a colleague had his eye on a woman, but she could not resist the base impulse. The situation usually involves drinking alcohol.
2. Serious feelings for another man arose.

In the first case, although your conscience is tormenting you, you should remain silent, forget and simply reconsider your behavior as a couple and become better. Statistics show that few men are ready to forgive their chosen one for betrayal. No one knows what the partner’s reaction will be, so it’s better not to take risks.

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If strong feelings flared up on the other side, you should try to calmly talk with your current partner and suggest breaking up. Continuing to deceive a person is irresponsible and cruel. A woman steals his time and mental strength, acting in her own selfish interests.

What should a guy do if a girl cheated on him?

How to behave correctly so as not to be ashamed of your own behavior in the future? Experienced men suggest not making mistakes that are often observed among guys:

• The desire to end life. A stupider idea could not have been thought of yet. The girl cheated on you, and you commit suicide. You lost your whole life, and the girl only grieved for a while and continued to live. Is it worth losing your life over some young lady?

It's unpleasant that you were cheated on. But instead of thinking about suicide, it’s better to get ready to throw the unpleasant story out of your head and find a more worthy girl. Your passion is not worthy of your love. Moreover, she is not worthy of someone ending their life because of her.

• The desire to take revenge on a lover. It makes no sense to deal with the guy the girl cheated with. What is he guilty of? He might not even know that the girl has a boyfriend (that is, you). She could seduce him. Well, imagine yourself in his place, when a beautiful girl comes up to you and offers to sleep with you. It's hard to resist, isn't it?

There is no need to kill everyone with whom the girl cheated. If she did it the first time, then most likely she will not refuse the second. You should better think about what to do with a girl, and not with yourself or other guys:

• Break up with a girl. This option is the most correct. If you are in love or are simply connected by sex, it is better to break up with the one who cheated. There is no need to be interested in it, no need to think about the correctness of your decision. If you are not ready to forgive a girl, then it is better to break up with her.
• Forgive the girl. This option is only possible if the girl sincerely apologizes and tries to change. It's one thing to ask for forgiveness just to save a relationship. In this case, the girl may cheat again when all the emotions subside. Another thing is when a girl asks for forgiveness and changes so as not to change again. It should be understood that trust in the girl has been lost. The guy will be jealous, doubtful and always suspect the girl of cheating. If the guy is ready for this, as well as for the possibility of repeated betrayal, then let him forgive his beloved.
• Transfer the girl from the role of beloved to mistress. There is also an option when a guy breaks up with a girl, but periodically writes her love SMS or meets with her and has sex. They no longer have a relationship, they do not meet as before. However, the guy does not refuse sex and other benefits that he wants to receive from his former passion.

Behavior change

Mood changes in women are quite common. They can mean a lot of things, not just betrayal. However, there is a surer way to understand that she has someone. Almost all women at first try to hide the presence of another man, but an observant person will definitely notice the so-called evidence. Of course, if the lady is not an unsurpassed actress of the highest category. What kind of “evidence” is this?

If a lover has an interest in another man, she will constantly or very often think about him. As a result, her thoughts will be somewhere far away from you. She will become thoughtful, begin to answer inappropriately, and stop showing tenderness to you.

Accident

This reason may seem ridiculous, but it occurs quite often. Why does a girl cheat on her boyfriend? The answer to this question may be hidden behind a simple coincidence. For example, she went to a party where a group of people gathered, including men she didn’t know.

After the drinks there was dancing. Then everything started spinning on its own. This is the most common reason why drunk girls cheat on their husbands. As a rule, in such situations, sex with a new acquaintance is not initially included in the woman’s plans. Such a connection can occur for just one evening. But there are times when she forces a woman to break off her previous relationship and leave the family.

Psychological and physical violence

Sometimes the reasons for betrayal are tragic. We are talking about rape. This cannot be called cheating, because the sex was not voluntary. But some girls (and their boyfriends) don't think so. If this happened to your chosen one, try to overcome the feeling of wounded pride and provide her with support, go to a psychologist together, talk about going to the police, try not to remind her of what happened and not to reproach her.

Blackmail is also a type of violence, but from the psychological side. Perhaps your loved one has a secret with which she is being blackmailed and forced into sex. To avoid such situations, relationships must be built on absolute trust in each other.

Show it to the guy6

Hey buddy, do you know why she cheated on you? Yes because you:

• I decided that she wasn’t going anywhere. That's your mistake. A woman must always be conquered, surprised, amazed. You don't have to throw endless parties, but if you took her to the cinema a year ago, expect her to find someone to watch the new movie with.
• Traded it for a job. It's admirable that you're trying to make a ton of money. But don't forget that all the money in the world is not worth your girlfriend. She, of course, wants a fur coat, a car, and some trinkets. But if you are “married” to your job and forgot about her birthday, then someone else will give her all these goodies. Yes, disappear in your office on weekday evenings, but on weekends, be kind enough to be with her. And never stay more than 15 minutes, don’t postpone going to a restaurant, even if you have the main contract signed. Just plan everything in advance. And if force majeure happens, then figure out how to brighten up her loneliness.
• Stuck in computer games. Tanks are cuter? Well then, she will 100% have a more pumped up tanker. While you are upgrading your virtual machines, there will be a real dude who will upgrade it with such body kits that your rating will fall below the baseboard. No offense, bro!
• Rogue. Heh, the question is, of course, controversial. With a cute one, heaven is in a hut, but only if there is a hut and a river nearby that has fish. So leave your “communist utopias” and let’s all make money together. Those times are gone, and now you can’t even give birth for free. Women always view a man as a provider. And if you can’t do the basics, then there will always be a more viable male.
• I walked to the left myself. Well, an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth. Or did you think that you could, but she couldn’t? Fuck there. Your infidelity automatically removes all her obligations to you. So be offended only at yourself.

Constant help for a friend

Your wife, like all women, has a best friend. Previously, communication with her was limited to rare meetings, shopping and cafes. Suddenly, at some point, my friend began to need help literally every day. The wife returns home late, when asked what they did with her friend, she answers in monosyllables and without details. She cannot say which cafe they were in, which stores she chose the dress from, or why she didn’t buy anything. It is quite logical that such behavior leads to thoughts of betrayal.

No disputes or quarrels

Previously, your spouse could start a quarrel over a simple like on social networks. Your socks, found under the sofa, could cause a storm of indignation in her. Now she is unusually quiet, does not get irritated over little things, and does not scold you for small and large mistakes. This may also be a sign that she has another man. Your person and everything connected with her are now uninteresting to her.

We told you how to understand that a lady has another man. Now let's find out why a girl cheats on her guy. Let's look at the most common cases.

Material security

Why does a girl cheat on a man? The reason may lie in her craving for money and all the delights that come with it. In this case, she leads a double life: she meets with a man who may be old, unattractive in appearance and sexuality, and married. All this in order to receive money and beautiful expensive gifts. Then she comes back to you, perhaps even bringing into the house groceries that you cannot buy. Sooner or later she will have to make a choice between finances and relationships. Another option: find a partner who combines youth with good earnings.

Loss of interest in home, family, spouse

How do you know if a girl is cheating? The answer lies in her indifference to everything that happens in the house. She stops keeping the apartment in order, perhaps she will devote a lot of time to the child, and will begin to look for reasons to refuse sex. Even your kisses and hugs will be avoided. This happens because she is completely focused on her new hobby.

Sometimes the second extreme is observed: a woman, trying to drown out the feeling of guilt for committing betrayal, tries to be unnaturally affectionate and friendly.

Increased attention to one's own appearance

Since the day you lived together, has your wife relaxed and stopped taking care of herself the way she did before the wedding? This is a completely common phenomenon observed in the vast majority of families. Suddenly you see that everything has changed. She started buying fashion magazines, going to the pool or gym, putting on makeup even when she went to the nearby store to buy bread.

Of course, passion for sports does not only mean treason. Perhaps your missus wants to improve her figure just for you, but she tinted her eyelashes because her friend made a remark to her. If you notice other incomprehensible changes in her behavior, then you can consider the option of cheating.

You've lost your attractiveness

Remember what you were like at the beginning of the relationship. You wanted to be liked, took care of yourself, played sports. Now all this no longer interests you.

You come home from work, have dinner and sit down in your chair to watch TV. You no longer go to the gym, are not interested in new products in the world of fashion or in any other direction. Your significant other no longer sees you as the person she once fell in love with. This is also the reason for betrayal. If your wife meets a man who offers her an exciting pastime, there is a high probability that she will begin to pay more attention to him than an innocent friendship would suggest.