Secrets of communicating with a girl on the phone: what to talk about

What to talk about with a girl on the phone

Imagine that you met an amazing, sexy girl, you've been texting her for a couple of days, it's time to talk to her in person .

You understand that a telephone conversation is nonsense, a natural process of communication, but you are still nervous and worried that you will not be able to make a good impression on her.

Common situation?

Telephone conversations have long been firmly established in our lives.

You can easily resolve all issues without leaving home.

We calmly communicate with loved ones and strangers without even thinking about how this will all happen.

We just dial the number and say what we think.

But for some reason this scheme doesn’t work with girls.

As soon as you are about to call her, panic immediately begins: “How to say hello? What will I tell her? What are we going to talk about anyway?”

This excitement is due to the fact that this girl means too much to you and you don’t want to miss your chance.

You are afraid of losing her because of some careless phrase.

Imagine that in her place is your old friend, with whom you do not plan any sexual relations, and the excitement immediately passes, your thoughts become clearer, you become witty and eloquent again.

From this we can conclude that it’s not about you, but about your attitude towards this girl.

You have overestimated her importance in your life, think about whether she is really so irreplaceable.

Try to treat her the same way you treat all the other girls around you, this will help you keep your mind clear and remain yourself.

Why is it beneficial to talk to girls on the phone?

Although it is now easy to arrange a first date by correspondence, there are still certain advantages to a telephone conversation.

— When a girl hears your voice and understands that you are a normal guy, her level of trust will increase sharply.

“She begins to perceive you as a person whom she has known for a long time.”

— Some jokes are better suited to real conversations.

— An attractive tone of voice will make you want to meet you in person.

“You will have the opportunity to impress her with excellent communication skills.”

But each communication method has both advantages and disadvantages.

If you make a number of serious mistakes during a telephone conversation, then your chances of a real meeting will sharply decrease.

Therefore, if you are planning to call her, make sure that you:

• Relaxed, don't worry.
• Sober.
• You are in a secluded place where no one will distract you.
• You understand who you are communicating with (you know her name, where she works, what she does).

Now that you have calmed down a little and set yourself in the right mood, we can move directly to the technical part of the telephone conversation.

How to start a dialogue

It is almost impossible to program a conversation in advance, but the beginning of a conversation can be easily planned. Use the following algorithm of actions:

1. Start the conversation with a simple greeting. Don't make anything up, say hello, good afternoon or something similar in a friendly way.
2. If the girl is not just your friend, but your beloved, you can add a few kind words. “Hello, my dear! Hello Beautiful!".
3. Then ask how she is doing, her mood and prepare to listen to the answer carefully. But don’t be silent all the time; during the conversation, show your interest in the conversation and its story.
4. When the girl speaks out, you need to bring up a topic to maintain the conversation and take the conversation to a different vector.

How long does an ideal telephone conversation with women last?

I used to answer: the longer you can hold her attention, the better.

I once spent hours talking to girls on the phone, but now I have radically changed my mind on this matter.

Now I am sure that a telephone conversation should last no longer than 30 minutes, especially if you have never met this girl before.

When you talk on the phone for 2 hours, it completely satisfies her interest and deprives her of the basic emotion that is critical to developing a lasting and strong attraction.

Do you usually spend hours talking with a cashier or courier? Of course not, because you don't need anything from them.

And if you talk to a girl for hours, she will understand that you: urgently need her, are not needed by anyone, are a slacker, are completely on her hook .

Not the best start to a relationship.

Another reason why you shouldn't talk to a girl on the phone for more than 30 minutes is that she will like you too much.

Yes, you read that right.

A long exchange of messages or a telephone conversation can arouse such strong feelings in her that she will create an image of an ideal man in her head, which is very difficult to live up to in real life.

In this case, you are clearly making your task more difficult.

When you meet in person, she will probably be disappointed and feel deceived no matter how attractive you are.

This is why the ideal length of a telephone conversation is between 10 and 30 minutes.

You need to be careful not to create too much of an emotional connection because it's more natural to do that on a first date.

What can we talk about?

At the very beginning of your communication, it will be best to have a conversation on light and relaxed topics , only gradually delving into the various nuances of a particular area.

Standard topics that will resonate with a girl will be the following:

1. Organization of leisure time . This topic is good because it gives you the opportunity to explore any of your interlocutor’s hobbies, with which you may already be somewhat familiar. You can find common points of contact, possible similarities in interests and lifestyle. This could be travel, music, films, meditation, a healthy lifestyle, swimming, seaside holidays with the opportunity to remember the most striking or funniest incidents from her life, the main thing is that such a conversation will evoke positive emotions in the girl.
2. Girl's interests .
   As a rule, a person perceives a topic that is really close to him with ease and enthusiasm. If you have prepared a little for this development of the conversation, everything will be in your hands.
3. Psychology of Relationships . If mutual sympathy arises between you and a girl, you cannot avoid such a topic. However, at the very beginning of dating, this is a great way not only to entertain a girl with a pleasant conversation, but also to find out for yourself what is valuable to her in a relationship, which men she likes best, what she does not accept, and compare what she hears with her vision of certain aspects of the relationship .
4. Points of contact . Perhaps you and your girlfriend study at the same school, university, work at the same company, live in the same city, or vacation in a place you both love. This can be a vast field of conversation topics.

When talking on the phone, be sure to monitor how your interlocutor reacts to the topic raised. Her interest in the chosen direction will be revealed by emotions and a desire to speak out, while some topics may cause a certain amount of indifference .

In this case, do not hesitate to change the topic of conversation. For example, you can say : “I see that you are already starting to yawn from this topic. By the way, how much time do you devote to daily sleep and how do you generally feel about a healthy lifestyle?”

Don't focus on one direction of conversation and at the same time, don't jump from topic to topic too often.

Both excessive depth in a particular topic and chaotic discussion of logically unrelated phenomena can cause rejection. It's best to stick to the golden mean.

End the conversation at the peak of her interest

When people need to receive positive feedback, they subconsciously reinforce the last emotion they experience during an event (watching a movie, going out to dinner, going on a first date, or having a phone conversation).

This means that if a two-hour movie was amazing up to 1 hour and 50 minutes, but the last 10 minutes were weak, then we would rate that movie as average.

The same goes for dating, texting, and calling women.

In any case, you need to say “bye” at the peak of emotions so that the woman remembers the feeling of joyful excitement, intrigue, and anticipation of something amazing.

When you are having a lively conversation with her about something, she laughs and clearly wants to continue the conversation, tell her the following:

“Now I have to hang up because I have to run to work/train/plane, but I’m not saying goodbye, I’ll write in a couple of minutes.”

Know a lot4

In addition to general topics of conversation, a girl should always be interested in her conversation. In order for the conversation not to be one-sided, the guy needs to be extremely literate and comprehensively developed in order to show his degree of intellectual development. Any guy or man should keep this nuance “on target.”

To do this, it is necessary to explore the world, science, and various humanities in every possible way. Even if the share of knowledge is not as deep as the professor, thanks to the correct delivery of the speech, the guy will already seem interesting and will definitely attract the attention of his interlocutor in the conversation.

Purpose of the phone call

It is important to know the purpose of the first phone call.

You could say the goal is to take her out on a date or have a good time, but those are bad goals!

The basic principle is this:

You can get absolutely everything from a girl (kisses, sex, marriage, regular meetings) if you can maintain a high level of her interest.

If you want to get EVERYTHING from a woman, then first of all you need to increase her level of interest by demonstrating that you have qualities that women like.

If you want to avoid awkward silence, you must clearly understand what to talk about with a girl on the phone.

Make a rough list of topics.

Just don’t write a script for the entire conversation; your list of topics should be more like cheat sheets rather than essays.

Just mark the usual phrases for yourself to avoid the stupid “mmm..., well, what’s new with you?” or awkward silence.

Below is a rough list of good talking points that you can use to fill any awkward gaps in conversation:

Calibrate the girl and her reactions

This is a really cool skill that can only be developed through the process. Calibration is a kind of adjustment. This doesn't mean that you start doing everything to please her. Sometimes it’s even the other way around: you do some things that are provocative (this creates attraction), but you dose it. This is calibration. You monitor the girl’s reactions, ask her questions and think about how to further build your strategy in order to understand how to properly excite a girl and with what actions.

Let's talk about this in more detail. How exactly to calibrate? For example, you bring up the topic of oral sex (orgasm, duration of sexual intercourse, or whatever) in a conversation and look at her reactions. If she picks up the topic, then you continue to develop it, delving more and more into intimate details. But if she reacts negatively, you roll back, moving on to lighter topics that are absolutely not related to sex. You calibrated: you monitored the girl’s reaction and decided how to behave further, that is, you changed the topic in time. If you had continued despite her resistance, then it would all have reached the point of complete frostbite on her part. Now, with the enormous popularity of messengers that replace traditional cellular communications, their own features have appeared - for example, voice messages. What's the beauty of using voice? You can pause and think about what to say next, while playing with your voice, which in conversation mode you cannot completely control. If communication is ongoing, then you can alternate voice calls with candid photographs, this will help seduce the girl. For example, you ask her in a voice message what she is wearing and ask her to send a photo. Intimate correspondence and photo exchange are a powerful tool. This is an alternative to telephone communication. If the comfort level is high, then she will do it. Naturally, it will be a decent photo. Often girls wear T-shirts or pajamas at home, and this photo looks quite sexy. After that, you must praise her in a conversation (in a voice message) and send yours. By escalating the communication further, you can reach the point of exchanging fairly candid photos and discussing how they excite you, that is, discussing specific photos of a specific girl, and not talking about sex as something abstract, without reference to you and her. Understand? Talk about sex as something that will happen between you. It is very important to understand that during the process of arousal, a girl wants this, then she can turn on logic and the “I’m not a whore” defense, so you should choose the right moments for such frank conversations. For example, reduce this to the fact that you come to her, arguing that she is very sexy and you no longer intend to endure it, or invite her to your place by calling her a taxi, while you must completely remove responsibility from her for this, resolve logistics, and present it in such a way that you, it was you, who made this decision. It is very important to relieve the girl of responsibility for sex and, in general, for the escalation of your communication and translation on intimate topics. With the help of such a conversation and erotic correspondence, you will get results. How many guys got burned because they couldn’t take responsibility for sex in time, in what seemed like a 100% situation. So, develop your calibration skill by communicating with many girls, and even if it doesn’t work out at first, it will come with time. Now let's talk about comfort, because without this there will be no trust, and without trust, intimate communication can turn into complete frost.

General issues

• Talk about what interests her.
• Discuss popular films.
• Discuss your favorite TV shows.
• Ask “what if” questions.
• Fantasy vacation spot.
• Fantasy date.
• Fantastic job.
• Personal and professional goals.
• Discussion of music past, present and future.
• Discuss your favorite foods, movies, and places to visit.
• Find out what she likes to do in her free time and how often she gets to do it.
• Talk about your favorite activities.
• Talk about the past.
• Discuss your favorite books.
• What was the strangest dream she had?
• Ask her about where she grew up.
• Ask if she has her own company and close friends whom she completely trusts.
• Find out what she did last weekend (this may give you an idea of ​​whether she likes to party or prefers quieter evenings).

Live the moment

• · Ask her to describe in detail everything she sees right now.
• · Talk about mutual friends, find out if you have connections.
• · Offer a game in which each of you takes turns adding one word until it forms a coherent sentence.
• · Ask her to describe her appearance, such as eye color, face shape, hair length.
• · Ask her to describe her day as if she were telling a fairy tale.
• · If she had to start her life in a completely new city, where would she go and what would she do?

Vulnerability

• Ask her to tell you about the most difficult day of her life.
• Talk to her about spirituality and how important it is to her.
• When was the last time she listened to her inner voice?
• When was the last time she actually had to work hard at something?
• What does she do when she needs to clear her thoughts of various nonsense?
• What makes her different from other people?
• Does she consider herself needy or independent?
• When an opportunity arises, does she grab it or play it safe?

Dig a little deeper

• · Ask her if she would like to write a book and what it would be about.
• · What song does she really like and why?
• · If she could go to any store and get whatever she wanted for free, what would she grab first?
• · Has she ever participated in protests?
• · What, in her opinion, is the worst crime?
• · Ask her to describe the most exciting sight she has ever seen.
• · What does she do when faced with injustice?
• · What is her signature dish or drink?
• · How does she think social media has changed relationships?
• · Weirdest person she's ever met?
• · Has she ever acted in movies or TV shows?
• · Who is her favorite celebrity?
• · What does “disrespect” mean to her?
• · Has she ever quarreled with strangers?
• · If she could go back in time, what would she change?
• · What habit would she like to break?
• · If she became president, what would be the first thing she would change in the country?

Cool

1. Do you think baldness suits girls?
2. Are there any differences between the frog princess and the toad princess?
3. How to take revenge on your boss: put pepper in your tea or feed herring with milk?
4. Platypus or duckbill, which is correct?
5. If you pour water into an aquarium for a fish, will it drown?
6. If I were an animal, what kind would I be?
7. I don't understand what the difference is between a snowman and a snowwoman. And you?
8. How did ancient women shave their legs?
9. Do woodpeckers get concussions?
10. Do bald people have dandruff?

Accompany humorous SMS with emoticons, gifs, pictures. React violently to the lady’s answer if you find it funny. Make jokes in response so that the chain of letters is not interrupted by silence.

Unusual, tricky questions to a friend allow you to get to know the lady better, putting your interlocutor at a dead end. Please note that awkward phrases with a catch do not imply humiliation of female dignity, it is simply a provocation for a frank conversation.

1. Girls deceive men so often, do they like it? Why?
2. Imagine becoming a man for 1 day. Your actions?
3. Why can't you forgive a guy?
4. Do you have a price?
5. Is vulgarity cool?
6. Do you want to get married and become a housewife?
7. Do you have complexes about your appearance?
8. Which guys are not your type?
9. Do you do crazy things?
10. Ever danced a striptease?