Do you like to be alone: what are the signs that you are an Earth Angel

All people are different. For some, our world seems like a great place where you can live, taking advantage of all the benefits of civilization, while others do not attach much importance to it, living a simple life, encountering sorrows and joys along the way. But there are others among us: those who are stifled by incomprehensible rules, inexplicable conventions.

They cannot tolerate violence, oppression, hatred, intolerance. They constantly feel like they are a millennium older than their peers, especially when they think about the times when people lived in harmony with each other and nature. Such people are called the angels of the Earth, but no one knows who they really are, perhaps it’s even one of us. Here are 6 signs that you are an Earth angel.

You are very sensitive

The Angels of the Earth came to this world with a great purpose, but saving the planet costs a lot. Sometimes they feel overwhelmed, as if all the problems in the world have suddenly fallen upon them. They often feel tired and frustrated; they cannot bear to be with large crowds of noisy people, because their conflicting energy drains and frightens the angels.

They are also sensitive to violence, hatred and all the negative news that is displayed in the media. Typically, Earth angels hide in their room to protect themselves from the troubled world.

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Who likes privacy?

There are people who vitally need to be alone with their thoughts
. If the phrase “I love loneliness” is familiar to you, then most likely you belong to one of the categories of people susceptible to this condition.

People with abstract thinking.
An introvert who does not like noisy companies or loud sounds.
A social phobe who is afraid of communicating with other people.
A person with a lot of complexes, with severely low self-esteem. It is easier for him to be alone with his thoughts than to go out into public view and listen to unflattering words addressed to him.
A man or woman with a physical disability or health problem. More often he is forced to be alone.
A person tired of the monotony of life, its everyday life. There is a need to change the established way.
Women who spend the whole day with children listen to their screams and disagreements.
Married couples also feel the need for privacy. If people love each other, this does not mean that they should not have personal space.

I, like many of you, sometimes want to be alone with myself, with my thoughts. This is necessary to rethink your life, decide on your values, and understand whether I’m doing everything right. Like any family woman, sometimes I want to stay in silence, mind my own business, and devote time only to myself, and not to my husband or child.

You care deeply about the welfare of others

Earth Angels constantly feel the need to help others. They are willing to give up everything if someone needs them because they themselves have suffered and don't want anyone else to go through it.

Earth's angels feel a deep connection with those around them and are ready to comfort everyone. They understand how difficult and scary the world can seem, because no one guarantees a cloudless tomorrow, but the angels are doing everything possible to make them happy today.

Possible disadvantages of loneliness

Why do people feel differently about privacy?

The thing is that we are all different. Some are more emotional; communication with other people is important to them. Such people are very afraid of possible loneliness. There are also individuals who cannot show emotions and are completely absorbed in their inner experiences.

If a person who wants to be alone most of the time is unable to fully use abstract thinking, he may become depressed. The realization will come that no one needs him, he is not able to fulfill the goal assigned from above.

If loneliness begins to be pathological, a person completely withdraws, avoids communication with other people, and spends the day in solitude. In such a situation, serious consequences for the body can occur, affecting psychological health:

apathy, depression;
complete despair;
feeling of meaninglessness;
insomnia or a constant desire not to wake up;
suicidal thoughts.

Sometimes loneliness offers a chance for salvation. If he is not able to use it correctly, then over time the satisfaction he received from solitude will turn into torment, and internal contradictions will arise. In such cases, in order to bring him back to life, you often have to seek help from a specialist.

When a person who likes to constantly be alone with himself, read, dream, notice the appearance of alarming symptoms, he must begin to act to prevent the development of consequences. The most correct thing in this situation would be to transfer your mental potential to hard work related to intellectual activity. Now it is important to focus on something, achieve some success, and feel your importance in this world.

You reject modern ideals

Most of the angels of Earth are unable to understand the world today. Why do we spend so much time doing jobs we hate? Why does it continue to pollute our home? Why do we consume so much and give so little? Why do we have wars and racism?

These and similar questions always bother Earth angels. They tend to reject modern society based on the answers they receive. Many people call such people hippies or belong to some other subculture, although this is not true.

The Angels of Earth realize that we can no longer live in isolation from each other. They hope that humanity will unite and every person will be able to enjoy the legal right to love, happiness and freedom.

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Is it normal or not

Psychology identifies a number of people who need silence, complete solitude. Only when they are alone with their thoughts do they receive complete satisfaction of feelings and feel happy. This does not mean that such people are mentally ill.

A person who loves solitude is aimed at knowing himself. In most cases, he chooses professions in which the manifestation of mental abilities is necessary, and there is also the opportunity to be alone. Such people become mathematicians, writers, musicians, philosophers.

It is normal when a person is dominated by abstract thinking, has a keen ear, and does not value material well-being. It is important for him to focus on his ideas, fantasies, dreams and thoughts. This cannot be done in the presence of other people. That is why it is so important for him to be alone.

Where does loneliness begin and where does salvation lie?

Loneliness begins with a lack of understanding of one’s natural task, the unrealization of inherent properties. Deliverance begins from the moment of awareness of this secret. The System-Vector Psychology training by Yuri Burlan accurately reveals the causes and consequences of bad states in each vector. Systems thinking becomes a life-changing tool for overcoming loneliness.

What does a person get as a result:

new meetings, novels and true love;

self-confidence and tomorrow;

establishing relationships with loved ones, relatives, children;

restoration of sexuality, femininity;

balance in emotions, attention from the opposite sex;

a real serious relationship to start a family.

The effectiveness of Yuri Burlan's training has been confirmed. Why cry, feeling lonely, and rush into the arms of just someone? There is an opportunity to really find yourself, become interesting, bright, learn to love and inspire a man to reciprocate.

When people get into System-Vector Psychology by Yuri Burlan, they begin to get results. The path away from unloved loneliness begins with the decision to change everything.

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My parents, mainly my dad, make me angry and nervous. He is very seriously ill and has become somehow stupid, he is trying to talk to me, but I don’t want to talk to him, because he always asks his stupid questions several times in a row, does not wash, drinks wine every day. Previously, he could yell at my mother or me; my mother almost died several times because of him.

I have no friends, my classmates think I’m a fool because I don’t dress like them and I don’t want to communicate with them (and I’m not interested in them). I understand that this is not so, they simply do not have money for such beautiful tights and skirts as mine, so they wear their school uniform all week. Mom loves me very much, entertains me as much as she can, I go to chess and play several sports.

I don’t like kissing, hugging, I’m a very confined person in my own world, with whom it’s difficult for ordinary people to communicate (my opinion). The surrounding teenagers and people are completely different. They often call names, swear, girls complain that the guy doesn’t like them or they’re not pretty, they swear, some aggressive boys also swear (well, not all of them, of course, there are a lot of good boys and girls in this world). Everyone is very noisy. Teachers force me to go to events, listen to how harmful it is to do this and that, celebrate stupid holidays, do things that I don’t like (singing, dancing, performing, playing football and similar games).

Mom is offended by me and says that she spends so much energy on me, but I don’t want to talk to her, kiss, hug, and don’t let her touch me, shying away from her hands. I really like to read and draw, but I don’t have enough time for this, it upsets and makes me nervous, since my parents very often drag me around like a dog. Sometimes I’m in a bad mood, everything inside is furious and seething. I want to be alone, so that no one knows what I’m doing, read a book, or listen to music, so that no one bothers me and asks what and why I’m doing this.

I very often lost consciousness, for example, when I was standing in a crowd of people, stupid children’s music was still blaring very loudly, it was stuffy. There were about five similar cases. As a child, my mother also often lost consciousness. I also have progressive myopia, so I hate all games with the ball, and lately I have become afraid of flying balls in general. This is how I live.

Go, no one needs me, I have nothing to live for. You can withstand anything if you have someone, at least in your thoughts. And even one simple day is unbearably difficult if it is in such emptiness. I can’t work, set goals, do anything. And I can't love anyone. Yes, I have some people around, but I don't like them. As they say on the plane - first pull the oxygen mask on yourself, then on the child - but I can’t take care of myself. I feel like a fish that was pulled ashore. I’m probably just as greedily trying to find this love as she is trying to find water. I have the same mother - unsettled, she doesn’t know how to love because she doesn’t feel love herself. Now I understand that I never had enough love. My father died early, and I mostly had conflicts with other relatives. There was no person with whom I felt a strong emotional connection. Mom was never there, didn’t listen, didn’t support; Moreover, I was on the side of my alcoholic stepfather in our eternal conflicts, and I ALWAYS felt resentment and a sense of betrayal. And I had to prove with a shout that I was not bad. Some kind of terrible, incessant struggle. I constantly cried alone and felt abandoned - now sometimes I have such “flashbacks” to the past - no one will come, no one will console, and I burst into sobs as if I were 10 again. I try not to blame my mother - she is a deeply unhappy person. She loved me to the best of her abilities, but I never felt support or support. And this is my biggest problem. There is a huge abyss inside that sucks all your strength. I feel endlessly lonely. You know - a person has a family, and he is not afraid of anything. Because he knows he has someone. For some time I found such a person in a man - of course, no man was my equal. I was LOVED and that was enough. But normal relationships cannot be built on this. Now I'm clinging to the man again. I don’t love him anymore, recently things got to the point of fighting, but this time I’m at least wisely not trying to fight it - if I leave, this feeling will overwhelm me and I won’t find the strength and motivation to get up. I feel like I won't achieve anything until I solve this problem. It's paralyzing. I don't know what to do. Things like “love yourself” are nonsense. Help me please. I'm very tired. As a last resort, recommend some books or psychological theories, or at least give it a name. PS history of alcoholism at 22 (I’ve been drinking a lot and alone for 4 years now), self-hatred, lack of self-confidence, permanent suicidal thoughts and other joys

Hello dear friends! Today I decided to talk not about travel or remote work, but about deep personal preferences. For they not only shape character and lifestyle, but also influence my environment in a certain way. You understand, we only receive in response what we broadcast.

It so happened that since childhood I was passionate about self-employment: I was constantly looking for and finding. Either he read new books, or he used paper to glue railway cars, or he could simply look at photographs in old family albums for a long time. It would seem - a typical introvert!

Annette, I often outwardly behave like a person who is desperately looking for communication and can easily find a common language with a person of any social class. I probably got this quality from my father. He was also a great diplomat and knew how to talk to people in their languages. However, often after such communication, especially if it is just for fun, I feel tired. This happens especially often during my solo travels. Funny, right??? Rest from rest.

Solo motorcycle ride in the foothills of the Himalayas

It’s just that, as I noticed, communication with travelers in hostels, buses or just on the street is limited to the standard set: “where are you going”, “where are you from”, “wow, Kazakhstan... crap. Where is this anyway,” “how are you doing”... And most often, such dialogues are just a waste of time and energy. It only happens occasionally when a search begins within them and an idea is born. Therefore, I prefer to enter into such dialogues as rarely as possible, but I always answer inquisitive and interesting questions with enthusiasm.

After leaving the offices, my... And for calm and productive work I need silence. This can be difficult in hostels, so I try to work during the day, when most travelers are wandering around the sights, freeing up Internet resources and giving me silence. Alas, most of those who wander around with backpacks are office workers on vacation, and my reluctance to wander around for hours on duty sometimes causes them bewilderment.

And for self-development, it is useful to be alone with yourself. People often run away from themselves. They are tormented by their own demons and they desperately need vaccinations against these demons. Hence the craving for stupid parties, alcohol, drugs, and other nonsense. Unity is an amazing medicine in which you can create like nowhere else: write articles for a blog, implement projects, compose music. Self-employment works wonders, although, of course, sometimes it can be boring. However, when you find resources within yourself, even entertainment becomes unnecessary.

In addition, desperate attempts to get married in search of objective happiness are the same illusion. And the stronger this desire, the more unhappy a person is today and in the future. It’s one thing when it’s dictated by a deep inner need and meaningfulness of the decision (read: personal happiness), another thing when it’s just another wish, from the category of “it should be this way.”

Favorite landscapes: mountains

I think you have heard many times common phrases about illusory debts, such as “if you haven’t served, you’re not a husband,” “to give birth to children,” “to make a woman/man happy,” “to build a house for a nest,” or to look for caregivers for the sake of “a glass of water in old age." Unfortunately, this attitude of socially imposed responsibility only breeds unhappiness and disappointment. For a person puts his deep needs on the altar of social values and hunches over someone else’s whims until his old age. Again, I emphasize: if your deepest need and happiness is in family and children, this paragraph is not about you. Childfree and all sorts of other poster fraternities have nothing to do with it either.

How to solve the problem of human loneliness

The influence of loneliness on a person is not so harmless if you look at how many unhappy, lonely people there are around.
We are truly happy when someone needs us, but we often don’t understand that you can only become needed when you do something not for yourself, but for someone else. Overcoming loneliness begins with self-awareness, and also with understanding the feelings, thoughts and desires of others. Different vector sets in the human psyche correspond to different ways of getting out of this painful state. What needs to be done urgently:

Recognize yourself in yourself, and the other in others. In order to no longer blindly search for how to help yourself or a loved one cope with loneliness, you need to understand who you are.
Realize your properties as nature intended.
Come to the training “System-vector psychology” and learn how to do it accurately.
Get rid of psychological trauma and get a new life, full of real events, meetings, experiences.

The results of many training participants are more than convincing:

Tips to cope better with loneliness

If loneliness is too painful:

Maintain interpersonal relationships and create new ones. Set clear goals for yourself, for example: start engaging in social, cultural, sports activities. Community service where you help others will make you feel needed. You will gain satisfaction and a sense of self-worth. Giving is also receiving, helping others is a wonderful school of relationships and love.
Take an interest in events taking place in your city.
Discover new pastimes: explore all the offers that interest you, travel, go to group readings. The strongest friendships are usually made between people who share the same interests.
Develop your intellect: go with friends to galleries, museums, exhibitions, read specialized publications, sign up for courses.
Make contacts on the Internet, look for new acquaintances. Communicate with your loved ones in instant messengers - this will allow you to always be in touch.
Start relationships to spend time in pleasant company. Renew communication with those with whom you previously communicated well: colleagues, friends, distant relatives. We often wait for initiative from other people. Show it yourself, take the first step.
Sit on the café terrace and watch the people around you.
Stimulate your curiosity, it mobilizes the mind and helps us make new acquaintances.
Keep a diary.

To open yourself to solitude that will lead to meeting yourself:

Be more attentive to your lifestyle. Mindful action involves being “present with oneself.”
Make the rhythm of your life more calm. Don’t turn into a workaholic, pay more attention to leisure, pleasure, and entertainment.
There should be breaks in your schedule for rest: a break to sit in silence, drink tea or just look around. This pleasure is always available to us.
Set aside a few minutes a day for physical exercise. They will help relieve tension and give the body and psyche moments of salvation.
Be attentive to your inner state: listen to the breathing inside your belly and pleasant sensations, to your movements and the taste of dishes. Be attentive to yourself, life, your surroundings, the beauty of nature, your senses. This way you will begin to hear the ticking of the clock and the singing of birds even among the noise of the city. Listen to music, its vibrations, look around, take time to dream. See a piece of blue sky even through the clouds, enjoy the silence of a warm summer night, take a walk outside the city, restore strength in the atmosphere of a monastery, dive into a relaxing bath... You can choose any method according to your desire and mood.

Finding time for yourself, creating rituals, changing habits, listening to your intuition and being open to new ideas will all help you create a calmer pace of life. Sophrology just teaches you to develop your inner world. In our hectic lives, we are so disconnected from our body that it is difficult for us to feel it. The endless race atrophies our senses. “Life reveals itself only to those whose feelings do not sleep, because feelings give meaning to life,” writes Christiane Singer (Singer K. Les Ages de la vie (Ages of Life), Albin Michel, 1990).

By improving the quality of life through correct postures, deep measured breathing, we give rest to the brain, concentrate on ourselves, develop internal behavior without judgment, allowing thoughts to flow calmly without holding attention to them, we come to a state of acceptance of what is. Opening up to yourself means finding balance and improving the quality of sensations. This special state of consciousness can change behavior, strengthen will and wisdom. It helps us become more aware of the reactions we are learning to control. Thus, we begin to give ourselves what we expect from others.

This takes us to another level where we feel a huge surge of energy. It is this “calm” mental strength that gives us access to a state of serenity and comfort, and allows us to withstand the aggressions and difficulties of everyday life.

Larisa, 26 years old

My mother, grandmother and great-grandmother were all in abusive relationships, they suffered and could not change anything. Since childhood, I watched them cry, argue and suffer hardships, and I became afraid that the same thing could happen to me. As I grew older, my fear grew into a real relationship phobia.

I'm scared that I will fall in love with a man who will beat me, rape me, call me names and cheat on me. I'm afraid that when I date guys, I'll get pregnant and won't be able to raise a child, just like I won't be able to have an abortion. Sometimes it seems to me that I am ready to date girls just to save myself from the danger of being offended by a guy. The entire male sex frightens me to the point of horror!

In my entire life I have not had a single normal guy, more or less adequate physical contact. Because every time a man’s hands touched me, I trembled, my body began to shake convulsively, and I roared or screamed heart-rendingly. I tried going to a psychologist and even taking sedatives. The therapy took a lot of time, and the main result that we were able to achieve after a hypnosis session, a course of medications, and even a visit to a woman who removes the damage is that I began to tolerate communication with guys more calmly, which led to the only relationship in my life that lasted 2 months.

We broke up because I was going crazy. I don't blame my boyfriend for not wanting to understand my problems.

Today I am still alone, and for me this is the only way to maintain my sanity and nerves. I communicate with guys and girls, but only as a friend, I avoid physical contact, I don’t even shake hands. I sometimes continue to visit a psychologist and think about how to live further. My friends often ask me how I have sex. For me, everything here is much simpler than it seems. This kind of mental illness affects my libido a lot, so most of the time I'm just not interested in sex. In rare moments of desire, I find ways to cope without men.

How does loneliness affect a person with an anal vector?

Without receiving all this from life, a person suffers. An entertaining walk through nightclubs or a long trip with a change of scenery will not help him. He suffers without a family, children, his own hearth. A person feels this suffering as loneliness, uselessness - he is ashamed to walk around like a horse, and a woman is generally obliged to be married.

Loneliness has the most detrimental effect on such a person and his fate. He looks despondent, there is resentment on his face, the folds of his lips are downturned, he constantly complains about something. He can remember all the grievances, and a bad experience received at least once in a relationship can be transferred to all relationships in the future. So it turns out that, having been burned once, then for the rest of his life he will not trust anyone, he will want a relationship, but will not be able to build one, considering all representatives of the opposite sex unworthy. And even if you miraculously manage to meet, he will destroy the new relationship with distrust and suspicion. And he will remain alone.

Possessing, moreover, a strong libido, being lonely, he experiences serious suffering, which often results in accusations against the opposite sex, sometimes in violence, and in great serious resentment for many years.

In the realized state, these are the kindest, sweetest, most honest people, the best performers, the most responsible employees, the most decent, caring and ideal mothers, wives, fathers, husbands.

Nobody loves Me. I'll die and everyone will cry

The greatest value for the owner of the visual vector is to love and be loved. This person was born with a huge emotional range and endless imaginative intelligence. He is sensual, capable of experiencing very strong emotions, both positive and negative. His main unconscious goal in life is to build emotional connections with others. These are people with whom you can have a heart-to-heart talk.

The severance of an emotional connection for the owner of the visual vector is similar to death. Loneliness is the greatest suffering for them. They definitely need someone to love and be loved, otherwise why live?

Why is it so lonely among people

The sound engineer considers himself smarter than others. Relationships with people don't work out. And he doesn’t even care about those close to him anymore. Loneliness permeates through and through. He experiences a feeling of loneliness constantly.

Everywhere the sound artist feels like a stranger:

- In the city where he lives, he feels that loneliness also lives with him.

— In transport at rush hour, he feels that loneliness does not leave him. It’s as if he is fenced off from the people by an invisible screen.

— At work, among a significant number of colleagues, loneliness also does not go away.

“And across the planet, among billions of people, loneliness is always nearby.

When loneliness takes on painful contours, the sound artist’s contacts with people are reduced to almost zero. There are only books, the Internet, him and loneliness. Every day the loneliness is felt more and more acutely. It becomes very painful and consuming. An oppressive, constant nagging feeling. A complete state of despair sets in.

The sound guy tries to hide in his sleep, sleeping 12–14 hours a day. But this does not help get rid of the feeling of loneliness and melancholy. After some time, this state can be replaced by almost complete insomnia. Problems with sleep often accompany the sound player.

How a vicious circle is formed

There is an interesting theory that explains how a vicious circle is formed. Every person depends on the environment. Being part of society is necessary to feel safe. When a subject is isolated from society, he feels a constant threat. There may be no real danger, but he perceives things as a threat.

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When a person is used to being alone, he is more likely to interpret another individual as a source of danger. For example, if someone has a neutral look, a lonely person will think, “He doesn't like me,” “He's going to cause harm.” It is difficult to break this circle, since it is unlikely that anyone will want to communicate with a person who perceives his environment as hostile and demonstrates unfriendliness. Then subjective loneliness becomes objective isolation.

However, there are individuals who are never lonely, regardless of the circumstances. People really differ in how much and what kind of social contacts they need and how much communication they desire. For example, having a romantic partner is important to some. They feel lonely if the chosen one is a theorist and not a lyricist. Others don't care about romantic relationships. They feel good when they are alone.

Afterword

Probably, it was precisely these character traits that shaped my range of interests (or vice versa?). , love of nature, solo travel, literature, psychology. All this for me is like the work of a geologist who, thanks to his research, goes deep into the depths and finally discovers the much-desired gold.

Instead of a period and a traditional farewell, I’ll ask a question. I'm wondering if there are any of my readers who feel the same way? Please write in the comments?

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Tamara, 39 years old

I ended the relationship because I didn’t see any benefit in it, although everyone around me told me that I needed to find a man and arrange my female happiness. I divorced my husband in the early 2000s, and after this marriage I was left with three sons, whom I firmly decided to raise myself. I love my children very much and want to devote my whole life to raising them. By turning away from men, I became the ideal mother.

At first, I simply didn’t have enough time to date anyone, think about love, sex or the art of seduction. I came home from work, cooked, cleaned, did homework with the children, looked after them, talked to them and put them to bed. And at night I cried.

After the children fell asleep, I lay in my bedroom and shed silent tears. It was very hard for me that all desires disappeared from my life. I didn’t think about what I wanted to eat for dinner, what movie was playing in theaters now, or what to wear with a denim blouse. All I really wanted to do was sleep and cry. But soon the tears transformed into acceptance of a new life. I realized that I’m not looking for a man, not because I don’t care about myself and my desires, but because I don’t believe that he can be useful.

Now that the children have grown up, I can afford to do what I want, and no one will tell me: “Why did you come so late?”, “Why didn’t you prepare dinner on time?”, “Where are you going?” I don't have to share a bathroom or bedroom with anyone, plus I have a lot of time at my disposal that I want to devote to the children. I don’t feel despair, I finally realized that this is exactly how I want to live and, perhaps, that’s why my relationship with my ex-husband didn’t work out.

Anna, 30 years old

I've been alone most of my life, and the time I spent in a relationship was terrible. I either coped with the absence of a partner or suffered because of him, there was no third option. It always seemed to me that loneliness is not scary, because I am with a person who really cares about me - myself, and this is better than living with someone who makes you cry and sacrifice everything for an unclear goal.

My loneliness is a conscious choice. This will happen until I meet someone in whom I am confident. The adoration phase in a relationship cannot last forever, I understand, but behind it there must be a completely renewed life, with care, trust, commitment, and not pain. I love being alone and enjoy my company. Sometimes I feel sad and scared that the years go by and I get old, but even in this situation I understand that this is better than suffering.

Loneliness is not what it seems

Being alone is harmful. This would seem to be confirmed by research. Lonely people exercise less and drink and smoke more. They are more likely to have depression, hypertension, cardiovascular disease and high blood sugar. Their lives are shorter and they earn less. But before you stigmatize loneliness, it’s worth thinking about: what exactly are scientists researching? In most cases, we are not talking about single life, but about social isolation. That is, about the absence not of a romantic partner, but of deep connections in general: with relatives, friends, colleagues. We really don't tolerate this well.

Social isolation does not always happen to those who live alone. On the contrary, the social life of single people is more intense, and married people are more often isolated from the rest of the world. DePaulo came to this conclusion when she analyzed studies that compared the social lives of single and married people. It turned out that single people see relatives, neighbors and friends more often than married people. You may have noticed this yourself if you were in a serious relationship: there is less and less time for communication, especially when you and your partner move in together.

Moreover, the difference in social activity between married people and those who have never been married is much stronger than between married and divorced people. It looks as if social ties are destroyed with marriage, but even after divorce they are not fully restored. And this does not depend on age: young, mature, and elderly people have more close friends if they live alone. So who is lonely anyway?

The correct answer is: he who feels lonely is lonely. This feeling does not ask whether there are people nearby and how many there are. It occurs both in the company of friends, if they do not understand and do not accept you, and next to your partner - sometimes even if you love him and he loves you. People with an anxious attachment style, for example, feel lonely at the slightest sign of their partner's distance. Let’s say he’s tired and doesn’t want to talk right now. A person with an anxious attachment type may understand that their partner just needs to rest. But his feelings will tell him: “You are alone in the whole world.”