In this article we will tell you:
- 9 signs of a man in love
- 10 reasons why a man is afraid of the woman he is in love with
- Decoding fear of a woman
- 7 types of women that men are especially afraid of
The question of why a man is afraid of the woman he is in love with has tormented the fair sex for almost a hundred years. However, if several centuries ago such timidity was the norm, today guys are expected to behave more decisively. Excessive modesty of the stronger sex depresses and disappoints modern girls; it becomes completely unclear what to expect from the future.
Today we will talk about why a man in love is afraid of a woman and what stops him from taking the first step. Let's understand together the “undercurrents” of male psychology.
Decoding the reasons for fear of a woman
| Cause | Decoding |
| Lack of self-confidence | Men sometimes tend to criticize and underestimate themselves. Such an attitude towards oneself, belittling and reducing one’s merits leads to removal from the woman he likes. Doubts about one’s attractiveness, low financial level and other reasons do not add confidence in one’s success. |
| Calculating assumptions | · Some ladies look so luxurious that it is difficult for men to find the strength to approach her, because it seems to them that such women need a young man with a high financial position. · Consequently, men initially do not consider the idea of even starting to communicate with such girls. |
| Confidence in your opponent | Sometimes a man sees rivals near the woman he likes, even if they do not really exist. Beautiful and self-sufficient girls always cause admiration, but this does not mean that they are surrounded by crowds of real fans. However, it is difficult for a man to imagine this; he does not want to make his way among other men. |
| Fear of making a wrong choice | · Even if he likes a girl very much, a man is subconsciously afraid that sooner or later something will appear in her that will disappoint him, and he will understand that he was in a hurry. · This thought sometimes stops a young man from further developing a relationship. |
| Fears of not meeting expectations | · Almost all men are no less worried than she is before having sex with a girl for the first time. · Afraid of disappointing her, they may delay the moment of intimacy and generally keep her at a safe distance. |
| Fear of reciprocity | Sometimes a man’s behavior is confusing, because he seems in love and attentive, caring and caring. But, nevertheless, the relationship does not develop further. And the reason is simple: he is not sure of reciprocity or has no experience of mutual love at all. |
How to behave with a man so that he is afraid of losing you
The relationship between a woman and a man is a difficult thing. A woman is capable of holding any man, no matter how frivolous he is.
Unfortunately, many girls put themselves in a position after which they worry and are afraid of losing their loved one. Many representatives of the fair sex cannot cope with this difficult task. As a result, they get a painful separation. Most girls know how painful it is to lose a loved one, how many days the pillow was wet from tears and resentment.
The most important and difficult advice is don’t lie. Neither myself nor him. When young people meet for the first time, girls often want to lie. Keep in mind that if you like a man and you have hope that he is not indifferent to you, then a lie is the worst thing you can tell. After all, if a serious relationship begins, everything will need to be explained.
Yes, a man should fight for you, enjoy every moment of life next to you and be afraid of losing you. To do this, you need to know just a few tips that will make a man value you.
If this is love, the man will strive to win your heart.
Let him do this always, but on the condition that you love him too. Believe me, it is impossible to lie all your life. Eventually you'll just get tired of it. But all females want to have a strong relationship. For your loved one, you just want to do something nice, bring, help, caress.
A man, in fact, also wants affection and warmth, even though his age and appearance do not match. You can cook your favorite dish, or even better, have dinner in a restaurant, bar or at home by candlelight. Of course, you shouldn’t be so sophisticated every day, but there should be a holiday in your life. Or just passive rest in bed on his day off.
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Don't forget to praise your lover for his skills, appearance, talent and generosity. It will be pleasant for him, but giving happy moments to another is also happiness. Therefore, it will be mutual for you. But don’t overdo it with compliments, he will begin to flatter himself. Try to find the right moment for such a thing.
Men have a need to see female beauty. This inspires him to do great things. Not a single beautiful woman can resist the natural male instinct to stare at other girls. And in married couples, you can painfully often encounter situations with betrayal.
It’s not difficult for a man to be interested in you. First of all, you should always be welcome. Women very quickly, at the subconscious level, begin to understand that the man is no longer around. What advice can you give?
First, listen to your heart and determine what to do next. Perhaps your shared feelings are long gone and this is just the end. Often women, not wanting to be abandoned, begin to act weird. Constant arguments, reproaches, insistence and your lover turns into an evil monster. Maybe just forgive and let go...
If you are sure that this is an accident (anything can happen), then you need to fight. To begin with, do not hide the fact that you know the nuances of his biography and try to hear explanations. A man must understand that this is serious. He will make the choice himself, and if it is made in your favor, do not flatter yourself. You are still so far from complete reconciliation. You shouldn’t constantly reproach him for what he did, but it’s often very difficult for a woman to forgive. Sometimes this can lead to betrayal on your part. Try not to do anything stupid.
Men are not understandable creatures. When we first met, the woman was wearing a miniskirt or a deep neckline, but the cost of living together was immediately a complaint. Try to tactfully defend your space, leave the skirt, or going to the disco, or meeting with friends. To have your personal space. It may have a favorite hobby, its own riddle and its own secret. Only intended for good.
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If there are no lies or material calculations on your part, the man will understand this and will be grateful to God and fate for his love. These are the strongest ties, threads or ropes with which you can tie your loved one to you. Your life will not always be associated only with positive emotions.
Try to listen carefully to a man, you should be not only a loving woman to him, but also a friend to whom you can tell everything and consult.
Sexual compatibility plays a very important role. You should know what your partner likes. And if you don’t like something, talk about it, but without offense or insults. You can also show and say how much you like his merits, you can even start criticism, but only positive.
A man should see in you a woman who loves, understands, and will not betray. Also remember to love and appreciate yourself. It is simply impossible to live without a feeling of happiness!
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Develop in yourself what makes him dependent on you
Any relationship is built on interdependence. And that's okay. It is likely that he cannot imagine his life without the comfort that you create in the house, without your tenderness and even a smile, and, ultimately, without the food prepared by you. You, in turn, also feel a certain dependence - on his money, position in society and interesting conversations with him... In general, situations are different. Determine what it is about you that is especially dear to him, and focus on it, develop it in yourself in every possible way. Does he sleep long on Sundays and like to treat himself to junk food? Allow him to do this... occasionally. Let him sleep, and you quietly get up and prepare him his favorite dish. He will be very pleased. Or run to McDonald's and buy him a big bag of fast food. How to behave so that a man is afraid of losing you? Sometimes indulge his whims, but you shouldn’t always do this, otherwise he will get used to it and stop perceiving such little things as joy.
Why are men afraid of relationships?
AQUARIUS Fear #11: Losing freedom and independence
Aquarians are considered one of
the worst husbands
; they value their freedom and independence very much. If Aquarius feels that they are putting limits on him in relationships, that they are trying to control him too much, his exaggerated sense of freedom
simply destroys relationships, even if there is love. No Aquarius can stand dependence, so they will do anything to get rid of it.
The fear of losing freedom is often accompanied by a rejection of the family altogether, because where there is a family, there is responsibility and a sense of duty. Aquarius would rather be lonely than loaded with such burdens
. Only a very understanding woman, and one who herself knows the taste of freedom, can understand such men and live calmly with their fears without interfering.
PISCES Fear No. 12: losing love, losing sympathy and mutual understanding in relationships, losing a reliable rear in the person of a woman
A man born under the sign of Pisces is afraid of quite a lot in relationships.
But first of all, he is afraid of losing his feelings.
For him, being in love is very important, this is the basis of everything.
Usually his feelings are deep and strong, and he demands the same from his other half. He is afraid that the other half will not take care of, pity and cherish him, and he will be deeply unhappy if a woman treats him without due attention.
Pisces men are often not strong representatives of their gender; their sensitivity and strong vulnerability makes them vulnerable to dangers
. This is the type of man in whose eyes you can see tears in moments of despair or failure. The Pisces man is afraid that a woman will not act as a reliable shoulder in those moments when he needs moral support.
Which women do men hold on to with their hands and feet?
Sometimes you look at how caring and attentive a husband is to his wife, but does not notice other women around at all, and you are amazed. And she is not a beauty at all, how could she tie him to her so tightly with invisible threads?!
The fact is that everyone's concept of beauty is different. Some people like tall ladies, some like short ones. Someone is crazy about crumpets, and give someone else one that has “no skin, no face.”
In order for a man to hold on to your skirt and not let go, it is not necessary to have parameters of 90:60:90, having undergone a lot of plastic surgery. It is important to be well-groomed and attractive, and beauty is a relative concept.
As a wife, he would rather take a well-tailored donut who radiates kindness than a skinny bitch who is only suitable for the role of a mistress. A man remembers how his mother took care of him as a child, and chooses an equally caring soul mate as his companion. After all, she will be able not only to take care of him, but also to adequately raise their common children.
In addition, the lady of his heart should be a good conversationalist so that it would be interesting to spend time alone with her. And it is not at all necessary to show him your wisdom, so as not to hurt the painful male pride. You can simply quietly guide your chosen one in the right direction so that he reaches the heights of success, and let him think that he has thought of everything himself.
The ability to compromise is an important factor in his attraction. There is no need to organize protests and hysterics; it is better to try to come to an agreement by giving in on the little things. He will appreciate such treatment.
On the one hand, the ideal wife should be feminine, and on the other, strong. This mix of opposites can bind even the most obstinate partner to itself.
And, of course, he will cherish his soul mate who loves him and always makes it clear. A man will strive with great desire to go to a home where he is awaited with impatience and joy. The path to the heart through the stomach has also not been canceled, and after a delicious dinner a warm bed with a passionate wife who never has a headache awaits him.
How to plant such thoughts in his head?
- He is not the only thing in your life. Let him understand this. For example, if he warned in advance that he would go out with friends, do not call him, constantly asking where he is and with whom. If it becomes completely unbearable, send an SMS with kind words or a funny emoticon. This will raise doubts in his soul, why you didn’t call him yourself, what are you doing so interesting without him. If he asks about this, answer with an innocent look that you watched a film that has interested you for a long time, but which your boyfriend still hasn’t found the time to watch together.
- Make it clear that other men are paying attention to you. This needs to be done very unobtrusively, carefully and casually. If a man is afraid of losing a woman, even if he doesn’t express it in any way, such a “revelation” will be more than enough for him. Tell us, for example, how a stranger gave you a seat on the bus and tried to start a conversation, or about an impudent guy who wants to meet you in line at the clinic. Representatives of the stronger sex are hunters by nature, and a man is afraid of losing a woman if he sees potential rivals.
- Hint to him that you may soon be facing a long separation. Of course, this must be done extremely carefully. You can, for example, be interested in exchange programs with other countries. You don’t even have to take part in competitions to go abroad. It’s enough just to think out loud how interesting and informative it would be. When is a man afraid of losing a woman? Then, when there is a risk that he will not see her for a long time.
How to behave so that a man is afraid of losing? You just need to follow a few simple rules. They will be discussed further.
He cares about the lady
When a young lady allows her chosen one to take care of her, show courage and take responsibility for her, this is excellent. A woman’s task is precisely to allow her lover to be like this. But you shouldn’t climb in front of the locomotive yourself. But many women in Russia do exactly the opposite.
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Little tricks
How to behave so that a man is afraid of losing his love? Sometimes cancel your meetings citing important matters. The main thing is not to overdo it and maintain such a period of time that he gets bored, but does not think that you have found someone else or are simply avoiding meeting. Of course, it’s hard not to see your loved one for several days, but you want results, don’t you? To make it not so hard, take care of yourself - visit a cosmetologist, go out with friends, go shopping. There is another option for behavior - always be different. All women are actresses to one degree or another, so change your looks every day. Today you are Turgenev’s girl, a poet’s dream, tomorrow you are a sexy kitty who will drive any man crazy, the day after tomorrow you are a smart intellectual or a cheerful girl who is “your guy.” He will not know how he will see you next time, and this will add novelty to your relationship and even some piquancy.
Quotes from The Five Love Languages
- “If we want mutual understanding, we need to know each other's desires. If we want to love each other, we must know what the other wants."
- “Requests help express love, orders kill love”
- “If we are not confident in the love of our spouse, we will constantly see him as a threat to our happiness. We will defend our own dignity and interests. The house will turn into a battlefield."
- “Get into the habit of talking to your spouse every day. Let everyone talk about at least three incidents that happened during the day and share their feelings.”
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He is not the only man in your circle
We have already touched on this topic a little higher. Give him the opportunity to understand that you are only his woman... at least for now. Never force yourself on him. Just casually mention that you are meeting a classmate in a cafe today (of course... you haven’t seen each other for so long, you have something to talk about!) or that you will be late at work because a colleague promised to help you finish a complex report. Don’t doubt it - he will immediately want to meet his classmate or come running to meet you from work. The ideal option would be to be together in a company where there are several men who like you. Show everyone little signs of attention - smile at someone else, joke with someone else. But not more!
There is no need to openly flirt. Behave in such a way that they enjoy communicating with you, but not in such a way that they can make far-reaching plans. You want men to compete with each other for your attention, and not see you as a cheap doll. How to behave so that a man is afraid of losing you? Show that you are also interesting to other guys, but for now the only one for you is only him.
