Girls almost always notice a man's interest in them, no matter how carefully we hide it. And it would be a mistake to refer to some kind of natural female insight here; the point is not in women, but in the men themselves. Men are straight as a stick, absolutely predictable, and the ability to disguise and hide their love interest is for the most part not characteristic of them. We will not take into account talented professional actors, but for most men this statement is true.
Women often seem unpredictable and mysterious. Professional scientists explain this by differences in sexual behavior, but this time we will not get carried away with research within the framework of this article. Our task is to determine that the beauty opposite us liked us. Yes, it is obvious that this article is written for men. Girls, we warned you!
Next to you she changes2
Yes, if you approach her at a party, and she, who was chatting carefreely with her friends a minute ago, suddenly greets you with cold silence, this can hardly be called a sign of attention. Quite the contrary. But if a girl gets embarrassed and starts to get nervous in your presence, this is a sure sign that she cares about you. But it can manifest itself in different ways. One will start uncontrollably chattering about everything in your presence, while the other, on the contrary, will remain embarrassedly silent and twirl a curly lock of hair around her finger... By the way, fiddling with beads, constant attempts to straighten her hair, or an uncontrollable desire to tug at her own hair or clothes is also a sure sign that the girl is nervous. And if she is nervous in your presence, this is a reason to wonder why.
What to do with all this
If you are also attracted to the flirting woman, then the further course of events is clear: invite her on a date or invite her to chat in a comfortable and private environment.
Well, if you are indifferent to her, then you must understand that a harsh refusal or ridicule can hurt other people’s feelings.
Communicate with the girl politely, without singling her out from others. Women read emotions better than men, so she will soon understand that she shouldn’t get her hopes up about you and will back down.
She follows you on social networks3
Now social networks are a reflection of our lives. And if a girl is interested in you, she can start following your page, reading your posts, liking photos, commenting on reposts. If she likes literally every new photo of yours, and this happens almost immediately after you post it, then she spends a lot of time on your page.
What could be the reason for such interest? If you yourself have at least once spent a long time looking at recent photographs of a girl you like, you know the answer to this question. And taking into account the fact that in most social networks you can see exactly who and when gave you the next like, the girl does not hide her interest in you. But you shouldn’t use this as an argument, because she can always hastily retreat and say that she didn’t even think of anything like that. Use this as a reason to take your first step forward. Unless, of course, you care about her too.
Where can you flirt?
The hardest thing is to find a good guy. Not everyone deserves to start a relationship with them. You need to appreciate your own attractiveness. You can't jump on the first person you meet. This approach will lead to disappointment.
There will be no problems learning how to flirt. The main thing is to choose a way to conquer a man’s heart. Much depends on the format of seduction. Flirting with a man at work and flirting with strangers online are two different things.
By correspondence
Finding a guy on social networks is easy. You can meet a handsome man using several resources:
- VKontakte is a youth social network. Millions of users visit it daily. Every woman can find her betrothed here.
- Odnoklassniki is a site for older people. There will be no problems finding an interlocutor.
- Online games are in great demand. Couples often appear in chats for such entertainment.
- Instagram is an application for communication and photo sharing. Share personal photos in correspondence and there will be no end to men.
- There are a lot of lonely people on thematic forums. Making acquaintances will not be a problem.
- There are dating sites. Flirting on such platforms is easy. Guys here are looking for girls all the time. You must fill out your account correctly. Some of these resources are downloaded to your phone. The best app is Badoo. It will delight you with a convenient interface, a lot of functions and pleasant communication.
Before you engage in a dialogue with a man, you should study his account. From the page you can understand the range of hobbies of your lover. To win the heart of a representative of a strong field, it is enough to discuss topics that the guy understands. Let him feel intellectually superior. Such psychological manipulations are part of the “game.”
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One of the ways to show sympathy is likes. You need to put a heart under the last photo. The handsome man can’t resist studying the women’s page. Many people write first, especially to the girls they like. Messages can be sent at night. When a guy sees an SMS in the morning, he will be delighted.
You should take a break from the conversation, as continuous communication gets boring. The guy thinks that in front of him is a dummy with no personal life. Example of correspondence on the Internet:
Woman: Hello. I liked the photos. I see an interesting man in front of me. Lover of fishing and Russian rock. A fan of quality films. Refined art connoisseur. It would be a sin to pass by such an impressive guy.
Man: Hello, beautiful. Nice to hear. Ready to continue communication in a romantic setting.
Practice will help you find a universal approach to communication. Guys often write on their own. You can practice pickup techniques on them.
By phone
Dialogues with a man on the Internet often develop into communication on the phone. Gadgets allow you to keep in touch at a distance. This kind of advantage needs to be taken advantage of.
Guys are delighted with a pleasant female voice. Hearing the velvety voice on the phone, the man will be stunned. While talking on the phone, the lover hears only words, so his imagination is especially at play. It’s worth forcing your partner to fantasize. Let your loved one guess what the lady is doing.
Be sure to encourage your interlocutor. Compliments and promises will help you get closer and find a common language. Example of a telephone conversation:
Zh.: It’s nice to talk with an interesting interlocutor. I like listening to your deep voice. I want to drown in it.
M.: I am flattered by your words. I hope to hear them on our date tomorrow.
Zh.: It depends on your luck. I might not be in the mood.
M.: Good sense of humor...
In person
During a date, flirting reaches its peak. The guy and the girl realize that they are in love. Everyone is waiting for a response. The result is a real romantic synthesis.
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Men love it when people look into their eyes. Don't look away. When telling a story, you should direct your gaze to your beloved.
A guy should feel unique. Let him believe that this is a gorgeous girl in front of him.
With surprises
Unexpected gifts warm the soul. They surprise and give joy. The hardest thing is to choose a gift. You can always “pay in kind,” but not all men are lustful animals. A good gift would be:
- A bottle of expensive alcohol. It will brighten up a romantic evening by candlelight.
- Guys like the perfume. Some believe that such a gift is bad manners, but they have never used good eau de toilette.
- Computer gadgets are always useful. Headphones, mice, keyboards are part of modern society.
- Tools will serve as motivation for home repairs and will please the “inner boy”.
Sometimes it is worth giving gifts for no reason. They are especially valuable and will be remembered for a long time.
Non-standard options
Often, acquaintances take place in a club. Guys are attracted to queens of the dance floor. Unbridledness and openness are useful qualities in communicating with strangers. You can’t be too clingy and refuse to have a good time.
Unusual behavior can hook you. The current century is famous for its crazy heroines (just remember Harley Quinn from Suicide Squad). Show your guy your “inner goddess.” He will remember her for a long time.
Her body is giving you unconscious signals4
This is already from the field of psychoanalysis, which, although it underlies modern psychology, is not considered a scientific direction. Old Freud simply took many things from personal experience, without any verification or explanation, and it is not customary for scientists to rely only on their own experience. But nevertheless, some things noticed by psychoanalysts may turn out to be close to the truth. So, for example, it is believed that if a girl’s body is turned towards you during a conversation, and the toes of her shoes are pointing at you, this means interest and sympathy. Is it true? The question is controversial, but many girls have read about it, and use this technique already quite consciously. So it will do just fine as an indirect sign of her interest in you!
Why people flirt: 6 main reasons
What motivates people to start flirting? Professor David Dryden Henningsen from the USA in 2004 studied a lot of literature on the topic of flirting and identified 6 basic reasons why people flirt:
- Human motivation for sexual intimacy.
- Just an easy and relaxed pastime. Flirting is perceived as a sport.
- The desire to get to know a person better, to understand whether he is suitable for you for a serious relationship.
- An attempt to take an existing relationship into a more intimate direction.
- The desire to assert oneself through flirting and increase self-esteem.
- The desire to receive some kind of selfish benefit from a person.
While conducting the research, Henningsen surveyed 200 of his students: 99 boys and 101 girls. They were required to offer an example of verbal flirting, as well as indicate the motivation of each of the participants. The results revealed the following: men predominantly pursued the goal of having sex, while girls focused on getting closer to their partner.
She laughs at your not so funny jokes5
Okay, let's be honest, if a girl even laughs at every joke, she's probably just drunk. Or not entirely adequate. But if your personal humor evokes an emotional response in her, there are two explanations for this. The first is quite simple - you and she are kindred spirits and you like the same jokes. It’s great if this is the case, because if you succeed in something in the future, it will be easier to find mutual understanding. Secondly, the girl doesn’t find your jokes that funny, but she wants to show you her interest and laughs at them. What to do with this information? Decide for yourself.
Main features
Understanding that a girl is flirting with you is actually quite simple. First, take a closer look at it. The intentions of a flirting man are usually quite clear, but the fair sex sends more subtle non-verbal signals. The gentleman’s task is to be able to recognize them and take a step towards her. Observe the girl you are interested in and see the signs that reveal her feelings.
Accidental touches
She brushes non-existent specks of dust from your shoulders, straightens her tie as she passes, and lightly brushes her thigh against you - when a girl flirts, her whole body seems to be striving to meet the man. It’s hard for her to resist touching the object of her affections.
Find out how a woman feels about you by her reaction to your touch.
For example, lightly run your hand along her back, passing it forward, or tuck a stray strand of her hair behind her ear:
- withdraws, tenses, becomes withdrawn - alas, you are not the hero of her novel;
- embarrassed, moves towards you - she is also interested in you.
Next to you she changes
A cheerful, laughing woman suddenly turns into a mysterious and aloof person or, on the contrary, a modest woman is trying to be the center of attention - women behave this way when they do not understand how to appear before their chosen one in a favorable light.
Of course, they want to please a man and thus flirt.
Or they get nervous because you are nearby and begin to behave unnaturally. The main thing is to understand that the sudden change in behavior is not associated with any other factors: a glass of alcohol, mood swings, phases of the moon, or even anyone else in your company.
She follows you on social networks
Girls attach great importance to activities on social networks. If this person is one of the first to view your Instagram stories and likes every photo, then most likely she is interested in you.
Likes for women are a way of flirting.
In advanced cases, she also carefully monitors who you give hearts to. And if a girl is in love, then rest assured, she has already conducted an investigation and found out the names of all your exes, the number of the school where you studied and even the name of the pet you had as a child.
Her body is giving you unconscious signals
Even if a woman is silent, like a partisan, and does not admit her sympathy, her body speaks for itself. Next to the guy she likes, the girl unconsciously tries to look better: straightens her hair, clothes, sits up straighter.
On a subconscious level, she draws attention to her shape: she sticks out her chest, fiddles with the buttons on her blouse, crosses her legs and strokes them. If her body and the toes of her shoes are turned towards you, she is interested in what you are talking about, and you yourself are interesting. By the way, a man next to someone he likes gives himself away in the same way through gestures and facial expressions.
She laughs at your not so funny jokes
Psychologists suggest how to find out about hidden sympathies in a company: when everyone is laughing together, the one who wants to get closer to the lady will try to catch her eye.
And to understand who in the group is in love with you, tell an unfunny joke and see who laughs the loudest.
If a girl is ready to morally support a man and laugh even at jokes that clearly didn’t work out, these are signs of her feelings for him. The signal “a girl is flirting with you” has been given, then it’s up to the man.
She wants to make you jealous
Completely desperate ladies resort to attempts to provoke jealousy. It’s not without reason that a woman tells you, as if inadvertently, about fans or an ex who is still begging her to come back. You will be indignant in the depths of your soul: “Who would even think of flirting with you in this way?!”... And you will be right.
But the girl, apparently, has already tried all the methods, and none of them worked, and now she wants to finally make sure whether she is indifferent to you or not.
She wants to make you jealous6
Perhaps the stupidest and most clumsy way of female flirting, but still widespread. Casually remembering your ex, going to dance with another guy, rewarding you with a defiant look, distributing signs of attention to all the men around you except you - there are a lot of similar nonsense in the women's arsenal, but for some unknown reason they think that it works. It probably really worked for some people. But you are already aware, which means you are armed, so don’t start being jealous with or without reason, but simply draw conclusions. However, you can support this game and start making it jealous. Better yet, read Gone with the Wind, and don’t deny that the book is for women and written for women. You will learn a lot of interesting things about female flirting first hand.
What is flirting?
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Flirting (from English “flirt” - coquetry, courtship, love game) is a set of verbal (speech) as well as non-verbal (facial expressions, gestures) actions that express sympathy for a person. Often, serious relationships begin with flirting, although it can simply serve as a love game in order to attract attention.
Interesting! According to doctors, happy people prefer to flirt: by flirting, they relax, increase self-esteem, and improve their mood.
Show your interest:
- Use body language.
- Be delicate.
- Talk to her about her.
- Tease her.
Use body language.
Body language can sometimes convey things much better than words. Certain gestures, facial expressions and facial expressions will say everything for you. Some clever tricks to flirt with a girl using body language:
- you must maintain eye contact. Always look a girl in the eye when you talk to her. You shouldn’t look at other people, look at your phone, or just look at the ceiling;
- Don't keep your arms crossed over your chest. It is best if you actively gesture with them, as if confirming your words;
- lean towards her when you tell her something. And if you are sitting somewhere together, then try to be a little closer to her. But you shouldn’t go into the personal space zone. Lower your voice sometimes - girls love it.
- smile. Show her that you are in a good mood. This way you will create a relaxed atmosphere and the girl will feel more comfortable;
- no need to slouch. Watch your posture, you must sit straight. This pose will add more confidence and nobility to you.
Be delicate.
Try to develop such qualities as delicacy and sophistication, because it is on these that all flirting is built. The point is not to tell a girl directly that you like her. And do it in a playful manner.
Here are some tips on how best to do this:
- learn to give non-trivial compliments. Try to impress and amaze her, give out something original, something that she would definitely remember;
- make her feel special. She doesn't need all these cliched phrases that you told other girls. Say something unique about her, and she will definitely appreciate it.
Talk to her about her.
What is the best thing to ask her:
- In the meantime, find out how she likes to spend her free time. Does she prefer to stay at home and take a break from everything, or does she love parties, fun and noisy companies;
- if suddenly a girl starts telling you about her family, be sure to ask if she has any brothers or sisters;
- don't forget to ask if she has pets. This is another topic that girls will talk about forever;
- Find out her opinion about some stupid little thing. For example, ask how she feels about guys who like the color pink. This will cheer her up and relieve stress.
Tease her.
Once you realize that there is no longer any tension between you, you can begin to lightly tease her and tease her. This will demonstrate your good sense of humor and make flirting more original.
Here are some good tips:
- you can laugh at her interests. Don't be afraid that the girl will be offended by such an innocent joke. Most likely, she will laugh and want to answer you with some kind of barb in retaliation;
- You can joke a little about her appearance. If she's wearing too much jewelry, you can tell that she didn't have to wear her best all at once. But do it not in an angry or serious tone, but in a humorous manner;
- joke about her laugh, because often many girls laugh really funny. There is nothing offensive in this if such a joke is said in a kind way.
How to flirt with a guy correctly?
There are several simple rules of flirting that simultaneously attract a man, but at the same time allow you to remain within the bounds of decency:
- Eye contact . It’s not for nothing that they say that a woman’s gaze is an insidious weapon. If a girl is not yet familiar with a man, then it is enough to periodically look at him with an interested look. Of course, if he didn’t understand this hint, then you shouldn’t stare at him all evening. Also, when making eye contact, a slight smile is acceptable;
- Maintaining casual conversation . Once the acquaintance has taken place, the best way to consolidate success is to discuss interesting and at the same time neutral topics. For example, if the conversation took place over a glass of wine, then you should praise his taste bouquet and at the same time ask what the man’s preferences are in this regard;
- Humor and attractive speech . You don't need to tell jokes for an hour, but a couple of harmless jokes certainly won't hurt. You can also tell funny stories from your life. The pace of speech should be slow and the voice should be low. Men don’t particularly like having things babble at them quickly and loudly;
- Appropriate compliments . Any person likes to hear praise. But here it is important to know when to stop and take into account the male character. A guy won't be particularly impressed if a girl compliments his nice shirt or hairstyle. It is better to tell him that he is interesting or note his sense of humor;
- Using body language . A slight tilt of the head to the side will let the man know that the girl is interested in his speech. If the conversation took place in a cafe, then sometimes it’s worth leaning on the back of the sofa, placing one hand on your thigh. This position must sometimes be changed to another - the body is slightly tilted forward closer to the man sitting opposite, and the hands are leaned on the table, but the fingers are not interlocked;
- Light emphasis on your appearance . This includes twirling a strand of hair around a finger, fiddling with a chain around the neck, biting the lower lip, etc.
