How to behave in bed with a man: Pixabay In educational institutions, women are not taught how to behave in bed with a man. But sexual dissatisfaction of both partners is one of the main reasons for couples to separate. Psychologists in the field of personal relationships helped to find out what men like about sex and what irritates them.
Show that you love sex
How to please a man in bed so that the night of love will be remembered for a long time and make your partner want to meet again? Men get pleasure when they see that they are sexually attracted to their partner and she shows enthusiasm in bed.
The famous psychologist, author of books and publications, expert in the field of personal relationships, Barbara de Angelis, in her book “Secrets about Men Every Woman Should Know,” wrote that men are repulsed when women:
- talk about sex disparagingly;
- feel embarrassed talking about sex;
- demonstrate reluctance to closeness;
- criticize a partner for attraction;
- perceive sex solely as a duty;
- They show that they are only tolerating sex.
How to behave with a man so that sex brings bright emotions? When a man sees a counter desire from his partner, he understands that he is as attractive to her as she is to him. It is easier for him to open up and trust, to decide on sexual exploits and experiments.
The famous psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky writes that the constant demonstration of reluctance to have sex leads to the fact that the real needs of the body are ignored, and psychological problems in the couple grow.
In bed with a man:
- do not be afraid that a man will consider you easily accessible;
- Don't play "sexy corpse";
- Do not use physical intimacy to express displeasure, disappointment, or to punish your partner for an offense or wrongdoing.
At any age, flirt, show initiative, show your partner that you love sex and always look forward to meeting again. The author of books in the field of relationship psychology, Natalya Kasarina, claims that at any age, love for sex contributes to the development of long-term harmonious relationships.
How to drive a man crazy from a distance
It happens that a guy, having met a girl on a dating site or social network, falls madly in love with her. How did she do it? A smart seductress is guided by the following rules:
- Only by showing sincere interest in your correspondence interlocutor can you rekindle interest in yourself;
- You should send your real photo only after spiritual and psychological contact has been established (first you need to stimulate the main erotic zone - the brain);
- distance is a good reason to limit the time and frequency of communication: it is necessary to choose a mode so that the interlocutor looks forward to the communication session;
- delay until the last moment of the real date, but keep your partner in excitement mode.
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SMS, as a means of communication, should not go in parallel with Internet communication - this dilutes men’s tension in the desire to achieve a meeting.
Correspondence that has gone far into intimate fantasies implies the emergence of sexual relations at the first or subsequent real meeting. Correspondence can be considered a psychological prelude to sex.
Attention! Experienced ladies, knowing how to drive married men crazy at a distance, never use SMS communication and other instant messengers. The main thing is to hide the fact of communication from his wife, thereby allowing the partner to feel safe.
Wives tend to check their husbands' phones for such correspondence. Therefore, if a lady is going to seduce and drive a married guy crazy, then it is best to choose communication on the website or via email.
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How to behave in sex: be sincere
When partners are psychologically open and trust each other in bed, they are able to achieve amazing results. Mikhail Labkovsky notes that often during sexual intercourse people become fixated on their own complexes, worry that they are not good enough or will not be able to provide the highest pleasure, to satisfy their loved one. This reduces the quality of sex.
When people sincerely share impressions, sensations and emotions, natural work on shortcomings occurs, which takes sex to a whole new level.
Be open with a man:
- learn to trust your partner;
- tell us about your sexual preferences;
- experiment, offer sexual roles;
- let your partner understand with a word, a sigh, a moan about pleasant touches, caresses, actions.
Always show interest in bed with a man:
- ask what pleases your loved one;
- learn about sexual fantasies;
- explore erogenous zones;
- Find out what is acceptable for him and what is unacceptable.
Candidate of Medical Sciences, author of 30 books on practical and popular psychology, Mikhail Litvak, in the article “Signs of Healthy Love,” notes that a couple capable of perceiving new things strives for the development and full disclosure of their own abilities. Therefore, he can have sex from 50 to 90 minutes. In this kind of sex, a woman can get up to 10 orgasms. Become sincere and open - the quality of sex will definitely change for the better.
Psychologist, founder of a training center in the field of relationship psychology Yaroslav Samoilov believes that when there is no sincerity in a relationship, each partner begins to play their own games, which leads to the breakdown of the relationship.
Are you interested in how to please your wife?
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Then you have come to the right place - we have a whole collection of ideas especially for you, some of which should definitely suit her taste (because they are really cool).
Moreover, it doesn’t matter how long you’ve been married - 10 days or 10 years, it will never be too early or too late to add variety to your intimate life.
The main condition is to want change and not be afraid of experiments, and decide for yourself what exactly from this list you will try.
Don't hide your emotions
Men love to see the fruits of their efforts. In bed, it is important to respond emotionally to your partner’s efforts. Excitement, delight, groans of pleasure and other manifestations of feelings and sensations allow a man to understand that his diligence brought pleasure and gave his partner pleasant moments.
A woman’s emotional response increases a man’s self-confidence, makes him bolder, more proactive and contributes to harmonious sexual relationships. Barbara de Angelis in her book “25 Golden Rules Every Woman Should Know” advises in bed with her lover:
- express approval without sparing interjections and words;
- tell how much you like being with your partner;
- demonstrate pleasure;
- let the passion spill out;
- Give your emotions generously, and the man will return them a hundredfold.
Men do not like emotionless women who remain indifferent in bed: they lie without moving, do not express any emotions. This undermines his faith in himself and his strengths, contributes to the development of complexes and emotional dissatisfaction.
Yaroslav Samoilov writes that moans, screams, sensual licking of lips, timbre of voice, special facial expression spur an alpha male in a man, which enhances the pleasure of the process. Be relaxed, be unpredictable, emotionally accept and give affection.
Compliment your partner's sexual abilities
Many women are unaware that a husband, lover or casual sexual partner can be full of complexes. Mikhail Labkovsky says that some men are convinced that pleasure in sex and female orgasm directly depend on the size of the genital organ.
Since they value their genitals more than women, the penis means more to the stronger sex than a pumped-up body and muscles on the arms. Therefore, criticism, especially of physiological aspects, in bed with a man is unacceptable.
A woman can help a man get rid of self-doubt or strengthen existing complexes. Here's what to say to a man in bed to help build confidence and allow the sexual relationship to progress:
- tell your partner about his sexual strengths;
- praise his initiative;
- Focus on activities that create positive sexual experiences.
How to behave with a man during sex: Pixabay
Social scientists William Masters and Virginia Johnson conducted 35 years of research into human sexual behavior. In the book Masters and Johnson on Love and Sex, they note that many men cannot feel the female orgasm and miss it.
Most often this happens when a man is too immersed in his own feelings. If a woman does not make it clear that she is satisfied, a man begins to doubt his own abilities.
Talk about your orgasm to your partner, let him understand that he is a great lover and was able to deliver incredible pleasure, praise his smell, actions, body composition. Voicing a lover’s masculine virtues increases a man’s self-esteem, encourages him to improve himself and further develop sexual relations.
How to become the one and only for a man
In the age of the Internet, it is not difficult to find an object for dating. And so the man doesn’t go to the steam room with the men, but hurries to go on a date with the woman. It is important how the first meeting goes and whether it turns into a full-fledged date.
A popular proverb says: “You are greeted by your clothes, but you are seen off by your mind.” No matter what contemporaries say, but it works, the first impression depends on it, and whether further relationships will be built.
Important! Psychologists call this the “first impression effect.” Its duration is only a few minutes. In the first seven seconds, a quick superficial perception of a new person occurs; in subsequent minutes it is consolidated.
A man by nature is a male, a hunter and a conqueror. He himself chooses the object he likes for courtship and future relationships. This is one of the tasks facing a woman - to become an object of courtship. Depending on the goal that the lady pursues when attracting a man, she should look charming and behave appropriately at the first meeting.
Attention! Clothing should be appropriate for the time of day and meeting place. If the date takes place in a cafe, then the outfit can be without any special frills. For a restaurant, evening dress is preferred.
To seduce and drive a man crazy, a woman's clothing should:
- emphasize the advantages of the figure (tight clothes) and hide flaws (loose-fitting clothes);
- have mandatory cuts that, when moving, will expose areas of the body or reveal underwear (stockings, bra);
- stand out with colors that attract attention: red or black.
The lingerie that a man will see must have lace - it looks exciting.
By the way! The main task solved with the help of clothing is the creation of a sexual image that should be fixed in the mind of a man.
When choosing a hairstyle, girls can be guided by the following:
- hair length is selected according to the shape of the face and the size of the ears;
- Hair color can be in harmony with skin and eye color.
In any case, the hair should be styled and have a healthy shine. Chemically burned blue hair with split ends is unlikely to impress a man.
Makeup is the “war color” of a woman’s face, applied in such a way as to match the time of day and to highlight the shape of the face. The color of lipstick and eye shadow should not be chosen too bright - this adds vulgarity to the lady’s appearance.
It is advisable to remove excess hair from exposed areas of the body (neck, arms and legs) using hair removal. Nails can be either long or short. Whether they are painted or not does not matter, the main thing is that they are clean and well-groomed.
Girls should pay special attention to the smell of perfume. It should not be sharp and strong - this is more of a hindrance than an attraction. The subtle and persistent feminine scent will drive any man crazy, even without the use of special perfumes with pheromones.
The perfume industry adds various pheromones to its products to create “special” odors. However, it has been proven that a person produces his own pheromone. In women it is called copulin. Having no obvious odor, copulin has an exciting effect on the subconscious of a man through the olfactory organs.
Advice. Women should remember that the natural smell of a clean female body, supported by good perfume, is especially attractive to men.
