- October 13, 2018
- Psychology of Personality
- Raisa Bogacheva
Before making changes to your life, take stock. Are you living right? What kind of life would you like? Are you happy? How to achieve the goal of living differently? Read on to learn how to put things in order in your life and where to start.
Where to begin?
Those who do not know how to put things in order in life and affairs should use further advice. Take a notepad and write down all the things you want to do this week. Schedule everything one day at a time so that it takes turns. Indicate both important and not so important things:
- If you want to study at a university, write down the subjects you would like to study, the region and city you plan to go to, and the university.
- If you are not satisfied with the job or earnings, look in your free time for a more suitable or promising job that would be to your liking and financially suitable.
- Stop smoking and alcohol, because before you can blink your eye, you will be addicted. And thoughts will turn into an amorphous mass.
- If you have any problems, don’t be shy and don’t be afraid to ask for help from your loved ones, because they will always support you in difficult times and help you make the right decision.
- Do not hide your love for your parents and friends: they will be happy to hear and feel it.
- Change the situation, solve a significant problem. If a quarrel arose with a person whom you did not want to offend, then you need to apologize to him.
- Find a use for your ideas.
- Direct all your energy into something that will be useful and enjoyable.
Post this plan in a visible place and stick to it. Cross off completed tasks. The same list can be made at work at the beginning of the work week or day. Also, the plan will be a good assistant when making purchases, so as not to forget anything.
How to sort mail
Recently, while consulting with a successful executive, I encountered another tricky, albeit rare, version of the “busy trap.” You might be familiar with this syndrome: “By doing just one thing, but with full dedication, I don’t worry about all the other things I probably should be doing.”
This manager still had at least a dozen messages left in his inbox, although he had already processed several hundred letters the night before. In addition, he created a category for “messages requiring action” (which required more than two minutes to respond to) and kept such messages separately. I insisted that he stop using his inbox to store mail so that he could feel what it was like to see it completely empty. I managed to convince him to move the last messages to where he kept all the others. You should have seen how he lit up when he saw the result: “Wow! Now everything I need to do is right in front of my eyes! Now I can do my emails at the beginning of the day and it will be easy. And new messages can be immediately assessed in the context of everything else. They will stop getting lost, work on them will take its course. I couldn’t get out of this before, but now I’ve found such a great solution.”
Typically, we access information stored in our heads based on the criteria of “freshness” (latest in time) and “loudness” (most emotional), and this is not the most effective classification of files. And if your system of reminders about actions is chaotic (stickers on the monitor, notes on the table, pieces of paper on the chair), the impulse of work energy will lead you towards the easiest task of those that the environment reminds you of. The annoying proximity of a reminder is not the best criterion for selecting what you really need to do. There is an added benefit to clearing our mental “memory map”, being able to see all the work we do in one place, and choosing what to do next: if you can choose your work, it is much easier not to work at all!
How to bring order to your life and thoughts?
All the problems that we have to endure are problems from the head, that is, from internal attitudes. And you need to remember one simple rule - if there is no order in your head, then there will be no order in your affairs. A disorganized person never has enough time for anything, so plan your day so that you can do what you have in mind and what you want to do.
Throw away the excess
First of all, to bring order to your life and home, you need to get rid of everything unnecessary. You need to throw away things that are not needed, do not bring any benefit or pleasure, and will not bring you in the future. You also need to do an audit in every room, closet, bedside table, shelf. If it’s a pity to throw something away, then you need to think about whether this thing will be needed later, in a new, established life. Every old thing is a past that does not need to be remembered, because you only need to move forward, these are dreams that never came true. Therefore, you need to get rid of old unnecessary items in order to free up space for something new, better.
And you shouldn’t delay this process. Do a general cleaning of the house - this will be the first step towards order. Don't regret anything: neither about thrown things away, nor about deleted files. Be the master in your head and in your life. Forget about the past, because it is left behind. It’s good if you remember the bright moments from your previous life, and not the bad ones that come to your head more and more often. Let go and forget past failures, because if you return to them, you may lose today's happy moments and emotions. Clear your head of unnecessary, unpleasant memories, and better preserve in your memory those moments that brought happiness and joy. You need to clean your head regularly, because bad thoughts absorb good ones, dominating them. Breathe deeper and calmer. Better yet, breathe with your stomach.
Order is the basis of a harmonious life
Getting rid of negative energy is not as difficult as it might seem at first glance. You can cope with this task using simple rules. This energy cleaning should be done 3-4 times a year, similar to regular general cleaning of an apartment.
Cleansing your own negative energy
Before you start cleaning the house, you need to remove negative energy from yourself.
To do this, you need to take a shower, but not a simple one, but with salt. The fact is that salt is a conductor of energy. It can accumulate both positive and negative energy. And salt dissolved in water can wash away the negative energy that has accumulated not only in a day, but over many years, that is, destroy all the energy dirt from which you, perhaps without knowing it, have suffered for so long. So, we get into the shower, after which we apply regular table salt to the wet skin with massaging movements. Try to cover all surfaces except the hair, but do not rub the salt very hard, do it gently so as not to feel discomfort.
After this, get back into the shower and rinse off the salt with water. At the same time, mentally turn to the water with a request to wash away all the bad things from you.
Choose words according to your mood, address water as a living being, the main thing is that it is sincere and your words come from the heart. You will immediately feel good and light in your soul, and your body will become light and unusually clean. Water with salt will cleanse your body and soul. It will seem to you that you have gotten rid of some heavy burden. And this will be correct, because the energetic dirt that was washed away by the water is indeed very difficult for people.
Preparing for an energy cleansing at home
And now it’s time to start energetically cleaning your home. Dress as simply as possible, preferably a dressing gown or tracksuit. You should not be wearing any jewelry - neither metal, nor leather, nor plastic.
You must be completely energetically neutral. In the entire house or apartment where you live, open the windows, and, if possible, both the windows and the entrance doors. Don’t be afraid of a draft, all negative energy will go away through it. Have people who are not involved in cleaning leave the house. Send your household members to the cinema or for a walk so that they do not interfere with your cleaning.
So, the first thing you need to do when starting to “treat” your home is to get rid of old and unnecessary things. Remember: everything you haven’t used for more than a year collects negative energy.
Ruthlessly throw away or give away things you no longer need - make room for new and necessary things! Repair all broken equipment, and if it cannot be repaired, get rid of it without regret. Don’t hoard books, magazines and other papers that you don’t need—you can donate unnecessary books to libraries, and hand over paper trash to waste paper collection points.
Never keep broken dishes at home, even those with a small crack. Positive energy goes through it, and with it family and home well-being. Chipped dishes are especially dangerous; they create a strong leakage of positive charge.
Don't hoard dirty dishes! Leaving dirty dishes overnight will gather in your home a whole breeding ground of subtle living beings (spirits and ghosts) that feed on the smells of leftover food; this will have a bad effect on your physical and mental health. The Vedas say that if dirty dishes remain or accumulate in the house, then a person must leave this house before sunset.
Don’t accumulate trash and dirty clothes, wash them as often as possible and monitor the condition of your things - if you can’t fix them yourself, take them to a repair shop or a sewing workshop. You will be surprised how your life and your relationships will change if you just clean out your closet!
So, you got rid of all the junk, while at the same time putting things in order in the house, as with regular cleaning. Now wipe all the mirrors in the house. To do this, take a damp cloth and make clockwise circular movements with your hand. This is the only way the energetic dirt will go away along with the visible dust.
Try to remember how many years you have had this mirror - and make circles with a wet rag for that many years. Then you will completely destroy all the negative information that has accumulated over the years. If you don't remember how old the mirror is, do thirteen circles.
Fumigate and sprinkle
You will need a few sprigs of St. John's wort, thistle or heather. Also prepare a bowl of water. It can be structured (preferably thawed) or holy, but in no case tap water.
First, spray every corner of the house with this water, then wet your face and hands with it and, without wiping, let it dry. After this, set fire to the plant branches and fumigate the entire apartment with them, carrying the smoldering branches to all corners. When cleaning, mentally imagine how the energetic dirt disappears.
Cleansing your home with a candle
You will need several thin church candles, but you can also use a regular white household candle.
Take a candle and place a small circle cut out of white paper on it. It is necessary to protect your hands from negative energy that the melted wax will absorb.
Light a candle and slowly walk around the whole house with it, moving clockwise. Start moving from the front door - this is the most important gate of negative energy. Therefore, doors need to be given special attention. Stand at the front door from the outside and draw a candle around its perimeter clockwise.
Use a candle to thoroughly treat the door peephole and its entire surface, not forgetting the handles and the bell. Then proceed to processing the inside of the door, doing the same.
You need to understand that by properly treating the doors, you can be sure that negative information will not penetrate your home.
Now move further around the perimeter of the apartment clockwise. Look into all the dark corners, don't forget about the furniture, especially in the hallway, shoes and clothes. Pay special attention to windows, mirrors, corners, as well as hangers, because a lot of energy dirt accumulates on them.
Treat the walls by running a candle along a sinusoid - either raising it up or lowering it down. Your instincts will tell you where to make ascents and descents. In general, listen more to your inner voice and follow its prompts. Give your bathroom a good cleaning. This is a place that absorbs a lot of negative information, especially the bathroom mirror. After all, it is in the bathroom that you wash away the dirt from yourself, and the energetic dirt settles on the surfaces. Don't forget to treat doors and light switches that are frequently touched by hands.
The largest energy storage devices are household electrical appliances, that is, a computer, refrigerator, TV, etc. They carry a huge charge of negative energy from the outside, especially the computer and TV. Stay on them longer and treat them especially carefully.
Be sure to cross the bed and bedding three times. Starting from the head. When walking around the apartment, do not forget about the toilet and utility rooms. Treat the toilet bowl especially carefully, where a lot of negative information goes. To prevent it from coming back, it must be thoroughly “burned.”
When you finish cleansing your home with a candle, you will end up with one or more burnt candles on your saucer. Immediately throw them into a trash can, the contents of which are immediately sent to the garbage disposal (take it to the trash).
Cleaning hands after cleaning
When the cleaning is completed, it is necessary to remove the remaining energy dirt from your hands, where it will inevitably end up.
To do this, wash your hands with soap under the tap. Then wash your hands with salt and wait until they dry. After this, clench your hands and remember them, stretching your fingers. Then rub the palms of both hands clockwise. And finally, shake your hands. To reset the remaining negative energy. In total, it will take you no more than ten minutes to clean your hands.
Repeated cleaning
To check how well the cleaning was done and whether repeated cleaning is required (which should be done after three days), light a candle and wait until half of it burns out. When melted wax appears on the saucer and candle, look at its shape. If it is ugly and the wax itself is dark, then there is still dirt left. And if the wax turns out to be light and flows in smooth, beautiful streams, then your apartment is completely cleared of negative energy.
