Almost every woman once wonders how to manipulate a man, and this happens due to various circumstances. Often the reason for this desire is dissatisfaction with the development of relationships or a desire to change something in them. In fact, it is not as difficult as many may think, and after reading our article, you can see for yourself.
What not to do7
To consolidate advice on how to subjugate a man, a woman must understand what absolutely cannot be done:
- Make fun of your partner, criticize his actions.
- Arguing, shouting, forcing people to act under pressure.
- Humiliate his dignity, the quality of his work, make irony about his salary or sexual prowess.
- Change your behavior from “wrong” to “strategic”. The guy will get confused about the woman’s real attitude towards him and will stop taking his passion seriously.
A woman's wise behavior strengthens the relationship between lovers. With such a chosen one, a man becomes a “domestic” and “managed” partner.
What are the benefits and harms of manipulation?
The word “manipulation” itself usually implies a negative connotation. Many identify it with deception, cunning, and self-interest. The issue requires more careful consideration. Manipulation can have a positive or negative effect on people’s relationships - this is determined by its primary goals. So, which manipulation is called useful and which is harmful?
Useful manipulations
They can also be called inspiration. Manipulations that help elevate a man in your eyes, earn more, be more successful in reality and in the eyes of others. What's wrong if manipulation helps to fairly divide household chores? Is this wrong? Useful manipulations are those that help improve your standard of living, mood, and protect you from real problems.
Harmful manipulations
There are a lot of them. If manipulation humiliates a man physically or mentally, then it is negative. An attempt to influence for the sake of the well-being of another man is negative manipulation. This also includes actions that worsen a man’s life, make him poorer, and destroy relationships.
When is it justified to manipulate a man?
To answer this question, a definition must be given. Manipulation is a psychological technique that forces another person to obey your desires, even if they do not correspond to his needs and interests. Manipulation “forces” a person to want something he didn’t want.
Manipulation often arises not because of selfish motives, but because of the fear of asking directly. Not every woman considers this acceptable: admitting a need, showing that she needs help. The possibility of refusal, the need to somehow “pay” for your request are also frightening. It is the reluctance to voice a direct request that forces a person to use manipulation - innocent and rather arrogant.
It is common to use manipulation in cases where a simple request does not evoke the proper response from a man. This leads to "workarounds" - the woman begins to look for a softer workaround.
From a psychological point of view, manipulation does not carry anything negative for mental health if it is innocent and in one way or another benefits the man who is subjected to it. A simple example: you ask your idle husband to help you cook dinner. Result: the two of you get a delicious dish, have a good evening, and the mood in the family is positive. Another positive manipulation: your husband is invited to a bar by a dysfunctional friend who does not know limits when it comes to alcohol and prefers dangerous entertainment. You invite your husband to spend the evening in a cafe with other friends. Undoubtedly, this manipulation is for the benefit of the man.
Which men are manipulable and which are not and how to determine this
Almost all men are susceptible to manipulation. This is determined in advance when assessing the personality type.
Traditional type
Let's look at its special characteristics. Typically, such people are traditional in everything, they work five days a week, periodically visit cinemas and cafes, and value comfort, stability, and security. Logic is often used. It is not difficult to manipulate a type by addressing its basic needs. Compliments, the mentioned “path through the stomach” rule, the promise of some comfort, and so on will do.
Depressive type
It is obvious from the name that it refers to people who are usually in a depressed state of stress. The right hemisphere of the brain is responsible for their actions. This refers to dreamy people who are suggestible. Usually these are creative people who are very easy to hurt. How to manipulate them? Almost always they suffer - they need pity and sympathy. This is a method of manipulation. People of the depressed type are insecure - they can be manipulated with praise and compliments. They need it, they are drawn to it.
Boolean type
The type in which the left hemisphere is dominant. They are usually reserved, well-mannered, and often based on logic. They give the impression of sensible people who love clarity, clear facts and specifics. Men of this type are susceptible to many manipulations. They want to look “correct”, noble, and they can play on this. Pressure is placed on the sense of duty, justice, morality, dignity, and conscience.
Primitive type
It is unlikely that you will want to influence this type, but it is not excluded. We are usually talking about rather undemanding, primitive men. These could be people from dysfunctional families or simply about people with a minimum of interests. Their needs are simple: sleep, food, sexual intercourse, simple pleasures. This is what you can manipulate: providing these basic needs.
What methods of manipulation are prohibited?
