Other people's opinions are like viruses. They infect. And it doesn’t matter how strong a person you are: other people influence your emotions and behavior. Such feelings and actions are actively circulating on social networks, and in terms of the nature of the actions, this is very similar to the flu epidemic, to its model of the spread of viruses.
A 2010 study published in the Proceedings of the Royal Society states that every positive person you let into your life increases your chances of being positive by 11%, while every negative person doubles your chances of being positive. you will become negative.
But the majority let almost everyone into their lives indiscriminately. Most people are too free-spirited about who they include in their social circle and what they take away from live interactions with these people when they listen to them chatter.
Most people passively allow detractors to share their very limited beliefs and opinions. For example, like this: “Your goals are unattainable. Only a fool would try to do such a thing.” Or: “Your goals are too easy. Anyone can do this."
It seems absurd, but most people make better decisions when they don't care what others think.
Do you understand? This is the key point. You will achieve more if you listen to your own inner voice. And period.
Because what you want to achieve in life is greatly influenced by what others want to achieve in life. Even if you just see or hear that someone wants something, you will want it too.
Research published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology shows that it is quite likely that people who observe someone striving for a certain goal will also strive for the same thing themselves. These same studies show that just reading about how someone is striving for a certain goal increases the likelihood that you will start striving for it too. It's the same with other people's advice about what they want for you: hearing that advice makes you more likely to want the same thing for yourself. Their recommendations influence your desires. This can change your motivation, often for the worse.
You are biologically programmed to imitate others.
You cannot solve a personal problem by applying someone else's solution to it. You cannot measure your capabilities using someone else's yardstick. But most people, when faced with difficulties, immediately rush to friends and family for help.
And they ask: “What should I do?” Or worse: “What do I really want? Who am I?" But others cannot answer these questions. You need to find the answers yourself.
The problem is that you were raised to value the opinions of others above your own. You have been trained to be like others, to think like them. Not only have you been taught to listen to others, but your very biology is designed so that you copy their behavior.
Your brain's mirror neurons make you automatically imitate what's around you.
For decades, experts have studied the powerful psychological factors that motivate you to fit in and fit in with those around you. These factors include groupthink, negativity bias, and the chameleon effect. You end up becoming a walking imitation. You are a natural follower.
Our tendency to move with the herd can harm us. Scientific research shows that people who are lied to are more likely to lie and cheat themselves [hereinafter, the author’s statements are based on scientific articles and books, a list of primary sources is contained in the notes to the book. — Approx. ed.].
Similar work shows that if your friend is obese, your chances of becoming obese yourself increase by 171%; If someone in your family smokes, then your chances of becoming a smoker yourself increase by 61%. The influence of others can have the same impact on your brain health.
HOUSEHOLD NEGATIVE
Household negativity - what is it? Is this type of negativity associated with damage, the evil eye or curses?
A publication about everyday negativity is long overdue; I constantly receive clarifying questions about what kind of dirty trick this is, where it comes from and how to deal with it. The explanatory article will be short, clear and understandable. Of course, I could pour a bucket of verbal “water” here and, pouring from empty to empty (as all hired copywriters do), produce a long and boring publication, but do you really need it?
POSSIBLE SOURCES OF OUR PROBLEMS
Every day I receive a lot of requests for diagnostics using photos in connection with the presence of certain problems in the areas of physical and mental health, finances, personal life, and family relationships. As a result of the diagnosis, it turns out that sometimes the causes of problems are of a certain “natural” nature: a consequence of incorrect personal decisions and environmental choices, illnesses and incidents of a “non-magical” nature, etc. Some problems have a karmic origin: tests and lessons sent down from above in response to misdeeds committed by us in this life or in previous incarnations of the soul. Other situations are really caused by magical negativity: damage, curses, stealers, evil eyes. But it happens that a person has accumulated a critical mass of so-called “everyday negativity.” That's what we'll talk about in this article.
WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE OF HOUSEHOLD NEGATIVITY FROM DAMAGE, CURSE AND Evil EYE?
Everyday negativity is fundamentally different from witchcraft damage in that any damage is done consciously and purposefully, by performing special ritual manipulations. Curses start their action when clearly expressed curse wishes are spoken accompanied by a high emotional background, with natural hysterical anger. The evil eye happens involuntarily, most often due to envy, and at certain moments of “peak envy.” But everyday negativity is a collection of ordinary (“everyday”) emotional garbage.
WHERE DOES HOUSEHOLD NEGATIVE COME FROM?
Firstly, this garbage comes from people who experience feelings of envy, hatred, contempt, and rejection towards you on a constant “sluggish” basis. For example, from an envious neighbor, a bitchy employee or an anecdotally harmful mother-in-law, regular vibes of everyday negativity emanate towards their energy victims. Secondly, especially large portions of energetic dirt accumulate when situations of mutual intolerance lead to serious quarrels, scandals, and verbal altercations. And finally, thirdly, we ourselves accumulate everyday negativity as a result of our negative emotions: worries, fears, attacks of anger and surges of bad mood.
HOW TO GET RID OF HOUSEHOLD NEGATIVES
Negative energy of this type can dissipate over time without any special manipulation. Usually it is replaced by positive emotions, meditation, work on one’s character, pleasant impressions, communication with nature, relaxation, the sea and everything else like that. But it happens that too much everyday negativity has accumulated, and then a person has quite tangible problems: he begins to get sick, becomes depressed, his affairs and relationships decline. The principle is the same as in the famous school mathematical problems about two pipes and a pool: if more dirty water comes in than goes out, the pool will overflow. And in this case, it may be reasonable to do professional cleaning of household negativity using special magical techniques. The word “professional” implies an appeal to a professional master, and not some simple rituals for oneself at home. But how can you understand what nature your pressing problems are: is it damage, karma, something “natural” or that same everyday negativity? The answer is at the very beginning of this article: diagnosis is done using a photo (or at a personal appointment, when the coronavirus saga ends).
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Negative opinions can rot your brain.
The first step to a real breakthrough in life is to start ignoring other people's opinions. You must learn to take friendly advice more carefully. This is especially true in cases where the advice is negative.
Stanford University News reports research showing that when you're exposed to negativity for 30 minutes or longer, neurons in your hippocampus, the problem-solving part of the brain, die off.
Yes, negative opinions can literally rot your brain.
You may think you are doing a good deed when you allow people to vent to you or try to make them feel better. But that doesn't really make you
better. This reduces your mental energy levels and reduces your effectiveness.
In one study, 120 people were asked to either communicate with an unpleasant person or ignore him. Four minutes after the interaction, each subject was given an exercise that required unflagging mental concentration. Those who refused to communicate with unpleasant people showed better results than those who did talk to them.
Other experiences show that the desire to make others happy is always incredibly destructive. This can lead to burnout, reckless behavior, and even suicide. There is no virtue in listening to uninvited guests, especially their unexpected unpleasant thoughts.
Are you not convinced by all this?
Then here is a short list of how negative opinions and negativity in general can slowly destroy your life:
— With each new ill-wisher you let into your life, your chances of increasing your own negativity increase by 100%. However, each kind person you let into your life only increases your chances of increasing positivity by 11%.
- One bad friend will double your chances of becoming unhappy.
— The risk of dying at a young age increases by 50%. Those who give in to worries and the impulses of negative relationships are one and a half times more likely than others to die prematurely.
— The risk of developing heart disease increases by 34% in hostile relationships.
— Negativity has a direct connection with poverty and decreased brain activity.
— If you listen to an ill-wisher for at least half an hour, the neurons of your hippocampus, the part of the brain that is responsible for solving problems, begin to gradually die off.
— Working with a boss who is unfriendly to you significantly reduces creativity compared to those who work under a friendly person.
- Depression and anxiety. The risk of their development increases if you constantly complain about your problems.
- Low self-esteem. Listening to or observing unpleasant people interact will lower your self-esteem and increase your overall neuroticism.
Become aware of the false beliefs that shape your life
No one becomes an adult without “scars.” We live in a chaotic world that is beyond our control. Parents are getting divorced. Friends betray us. People often judge solely by their appearance: having acne or being overweight can be a reason for people to hate you. There is death, loneliness and internal scars that never fully heal.
Some start using alcohol and drugs. This is the only thing that can give them a shake and make them feel at least something. They call it “adjusting to an unjust world.” But in reality it is a form of escape. They will run, hide and be in the company of other people as little as possible.
Another version of the development of events is also possible: you enter adulthood and the countdown begins. Test results. University. Relationship. Interview. Fight for the best place in the office. Marriage. Children. Mortgage. Expectations. Depression. And, of course, eternal fear. You are hiding from life. All the “main action” begins to take place in your head, because it is safe there and no one can disturb you. This causes you to form a ton of false beliefs that snowball.
The above are two of the most categorical examples, however, if you do not find yourself in them, this does not mean that there are no false beliefs in your life. Here are the most common examples of common misconceptions.
I will never do anything great. I will never fall in love. I'll never be happy. I'm worthless. I owe everything to my parents. I can't. I will always have problems. I'm a victim. I'm not strong enough. If I'm not rich, no one will love me. I'm unattractive. If I don't earn this much money or achieve a certain status, I won't be able to become a good husband, dad, person, etc.
All false beliefs are directly manifested in our behavior. They determine the choices we make in work, relationships, how we communicate with parents, friends, colleagues. False beliefs influence every decision we make in life. They block many of our aspirations by telling us that we are not worthy.
Think about what your false beliefs are about love, work, people, your body, creativity, life in general? What can and cannot you actually do? What do you think you deserve?
Repeat again all the false beliefs you just listed. Now think about how your life would change if you got rid of them? Who would you be? What kind of people would surround you? What would you do with your life? Would your life be different from what it is now?
Is it possible to prevent damage?
The main signs of damage can appear in a person with any energy level. You can break through the mental shell with the most powerful psychic, if only you have the desire. Black magicians claim that by destroying energy protection once, they can do it as often as they want to do it.
Considering this fact, a person who has once experienced the influence of a negative program with the addition of an entity must learn not only to expel the entity on his own, for which he must understand how it manifests itself, but also be able to put up additional mirror protection that will reflect the enemy’s blows.
When there is a war, a potential victim can choose 4 methods of protection:
- Go into deep defense, surround yourself with mirrors, pawn your home with magic bricks and wait until the magician gets bored and switches to another object.
- Start actively attacking yourself, using rune magic.
- Create a false energy shell where the enemy will send his futile blows.
- Go under the protection of a Christian egregor, which helps to defend yourself if damage has been caused and they continue to attack.
Each of these methods has its own disadvantages and advantages, and each person chooses the method that suits him best.
If damage is caused by an amateur, then it can be easily identified if you know the signs and quickly eliminated. Most often, magic salt and holy water are used to eliminate weak damage. You can fill the found lining with salt, you can wash away the essence or drive it away with holy water.
Symptoms of damage in humans
A person who has been subjected to an energy attack will have signs of damage that can be easily distinguished by an experienced person. To suspect damage, it is enough to study its symptoms once. These include:
- decreased performance;
- frequent dizziness;
- severe apathy and tendency to depression:
- increased drowsiness, especially during the daytime;
- thoughts of suicide;
- discord in love and family;
- permanent financial losses;
- frequent headaches;
- sudden mood swings;
- increased sweating;
- feeling of chills and coldness in the bones;
- strong attraction to the person who made the love spell;
- decreased sexual energy;
- the emergence of addiction to bad habits, especially alcohol.
If you know these signs, then it is impossible to miss a negative invasion of energy shells. To confirm its presence, a diagnosis of damage is needed.
"I'm always right, even if I'm wrong"
Every person wants to be right.
This is fine. We need to understand that this is the norm not only in relation to ourselves, but also in relation to other people. There is no need to take away their right to express their own opinions. In everyday life, the desire to be right leads to many negative situations and emotions, especially in the relationships of spouses, parents and children. There are many paths to the goal. If we have found one way, this does not mean that another person will not find theirs. The main thing in this case is a flexible internal attitude: “I know how I would do it, but another person can do it differently.”
Life story
I remember that I once held a drawing in a food delivery community; when summing up the results, I did not notice all the conditions of the drawing for one of the participants and excluded her from the competition. As it turned out, I was mistaken, and the girl had all the conditions met. Oh... to say that there was a scandal is to say practically nothing. My mistake was, before talking with subscribers in the comments, to go to management to ask for an additional gift to resolve the conflict.
During my 10-minute absence, a revolution took place in the comments. Other subscribers sympathized with the girl and accused our company of fraud.
The matter ended peacefully: I followed all the tips from the list above, sincerely apologized, gave the girl a gift, everyone was happy (except for my nerves).
Conclusion: do not hesitate, resolve conflicts immediately.
How is a negative program transmitted?
A lining is a thing that is negatively influenced by magic spells and rituals. To “fill” things, magicians use black curses, cemetery soil, dead birds and animals, hair, nails, and stick needles. At the same time, such a lining is thrown into the house of the person to whom the message is directed. The item can be given as a gift or thrown into a bag or pocket. What can be a lining:
- charmed food and drink;
- cloth;
- accessories;
- antiques;
- jewelry;
- sharp objects;
- toys;
- homemade dolls;
- books;
- photos;
- cosmetical tools;
- mirrors;
- flowers.
You need to know the signs of linings so as not to miss their presence in your life. Punched coins and charmed banknotes with incomprehensible inscriptions or signs are used to spoil poverty. A suddenly discovered missing personal item can become a lining that is damaged. Chicken feathers and dirt may suggest a magical ritual.
The easiest way
The easiest way to deal with negative emotions is to deprive them of the energy they receive from your thoughts and attention. If you manage to switch to something else, the emotions will quickly fade away. For example, if some device does not work, everything inside us begins to boil. At this moment, you need to transfer your attention to something else, the easiest way is to breathe. It is always with us, and it is easy to concentrate on it. Some people find it easier to count to ten - this works great at the beginning of the boil. If the cause of negative emotions is deeply hidden, other methods will help.
Mantra for cleansing negativity
One of the ways to get rid of negative emotions is to read special spells. They are called mantras. These sacred texts are used in Hinduism and Buddhism.
For people of this faith, mantras are practically the same as prayer for Orthodox Christians. Each sound of such a text carries a deep meaning. A particular spell usually requires exact replication. Cleansing words act fruitfully, they get rid of negative thoughts, set the mood for positivity, and enable a person to find harmony. What is negativity? This is negative energy. And negative energy is neutralized only with the help of a positive charge, with which mantras fill a person. To cleanse yourself from negativity, there are such sacred texts: the mantra of purification to Shiva, OM MANI PADME HUM, the Gayatri mantra and others.
What types of damage can be detected
Razsorka, separation, ostuda are used to separate two sexual partners. This type of damage is often ordered by mothers or mothers-in-law who do not accept their children’s chosen ones. Wives and mistresses resort to this method of negative messaging, trying to quarrel between their beloved man and their hated rival.
Damage for fornication is done to both men and women in order to prevent them from starting a family. Those suffering from this type of damage have many sexual partners, which leads to the appearance of chronic sexually transmitted diseases.
Damage to death has many options. It rarely leads to sudden death, because it is difficult to kill a person full of energy with a well-functioning endocrine system. More often, such damage exhausts the body with strange symptoms and weakens the immune system, which leads to chronic diseases.
Spoilage for money is often done by envious neighbors if a more successful person behaves provocatively. Relatives can order it to punish a loved one for their success. The presence of such damage can be determined by how suddenly problems with money began, despite the fact that until recently the cash flow was endless and income exceeded expenses.
Damage to a house or apartment can be determined by the behavior of the inhabitants living in it. A damaged apartment will show signs of destruction and negativity. They are dirty, cobwebs hang everywhere, walls are crumbling, wallpaper is falling off, despite all the efforts of the owners to maintain cleanliness and order. If damage is caused to a house, animals and flowers will not live in it, or farming will be done. Family members will constantly quarrel. Often drunken groups gather in such houses, they fight, shout and cry. Such rooms need to be cleaned, listening to cleansing prayers in them for a long time, washing the floors with holy water, hanging bunches of medicinal herbs that have magical properties.
Trolling
How to find out - a type of unpunished aggression on social networks. Aggression for the sake of aggression. No arguments, no facts, no desire to solve the problem.
What to do - delete and block immediately, there is no point in entering into discussions. By doing this you will show other users that they can write nasty things to you and thereby attract attention to your person.
Example of a comment : “Ugh, what a stupid article, the author is a fool. Data and facts are pulled out of thin air.”
Sample answer : Good afternoon, such communication is unacceptable in our community. We ask you to edit your comment and not insult your colleagues.
Life story
I remember once in the community of an online store selling baby strollers, I published a post where I indicated an additional 3% discount for subscribers. In fact, there were no discounts for the model discussed in the post. It so happened that one girl decided to order this particular model of stroller and was extremely outraged by the lack of a discount.
Oh, do you think the dialogue was constructive? Unfortunately no. The girl wrote a huge negative review in A4 format, where she described in great detail all the negative emotions she experienced and published this review on all our resources, in all social networks, under almost every post... Apologies in the comments, in messages, a call from the head of the company - nothing could not resolve the conflict.
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