6 ways to excite your wife if she doesn't want sex

Every man has experienced a strong attraction to a girl at least once in his life. Moreover, sexual desire can appear for a woman even if the man is in a relationship with another and is absolutely happy. For some, sexual attraction becomes a pleasant surprise and an opportunity to enjoy life.

Others really suffer because of him. But in both cases, we can say with confidence that coping with a strong sexual desire towards a particular girl is very difficult.

How to seduce your spouse

To fill a relationship with passion, you need to restore the emotional connection. We hope you find the following recommendations and tips useful:

Show your beloved signs of attention: flirt with her, give flowers and gifts, make surprises. This will help revive the relationship.
Show care and help her, including with housework. A woman who is tired at work usually “rests” in the evening at the stove, ironing, cleaning, or doing homework with the children. Unload your missus. And you will see how she will thank you in bed.
Bring a little romance into your relationship: invite her on a date to some unusual place. For example, where your first meeting took place. She will be pleased to know that you remember this. The roof of your house is suitable for a romantic evening. Arrange the area: decorate it with balloons, think about the lighting, prepare a light dinner and champagne. A few sincere compliments and a declaration of love, and you will see that her eyes will again sparkle with joy and happiness. She will definitely enjoy walks in the autumn park or winter forest, where she can go ice skating, skiing, and sledding. Perhaps she doesn't mind extreme sensations. A trip to a trampoline park, flying in a wind tunnel, diving lessons, even at a local swimming pool will certainly add new experiences for both of you.
Organize an evening of memories for her, because women are very sentimental. Family photos and videos will help you. Rest assured, this idea will have the desired effect.
Spend more time together. Try to share her hobbies. If she goes to fitness, yoga, dancing, it will not be so difficult. If you are interested in creativity, show interest in her “masterpieces.”
Go on a journey together. You can even limit yourself to a trip out of town, going out into the world: visiting a restaurant, concert, cinema, exhibition or museum.

Focus on your finances, her preferences, and let your imagination tell you methods that will return harmony to your relationship. We propose to get down to business and present 6 effective ways to win over your wife in bed.

What do you really want

Imagine: you enter any establishment, see a pretty girl, approach her, take her hand, and take her to your home.

At your home, you quickly take off your clothes, have sex, and the girl leaves to visit her friends in a taxi. Or - as an option - you take her there. Do you like this option for spending the evening?

I know what I like. Personally, I spent several years learning how to seduce a woman quickly and at any time. And for me it was a question of efficiency. I didn't want to waste time on courtship, cafes and movies. I wanted to come quickly, see, seduce. And I succeeded. It was possible to learn. Later, I was very successful in using my skills to get a woman if I needed it. For example, you come to another city on a business trip. And in the evening you spend the night not alone, but with a pretty aboriginal woman. The price of the issue is a trip to a local bar where girls relax in the evening.

Of course, you need to learn this, and, in addition to the ability to communicate with girls, you will need to be able to do a lot of things.

I’ll tell you about all this now.

Well, if you don’t want to know how to quickly seduce a girl, just close this site. Or start reading another article.

Words and phrases that turn women on

For many wives, it is important to share their emotions with their husbands. The opportunity to speak out in this case can be equated to the need for sex for men.

One of the common reasons for female infidelity is dissatisfaction in sexual relations. This often happens due to the fact that there is no mutual understanding and contact between partners.

Talk to your significant other. Make it a rule to be interested in how her work day went. It is very important to listen carefully, looking into the eyes, ask questions, comment. This way she will understand that what is important to her is also important to you.

After the wedding, having won the heart of their beloved, men often stop complimenting their wife. This is a fundamentally wrong position. Any woman needs to realize that her charms are still strong, that she is the most charming and attractive, desirable and the only one.

If you don’t know how to excite your wife, start with kind and gentle words.

Your compliments must be truthful. Don't compare her to other women, including celebrities, actresses. She may react to such an exaggeration of her merits with offense.

Here are some examples of phrases that are suitable for seducing your significant other:

"You have very beautiful eyes. I still don't understand what color they are. When you're happy, they're blue. When you are angry, they darken a little, become slightly gray. When you cry, heavenly ones. You are my mystery woman."
“I admire the curves of your figure, the smoothness of your lines. You are so feminine!”
“Your skin is very delicate. I just want to touch her!”
“You are my sweet cherry on the cake. I'm going crazy about you."
“I want to drown in the sea of your silky hair. They have an intoxicating aroma."
“I want to caress your beautiful body, kiss your berry lips.”

Don't give her vulgar and vulgar compliments. Be polite, correct, gallant.

You can “get” your wife by talking about an erotic topic. Tell her about what you experience during your intimacy, what actions of hers are most pleasant to you, ask about her feelings and sexual fantasies.

It will be possible to excite a woman not only through personal contact, but also remotely - by telephone or correspondence. Compliments, confessions of feelings, messages of an intimate nature are suitable for this:

“You turned my head even at our first meeting. Enchanted, bewitched, bewitched. Since then I have been in your sweet captivity.”
“After today’s hot night, I’ve been thinking about you all day. I want to feel your kisses, passionately hug and caress you.”
“Now at work I look at your photograph and involuntarily “take off” your clothes: blouse, skirt, stockings. You were delightful at night, my luxurious, desirable seductress.”
“I rented a hotel room and ordered a romantic dinner. Come in just a coat."
“There’s a blockage at work. But sex during lunch break has not been canceled. Be ready, my charming darling."
“I gently touch your hair and whisper in your ear how much desire burns within me.”
“I bought a new toy for adults. I suggest not studying its instructions, but immediately testing it in practice.”
"Night. Street. Fireplace. Carpet. It shows the two of us naked. I hope you don't mind?
“I want you to be my gift today. And, as you know, there is nothing on it except a ribbon.”

A woman should appreciate the pleasant words that a man addresses to her. Therefore there should not be too many of them.

Excitement with words is a subtle art. You should speak clearly, not quickly or loudly, in a quiet, insinuating voice. Try not to use template phrases, because they will not reflect her personality. Take your time, think about what you say, because one wrong word can ruin all your efforts. Convince a woman that she is the object of your unbridled passion and lust, and then a sexual wave will overwhelm both of you.

Advice from psychologists2

First, a man needs to stop idealizing the girl herself, promise himself not to elevate her above others, and understand that she is the same down-to-earth person as he is. It is worth looking at it directly, without the “rose veil” and intelligently calculating its shortcomings. Then force yourself to do something, realizing that if you do nothing, then in the best case, she will quit and will never get in the way again, after which the man will reproach himself for the missed opportunity, in the worst case, the girl will have an affair with someone then for others it will be unbearable to look at. Action is better than inaction; it won’t work until you try.

Psychologists specializing in the field of relations between women and men argue that, first of all, in such situations it is urgent to raise the objectivity of one’s self-esteem. Those who cannot speak to a stranger should start with this. You need to clearly find out what exactly you don’t like about yourself and try to work on it. Complexes always contribute to tightness. For example, if you have excess weight, which is critically annoying, the gym will help correct this; the slightest change in your figure for the better and frequent physical activity make you believe in yourself and significantly increase self-esteem.

You shouldn’t seek advice from “pick-up artists”; you need to start learning the art of communication. You should read more books and try to use the acquired knowledge on all people, and not just on those you like. It is worth developing your self-expression, engaging in self-improvement and self-knowledge. Look for your own business, be passionate about something. Expand your range of interests and work on yourself. Such a person will never have problems with communication, since there will always be something to talk about.

Just three seemingly elementary tips will help not only get rid of the obsession with a new employee, but also, in principle, transform a man. It won’t be difficult to achieve this particular girl, or any other one, since you will have faith in yourself and your own strengths, and self-confidence, a sharp mind and versatility are what attracts women.

Kisses and caresses

Women's psychophysiological characteristics do not allow them to quickly switch from everyday worries to sex. No matter how much she wants, a woman cannot relax in the blink of an eye and have fun. Like a good musical instrument, it needs to be tuned. This requires foreplay. Tactile sensations will help with this.

You should start with an area of low sensitivity. Play with her curls, stroke her hair. Then cover your neck and fingers with kisses. It is no coincidence that in the 18th and 19th centuries it was customary in secular society to kiss a woman’s hand. Touching the “secret place” behind the ear will make a woman feel aroused.

Moving on to the area of medium sensitivity - chest, back, buttocks - do not stop kissing her lips. Use different techniques: light touching with the tip of your tongue, which can be firm or relaxed, deep penetration, biting.

The “cat’s place,” the area between the shoulder blades, is a conductor of sexual energy. There are many nerve endings here, so it is a sensual part of the female body. Don't bypass it!

A woman's body is much more sensitive than a man's. Stimulation of erogenous points causes a strong desire in a woman. Gentle touches with fingertips, caresses and kisses will prepare her for more active movements.

Stay on your chest. She is a symbol of female beauty, an object of desire for most men. Not all women's breasts react equally to caresses. Some are receptive to kisses, others are not. Many ladies are very responsive to touches in the waist, abdomen, and navel.

When the woman is ready, proceed to the area of high sensitivity - the inner thighs and genitals. Stroke, hug softly, leave a trail of kisses. Caressing these parts of the body will make a woman inflame with passion.

It’s rare, but it still sometimes happens that after getting married, a young woman turns out to be an inexperienced partner and feels shy. In such a situation, a man must be careful and careful.

Many men tend to underestimate the importance of foreplay. And this is their big misconception. For a woman, foreplay is the beginning of the road of joy leading to a sea of pleasure.

Find a girl

Time required: 2-4 hours

So, you decided that you won't be alone tonight. You have put yourself in order, you smell great, you are calm and confident. Also, you chose the place where you will go hunting. Now - you need to go and find the very girl with whom you will spend tonight.

Get comfortable in the establishment

Time spent: 1 hour

Of course you are determined. You walked, drove, got ready - you are full of strength and energy. But, no matter how strong and confident you are, you are unlikely to be able to come to the establishment and leave it with a girl 10 minutes later.

The girls, yes, came there to meet each other and find company for the night. But they also want to have a good time. Besides, you just arrived and are running around with hungry eyes. Girls already understand perfectly well what you are looking for. And they are even ready for this - but they will need to observe certain social rituals that will allow the girl to feel comfortable even after a night with a stranger.

Therefore, come to the place of your choice, just have a drink, relax, and have a good time. Chat with your friends. Become your own in this place at this time.

Talk to people

Time spent: 0.5 hours

So, you've settled into the establishment. You are calm, confident, everyone is used to you. But – if you sit at your table, alone or with a friend – nothing will happen. Girls will not run to meet you, no matter how good you are.

Also, if you immediately go to meet the chosen beauty, this may also not seem very appropriate. Therefore, be friendly and communicate with the people around you. In establishments, tables are often positioned in such a way that you can easily exchange phrases with your neighbors.

Of course, you shouldn’t shout loudly to the whole room, but no one forbids you to start a conversation with the next table.

Ignore bad options

You have a goal for tonight. You're out hunting and you need a woman. You don't want to marry her, you don't want to build a relationship with her. You want to have sex with her—right today.

Therefore, you will need to find exactly the woman who has the same goals as you. Definitely, it’s unlikely that you’ll come across one right away. Most likely, you will have to talk to several girls before you realize that this one is ready to go with you right now.

Don’t make a fatal mistake - don’t stick with a girl just because she seems nice to you and talks to you in a friendly manner. As soon as you realized that nothing will work out with this particular girl today (we’ll talk about how to determine this later) - leave this girl and move on to the next one.

You can take her phone number and meet later. But today you are busy with something completely different. Stay focused.

Find a suitable option - and be with her

As soon as you find a suitable option, concentrate on this girl. A little later I will tell you how to accurately determine the girl who is ready to go home with you today. But the main principles are the same as with an ordinary girl: she laughs at your jokes, she touches you, reacts normally to your touch, asks personal questions, preens herself, and demonstrates herself, trying to appear to you in the best possible light.

Having found such a girl, concentrate on her. This is your option for today. This is the girl you will go home to have sex with. If you leave a girl who reacts well to you in search of a girl who will react even better, sooner or later you will be left without a girl at all.

Massage with erotic elements

Touching allows you to learn secrets about a woman’s individual erogenous zones. In order to leave a pleasant feeling, it is recommended to do a massage in an appropriate atmosphere. Dim lighting and relaxing music will help create it. Important recommendations and procedures:

Hands should be warm. Treat them with moisturizer.
Massage your neck with soft touches, then slowly move to your back.
The area between the shoulder blades requires special attention, massage it gently and smoothly.
Go down to your waist and buttocks. There is a large amount of soft tissue on the buttocks. Stimulation here can be intense: rubbing, patting.
Lightly stroke down the back of your thighs to your feet. Their massage will not only relieve fatigue, but also ignite the fire of passion.
Pay attention to your breasts and nipples. This is one of the strong erogenous zones.
Accompany your touches with kisses, so you can quickly achieve the desired effect.
When the woman's desire is obvious, move on to genital massage.
If the woman is not yet excited enough, you can repeat all the manipulations from bottom to top.

During an erotic massage, focus on your partner’s sensations to determine what she liked most and what was less pleasant. Experiment so you can learn how to excite your wife.

Play a game with her where the topic of sex comes up

Briefly, the main rule: try to find out the girl’s attitude to sex in principle and to sex on the first date before moving on to direct proposals.

All people have different attitudes towards sex. Just like guys, girls practice one-night stands, others consider it appropriate only in long-term relationships, and there are still those who need an exclusively platonic connection; asexual romantics are not such a rare sexual identity.

Therefore, before you start wondering how to hint to a girl about intimacy, try to find out her attitude towards sex. One way to unobtrusively learn this is through a game like Never Have I Ever. You will find questions for her (including “hot ones”) in a separate material.

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When your communication with the girl becomes confidential, you can ask her: “When do you think is the right time for couples to start having sex? I wouldn’t want to miss this moment :-).”

If you want to propose sex to a stranger you met at a bar or club, you can ask her how she feels about sex on a first date or one-night stand.

Music and sounds

Everyone knows that a man loves with his eyes, and a woman with her ears. A woman's arousal is associated with her sound perception.

Scientists have found that the hormone dopamine is responsible for a woman’s sexual pleasure. Its synthesis can be stimulated by many musical melodies. In addition, the result of research conducted at the Montreal Institute was the confirmation of cause-and-effect relationships in some subjects between listening to optimistic and rhythmic music and vasodilation. This process helps to increase blood flow, and, therefore, a rush of blood to all organs, which is reflected in increased desire.

Experts from the American Maryland Institute came to the conclusion that each stage of a romantic evening needs its own music: for foreplay - gentle lyrical compositions, for sexual intercourse - exciting energetic rock. The anticipation of orgasm requires a fast musical tempo. It helps to increase blood pressure and heart rate, which brings climax closer.

Music that evokes aesthetic pleasure can awaken libido. And some sounds - a low male voice, words spoken in a whisper, rapid breathing, the sound of rain, the sound of the sea tide - return us to nature, help awaken animal instincts. According to scientists, sounds affect the part of the brain responsible for emotions and stimulate the production of hormones that increase desire. Therefore, every woman has musical “buttons”, when “turned on” they can give her sexual pleasure.

Ask her what she likes

Briefly, the main rule: find out her preferences in sex in advance. Don’t be afraid of direct questions, they don’t kill your mood, but on the contrary, they warm it up! Such a conversation can become part of the foreplay.

So, the girl clearly and clearly expressed her interest in intimacy with you. What else is worth discussing before you head to bed? To give each other maximum pleasure, it's a good idea to discuss your preferences in advance. This, by the way, can be a good and teasing foreplay. You may ask:

“What is your favorite place to kiss?”;
“What turns you on the most about sex?”;
“Do you have a favorite position?”

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You can also share your preferences with the girl. However, we strongly advise you to use general phrases, without references to specific sexual experiences. Let's give an example of an unsuccessful approach: “When my ex kissed my neck, I went crazy with pleasure.”

Instead, it would be more appropriate to say, “I love being kissed on the neck.”

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Talking about previous partners is a “killer” of sexual mood, so don’t go into details of your previous intimate encounters and especially don’t brag about your victories. Saying “All the girls had their biggest orgasms with me” is completely redundant, even if it’s true. Instead, try to show her your skills through deeds rather than words.

Smells and aromas

In the human brain there is a connection between the areas of smell and emotion. Their stimulation can encourage both men and women to take certain actions.

It is very important for a woman to know that her sexual partner radiates confidence and stability. Not the least role in this belongs to men's perfume. Too sweet aromas and food smells emanating from the “male” can repel a beautiful lady. The correct use of such a strong stimulant as aromas can excite even a sleeping wife. Here are the options for these scents:

Among the traditional aphrodisiac scents, vanilla stands out. It is often used in perfume compositions and cosmetics.
The aromas of jasmine and mint fascinate women and make them lose their heads.
The smell of musk is similar to male pheromones. It guarantees that the man will be identified, noticed and distinguished from the crowd of competitors.
An expensive men's perfume with intoxicating notes of tobacco and wine, sea freshness, and the smell of meadows and forests will set sensitive young ladies in a romantic mood. It is believed that tobacco is associated with the wild West and cigars. The wine obviously evokes a parallel with the gallant and passionate French. The sea - with scarlet sails and brave sailors, as well as with the sea breeze, freshness and lightness. Meadows and forests give the joy of a country holiday, the taste of berries, the smell of flowers.
However, the most attractive thing for most women is the natural smell of a clean, well-groomed male body. The fact is that men exude pheromones, which makes their body so attractive.

But not only men's perfume can captivate women. Another effective way to relax and pre-sexual relaxation is a warm bath with essential oils and foam. Use the necessary surroundings: scented candles around the perimeter of the room, rose petals. Don't doubt it, every woman dreams of this. Offer her, hot and delicious, a glass of chilled sparkling champagne, and she will ask you to join her.

Essential oils have a strong effect on the nervous system. Rose, sandalwood, patchouli, ylang-ylang, ginger, orange, cedar, pine, geranium, and rosemary oils have a strong stimulating effect. To increase libido, a few drops of oil can be applied to the wrist, added to an erotic massage cream, or used in an aromatic lamp.

The best aphrodisiac foods

Aphrodisiacs owe their name to the goddess of love, Aphrodite, revered in Ancient Greece.

A properly adjusted diet will help increase a woman’s sexual activity. The effect of special products is associated with their influence on increasing blood flow to the pelvic organs, which helps to increase their sensitivity. The following can be distinguished:

The generally recognized leaders in this rating are red and black caviar, oysters, mussels, shrimp, squid, octopus and other inhabitants of the deep sea.
Dark chocolate increases endorphin levels, which gives a feeling of relaxation and pleasure.
Fruits and berries - avocado, mango, pomegranates, citrus fruits, figs, cherries supply the body with vitamins and phytohormones. Bananas and pineapples - sources of serotonin and potassium - increase the level of pleasure, contain the enzyme bromelain, which increases desire.
Celery has long been a valuable product on this list. It improves blood circulation and increases libido. Used for salads and drinks.
Another effective recipe for a “hot” lunch is any nuts, seeds and honey. They are rich in minerals and can enhance sexual function.
Herbal aphrodisiacs deserve special attention. These include tonic and strengthening stimulants lemon balm and angelica, and damiana, which improves the functioning of the genital organs.
Among the spices, cayenne pepper stands out, which speeds up metabolism, dilates blood vessels, and fills the body with energy.

The use of aphrodisiac products in combination with moderate physical activity normalizes hormonal levels, charges a person with the energy he needs, and has a beneficial effect on the functioning of all organs.