The psychology of women is so different from men’s that it is sometimes completely unclear how couples are created and what keeps them together. Women's psychology for men is a dark forest in which it is easy to get lost. However, this does not mean that you should not even try to understand women. On the contrary, the more a partner knows about his woman, the easier it will be for him to build a relationship with her.
Women's moods are changeable
Now she is fluttering like a butterfly because you brought her favorite cakes, and an hour later she is crying avidly because she will be fat and it’s your fault... because you brought her favorite cakes.
It's the same with sex. If you put a girl in the right mood, she will jump into your bed on the first date. Yes, then she can reproach herself that she can’t be such a whore. But it was at that time that she enjoyed the emotions that you gave her.
By the way, the most dangerous time for the male brain is PMS. This is just fucked up, because there is no logic in the actions of the girls during this period. They just need to be tolerated, hugged, not hugged, and fed. And all this at the same time and better from a long distance. "How?" - you ask. Who the hell knows!
So, when the girl who purred in your ear yesterday looks at you blankly today, just relax and wait for a new attack of cuteness.
A man does not necessarily need to completely adapt to a girl’s changing mood. But it’s worth taking into account the very fact of its presence.
Basics of female psychology
What is the basis of femininity? The answer is emotions and feelings. They are complemented by pride and contradiction. Women perceive the whole world through emotions. They feel everything that happens around them much more acutely than the stronger half of humanity. If conflicts arise in a couple, then ladies are very happy to shift responsibility to their partner.
Ladies have high demands on their gentlemen. Most often, pride forces them to demonstrate independence in solving complex problems. However, when this does not work out, then things reach a dead end.
Speaking about women, one cannot fail to mention their love of gossip. This is one of the sides of their nature, unable to restrain emotions inside, they try to exchange it with other people. They are always looking for “free ears” to share their experiences and thoughts. It is very important for them to receive the support and understanding of loved ones.
However, in their desire to achieve their goal, ladies do not hesitate to manipulate people. This style of behavior is passed on from one woman to another from generation to generation. Often women do not dare to directly ask for something, therefore, they try to build a whole scheme in such a way that the idea of helping her comes to the person’s mind as if by chance. Women love to manipulate even in everyday life. Peculiarities of female psychology include increased attention to one’s appearance. Their self-esteem is very dependent on the admiration of strangers. Especially if men express admiration. It is for their sake that ladies spend long hours in front of the mirror and wear terribly uncomfortable heels.
Girls pay attention to little things
Even the snow queen is a vulnerable girl at heart who can burst into tears at home because her man looked at her differently today than he did yesterday.
What may not play any role for us men is extremely important for women. But this does not mean that around women you need to walk to the line and remain silent. Just avoid too slippery topics: flaws in appearance, weight, girlfriends, parents and everything else. Kidding. Almost all.
But girls really love humor. So joke and don’t be afraid to offend her with every phrase you say. A cheerful and satisfied girl will most likely laugh too if you joke about her fat ass. But it is not exactly.
In courses at Akloni Academy, I talk in more detail about what is best not to discuss with girls.
Basics of women's psychology
Surely everyone remembers the lengths to which Mel Gibson’s character had to go to answer the question “What do women want?” in the film of the same name. After all, it’s true that it’s so difficult for men to understand women’s logic. And thanks to the superpower gained as a result of the shock - to hear everything that women are thinking about - our hero experienced incredible and happy changes in all areas of life.
However, most men cannot yet boast of telepathic abilities, so the psychology of a woman in a relationship is something incomprehensible and mysterious. But the topic is relevant for many, so we’ll look into it.
Have you noticed that, although speaking the same language, using the same words, women and men nevertheless look like aliens who do not understand each other at all? For example, if a man said that he was tired, this means that he wants to relax in silence and solitude. A woman, having said the same thing, may mean that she wants attention, care and “to be held.” So understand it.
The explanation lies in the fact that for women, emotions and experiences prevail over the logical mind. Words are a way for them to express feelings. Therefore, when talking with a girl, a man needs to pay attention not only to words, they can mean something completely different.
Now it may seem to some that it is completely impossible to come to an understanding with a woman. We will try to prove that this is not so.
Of course, men are more “achievers”; their psychological attitude is very different from women’s. But for successful progress towards goals, a man must feel the support and favorable attitude of his lady.
A man needs inspiration, motivation and a reliable loving support. And he is looking for one among the girls who will give him all this, and he will work hard, get a star from the sky, bring a mammoth and overcome any difficulties for his beloved - this is so natural.
The girls are thinking
What are they thinking? All! So it’s better to tell the whole truth right away and don’t give it room for fantasy. Yes, there is such a thing as personal boundaries and you should remember them when communicating with a girl.
But, if you are late at work, it is better to immediately provide her with evidence of this than for her to begin her own investigation with torture and hysterics.
In general, honesty is important in relationships. I’m not saying that you need to spill the whole truth, sometimes understatement is better than a direct “I just want to fuck you.” But, when you are already in a tight relationship, build it on trust, then the girl won’t blow your mind.
Psychology of a woman in a relationship with a married man
“To be or not to be” in a relationship with a married man is a very important and burning question for modern ladies. Why don’t girls consider it shameful to enter into such relationships?
Probably, one of the advantages is that a married man looks more respectable, confident and authoritative; he has certain life experience. He often demonstrates his financial viability, energy and strength. At first, this relationship is very attractive and even interesting.
But still, there are more negative aspects in connection with married men, not to mention the immorality of the concept itself. In most cases, these relationships have no prospects, sooner or later one of the participants leaves the game, and separation does not happen without disappointments, resentments, scandals or real tragedies.
This kind of relationship is almost always accompanied by the presence of the following negative factors:
- a man can show his dissatisfaction if a girl calls him whenever she wants, because he can be with his wife at that time. The time of calls is negotiated, most often only the man has the right to call, and the girl has to adapt to his schedule;
- often when talking on the phone or in instant messengers, a man addresses his beloved using a man’s name, which is unlikely to please;
- also, the tone of a telephone conversation can be dry and businesslike in order to ward off suspicion;
- meetings take place according to the scheme “we could serve in intelligence”; the man is more often the initiator, choosing convenient options;
- places for dates are most often out of town, secluded, so as not to run into someone you know;
- an unpleasant moment for a woman is that a man tries to get rid of all the evidence on his clothes and in the inside of the car;
- any meeting ends predictably, the woman has to remain alone, and the man hurries home to his wife.
- As for vacations and holidays, the beloved is usually with his wife at these moments;
- a girl can be jealous of a man as much as she wants for his rightful half, but he may be more likely to be annoyed by her claims and reproaches, because the rules of the game have been established.
But there are also women who find many advantages in a relationship with a married man. After all, in principle, you can consider yourself free from obligations and there is no need to report on where you are. Some ladies get pleasure, and even expensive gifts, by manipulating their lover, who periodically feels guilty towards his mistress and wife. Unfortunately, manipulation in relationships between men and women is not uncommon, and psychology, as a science, carefully studies these methods of influence.
At the beginning of a relationship with a married man, a woman dreams of romance, passion and adventure, but in the future, if the relationship drags on, problems still cannot be avoided. One way or another, the man is not going to part with his wife; his family comes first.
The mistress retains a separate position; acquaintances and friends, in principle, should not know about her existence in order to avoid a scandal. This is where the main disadvantages of relationships of this kind lie. A man here has advantages over a woman, because a woman always hopes that she can become the one and only, and for her beloved will leave his family.
But if he gets tired of this triangle, which poses a threat to a safe and stable life, the man will break off relations with his mistress, paying off his farewell with an expensive gift. However, young, inexperienced and insecure girls do not even get this. Usually a love story turns into drama or even tragedy.
According to psychologists, such unhealthy relationships are more often created by girls with psychological problems laid down in early childhood. And even if a man leaves his wife and goes to his mistress, such a turn of events does not always lead to happiness and harmony.
A woman will not share you with someone
When you're planning to build a lasting relationship, remember: you don't want to share your girl with another dick, and she also doesn't want to share you with passing whores.
That is, she plans to completely own your body, mind and wallet. As the main inspirer of Akloni, I maintain that relationships are built only on trust and honesty.
Do you want a problematic relationship where your wife will meet you with a frying pan? Then give her more reasons to doubt you.
Psychology of a woman in a relationship with a man who is older than him
Today, many taboos in the sphere of relationships have been lifted; according to recent decades, quite a lot of couples have appeared in which the man is much younger. In previous years, such marriages were looked upon with disapproval, and even now not everyone manages to build long-lasting, happy relationships.
If a woman is 20 or more years older than her partner, then naturally she begins to dominate, lead and teach. It is important to find a balance, to avoid pressure and manipulation, then such a marriage has a chance of success. Relationships based on trust, love, respect, and mutual interest in each other can last for many years and do not depend on age and other criteria.
If the basis is any kind of calculation, then conflicts and disagreements will gradually fill all areas of family life: everyday life, intimate relationships, communication, etc. People from different generations may have different outlooks, life experiences, levels of culture and upbringing, and emotional dispositions. For better compatibility in the intimate sphere, it is desirable that there is no more than 10 years difference between spouses.
Modern women have many effective means in their arsenal that allow them to remain beautiful, well-groomed and healthy until old age. Age is not a barrier to being a woman. And a harmonious intimate relationship with a loving man definitely helps to prolong youth.
True, British psychologists, in their studies of families in which the men were younger, noted the following: women in such unequal marriages die earlier than their peers living in traditional relationships. Perhaps one of the reasons for early departure is chronic stress due to the generally negative attitude of society towards such marriages.
Girls don't tolerate indifference
Although no, they tolerate it, but only in one case - when you completely block your attention with money. And believe me, you just need a lot of money for this.
Otherwise, don't be a callous asshole.
In fact, attention for every girl is a vague, but different concept. There are literally a couple of moments that all girls definitely love:
- Flowers for no reason. Even if it is a bouquet of wildflowers, it is still nice.
- Compliments. Don’t forget to tell your chosen one every day that she is the most beautiful, even if she looks like a crocodile. You yourself chose such a woman.
- Tactile contact. Hugs, kisses, walking hand in hand - all this makes girls pee like boiling water.
Female characteristics that poison a man's life
- Faith in ideals
. Having read fairy tales about princes and women's novels, the girl is waiting for the ideal man, who combines all the qualities of a superhero: strength, youth, beauty, intelligence. In addition, he must throw the whole world at the feet of his chosen one. One look from her! And if this is not the case yet, then the girl expects that she will be able to change her hero. But more often than not, such ideal views on relationships fail and lead to disappointment in their superman.
- Love to sort things out
. Well, here’s how it is: just now everything was quiet and calm, they were sitting and talking, suddenly something inside her switched, there was a change in mood, and you don’t understand what’s what. She remembered something and let's sort things out. In fact, there is no problem at all, in your opinion. And she was almost hysterical. Although, if you hug, say that you love, listen, wipe away your tears and... the storm subsides. Pay attention on time and there will be fewer such outbreaks, verified.
- Emotional explosion
. Women live by feelings and experiences. If your beloved lacks joy, pleasure and other positive things, then expect arrows with negative emotions in your direction. For men, this property of the female psyche seems incomprehensible.
- Tendency to Napoleonic habits
. It happens that if a woman has got something into her head, she will go towards her goal, even disregarding moral standards. Do you think that your quiet and shy person won’t allow anything like that? Don't promise! You know who lives in the still waters. If you have already exhausted your strength or desire to achieve your goal, then the woman will continue to hit this point. Provided that it is important for her to get what she wants.
Women love sex too
Yes, most girls are passionate about relationships and love. But believe me, those ladies who have already tasted the delights of excellent fucking will never refuse to jump on a dick.
Two things stop them:
- Public condemnation. Well, our girls have not yet learned to think with their own heads, and not be led by the opinions of grannies at the entrance.
- Bad partners. Not all men know how to use their equipment. And even more so, give him the right presentation.
At Akloni Academy I teach how to have sex with a girl even after the first date.
Psychology of women in relationships with their husbands
Psychologists know very well how many difficulties arise in marriage due to the unwillingness and inability to understand the partner. Often a man who is busy making money does not find time to notice his wife’s feelings and her emotional state. Not receiving attention, the woman becomes offended, complaints and reproaches begin.
Lovers entering into a family union have to think not only about pleasures, but also take on certain responsibilities. The active role in creating everyday life and harmonious relationships in the family traditionally lies with the woman; she is the housewife and the future mother.
How wonderful it would be if, before marriage, partners took a course called “Secrets of the psychology of a woman in a relationship with a man.” After all, it is very rare when a husband and wife manage to build a harmonious relationship and truly be happy.
In a woman’s soul there is a constant struggle between the “weak self”, which wants to be close to a courageous and strong man, and the “strong” one, who wants to command and rule over him.
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Can a man be soft, compliant, strong and courageous at the same time? Most likely not, because here one excludes the other. Therefore, harmony and happiness become an unattainable dream for women. Having married a powerful and strong man, it is then difficult for a woman to come to terms with a subordinate position, when her interests are not taken into account and her desires remain unfulfilled.
Another option, when the husband is quite happy with the role of a henpecked man, and the power is completely in the hands of the wife, also cannot be considered ideal - the woman gradually gets tired of constant responsibility. She would become weak and dependent, but the man is no longer ready to change. So there is no happiness in life.
What are men afraid of?
Men, like all people and living beings in general, are also characterized by fear. And it can be difficult for them to cope with it, because men need to continuously maintain the image of a fearless defender. The most common fears men have related to relationships are the fear of being rejected, the fear of becoming dependent on a woman or of being unwanted, humiliated, and the fear of not meeting the requirements. Among other common male fears, psychologists name:
- Fear of failure. This applies not only to the financial component, but also to all others.
- Fear of ruining your own reputation;
- Fear of being deceived;
- Fear of loneliness;
- Fear of becoming a victim of manipulation.
Psychology of male love
As a rule, men tend to hide the sensual component of their lives. But being in love can make serious adjustments to the behavior of a representative of the stronger sex. This is manifested both in external changes - a man begins to take better care of himself, tries to look attractive, and in behavior. Gestures, facial expressions, and speech also change. Numerous studies of the state of male love allow us to name the most accurate probable signs that another man was struck by the mark of Cupid’s arrow:
- Increased interest in the object of love. A man in love strives not to let his beloved out of his sight for a moment. In any situation, he tries to be as close to her as possible;
- Striving to become better. A man in love tries to make a positive impression on his chosen one, so he begins to behave in a way that is usually unusual for him. For example, he watches his speech, gives compliments, becomes attentive, gallant, interesting, cheerful, fearless, etc. This allows a man to stand out from other representatives of the stronger sex and capture the attention of the person he is interested in.
- Demonstration of trust. If a man shares personal experiences and open secrets with you, then he is most likely in love;
- Expression of admiration. In the object of his love, a man tends to notice exclusively positive qualities and openly admire them;
- Jealousy. A state of continuous rivalry remains between men. Therefore, jealousy can be considered one of the signs of falling in love, since it is nothing more than the desire to protect what one wants to possess, as well as the fear that someone else will receive this adored object.
Women's vision of relationships
Women perceive the main part of information through hearing. Therefore, men need to compliment their loved ones more often and pay more attention to them.
If a girl doesn’t have enough attention, she won’t tell the guy about it, but will carefully lead him to it. But men rarely guess women's intentions unless they are told so directly.
If a man does not receive a woman’s direct instructions about her intentions, he will never guess through hints what his beloved wants. He will perceive this behavior as just another woman’s whims caused by a bad mood.
Women want men to admit that they are right. But if you agree with them on absolutely everything, then this will also be a mistake. The girl, oddly enough, will begin to treat the guy who constantly pleases them completely differently than he would like.
Need for control
Girls tend to control everything and everyone. Why is this happening? This is primarily due to their imagination and habit of coming up with an ideal picture of the world. In such an ideal reality, nothing happens without the woman’s permission, starting with the behavior of the chosen one and ending with a change in the weather.
If what is happening around diverges from what was created in the imagination, many representatives of the fair sex fall into a state of stress. They conflict with the “violators” of the script and make ridiculous guesses as to why the “characters” deviated from the mental plan.
It is almost impossible to convince a girl that her claims are unfounded. The only thing a man can do is adapt to the girl’s expectations.
Unforgivable mistakes of men in relationships with women, leading to separation
Believe it or not, a woman makes just one mistake in a relationship that can ruin everything - she chooses the wrong man.
Men have their own criteria for assessing relationships, although it is believed that they are less concerned about this area of life. Opinions may be different, but still many are not indifferent to how relations in the union will develop. Here are some mistakes that are best avoided:
- You shouldn’t underestimate your merits by deliberately standing one step lower than your chosen one.
. A woman needs to be admired, she should see next to her a real hero, a winner and a champion, and not a humble servant.
- Bragging and talking only about yourself is also not recommended.
. Such narcissism is unlikely to please an intelligent woman who perceives information adequately. Women have a special nose for false statements, and showing off can simply push you away.
- We will also classify male ingenuity as a mistake.
. We're talking about thinking things through for the girl, as timid guys sometimes do. You shouldn’t expect the girl to decide everything for both of you; with your excessive shyness and mysterious silence you can only achieve that the girl gets tired of this performance.
- Lack of generosity
- let's call it mildly - also does not contribute to the creation of harmonious relationships
. Many men today are frankly greedy; they do not consider it necessary not only to pay for a lady in a cafe, but also do not give flowers or gifts at all. Perhaps this is the result of feminism, but why take it to the point of absurdity? Any woman needs to see that her lover is ready to spend money on her, otherwise what kind of earner is he? - The opposite is considered to be excessive generosity.
. There is a feeling that the man wants to buy his lady’s favor in this way or is atone for past sins. To a woman, such behavior seems insincere. So in everything you need a golden mean.
- If a woman asks for help, and a man constantly refers to being busy
or he is not at all interested in how you solve the problem that has arisen, then this is a serious signal to ask yourself the question “Do I need this person?”
- Obvious cowardice, indecisiveness, inability to defend oneself
. A man with such character traits should immediately be taken out of the equation of your life. Leave it to such a hero to look for a protector elsewhere.
- The option when a man is only interested in intimacy should also be alarming
. Even if he is simply magnificent in this regard, life is much broader than the bed, so you need to think carefully about continuing the romance.
- Does not take responsibility, blames other people and external circumstances for any of his mistakes
. He can also place all the blame on his half. Such a man will not be able to be a reliable support and support in the family. Don't expect to be able to change it.
- Attempts to improve a woman by comparing with others
- such an action on the part of a beloved man can seriously damage the relationship or end it completely. A woman needs constant confirmation that she is better than everyone else, that a man is very lucky to have her. No comparisons should be allowed. Categorically! If you want to change your loved one, start with yourself.
- Selfish behavior does not strengthen relationships
. If a man has no desire to make concessions, negotiate, come to an agreement, then what kind of feelings can we talk about?
- If we talk about the psychology of women in relationships, then cheating has the highest negative rating
. It’s hard to imagine what an offended woman can turn all her anger into. The traitor will have a very hard time, and there is no need to talk about returning to the previous trusting relationship.
- And in conclusion, let's talk about the most terrible mistake. When for some reason the man wants to continue the relationship, but he no longer feels either love or respect for his woman
. Even the most patient and loving woman will not be able to love for two.
Emotionality
Many partners quarrel due to excessive emotionality and sudden changes in a woman’s mood. Various factors influence the emotional state of girls. Men prefer not to have contact with an angry loved one, as this can provoke a scandal.
Under the influence of a woman’s excessive emotionality:
- fantasize;
- trying to predict the development of events;
- They make scenes of jealousy without the slightest reason.
Emotionality helps women adapt to life conditions.
Domestic violence: main causes
Assault is a terrible phenomenon that many women suffer from. The consequences of such behavior are always dire. They irrevocably leave a negative imprint on the relationship, ruin the destinies of both parties to the conflict, and also negatively affect the development and mental state of children, who are often witnesses to domestic violence. Often victims of beatings do not tell anyone about their difficult situation, thereby only worsening the situation. Each of these situations is purely individual and requires personal work with psychologists, but the main most common causes of domestic violence can still be named:
- Alcohol consumption. As a rule, a husband beats his wife while under the influence of large doses of alcohol. In this state, a person ceases to control himself, and all his dark thoughts and desires break out.
- Cheating on the part of the wife. Betrayal, without a doubt, is a strong blow for any person. But even this cannot be a valid reason for assault. However, some men who do not know any other way to express negative emotions and resentment beat women for having an affair with another.
- Jealousy. Jealousy can bring a person to a state of complete loss of control over himself. Suspicion, torment, resentment - all this often results in domestic violence.
- Low self-esteem. Physical superiority is one of the ways of self-exaltation. Therefore, women often become victims of domestic violence from men suffering from low self-esteem.
How to win the favor of your beloved?
To win the object of desire, men need:
- Be positive. A woman is in dire need of positive emotions. If communication with a man is associated with relaxation and distraction from problems, she will be happy to date him.
- Stay strong and don’t burden your loved one with problems.
- Don't run after your lover. You need to be able to show pride and dignity. A dependent man is easy to control.
- Be creative. An original gift, an unusual pastime will not leave a woman indifferent.
- Give compliments. Nice words must be true.
- Learn to hear and listen to your partner. Using questions and unobtrusively expressing opinions will affect the girl.
- Develop as a person. Reading, playing sports and studying art never hurt anyone.
If you have already won the woman you love, simply surround her with care and understanding. Then there will be no quarrels between you.
Naturalness
It is not common for men to hide their real faces. They have a natural way of speaking, gestures and emotions. They rarely think that they can attract attention.
Women are completely different. Even complete loneliness is not a reason to abandon an invented image. In an effort to show off, they diligently hide their naturalness. In most cases, their behavior should be perceived as playing for the audience.
If a girl has a good reputation behind her, she will constantly raise the bar. This aspiration is the basis of her mystery and mystique. She hides flaws with clothes and cosmetics, and hides problems and worries behind her cheerfulness and cheerfulness.
A natural trait of women is the need to share other people's secrets. Very few girls know how to keep secrets. Men are more reserved.
