Why do men disappear from relationships without explanation? This most often happens at the very beginning of a relationship, but sometimes those who are especially “responsible” manage to evaporate even from the family. A special case is when a man disappears on the eve of the holidays, or after you ask him for a gift or help with something. Who is to blame and what to do?
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Why does a man disappear without explanation?
The situation when a man disappears during a passionate romance disarms the girl.
If a man appears and disappears, then there are a large number of reasons for such behavior . Often the disappearance of a lover is associated with the presence of another woman. Sometimes representatives of the stronger sex are afraid of a girl’s seriousness or do not want to start a new relationship.
He has another
The presence of another girl next to the man is explained by the following points:
- He is officially married. The possibility cannot be ruled out that he met the girl at a moment of impulse, when he was sad and bored. He thought it over and did not dare to destroy a strong marriage for the sake of a fleeting flirtation.
- I made peace after a quarrel with my ex. The situation is not uncommon, especially in the case when a man meets girls out of spite for his beloved, in order to make him jealous and demonstrate his importance.
- After meeting the girl, I made another acquaintance. In this case, the guy can completely forget about other young ladies.
- I found a more accessible girl . If a guy really wanted sex, but the relationship with his new passion did not develop as quickly as he imagined, he could switch to a more accommodating young lady.
Frivolity of intentions
If a man appears and then disappears, then there are a large number of reasons for such behavior.
None of the girls is immune from meeting an unserious guy. Why do such young people meet:
- This happened by chance, during a period of overwhelming romantic mood. Then the guy switched to normal everyday life and completely forgot who he had recently met.
- He could set the task of meeting a dozen beautiful girls and not disgrace himself, testing his fighting acumen. He achieved his goal and calmed down. He no longer needs contact with the girl and an explanation for his behavior.
- There are often situations when a man meets and makes a girl fall in love with him on a bet. A phone number can be a trophy to show off to your friends.
Other reasons
No one is immune from completely unforeseen situations in life. There is no need to think negatively about the young man.
There are situations when the circumstances are such that further communication is not possible:
- The guy died and was taken to the hospital while in an unconscious state . This situation does not happen often, but the possibility does exist. You should not call the young man. It’s enough just to clarify the information with mutual friends. If there is no one to find out the situation from, you can simply watch for him when leaving home or work. It is important not to catch his eye.
- I just didn't like the girl. There is no need to be upset or cry about this. We must calmly accept the fact that it is impossible to please absolutely all men in the world. There will definitely be someone who will love the girl.
- He needed to satisfy his sexual needs . Then interest in the girl disappeared.
- He is not sure whether to continue the relationship. The guy began to strongly doubt that he had made the right choice; he did not see the girl as his wife.
- He was tired of constant scandals and showdowns. He needs a girl with a calmer character.
- A serious problem has arisen at work. The young man considered that work moments were more important than frank conversations with his beloved girl.
- Greedy, stingy suitors often disappear on the eve of major holidays. As a rule, gentlemen appear when the holidays are over. In this way they try to save money on a good gift for their beloved.
Behavior of an abandoned woman3
A new acquaintance does not appear on the horizon, and the woman panics. Her subsequent behavior depends on her character traits, temperament and the strategy developed. In such situations, she can take the following actions:
- roar;
- to execute oneself;
- delete the phone number or blacklist it;
- be depressed;
- flinch nervously from every call and message;
- go looking for a young man, find out as much information as possible, hire a detective, arrange surveillance;
- call the gentleman yourself.
What to do? Should I call first or not?
In most cases, there is no urgent need to call a man first. Although a girl’s nerves cannot be as strong as steel, she needs to pull herself together and get over the breakup.
If he disappeared even before the relationship became intimate, then this is not worthy of the girl’s attention at all. In a few weeks she will forget about the existence of her boyfriend.
The situation when a guy disappeared after being in a relationship for several months is surprising, but even in this case you should not terrorize him with calls, organize random meetings, ask for forgiveness, or, conversely, aggressively find out the reasons for such behavior.
The most humiliating option is when a girl, trying to win back or keep a man , offers to meet solely for sex. Perhaps the guy will return, but only to use her to satisfy his sexual instinct. The level of respect for the young lady will be zero.
Even if the girl understands that the reason for the disappearance was her hysterics, reproaches, and unreasonable jealousy, she needs to calmly think about her behavior so as not to repeat similar mistakes in the future . A person has the right to make mistakes.
After a few weeks, you can send a message by phone, on social networks, asking how you are doing. This is enough time to forget the bad things and have time to get bored. If the girl he loves is not indifferent to him, he will give an answer, perhaps communication will resume. If a guy doesn’t respond to a girl’s SMS, there’s no need to despair. It is better to continue searching for another man.
Don't cling to a person
Our task is not just to highlight the reasons, but also to help you make the right decision. As you can see, in some cases, it is better to let the man go. Let him go on a long voyage, but without you. Because nothing worthwhile will definitely happen with such a man. He just wastes your time and deprives you of the opportunity to meet a worthy man!
But in order to make a final decision, internal fears and false beliefs must be worked through. Otherwise, having let go of one, you will meet a new man, but with a very similar “internal configuration”!
It should also be taken into account that in some cases it is important to help a man understand himself when you know for sure that there was a traumatic experience, and you understand that the reason for leaving is nothing more than protecting the psyche.
Why did a man disappear after the first date, meeting, sex?
If a man disappears after the first date or sex, then there is a reason for it.
The most humiliating option is when a girl, trying to get back, keeps a man
They may be the following:
- The girl overdid it with alcohol. Nobody likes a drunk person. Under the influence of alcohol, it is difficult to control every word and emotions. If a girl is slightly worried, then a sip of wine cannot ruin the situation. But if she is under severe stress and has drunk more than is permissible, then her actions may be unpredictable and her behavior disgusting. If the girl is very worried, then she should either cancel the date or invite the guy to go to an establishment where there are no strong alcoholic drinks.
- She looks completely different from what the guy imagined her to be. In the modern world, dating via the Internet is not uncommon. The insidiousness of such meetings is that in the virtual world everyone wants to appear better. Plump girls put photos on their avatars where they are thinner than they are; many use Photoshop to improve their appearance, or even pass off other people’s photos as their own. When a guy comes on a date, he is deeply disappointed and feels deceived. There is no need to be ashamed of your body. All people have complexes about appearance.
- The girl's appearance does not match the situation. Embarrassment can occur when the guy does not specify where the date will be held, and the girl dresses completely inappropriately. For example, when a guy tried hard, booked a table in an expensive restaurant, and his passion came in sneakers, jeans, and a sweater. The guy may think that the chosen one does not know how to dress according to the situation or is deliberately expressing disdain in this way. To avoid such misunderstandings, it is necessary to clarify where the date will take place and the surrounding environment.
Regain self-confidence12
After painful experiences, you need to look around and focus on yourself. Watching films about unhappy love and abandoned heroines will demonstrate how the unfortunate survived the separation of a man with dignity. The classic film “Moscow Doesn’t Believe in Tears” tells the story of how unhappy love helped a provincial girl achieve great success.
Later, the main character met her soulmate, but was grateful to fate for the sad experience in the past. It is important for a woman to regain her calm and self-confidence, which have been greatly shaken due to the situation that has occurred. Sports, dancing, visiting the swimming pool, beauty salon and gym will definitely be beneficial.
Where and for how long do men disappear: male psychology
Male psychology is structured differently than that of the fairer sex.
There are several reasons that push a man to leave “in English”:
- Fear of persecution. Men are afraid of a girl’s unpredictable reaction, hysterics, tears, threats, lying in wait for him at the entrance, at work. Most men have developed a similar stereotype about female behavior in their heads. They don’t want to believe that girls can behave with dignity and not make theatrical scenes. In this case, they disappear forever.
- Narcissism, selfishness. A man deliberately hurts a woman, understanding what they want from him. At the same time, he can periodically remind himself in order to raise his self-esteem at the expense of others.
- A period of doubt. Every man, before starting to date a new passion, goes through a period of thought and doubt. After the couple begins to get closer, the guy needs to move away and look at the situation from the outside. Women do not have such a period. The best way out would be to return to the usual rhythm of life and go about your daily routine. If a man misses you, he will be the first to make contact and prove his love.
Manipulator with a special purpose8
In some cases, the guy disappears to manipulate the girl's actions. He achieves something from his “stubborn and disobedient” girlfriend and uses these methods to try to reason with the woman. In this case, there is no need to sound the alarm, but rather calmly wait for the “prodigal parrot” to return. Psychologists do not advise building your life with manipulators, but deep down in their souls, every person is a little bit of a “dictator.” The wise behavior of a woman will show a man that such methods will not have their effect. Next time the man will not disappear without a trace. But with frequent manipulation, at one point the woman herself will disappear.
If a man disappears without any explanation as to how to behave, should he write or wait for him?
If a man disappears without explanation, then there are good reasons. If a girl is really dear to him, he will definitely find a way to be the first to make contact. There is no need to bombard him with messages, cut off his phone, or wait on the street. This kind of behavior will scare you away.
It often happens that a guy craves a girl’s attention and disappears on purpose to test her feelings, whether she will look for him and ask for his return. But if a woman does not fall for such tricks, he himself will soon get tired of this game.
In such a situation, the best solution is to simply ignore him if there is still hope for a reunion. It is necessary to continue to lead your usual way of life. There is no need to waste energy and nerves on an incomprehensible guy who himself does not know what he needs.
Reasons for missing behavior5
Men who have been in relationships with women for several days can disappear according to the principle “Figaro here, figaro there.” In such cases, there may be other reasons why the subject suddenly evaporates.
- Betrayal by a partner.
- The frivolity of a man.
- Cowardice in the face of responsibility.
- Bitter disappointment and resentment.
- Other factors.
Reasons for the disappearance of a man according to his zodiac sign
The reasons for the disappearance of a young man may differ depending on his zodiac sign.
| Zodiac sign | Why does a man disappear | How to fix the situation |
| Aries | A girl’s reluctance to demonstrate her feelings, homebodies, deception | Change your image, buy beautiful underwear, stop total control and jealousy |
| Taurus | Infidelity, criticism in the presence of strangers, desire to dominate a man | Stop reproaching, often remember pleasant moments together, do not be afraid to talk about your feelings |
| Twins | Excessive pickiness, jealousy, control over a man | Be confident, give your man freedom, find a hobby |
| Cancer | Hidden grievances, a girl’s sloppiness, lack of desire to create and maintain comfort in the home | Show attention and care, say pleasant words to your loved one, cook delicious dishes, make you feel that the man is loved and needed |
| a lion | Betrayal by a man, struggle for power and dominance in relationships | Radically change your image, become financially independent, and at the same time give in on some issues |
| Virgo | Mistrust on the part of the partner, her instability, tendency to scandals and showdowns | Focus on creating comfort in your home, find a place to throw out negative energy (gym) |
| Scales | Constant dissatisfaction, pressure on the man, negativity from the girl | Show more interest in the guy’s hobbies, find something to do for your soul |
| Scorpion | Betrayal, deception on the part of the girl | Show that the conclusions from the action were correct, devote more time to household chores, taking care of the man, forget about flirting with others |
| Sagittarius | An overly serious attitude to all life events, manipulation of a man’s feelings | Stop being jealous and reproaching, demonstrate independence, be ready to listen to the unpleasant truth about yourself |
| Capricorn | Frivolity, irresponsibility of the girl, psychological pressure and manipulation | Show your feelings more delicately, be conscious in your actions |
| Aquarius | Lack of variety, boredom, different life goals | Find yourself a new hobby or sincerely get carried away by a man’s hobby, diversify your life |
| Fish | Constant reproaches from your partner | Don’t be afraid to admit your mistakes, demonstrate loyalty and honesty |
Evening for bitter sobs11
When your heart aches from love's wounds, no amount of advice can ease the pain. At first, a woman will want to cry and be alone. You shouldn’t withdraw into yourself and bury painful feelings. It is necessary to give them a way out, to throw out bitterness and pain through tears and intimate conversations with a trusted person. It is important to analyze your feelings and the situation in order to understand the reasons that pushed your friend to take such a step. It is worth taking away a lesson from the situation that will protect future relationships from mistakes and breakups.
He works too much
There are quite a few men in the world who value their work above all else and are trying to build a career. This is a laudable desire, but in return they risk being left without a family. Moreover, among them there are those who want to get married and return from endless meetings to a cozy hearth. But then you will be doomed to wait for him all your life and reheat the prepared dinner.
Others simply do not want to tie the knot so that nothing distracts them from their main tasks. In this case, a man can go anywhere, work late and no one will reproach him for it. Even psychology is powerless here. A man disappears and appears during rare breaks between work. If you are willing to put up with this, then you can maintain this relationship. Otherwise, it is better to cut them off immediately.
You will understand everything yourself - so it seems to him
Crisis is an inevitable event in every long-term relationship. If a difficult situation drags on in a couple, then sooner or later the man will leave. A woman usually thinks through every farewell word so as not to hurt the man. But the representative of the stronger sex himself thinks a little differently.
He doesn’t understand why an extra farewell conversation with a showdown is needed. After all, everything is clear.
Common mistakes women make
There are different circumstances in life. Sometimes a man stops communication without explanation. How to understand it? You can only guess why exactly you found yourself in such a situation. If you understand the motive for the action, then there is a chance to correct the situation by regaining his love.
If he tells you that the reason lies not in you, but in himself, then in most cases this is not entirely true. A man is unlikely to leave his ideal woman. After all, she completely suits him. But he is afraid of losing her and is ready to do anything to be with her. Therefore, we advise you to think about your mistakes if your chosen one suddenly disappeared from the horizon. Possible reasons:
- Forcing events. Take your time, you still have time to think about the names of the guests at the wedding and plan the number of children. After the first date, you should not discuss with a man issues related to a different level of intimacy. Believe me, he is not that serious yet, and your activity can scare him.
- Behavior that a man considers wrong. A man may be scared off by your ability to conduct a dialogue, using profane phrases and words, smoking or excessive gaiety fueled by alcohol. He won't want to change you. He'll just leave.
- Quick sex. An excessively rapid transition to intimate relationships can cool a man’s ardor. Haste can serve you badly. The partner will decide that a wife who is ready to go to bed with the first person he meets is not suitable for him.
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