“You just didn’t catch him!” 10 obvious signs of male indifference that many prefer not to notice

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Despite all the mysteriousness of male nature, representatives of the stronger sex have one remarkable feature: they do only what they want. And what they don’t want, they don’t do accordingly. For example, they don’t date women they don’t like. And they really don’t like to discuss anything with these women. But ladies also have an equally remarkable feature: they are able to ignore the most obvious signs of male indifference.

“Well, let him say that he doesn’t love him, he doesn’t appear for weeks, and if he does appear, he’s in a hurry to leave! I already know...” Especially for those who like to come up with excuses, we have translated the most common signals from male language into universal human language, which, in general, boil down to one thing: he just doesn’t love you!

He doesn't call you

Women's excuses: he travels so often, he was very busy, etc.

Men's truth: you will be surprised, but men know how to use the phone. One hundred percent of the surveyed representatives of the stronger sex said: they will always find a minute to call a woman they really like. Being extremely “busy” may seem like a convincing excuse, but in reality, behind this concept there is always a man who was not interested in calling you.

A man is either cold or emotionally involved

The second option is a little more complicated. Usually, in this case, indifference acts as a method of manipulation. With his coldness or detachment, a man can express his displeasure with something. It’s like a kind of childish protest: you’re bad, I won’t talk to you. Or emotional blackmail from the position of a strong adult: you don’t behave the way I want, so I stop loving you.

This is what mothers usually say: if you don’t eat the porridge, I won’t play with you. The goal is to make you feel guilty. When you decide that you did something wrong, you will begin to try to atone for your guilt, appease the man, and make peace.

Such coldness is usually superficial, feigned in nature. A man only pretends to be indifferent when in fact he is emotionally involved in the relationship.

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In such a case, you should not categorically accuse the man of being a “liar and manipulator.” It may very well be that he does this unconsciously; he was taught this manipulation from childhood. It worked then, and it will work now. But you definitely shouldn’t support this behavior, otherwise the situation will only get worse.

What to do in such a situation? It is necessary to bring a man into a constructive conversation between two adults. Through active listening, without complaints and accusations and through “I-statements.” I see that you are upset about something. This upsets me too. This situation depresses me. Let's talk to you.

This way you can resolve the conflict. If you stop “feeding” his grievances, he will eventually get rid of this habit, because he will understand that this way of behavior does not bring the desired result.

He doesn't ask you out

Women's excuses: he does not dare to take the first step, he does not want to rush things, he does not want to destroy our friendship and is generally afraid.

A man's truth: the only thing he's afraid of is admitting that he's not attracted to you at all. If a man really likes you, but there are deeply personal reasons why he doesn't want to rush things, he'll tell you immediately. And yes, the date you invited him to doesn’t count. If a woman is interested in a man, he will take all the troubles upon himself. It sounds a little old-fashioned, but when a man likes a woman, he asks her out.

The man was initially cold in the relationship

The first option is when a man is initially and always cold in relationships, but at the same time he builds these relationships, supports them, and you see that he needs them. This behavior can be explained by a number of simple reasons.

The man moved away: what is the reason and how to behave?

The first, most common reason is the stereotypical attitude that is imposed on him by society or parents. Be discreet, be serious, you're an adult, don't act like a "girl." If a child is told this throughout his childhood, then the person begins to feel that showing feelings is impermissible for a real man. And now, as an adult, he simply does not know how to do this.

To understand whether a man has such an attitude, you only need to look at his father. How does he behave? Perhaps he is just as reserved and cold. In this case, indifference in a relationship has nothing to do with you and is not even a threat to the relationship. For a man, such behavior is considered normal.

The second reason for constant indifference may be... the lack of this indifference. It sounds paradoxical, but it is true. It seems to you that he does not show emotions, does not pay attention, does not care about you. But it seems to him that he is doing all this. Why is this happening? Perhaps you just show love to each other differently.

Ways to show love

verbal manifestation - confessions, compliments, conversations, letters;
financial manifestation is not only gifts or financial support, many men stay late at work not because they do not want to return home, but because they want to take care of their family by providing them with material support;

time is something we often forget about, although the time we spend on each other is also a manifestation of love;
help - when we help our partner in everything and thereby show our care;
physical contact - sex, hugs, even holding hands.

Each person shows love in their own way. A man may not talk about love, but he is always ready to help you, spends a lot of time with you, and supports you financially. In this case, the fact that he does not confess his love and does not give compliments does not mean at all that he does not love you. Analyze the ways your partner shows love.

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The third reason for a man’s initial and constant coldness may be that you have a different need for intimacy, for contact. It depends on temperament, internal attitudes and habits. A man who only needs to show his love once a week will seem cold and distant in the eyes of a woman who is accustomed to the fact that in a relationship love should be shown every day and several times. In this case, the man does not even understand that he is “not giving” you love.

He doesn't want to have sex with you

Women's excuses: he is afraid of a serious relationship.

Men's truth: where are serious relationships and where is sex? (Just kidding!) But if a man likes a woman, he always wants to touch her. Therefore, if a guy, lying on the couch with you, happily eats cookies and watches a movie (and is not gay), he simply is not attracted to you. As for being afraid of serious relationships, one guy said, “That’s what we tell girls we don’t really like that much.”

When indifference appeared

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It is believed that the antonym of love is not hatred at all, but indifference. Relationships in which partners are indifferent to each other are almost impossible to restore. But not everything is as bad as it might seem. Before you give up on a relationship with an indifferent man, you need to understand the nature of his indifference.

First of all, we need to answer the question: when did indifference appear? When did he start treating you coldly? Typically there are three possible answers:

the man was initially quite cold in the relationship;

a man is either cold or emotionally involved in a relationship;
the man was emotionally involved for a long time, and then suddenly became indifferent.

Understanding the nature of indifference fundamentally depends on what the answer is.

He just up and disappeared

Women's excuses: maybe he died or went to the hospital?

Man's truth: maybe, but most likely he decided to leave you. And he didn't have the courage to tell you honestly about it. Info 100%. The one hundred percent of male respondents who "disappeared" from a woman's sight said they were fully aware that they had done something terrible, and no amount of phone calls or late conversations would make them change their mind.

How he behaves to hide his love.

He shows with all his appearance that he has a lot of fans, even if this is not the case.
He often turns to a woman for various invented reasons, surprising him with stupid questions.
Changes in the presence of the object of adoration. Only the person discussing some issue in the company is silent and smiles shyly.
He demonstrates his indifference, speaks to anyone, but not to her, while casting furtive glances.
When in the same company, he does not try to hug or joke, as with everyone else.
He tries to find out information about the woman he is interested in from his acquaintances, while avoiding her.

Love changes over time or still weakens

It's all strange, but falling in love works wonders. Such behavior can indicate to a woman how this person treats her. Every man is different, but everyone can fall in love in their own way, not as emotionally as a woman. Nothing will reveal a man's secrets like a woman's intuition. Simple human attention and patience will help you figure everything out. You can't rush things. You may not like the result. After all, men are the stronger sex; there is no need to openly try to control them. Let them make their own decision.

He humiliates you

Women's excuses: but he will change, I guess I'm really not good enough...

A man's truth: you are good enough not to endure humiliation. If a man raises his voice at a woman, criticizes her, reminds her that she is too fat, thereby making her feel unattractive, then this is not a feature of his character, but a basic lack of respect. An adequate man never tries to humiliate or upset a woman he really likes.

Psychology of a man in love

The weaker and masculine sexes are so different from each other psychologically and emotionally that sometimes one gets the impression that they originate from different planets. This is why there are often so many contradictions between two partners. Long-established couples have managed to go through fire, water and copper pipes and become more adept at understanding each other. The lovers have just set foot on this thorny path, and every minute they are close to breaking down and putting an end to the relationship.

The man shows indifference. Causes

Perhaps his thoughts are occupied with another girl. Even a passing crush can cause a man to focus on a new object of affection. In this case, he may lose interest in his former girlfriend.
Sometimes girls show excessive dependence on their lover. This is mistake. In this case, the man ceases to perceive the girl as his “prey” and loses interest in conquering her. In addition, excessive affection always causes a repulsive effect.
Indifference may appear as a result of too serious intentions on the part of the girl. Men are more inert regarding creating a family and lasting relationships; they take such decisions longer than girls. Too certain family prospects can be intimidating from the very beginning.
Many men are put off by girls' excessive emotionality, tendency to aggression, conflicts and hysterics. If your chosen one is not ready for such a temperamental, exhausting relationship, perhaps indifference will appear as a defensive reaction from unpleasant experiences.
Indifference can appear as a result of long-term monotonous relationships. The daily routine, lack of creativity and play in life contribute to the fact that feelings become dull and over time can completely cool down.
A state of lack of interest in girls can appear after a negative past experience. Even unsuccessful relationships twice in succession can lead a man to the conclusion that relationships are not for him at all. He may begin to act as if girls are not interested in him at all.
A man may be absorbed in other matters; serious matters or problems may temporarily push the girl into the background. As a rule, in everyday worries there is always a moment for the girl you love, but if things are truly urgent, this can temporarily occupy all the man’s attention.

Reasons for husband's indifference. What to do?

We will try to find the answer to this together. Indifference in the psychology of a man’s relationship with a woman can be corrected. To begin with, accept that you yourself may be the reason for the indifference towards you. Blaming other people for your troubles is stupid and pointless. Now ask yourself:

When did you notice the first signs of your husband's indifference?
What happened before this moment?
What did you do to make him lose attention to you? Or didn't they?..

Try these questions in different order, and write down everything that comes to mind without thinking.

How do you benefit from an indifferent relationship?
And why do you need this particular man who is next to you now?

Of course, the reasons for indifference can be discussed together, but only if you calmly accept any mutual answers. A good option is to seek psychological advice, especially if your biography includes the loss of a loved one and the pain of separation. It’s not easy to remove emotional layers, so trust a professional. Often, under the indifference of relationships lie very strong feelings, it would be enough to have the patience and desire to find them...

I can hear a reproach, like, why should a woman be attractive and charming, but a man, as always, won’t lift a finger?! Firstly, you are again looking for the reason not in yourself. And secondly... for God's sake, stay ordinary, it's your choice. Life is about choice. The same Roksolana studied the Turkish language and the laws of government in order to be attractive to the Sultan, Cleopatra learned alchemy and the secrets of magic. What are you interested in, first of all, to yourself?..

How to get a man to make the first move

Temptresses deftly set up their networks to win the heart of their chosen one. Therefore, you should hurry: for every 10 unmarried representatives of the fairer sex there are 9 young people. To provoke him to take the first step, you need to be able to:

Speak body language. Still, men love with their eyes at the beginning of a relationship. Therefore, he should pay attention to how the girl touches her hair, face, and shifts her leg. The pose should be relaxed and free, then he will also relax.
Choose the right clothes. You don't need to take everything off. This may give rise to rash judgment. But you can emphasize the advantageous aspects of your figure with tight-fitting clothes.
“Shoot” with your eyes. It was not for nothing that it was believed that a look is a mirror of the soul; it can speak volumes.
Play with touches. A light, casual touch will enhance the effect if sympathy has already begun to appear between two people.
Demonstrate women's weaknesses. The defender wants to see a weak, fragile woman next to him. Therefore, you should allow yourself to show your masculine strength by playing along with him.
Indulge his instincts. The tendency to hunt is in the blood of the stronger sex, as is possessiveness. Seeing that a potential object disappears with another, the hunter's passion will awaken in him, and he will do everything possible to take his chosen one away from his rival.

Men are for the most part rational; eccentric actions, violent emotional outbursts, and manifestations of feelings are alien to them. These are the cases in which the stern and courageous “sea wolves” bashfully blush under the prickly fashionable stubble, reminiscent of inexperienced youths.

How to distinguish love from infatuation

Falling in love and infatuation are equally characterized by positive emotions towards the object of adoration. But these concepts also have differences:

A man in love will value more the inner qualities of his chosen one, while a man who is passionate about her will be delighted only by her external beauty.
Disadvantages and advantages. Falling in love means accepting a person as he is, with all his negative traits. If a guy is simply passionate, then his shortcomings will quickly push him away.
Duration of feelings. Infatuation begins quickly, like a fire breaks out. It fades just as quickly. Falling in love takes time to get to know a person a little, to understand him.
Constancy of interest. With a simple hobby, a man can waste his time getting acquainted with others, because... his sympathy appears and disappears.
The influence of feelings on the person himself. Falling in love inspires, motivates to work on oneself in order to become better, more interesting for the object of love. With entrainment there is no such effect.
Check by distance. When a man is in love, then no obstacles, including geographical ones, can prevent his love for a woman. No matter how much time passes and no matter how many kilometers separate hearts in love, their feelings will remain. If it was just a hobby, bright emotions for one person will be replaced by others, already with a new girl.

How to spot love in adults

During this period, a man already loses the teenage characteristics of hiding feelings, and his indifference to a woman can be determined through other manifestations.

In adulthood

During this period, even being afraid to show feelings for a woman, a man begins to change. He strives to look as presentable as possible. New things appear in the wardrobe. Often a male colleague in love chooses them in color similar to those worn by the woman he likes.

Behavior also changes. A man who gestured weakly when talking to the woman he is in love with begins to accompany his speech with a large number of gestures. If he speaks while moving his hands, he, on the contrary, becomes more restrained. The timbre of the voice often changes, decreasing and becoming softer.