Human feelings and emotions: where they come from, how to evaluate them and apply them in life

Psychologists often emphasize that the main condition for success in society is a developed sense of empathy. It is closely related to emotional awareness. Without one there cannot be the other.

If you want to understand others and create harmonious relationships, then you first need to understand yourself. To do this, you need to look at emotions objectively and find out where they come from.


Such different emotions on what is happening.

Where do feelings come from?

It is believed that primitive man was capable of showing emotions. The appearance of feelings in animals and our ancestors is associated with the need to explore the world for the sake of survival.

Initially, the ability to feel any emotions was only part of the self-preservation mechanism. For example, a person experienced fear of strong animals, natural phenomena, deep water, etc.

He was able to analyze and understand that berries and fruits are good because they provide food, i.e. survival. This brought joy.

Subsequently, man as a species developed intellectually. New systems have emerged, primarily social ones. The reactions became more complex, and communities began to be built around them. Primitive people could attack each other in the heat of a quarrel or out of fear.

Now emotions play an important role in our lives. Hidden negative feelings that have not been dealt with can haunt you throughout your life and interfere with creating a family and constructive communication. Conversely, those who have good control over their emotions understand others better and act more productively.

To learn how to manage your feelings, you need to understand where they come from and why they appear. There are several theories, but as a result, all researchers come to a common conclusion: emotions are a response to any events or circumstances.

The first source of emotions

We begin to experience and express feelings for the first time in childhood, according to some scientists, in the womb. A child may kick if something bothers him. He cries when he's hungry and screams when he's scared. In this case, the source of the emotional reaction is an unsatisfied need of the body.

With age, the individual learns to muffle such sensations. He no longer cries or screams when he wants to eat, and calmly endures hunger.

However, if you abuse your patience too often, consequences in the form of mental disorders will inevitably arise. For example, a lack of a sense of security leads to stress, poor sleep, distorted perception of the situation, etc.

Second source of emotions

At the same time, from the moment of birth or, according to some sources, the formation of a child in the womb, socialization begins. This term refers to the process of adaptation of an individual to the world around him.

Since Homo sapiens is a social species, the child must adapt to society as quickly as possible. Otherwise, he will become a hermit and an outcast, which will leave an imprint on his entire adult life.

Socialization is the second source of emotions. The feelings associated with it are more complex. Unlike need-driven emotions, they intensify with age rather than diminish.

At first, the child does not recognize the faces and voices of those around him well, but he already learns to recognize those close to him. By 3-4 months, children smile at the sight of their parents, and may become wary if someone unfamiliar approaches them. The child is happy when he is given new toys, and is upset if they break.

Emotions associated with socialization remain strong throughout life. Adults swear and conflict if they encounter an opposing opinion or feel that their rights are being infringed upon.

Rejection on the part of the object of sympathy causes frustration, public disgrace causes shame. Only in old age does the expression of “social” emotions fade away, since the individual involuntarily separates from society. He prefers to spend time alone or with his family.


Emotions associated with society are of great importance at certain times.

Third Source of Emotions

By the first year of life, the child begins to understand that he is an individual. He feels his mother’s hands and realizes that it is another person, not him. This process is called individualization. At this level, the child’s character, his habits, characteristics, skills, natural inclinations, etc. are of great importance.

When the realization comes that all people are different, introspection begins. Normally, an individual compares himself with others and emphasizes his strengths and weaknesses. If at this stage any imbalances arise, the individual focuses on one thing.

For example, narcissists are good at seeing their own strengths and the weaknesses of others. As a result, it is difficult for them to find harmony with themselves and with the world around them. Melancholic people, on the contrary, notice their own shortcomings and exaggerate the merits of others.

Because of this, they become insecure, interfere with their own self-development, avoid interesting people and try to stay away from social events. Thus, we can identify a third source of emotions - attitude towards oneself.

Interaction of emotions at different levels

Emotions at different levels can interact with each other and influence each other. For example, a person with adequate self-esteem socializes well.

He shapes his own environment, avoids interlocutors who are unpleasant to him in advance, and, if necessary, adapts to others. Most often, he is happier in his marriage because he chooses partners better, does not become codependent, and works on the relationship.

Another special case is the interaction of emotions at the level of needs and socialization. If in childhood a child has to cry for a long time in order to beg for food, then in the future he builds relationships with others based on this experience.

He either learns to be pushy or simply sees unkindness and even threat in others. This can affect the attitude towards oneself: the individual plays the role of a victim and views himself from the same position.


Wheel of emotion by Robert Plutchik.

Do you need to have strong feelings?

The stronger the feelings, the more fully they make you feel life and breathe deeply. But often strong feelings are tension and stress on the body. Experiencing strong feelings enhances the work of organs and systems - the nervous system, endocrine, cardiovascular. The body gets tired faster.

But all feelings in life cannot be absolutely strong. Life consists of the perception of the environment, while everything is perceived quite calmly in the same rhythm and pace, except for specific specific situations and circumstances. Strong feelings are replaced by not strong ones. Strong feelings have their own role and they come in the right situations.

Strong feelings are needed, they make it possible to live life to the fullest, to see all the bright colors. So, strong feelings can be called love and hatred. All these feelings are very important, they determine personal qualities and abilities, and also allow you to act one way or another in each specific situation. Even hatred has its own positive role, because when a person experiences strong hostility, he shuns and avoids the factor that gives discomfort and this saves him from stress.

Everything in life is measured and balanced. If some feelings are stronger, then others are weaker and a person experiences them more often. But without strong feelings there is no full feeling of life to the fullest. You can live your whole life quietly and it will be nothing particularly remarkable; an ordinary monotonous life is not boring, but not fun either. And you can make life bright, stormy, energetic, cheerful, mobilizing all the feelings, and then life is fuller and brighter, more interesting and eventful. Strong emotions in this case bring joy and prolong life. And if strong emotions associated with strong feelings bring disappointment and pain, then it is not advisable to experience such strong feelings and avoid situations when they arise, build your life and relationships differently.

Simple and complex emotions

Emotions can be classified. K. Izard dealt with this in detail. He divided the most common feelings into fundamental and complex.

Among the first Izard included:

  • interest;
  • joy;
  • astonishment;
  • suffering;
  • anger;
  • disgust;
  • contempt;
  • fear;
  • shame;
  • guilt;
  • embarrassment.

From the entire list, only 3 feelings can be called positive: surprise, joy and interest. The remaining emotions are negative, but necessary for gaining experience. They reflect an individual's reaction to encountering new events, people and circumstances and help shape a worldview.

Complex feelings are formed from simple ones. For example, according to K. Izard’s classification, aggression is a mixture of anger and interest. If the individual is neutral towards the object, it will not cause a negative reaction in him.

Love is a mixture of joy and trust. Disappointment is a combination of surprise and sadness. The person is disappointed because he suddenly learned something unexpected and it upset him.


Classification of fundamental emotions by K. Izard.

Dominant rule

If 2 or more feelings are mixed, the dominant rule comes into play: weak emotions reinforce strong ones. For example, if you are worried about mild sadness and surprise, the latter may turn into amazement. In contrast, with excitement preceding surprise and intense sadness, a person may begin to experience grief.

A sharp sound will frighten a child lying in a crib, but will only cause an increase in the sucking reflex if the baby is eating. To overcome the appetite, the noise must be much louder.

The rule of dominance should always be taken into account in social interactions, since it has a great influence on people’s condition. If someone tries to calm down an irritated person or do something nice for him, this can completely set him off. In a state of disappointment, it is difficult to become interested in anything or to be happy about anything.

Why are positive emotions needed?

We have already said in the article about negative emotions that emotions are negative or positive only in our minds. At the physiological level, it’s just a reaction and that’s all. Any emotion helps us understand the world, perceive it at our own level and simply live by feeling it.

But oddly enough, most studies of emotions concern negative manifestations: fear, horror, anger and others are already so hackneyed that almost a child can give a brief description of them. What about the positive? Seems useful and valuable, doesn’t it?

It is human nature to focus on the negative, especially thanks to our valiant media. We are charged every day with “all positive”: earthquakes, viruses, financial crises and other “positive” news.

But here we will pay attention specifically to the positive reactions of our body. What is their significance? Their main advantage is that they enrich our activities and thinking. If we talk about negative reactions, they encourage defensive action. Positive emotions develop us: they expand our thinking and actions. Let's go through basic positive emotions and see them in pictures.

  • JOY leads to play in children or a favorite activity in adults

  • INTEREST encourages research and study

  • SATISFACTION brings pleasure

  • LOVE embraces all the listed emotions and gives birth to them again and again

Such reactions allow you to approach life creatively, develop and show curiosity, and succeed in communicating with people. They create a person’s personal resources and influence us for a long time. Helps establish new social connections. Let's expand the list a little:

  • joy → play → physical and social skills (i.e. we learn something new, interact);
  • interest → research → gaining new knowledge;
  • pleasure → pleasure → life priorities.

All positive emotions store our resources, which can be used in difficult times, from physical difficulties to intellectual ones. A way to solve problems is quickly found, as well as social ones - getting help from others.

Therefore, we come to the conclusion that positive emotions do not just lift our spirits. They develop and protect us.

Expressing feelings

During the day, a person experiences many different levels of emotions. For this reason, he does not track weak ones, often ignores them and does not show them in any way. However, when experiencing deep feelings, facial muscles, the hormonal system, etc. are involved.

A person in love, when he sees the object of his sympathy, begins to blush due to active blood circulation. The latter is enhanced due to the release of hormones by the adrenal glands. The muscles involuntarily tense. With strong feelings, a person may alternately turn pale, straighten his shoulders, or, on the contrary, bend.

There is one danger in such reactions. With visual displays of emotion, the only thing that can be said is that the feeling is strong. It is impossible to judge his character without knowing the person himself.

The set of reactions and shades of feelings is individual for everyone. To learn how to identify emotions well, you need to understand the person you are in front of.

To study someone, you need to observe them for a long time. It is necessary to analyze a person’s emotions, note his reactions to the simplest stimuli. The more often you show empathy, the faster you will begin to understand your interlocutor.

However, even in a long-term relationship, there will be blind spots: areas where you either don't understand or misinterpret reactions. For this reason, one can never say with certainty that a person feels any emotions. This is especially true for people you barely know.

Surprisingly, sometimes such ignorance extends to ourselves. People get used to automatically judging their emotions without subjecting them to introspection.

They confuse overexcitement with anger, love with affection, displeasure with fear, etc. Because of this, problems arise because a person struggles with one emotion while another is gaining strength.

Before you deal with love feelings, you need to figure out whether you are experiencing them. A completely healthy psychologically person rarely confuses love with attachment or dependence. In the presence of even minor deviations that do not threaten life and socialization, there is a tendency to become confused and enter into unhealthy relationships.


Emotional expression of feelings.

How to tell if you love someone

It is believed that love is evidenced by:

  1. Care. This is the main sign. The partner is attentive to the needs of the other person, wants to protect him and improve the quality of life.
  2. Freedom. A loving person will never forcefully keep another close to him, depriving him of something. The simplest example is meeting with friends.
  3. Mindfulness. The partner understands what he is ready to do for the sake of his beloved, and what he cannot do. For this reason, he does not make unrealistic promises and always keeps his word.
  4. Proximity. Partners become closer on all levels: emotionally, spiritually, intellectually and physically. They adapt to each other's habits, unwittingly sharing tastes and interests.
  5. Respect. The partner may not agree with his chosen one, but he will always listen, understand and accept his point of view.
  6. Confidence. A person does not make accusations against his partner for any reason. Without trust, love is impossible, because even small and groundless suspicions accumulate and poison feelings.
  7. Unselfishness. The partner tries for his beloved without the desire to derive any benefit. He doesn’t count who has invested how much in the relationship.
  8. Responsibility. A person takes on obligations associated with a partner. Sometimes this forces him to give up some of his wishes and opportunities.
  9. Development. Love acts as motivation. The partner wants to develop in such a relationship, not give up his position, and be the best for the chosen one. At the same time, this makes it possible to further improve the quality of life.
  10. Changes. Loving partners are not afraid to change anything out of context. They may, for example, suddenly decide to move. The worries will be more related to the move itself, and not how it will affect the relationship.

Using this list you can check not only yourself, but also others. For example, if in some situation your partner chose personal gain rather than a relationship with you, it is better to break up with him.

Additionally, to analyze your feelings, you can ask yourself what you like about your partner, what qualities he has, and whether you accept all of his character traits.

The chances that you are experiencing love are higher if you initially had a friendly relationship with your chosen one. It is especially important to understand whether you feel envy and jealousy towards your partner. These feelings shouldn't exist.

Emotions should not be fickle. Ask yourself how love affects you. Feelings should reveal you as a person, not destroy you.


How do you know if this is love?

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The 10 most powerful feelings and emotions of a person
Do you want to know the truth about yourself or about those around you? Do you want to understand what drives you every second of your life? Find out about a person’s strongest emotions that determine his habits, behavior, and life.

Pride is the strongest feeling, expressed in the thirst for self-respect. It can lift you to unattainable heights, it can throw you into the very abyss. With her you can bloom like a flower of paradise, but with her you can wither. In different social circles it evokes different responses: in high circles, in a sports environment, in business - it can generate a feeling of respect for a person; among ordinary people, people of the orthodox persuasion, it can evoke a range of feelings from pity to open hostility. Currently being actively promoted. Color – red.

Anger is a blinding feeling that drives a person into a frenzy due to obvious injustice towards him, the impossibility of eliminating this injustice. Anger has two shades: the first is destructive (it can cause harm to the person himself, others, even murder); the second is constructive - if in the process of experiencing an emotion a positive result is obtained (here we can give a vivid example of the behavior of a mother during the siege of Leningrad: a mother and a young child are in a village not far from the city, through which a railway track runs. A train is traveling along the railway track at high speed ". To get out of the village to the city for help, you need to get on this train. The train is not going to stop. The mother decides to jump on the rails, blocking the way for the train. The train stops with the grinding of brakes and the driver cursing, the mother and child board the train). The color is fiery.

Laziness is a sore of the soul that determines the entire life of the person who suffers from it. Laziness is comparable to a sticky web, once caught in it, it will take a long and painful time to get out. Laziness gives rise to many minor vices - lying, idleness, irritability, excessive consumption of food. Laziness can be associated with childhood complexes, fear of responsibility, and lack of willpower. It can be treated by force of will, with great desire. Sometimes it is the engine of progress, during which new items are created that simplify life. Color – purple.

Dejection is a depressing feeling of melancholy, accompanied by self-pity and playing the victim. It can be a desired permanent state in lazy people, permanent in people experiencing deep stress. It is treated with medication - from folk valerian to psychotropic drugs; mentally – from undergoing training to contacting specialists; spiritually - by transferring experiences into the realm of mystical experience. Unconventional healing methods with questionable results - alcohol, illegal drugs, numerous relationships with partners with questionable moral principles. Color – pale blue.

Jealousy is a corrosive feeling of mistrust and doubt in another person. It turns out to be destructive both for the jealous person himself (mental health, low self-esteem, inappropriate actions) and for the object of jealousy (physical health, inappropriate actions up to death). It is exaggerated and exalted in some works of art, among some nationalities. In small quantities it is a cure for relationships, in excessive quantities it is poison. Poisonous orange.

Passion is anti-love. It has a bright beginning, a stormy and memorable continuation, a climax and an end, which is certainly followed by a feeling of disappointment and emptiness. It can manifest itself both to living beings and to inanimate objects (luxury items, antiques, branded cars). Color – the whole range of red.

Hatred is a feeling of deep disgust and rejection of another person. Destructive. Very destructive. Capable of putting a person into a state of passion. It happens to a specific person, a group of people, or society as a whole. Inherent in people who have no idea about love. It is believed that it can even compete with it, as evidenced by the Russian proverb “From love to hate - one step.” It is healed by love, as evidenced by the Georgian song “What was destroyed by enmity will be reborn by love.” Color – cold blue.

Lying is intentional misrepresentation. The weapon of choice on the battlefield for love. Produced through fictitious fabrications, inventions and very often simple female nonsense. Sooner or later, it will definitely become famous. It is not recommended to use this method too often, especially for people with poor memory. Color – marsh.

Envy is a feeling of annoyance caused by some kind of superiority. In both cases, it has a lasting destructive effect on the envier himself. It incinerates, does not allow you to live in peace, drink, eat, gnaws. It is treated by equalizing self-esteem, working hard to achieve results, and fighting laziness. There is an opinion that there are two colors - white (to the delight of people) and black (evil).

Love is the most unsurpassed feeling of all in the human soul. Color – 7 colors of the rainbow.

What color is the picture of your life?

I suggest a mini-game. The article, as you can see, describes in detail the negative qualities, emotions and feelings of a person. And just a few words about Love. I consider this a big omission...

I propose to jointly supplement this article. In the comments we write an emotion, always positive (quality, feeling, character trait) and give it our definition, you can add the color of how you perceive it (similar to the post), you can supplement it with a picture (or even a video). Anything :) Afterwards I will add comments to the post.

In general, such a creative game will be :) Today, by the way, is Kindness Day , I hope this will help us find all the kindest and best human qualities

And here are the first additions to the post:

Addition from verhitel42: “Loyalty and devotion. Pearl color”

Addition from Elpida-Amaldi: “Friendship and a Sense of Humor. They make life bright, warm, beautiful.”

Addition from bruna-afia: Unpredictability - spontaneous and unexpected action"
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Strength of feelings

The strength of feelings distinguishes a person living a vibrant life from the gray crowd around him. It’s much easier to impress a melancholic homebody than someone who prefers risky hobbies.

If a person constantly lies in bed and does nothing, even minor events will cause a great response in him. In a busy life, the same circumstances may not provoke any emotions.

The strength of feelings is determined by the height of the barriers that a person overcomes. To be convinced, it is enough to consider a simple example: hunger. When a person, even with slight discomfort, immediately goes to have a snack, the food does not cause any emotional reaction in him. He doesn't attach any importance to this event.

If before this a person was on a long hike or returned home after a long work shift, he will receive great pleasure even from a simple dish.

The difference is due to discomfort. Positive emotions arise from sharp contrasts. This also works with long wait: if a person works on something for a long time, he will be happy when he gets the result. However, there is a danger here. If the effort expended does not match the result, dissatisfaction and even frustration will arise.

The main skill of happy people is the ability to set adequate goals for themselves. They must be large enough and difficult enough to create contrast. However, you should not overexert yourself or put in a lot of effort with minimal results. The difficulty must match the reward.

For this reason, you cannot immediately move on to intimacy if you want to build a long-term relationship. Sex is the result of action. If there has been no action yet, the person will not perceive what happened as a new height. The strength of his feelings will not increase. On the contrary, it will consolidate at a low level.

A more profitable tactic in this case would be flirting, inciting passion and at the same time restraining it. The greatest response will be caused by moving to the next level at the peak of feelings.

It is important not to overdo it, because a long absence of relationship development causes fading of emotions and boredom. Given the existing frustration, it will be impossible to stop this process.


Light flirting can develop into a great fire of passion.

Sublimity of feelings

The second property of feelings is sublimity. It is determined by the rhythm of the brain centers and their coordination. The closer the body is to a state of harmony, the more sublime the feelings.

In practice, this is associated with contrasts and a complete list of experienced sensations. Physical feelings are most often base. They are associated with discomfort.

For example, a person experiences pleasure from eating food if he has recently been hungry, but at the same time he has a feeling of heaviness in his stomach.

Being able to relieve the itching brings relief, but it is mixed with discomfort. Prolonged abstinence from satisfying the need increases both discomfort and pleasure during the satisfaction of the need.

An example of sublime emotions is the feelings that a person experiences when listening to music. At this moment, no accompanying negativity arises, so all brain centers work in the same rhythm, in harmony. A person experiences complete pleasure, not spoiled by any negativity.

The basis of happiness is sublime feelings. First of all, they affect social relationships with loved ones. To understand whether you love a person, it is enough to analyze the situation and figure out whether anything makes you angry or irritated.

If, for example, you subconsciously blame your partner for something and are angry with him, it is better to immediately leave the relationship. You will not be able to restore what is already broken.


Broken relationships cannot be restored.

How are feelings different from emotions?

Sensations are our experiences that we experience through our senses, and we have five of them.
Sensations are visual, auditory, tactile, taste and smell (our sense of smell). With sensations everything is simple: stimulus - receptor - sensation. Our consciousness interferes with emotions and feelings - our thoughts, attitudes, our thinking. Emotions are influenced by our thoughts. And vice versa - emotions influence our thoughts. We’ll definitely talk about these relationships in more detail a little later. But now let’s remember once again one of the criteria for psychological health, namely point 10: we are responsible for our feelings, it depends on us what they will be. It is important.

What to do if you can't create long-term strong relationships

First of all, you need to consider the situation with an open mind. Most often, people who fail to create healthy relationships blame their partners.

They think that they just keep getting the wrong ones. In reality, responsibility for choice and further actions lies with the person himself. If he builds relationships with the wrong people, then the problem lies within himself.

An example of a strong negative factor influencing perception and behavior is low self-esteem. An individual may consider himself unworthy and not act as an initiator.

As a result, a dual situation arises. A person with low self-esteem does not express himself in any way, that is, he does not advertise or present to others. At the same time, he does not try to lure anyone into a relationship. This can lead to long periods of loneliness.

Even if a partner is found in such a situation, a person with low self-esteem begins to poison the relationship. He thinks that they cannot love him, constantly pesters his beloved with interrogations, suspects him of something, etc. At the same time, the person does not initiate separation, because he is afraid of loneliness. The situation gets worse if the “accidental” partner turns out to be a tyrant.

There are many factors that interfere with building healthy relationships. These are insecurity, a tendency to overprotectiveness, the habit of going with the flow, and even childhood trauma.

Most often, those who did not see a healthy relationship between parents in childhood fail to create a strong family. You can figure out the problem on your own through long self-analysis, but it’s better to consult a psychologist.

It will help you get rid of the interfering part of the program and reconfigure you to a new way of life. Creating a family in this case will not be the only pleasant consequence.


Increase your level of self-esteem.

Why you can't ignore strong emotions

Oddly enough, we ourselves do the same. We do whatever we can to devalue our emotions: we push them away, ignore them, suppress them, or squeeze out artificial positivity.

A study by scientists from the Harvard School of Public Health and the University of Rochester showed BP Chapman, K. Fiscella et al. Emotion Suppression and Mortality Risk Over a 12‑Year Follow‑up / The Journal of Psychosomatic Research that suppressing emotions increases the risk of premature death from any cause by 30%, and also increases the risk of cancer by 70%. In psychology, the concept of toxic positivity even appeared, behind which is the requirement to always maintain a good mood and avoid any strong negative emotions.

However, it is important to maintain a balance in this matter. “Getting stuck” in complex emotions without properly processing them can drag you even deeper. Sadness can turn into despondency, then into anxiety, and then into depression. When you feel emotions overtaking you, try asking yourself a few questions.

Happy love

Happy love does not tolerate any “buts”. It is a source of inspiration for partners, creates a feeling of security, but at the same time requires a lot of work on oneself and self-control. The main condition for happy love is openness and clarity while overcoming barriers.

If you feel any negativity, promptly track its cause and talk about it with your chosen one before resentment arises on this basis. Learn to conduct dialogue calmly.

Happy love is not only about finding and building relationships, but also about self-development. Behavior, well-being and reactions to the environment depend on harmony with oneself, satisfaction of needs and social experience.

With good mental health, it is possible to adequately assess what is happening, correctly recognize emotions and act in accordance with them. Developed empathy allows you not only to control yourself, but also to improve the quality of life of others, build positive relationships and achieve what you want.

About the peculiarities of dealing with strong feelings

Look at these pictures that I found on the Internet for the search “strong feelings.” They perfectly illustrate the attitude towards strong feelings and emotions in our society. Strong feelings are perceived as dangerous, as capable of destroying, tearing apart, destroying, harming.

We see in the images: experiencing strong feelings is torment. In the drawings, people’s faces are distorted by a mask of suffering, their bodies are writhing in agony. Strong feelings tear a person apart from the inside. This is true if a person holds back and accumulates feelings for a very long time. As a result, an excess of energy can lead to an explosion and affective reactions. The simplest example is to try closing the kettle tightly, plugging the spout and letting it boil.

In these drawings, splitting in the body is noticeable. Strong feelings split and tear the body into pieces. This illustrates the human way of dealing with feelings. The splitting of modern man is a consequence of our culture and civilization. The animal is whole. Animals act according to their emotions, desires and needs. A person correlates his emotions, desires and needs with the requirements of society. As a result of this correlation, the choice is often made not in favor of the needs of the individual, but in favor of society. This is how splitting is formed. Strong feelings and energy accumulate in the body and lead to suffering, illness, and emotions.

In these drawings the body is partially depicted. This is either the head or half of the body. We can experience, realize or channel our strong feelings only if we have a complete body. The lower body plays a huge role in this process. The abdomen and pelvic area are our most important energy reservoir, the legs are our connection to the earth, which provides “grounding.” If we “stand firmly on our feet,” then the energy of these feelings will go into the ground. The body will act as a lightning rod. If a person has no connection with the earth, his supports are weak, the lower part of the torso (belly - life), pelvic area (sexuality - vital energy, lower chakra) are split off, then the person has absolutely nothing to rely on, there is no channel for strong feelings.

It is this integrity of the body, this conductivity that we restore in psychological work with the body.

I am currently leading a body work group. In the sixth lesson we worked with strong feelings. After the class I was left with warm, trembling feelings and sensations. The participants were attentive to themselves and their body signals, which is very important.

In such work, you can always see how the parts of our body are interconnected, where there are splits in the body. If a person has weak supports, he leans poorly on his legs, feels them poorly, it will be difficult for him to express strong feelings and be in contact with them. A person, like electrical devices, needs “grounding”, otherwise “it will break through to the body.” In such cases, there is a fear of destruction: oneself, another, relationships.

Even our speech reflects this fear when people say: “It’s difficult for me to express, I’m afraid of offending, harming another.” Remember such expressions as “tearing with anger, with resentment”, “resentment gnaws, gnaws”, “feelings are torn from the chest.” Often fear is associated with a lack of support, stability, and poor contact with the body.

At the beginning of the lesson we did a voice warm-up. Participants learned to sound so that they could be heard, so that the voice came out from the center of their body, from the depths, to sound not with the vocal cords, but with the whole body and to feel resonance. This is how we find support inside our body to express strong feelings and establish contact with the body.

I am touched by how gentle, careful and minimal (homeopathic) working with this area can be and how it touches people from the inside out. The participants felt excitement, tears, and deeply hidden feelings (resentment, pain, suffering) arose. Our goal is to get in touch with feelings that are suppressed, which cannot be expressed in ordinary life.

Sometimes we carry very ancient feelings inside that were stopped in childhood. You can’t throw all these feelings out - reactionary reactions, catharsis are not needed here, not useful. Our task is to carefully dismantle the “rubles”, unravel them a little, touch and, little by little, master this energy for our own benefit.

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