Misanthrope, introvert, psychopath, social phobe - how to distinguish a sociopath from them?

Philanthropist and misanthrope, introvert and extrovert, psychopath and psychotic, sociophobe and sociopath... With the increased popularity of psychotherapy and psychological thrillers, a stream of specific terms has poured into society. They began to be used for business and not for business, diagnosing not only movie characters, but also the people around them, and even oneself.

Hannibal Lecter is a psychopath, Sherlock Holmes played by Benedict Cumberbatch is an impulsive sociopath, the upstairs neighbor is psychotic, the boss at work is a misanthrope. In fact, people understand little about the essence of these concepts and make such serious diagnoses unjustifiably. Today we are dealing with one of them in order to clearly understand what sociopathy is, who a sociopath is and whether such people can be in our environment.

Definitions

What is sociopathy

The scientific definition is as follows. This is a mental personality disorder characterized by a triad of main features - asociality, non-recognition of social norms and inability to attach and empathize. Often accompanied by impulsiveness and uncontrollable aggression. In psychotherapy and psychiatry, the following concepts are synonymous with sociopathy:

• antisocial psychopathy;
• antisocial personality disorder;
• heboid psychopathy;
• dissocial personality disorder;
• psychopathy;
• personality disorder of the emotionally incapacitated.

In ICD-11, this diagnosis is listed under code 6D11.2.

Who is a sociopath

A sociopath is a person who suffers from dissocial personality disorder, is clinically incapable of adapting to society, is characterized by deviant behavior, and lacks a critical perception of his words and actions. He is driven solely by his own interests and desires. Those around him are only a means to achieve them. He doesn’t feel any affection, sympathy, much less love for anyone.

According to the American Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), sociopath and psychopath are synonymous in psychotherapy. In simple terms, this is a person who does not perceive the rules of behavior in society due to mental inability to ordinary feelings.

Psychological portrait of a sociopath

A sociopath begins to exhibit traits of a personality disorder either from early childhood (inherited from parents), or during puberty (puberty serves as a catalyst), and much less often - already in adulthood. As a child, he is distinguished by an obstinate, harmful character and uncontrollable, deviant behavior. He doesn’t listen to anyone and is guided in his actions only by his own desires. At the same time, he can reveal extraordinary abilities in school, grasping everything on the fly. But he studies mediocrely, since he is not interested in grades. The most common pathology in childhood is animal abuse.

Growing up, a classic sociopath radically changes his behavior in public. Outwardly he seems to be a balanced and tactful person. His extraordinary mind allows him to make a career and achieve certain heights in life. No one can suspect him of being a mentally ill person. In fact, he uses many for his specific purposes. Those around him are the same things as a laptop or a microwave. This is a skillful, cunning manipulator. He will never communicate with those who are not interesting to him. Periodically, the illness spills out into terrible attacks of aggression when he fails to achieve something. He never sympathizes with anyone, often is not in any relationship, because he is not capable of love.

Often sociopathy leads to the fact that people, not recognizing either the rules of behavior established in society or the laws in force in the state, become murderers and maniacs. Given their remarkable intelligence, it is not surprising that solving such crimes can be incredibly difficult.

Understanding the concepts

What is the difference between a sociopath and...

• ...social phobia?

A sociophobe is afraid of society and tries to avoid people. A sociopath simply uses them for his own purposes, manipulates them.

• ...a psychopath?

No. According to DSM-5, these concepts have the same meaning.

• ...misanthrope?

The misanthrope hates people and society. A sociopath treats them indifferently - as if they were things.

• ...an introvert?

An introvert is reserved, focused on his inner world and loves solitude. He does not like noisy companies and avoids parties and public events. But not because he is afraid of people (like a social phobe) or hates them (like a misanthrope), but because he is more comfortable alone. He has a narrow circle of acquaintances (2-3 people) with whom he communicates openly and sincerely and loves them.

To explain in simple words, society is a frightening monster for a social phobe, a repulsive cesspool for a misanthrope, an uncomfortable bus for an introvert, and a thing, a means to an end, for a psychopath and sociopath.

Hannibal Lecter. He is the main character in The Silence of the Lambs, as well as Hannibal and Hannibal Rising. Perhaps one of the most famous sociopaths in the history of cinema. Initially, he appears before the audience as an educated, culturally and intellectually developed psychiatrist and surgeon. However, a little later his true inner world is revealed. He turns out to be a monstrous serial killer, and even a cannibal.

Famous misanthropes

Many people will be surprised to learn that a large number of famous personalities hate people. We invite you to find out who these famous misanthropes are:

• Hitler;
• Nietzsche;
• Chaikovsky;
• Boyarsky;
• Bill Murray;
• Jean-Jacques Rousseau.

Causes

The question of why people become sociopaths still remains open. There are only versions that have not been scientifically confirmed. Moreover, some of them are diametrically opposed. Today, experts name the following factors that have a good chance of being the cause of dissocial personality disorder:

• sociopathy is a hereditary disease;
• a consequence of a genetic mutation;
• education problems;
• psychotrauma associated with social adaptation;
• influence of the social environment;
• mental disorders: mental retardation, schizophrenia, psychosis;
• presence of traumatic brain injuries;
• organic personality disorder.

The most discussed question in scientific circles today is whether sociopathy is inherited.

According to studies and statistics, if parents are sociopaths, the likelihood that their child will suffer from the same disorder doubles. Therefore, there are all the prerequisites to study this factor in more detail. However, children often suffer from pathology, both father and mother have completely adequate behavior and pass all psychotherapeutic diagnostics without problems. Most experts adhere to an intermediate position: perhaps in this case several factors should be considered at once that could have a detrimental effect on the psyche and cause such a disorder.

Richard Kuklinski. And this is no longer a “cinematic” sociopath, but a very real one. Nickname - "Ice Man". A hitman who was accused of killing at least 100 innocent victims. The account was opened when he was only 13 years old. After his arrest, he willingly gave evidence to investigators, described everything in detail, helped psychiatrists with diagnoses, joked and created the impression of an absolutely adequate and sane person.

Hatred in misanthropy

The hatred of all humanity that the misanthrope experiences is expressed in the desire to separate from people, minimize contacts and avoid close ties. At the heart of this worldview is contempt for human imperfections.

Hatred towards oneself and towards humanity as a whole is often called a manifestation of marginality. Professor M. Pauen defines misanthropes as flickers, loners who do not feel they belong to society, but at the same time use society to isolate themselves from it.

Hatred of people

Expressing hatred and disgust towards humanity, usually a misanthrope who does not like people maintains good relations with specific people. The motive for misanthropy is the need for isolation from society or contempt for traits characteristic of most people.

In this matter, it is important to dwell on the positions of philosophers who spoke about the causes of misanthropy in misanthropy:

• Plato. He said that hatred of people is a psychological problem. That is, Plato assumed that a person becomes a misanthrope due to deep traumas that influenced the formation of a person’s personality;
• Cicero. In contrast to the previous position, it was stated that misanthropy is a mental disorder and illness. In his opinion, unbalanced and unhealthy individuals come to misanthropy.

In general, each position has its place. Misanthropy can be caused by various factors, from childhood trauma to psychological disorders.

Misanthrope's self-hatred

Misanthropy often presupposes hatred of oneself, as a direct representative of humanity. Such human feelings can be called the extreme degree of manifestation of misanthropy as behavior and life. In this case, detachment and discussion from society is justified by the devaluation of oneself as an individual, as well as the meaninglessness of building social connections.

Misanthropy is accompanied by feelings of hatred towards oneself and towards society

Signs

The ICD lists the following symptoms of sociopathy:

• discrepancy between personal beliefs (contemptuous, indifferent attitude towards people) and behavior (tactfulness, politeness, strained smile);
• abnormal behavior (outbursts of rage, aggression, grimaces, murders, mutilation of people and animals), which is chronic;
• the comprehensive nature of abnormal behavior, i.e. a sociopath does not make concessions for anyone: he can kill a loved one, hurt someone close to him, since he is completely devoid of empathy and incapable of affection;
• the disease begins in childhood, most often in adolescence, and does not disappear throughout life;
• one of the consequences of the disease is distress, since the patient does not always manage to achieve what he wants;
• a decrease in professional and social productivity (however, this symptom is increasingly criticized, since sociopaths often achieve high positions and career advancement).

According to the ICD, to confirm the diagnosis of sociopathy, the patient must have at least 3 of the above symptoms. There are also non-medical psychological signs by which you can identify a sociopath in your environment:

• callousness, indifference towards others (even the closest ones);
• irresponsibility, disregard for the rules of society and even laws;
• lack of relationships (friendship, love);
• loss of self-control when frustrated;
• outbursts of aggression when the goal turns out to be unattainable or when receiving a refusal;
• tendency to violence, inhumanity, brutality, cruelty;
• lack of guilt;
• the ability to explain any of your actions and blame others for mistakes, misdeeds, crimes;
• skillful manipulation;
• hypocrisy, a tendency to pathological lies, inventing pseudonyms for oneself.

However, remember that in everyday life it is easy to misidentify a sociopath. To be sure of such a serious diagnosis, you need long-term observation of a person, confidential conversations with him, and knowledge of the facts of his biography. So experts do not advise labeling your neighbor on the staircase or your boss at work as psychopaths.

Amy Elliott-Dunn. The main character of the detective thriller "Gone Girl". She was masterfully played by Rosamund Pike, who was nominated for an Oscar for this role. In the film, Amy stages her own kidnapping so that all the evidence points to her husband. When she makes a mistake and things start to go wrong, she stops at nothing, killing everyone who gets in her way. At the same time, society considers her an innocent victim.

What to do if a sociopath doesn’t want to change anything, but his family suffers?

A typical situation today: the mother of a young man calls and asks him to “cure him.”
During the conversation, it turns out that several specialists and different methods have already been “tested”, and all in vain. As a rule, the leading symptom is alcoholism or drug addiction. In such situations, we recommend that the mother herself come to an appointment first and start working on herself, her experiences, her reactions. After all, the behavior of a sociopath that he shows is inextricably linked with the reactions of family members (so-called codependency). Both mother and other relatives in this case are codependent. They are subconsciously manipulated by a sociopath, participate in his “performance”, pathological life system, scenario (they can be called differently, the meaning will not change). Therefore, by changing the attitude and behavior of relatives and mothers, we will influence the behavior of the sociopath, and perhaps motivate him to seek face-to-face correction from a specialist. You can also contact us through popular messengers:

Typology

Since the scientific community does not have a common view on the nature of sociopathy, there are several classifications. For example, American psychologist Theodore Millon proposed 5 types of sociopaths. However, they were never included in either the DSM or the ICD:

The classic typology of sociopaths suggests only 2 types + an intermediate form.

• Active sociopath

He is impulsive, it is difficult for him to hide his protests against the laws of society. Openly conflicts with others. It costs him nothing to offend, call him names, or cause pain to another. He can start relationships, but only for a short time and only to achieve his own selfish goals. After which he rudely and scandalously interrupts them. A difficult person to communicate with. It is easy to suspect sociopathy in such people, since it practically lies on the surface. Within this type, three subtypes are distinguished: low-active (outbursts of aggression appear from time to time), medium-active (problems in communication are constantly observed), high-active (it is difficult to keep such people close to you, since they constantly provoke conflict).

• Passive (latent, hidden)

Only those closest to him, who have known him for many years, can suspect sociopathy in such a person. Most often, he outwardly recognizes the rules of society and laws, but only in order to break them on the sly, while no one sees. It is he who writes denunciations, complaints and slander against colleagues, bosses and neighbors. It is he who can lead a double life and do something illegal and even criminal. This is a manic type of disorder when a person is capable of killing, bullying and raping. Essentially, these are serial maniacs and murderers. The passive form of sociopathy is one of the most dangerous, since the patient accumulates energy inside and then pours it out on his victim.

• Multifunctional

Intermediate forms of sociopathy include the multifunctional type, when a person can openly demonstrate his protest towards society and at the same time lead a double life.

Experts say that the types of sociopathy are not limited to this classification, which requires serious additions and improvements.

Will Cornick . A terrible story that shocked the world. A 13-year-old teenager, who grew up in a well-bred British family, stabbed his teacher to death in front of the entire class. It turned out that he had been hatching this plan for several months. And in the future I wanted to do the same with 2 more teachers and one girl I knew. Will willingly told all the details to the investigation and with a smile expressed the hope that he would achieve his goals that had not yet been realized.

The character of a misanthrope

To better understand such people, you should understand their qualities:

1. A misanthrope is an individualist whose self-love often goes beyond what is permitted.
2. The misanthrope is in protest against society. It is almost impossible to impose on him someone else’s opinion that does not correspond to his ideas. The misanthrope will boldly show his dissatisfaction, even if he has to go against the crowd.
3. Misanthropy implies a distrustful attitude towards most of the norms by which society lives. Such people can boldly, even with a hint of sarcasm, ridicule the principles by which millions live.
4. In most cases, misanthropes are pessimists. They often don't even try to hide their boredom when interacting with people.
5. Many misanthropes love themselves, which cannot be considered a negative trait.
6. Representatives of misanthropes do not exhibit extreme aggression, that is, they will not get into a fight if they simply dislike a person.

Peculiarities

Age

Since a sociopathic child does not yet know how to masterfully hide his thoughts and emotions, it will not be difficult for attentive parents to see signs of the disorder:

• tries to attract attention to himself at school and at home by any means (bites, breaks windows, throws tantrums);
• stealthily (and maybe in front of everyone) spoils things, most often the toys of other children;
• does not caress towards parents, is not attached to brothers and sisters;
• does not find a common language with other children, is conflictual and scandalous;
• often throws hysterics, there are uncontrollable outbursts of anger and aggression - especially at moments when he cannot achieve what he wants;
• does not listen to anyone's requests;
• manipulates parents;
• does not regret what he did, does not feel guilty.

The most obvious sign of sociopathy in children is the deliberate infliction of physical pain on a living being. This results in abuse of small animals. Or the child chooses a younger and weaker one and begins to surreptitiously pinch, bite, poke, or kick him with something sharp. At the same time, he carefully observes the reaction of his victim, whose pain gives him pleasure. If sociopathy is not recognized in a timely manner, it can take on more terrible forms in adolescents. Under the influence of hormones due to puberty, psychopaths commit their first crimes at this age.

If you suspect that a child is a sociopath, you should immediately contact a psychotherapist.

Gender

According to statistics, in men, sociopathy is most often detected in early childhood. There is an assumption that it is in them that the leading factor is a hereditary predisposition to the disorder. Another feature is that in most cases they suffer from a passive form of the disease. Distinguished by high mental abilities and a penchant for rationalism, able to restrain their emotions, male sociopaths lead a double life. In public (at work, with friends) they are quite decent. Although outbursts of anger still occur, and one can see them as skilled manipulators. At home, they usually turn into real tyrants. They beat their wife, abuse their children or elderly parents.

According to the same statistics, the cause of sociopathy in women is most often psychotrauma, i.e. it is usually acquired. The most common form is active. Being overly emotional by nature, women cannot always hide their true feelings towards others. Or to be more precise, their absence. That’s why women’s work teams are often called serpentariums: the level of conflict and quarrelsomeness in them is maximum.

Types of Sociopaths

Individuals with dissocial disorder are divided into two types:

1. Passive.
2. Active.

The first type includes calm and silent people, characterized by good behavior due to fear of being punished. Such individuals are aware of the consequences of their actions and restrain themselves. A provoked individual of the passive type behaves very violently. This type adapts more easily to society, and psychotherapy in this case is more effective. The active type cannot restrain himself. Such people want to attract everyone's attention and are characterized by conflict, fights and aggression.

Diagnostics

You can take the “Am I a Sociopath?” test on your own.

Interpretation of results:

• 20-22 - you do not have any signs of a sociopath, you are not in danger of it;
• 15-19 - you are not a sociopath, but deviant behavior is present;
• 10-14 - you are unlikely to be a sociopath, but all the signs of a manipulator and a mild personality disorder and behavior are evident;
• 6-9 - an unadvanced form of sociopathy is present;
• 0-5 - advanced form of sociopathy.

Without additional research, no conclusions can be drawn based on the test results. Only a psychiatrist or psychotherapist can make an accurate diagnosis.

Books about misanthropes

There is a lot of interesting literature that talks about who a misanthrope is, his life characteristics, and so on. Suggests dwelling on some works:

1. “Contemplating dogs” I. Edelfeldt
   . The hero of the novel is unsociable; he prefers to communicate with dogs rather than people. This novel can be called a letter that he writes to his psychiatrist.
2. “Steppenwolf” by G. Hesse
   . A novel that examines the psychology of a person searching for himself. He criticizes society and rushes between the animal and human principles.
3. “The Wild Life of Gondwana” D. Gorchev
   . This book also contains misanthropic stories, black humor and absurd situations.

How to communicate

If at work or in the family there is a person suffering from dissocial personality disorder, sooner or later a reasonable question arises among colleagues and family: how to communicate with a sociopath? Psychotherapists suggest adhering to the following rules:

1. Reduce communication with him to a minimum.
2. If it is imposed and provokes a scandal, avoid such a development of events by any means - to another room (room) or outside, call a third party for help to resolve the conflict.
3. Don't be afraid of him and don't show him your fear.
4. Demonstrate the strength of your convictions. Sociopaths target the weak and insecure.
5. Do not tell him about your suspicions that he is a sick person, a sociopath.
6. Do not succumb to his charm and attractiveness, sweet speeches and luring into his networks. This is a common weapon of manipulators.
7. If you are in a relationship with a sociopath (romantic, love, family), the best option is to end it. He will never change.
8. Don't get into quarrels with him.

Communication with a sociopath usually does not end well. As a rule, he does not admit that he is sick, does not agree to treatment and is not going to change for the better. Therefore, it is advisable to cut off personal connections immediately. If this is one of your colleagues or bosses, most often this ends in dismissal and the search for a new, quieter job.

Experts warn that the consequences of communicating with sociopaths on a regular basis are not just stress, but also depression, neuroses, decreased cognitive abilities, panic attacks and psychological trauma.

Is it good to be a misanthrope?

In the modern world there is a lot of betrayal, anger and negativity, so sometimes it’s even safe to be a misanthrope. When describing what a misanthrope means, it is worth noting the fact that most of these people have above-average intelligence because they are engaged in self-development so as not to be a gray mass. In addition, they are responsible workers, but only if they work alone or with people who have passed their face control.

Films about misanthropes

You can also see the life of misanthropes in cinema. There are many different films and TV series where there is a person who hates people. We suggest considering a few of them:

1. "How to marry a bachelor"
   . The story is about two lonely people who, from the first meeting, began to hate each other, but they also hate other people.
2. "Sherlock"
   . One of the most famous literary misanthropes is Sherlock Holmes. He dislikes people, although he strives to help them.
3. "Dr. House"
   . The popular series tells the story of a doctor who doesn't hold back when dealing with other people.
4. "Fight club"
   . The film is about two lonely heroes who are members of a club where people fight to get rid of accumulated negativity.