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Dear friends, today I want to share with you interesting and useful information about how to find yourself, your purpose, your purpose in life, your life’s work, how to realize yourself and your talents.
Self-realization - what is it?
The answer to this question will be ambiguous. At the same time, self-realization is considered an action, and at the same time is its goal. Each person has certain potential, talents and inclinations. Bringing them to life through some kind of activity means self-realization.
Most often, self-realization means realizing oneself in some professional activity. But this is not entirely correct. This is a broader concept.
You can realize yourself as a creative person, friend, spouse, parent and much more. There are no clear boundaries here. In addition, when you achieve your goals in one area, you continue to set new ones and move on. This process lasts as long as a person lives.
If a person cannot realize himself, he feels unhappy, depressed and begins to gradually degrade. Without clear life goals, this is inevitable. Therefore, it is important to find what you want to realize and move towards it.
Self-realization is at the top of the pyramid of needs, which was invented by the American psychologist Maslow. This is the most desirable human need. When a person achieves it, he feels happiness and harmony with himself. The works of this psychologist are recognized by most specialists in psychology and related fields. He also analyzed successful people and created a list of the main characteristics that are characteristic of self-actualized individuals. Such people:
- Accept themselves as they are. They understand that it is impossible to change absolutely everything about themselves and make themselves a universal person. Such people learn to live with what they are not happy with about themselves and move on.
- They live in harmony with themselves. They know that only by listening to their true desires can they achieve success.
- Responsible and serious. Successful people don't rush words and don't promise things they can't deliver.
- With a great sense of humor. They do not regard unpleasant situations as something insurmountable, but move on with a smile.
- Strong and steadfastly withstand all failures. Depression, apathy and other extremes are not typical of these people. They steadfastly accept any life circumstances and continue to live a full life.
- They have their own opinion. Such individuals do not succumb to the influence of others, but have their own point of view on everything. They also have the ability to analyze their actions, views and life position
- They don't fly in the clouds. They know how to set goals, plan and dream. But at the same time, they do not live in empty hopes, but go towards their dreams.
- Tolerant of others. These people do not judge others, do not blame them, but try to understand why they act this way and delve deeply into the essence of the problem.
- They have flexibility and good ingenuity. Successful individuals can change their plans depending on the situation. They have no problem changing the direction of their life path.
- Hold back emotions. They are usually reserved and calm, but with close people they are caring and kind.
- Easy to communicate. Such people are characterized by simplicity and ease of communication; they do not try to appear better at the expense of others.
What if reality doesn't reach the level we strive for?
The road leading to self-realization is full of obstacles. External obstacles are associated with society or family, close surroundings, which do not always allow young people to realize their potential. Thus, today difficulties in the labor market reduce opportunities for personal fulfillment. I remember a dramatic scene from Antoine de Saint-Exupéry’s book “Land of Men,” where the author tells how, on a train carrying workers in Poland, he meets the eyes of a child, in whose face he observes the brilliance of the mind, reads in it “the promise of life.” . But then, turning his gaze to the parents, he sees their deplorable state, poverty, disappointed hopes, they do not pay attention to the child at all. The author sadly thinks that for this boy everything turned out badly at the beginning. He may not have the opportunity to develop his talents. His life might be ruined. “They killed Mozart in it,” exclaims Exupery.
How can you realize yourself?
Personal self-realization in psychology is a multifaceted concept. There are many options for how a person can realize their potential. This applies to all areas of her life. Each of them is an important component of the harmonious development of a person. If he was unable to realize himself in something, then this will affect him in the future.
To realize your potential, you need to develop and constantly grow. To do this, you need to understand in what ways you can realize yourself and why it is important to do this
The desire for self-realization and the desire to become happy are not the same thing?
Self-realization comes from perfectionism rather than from the pursuit of happiness, eudaimonism, which considers bliss, happiness as the motive and goal of all aspirations. “Happiness makes me bored,” said the heroine of Rousseau’s novel “The New Heloise.” This phrase very well conveys the spirit of self-realization. However, by making efforts to realize myself, I do not at all give up happiness. It will eventually come - as an addition, as a reward for my work. If, summing up my life, I can say: “I did everything I could, I used all my abilities, I achieved the goals that I set out, I followed my calling, I remained true to the life plan that I made in my youth,” - if I can, without sinning too much against the truth, say one of these phrases, then I will experience a feeling of satisfaction, peace, serenity. Isn't this what happiness is ultimately called?
What ways can you realize yourself?
There are 4 main ways to show your potential:
- Creation
- Personal development
- Professional growth
- Social interaction
Each of them must be present in a person’s life. How a person tries to express himself in them is influenced by his childhood and adult behavior patterns.
Personal self-realization
Personal development is something that is important for a person at any age. From an early age, a child feels like an individual. It is important for him to be understood, respected, and his actions approved. The older a person gets, the more important this aspect is. With the harmonious development of personality, success awaits a person. If something went wrong in his development, then this leads to a lack of self-confidence and depression.
There are 3 main vectors for realizing your personality. Of these, everyone chooses the most important for themselves:
Career and career progression
Unlocking your creativity: Working on your skills, passions and talents. The desire to achieve material wealth and financial independence.
A person can define any of these strategies for himself. But the basis is the realization of oneself as an individual, aimed at gaining approval and recognition from society. The most important people whose recognition a person wants to receive are friends and family. And if his environment harmoniously influences him, then success will not be long in coming.
Self-realization in the profession
Professional development is important to many. At the same time, the size of the salary or the position held is not the most important thing on this path. It is important for a person to be recognized and in demand in his team. But here it is important not to forget that there are other values in life besides career. Work will not replace everything else.
The main characteristics of this method of realizing your capabilities:
- The desire to gain recognition in the team
- A person feels part of a certain part of society
- The individual wants to move higher on the career ladder
- Making plans for the future
- A person is aware of his advantages and disadvantages
The need for social self-realization
It is important for a person to take his place in society and gain recognition from others. This does not necessarily mean becoming a universally recognized genius. Each person has his own level of social activity at which he will feel happy.
This method of self-realization is considered general; all other methods are included in it. Such realization is the highest level of needs in accordance with Maslow’s pyramid of needs. It doesn’t matter which implementation method you choose for yourself. If you know that you are recognized and approved, then you will be able to achieve success in your chosen business.
Ways for women to realize their potential
If creative, professional and social self-realization is not sufficient or interesting for a woman, then she can choose another path of personal development. Then representatives of the fair sex ask a completely logical question: “How can a woman realize herself in the modern world?” Many girls see themselves in the role of a loving wife, homemaker and good mother. Family happiness and care for loved ones are put at the forefront.
Psychologists consider female self-realization to be the only true and inherent nature as the main purpose. Most girls do not feel happy, complete and fulfilled without realizing their own potential in love, creating a family and caring for children. Each of the listed components of self-realization for girls is an integral link in the difficult task of building a strong and happy personality.
Self-realization of a person in creativity
Creative fulfillment has been an important component of progress throughout time. It was creativity and a non-standard approach to solutions that led humanity to the level of development that we have now. Without this, we would not be able to move on and come up with something new.
Creative individuals achieve greater heights and receive recognition from others than those who think in a standard way. Creativity helps to expand consciousness, look at the world differently and take a creative approach to solving a variety of problems.
It doesn't matter what kind of creativity you choose for yourself. It could be dancing, pottery, fashion design, architecture or anything else. And it is not so important to be the first in this. It is more important to be recognized and approved.
Practical recommendations
- First of all, you need to competently and realistically assess your own talents and abilities. To do this, psychologists recommend taking a sheet of paper, creating a calm, relaxing environment and writing down the qualities and hobbies that need to be worked on.
- Honestly and impartially write down all your character traits, regardless of how much they are valued by society.
- List all the types of activities in which you would like to realize yourself. Think about your dreams, what you wanted to do as a child. As psychologists note, childhood dreams reflect a person’s true personality. Next to each activity, write down the necessary character traits that will help you achieve success. After all, only in activity does self-realization of the individual occur.
- Compare the lists and this way you will see which type of activity suits you best. At first glance, this method is only suitable for teenagers who have not decided on a profession. However, according to statistics, most adults are not satisfied with their work and would like to change their type of activity. Such dissatisfaction is dictated, first of all, by the inability to correctly identify one’s talents and set life priorities.
- Many people mistakenly believe that they can only realize themselves in professional activities. However, this is a general misconception. It is necessary to abstract from traditional views and evaluate yourself comprehensively. It is quite possible that a person will be able to express himself while on vacation or while doing his favorite hobby. The main thing is that the process is enjoyable - this is the main sign that the self-realization strategy has been chosen correctly and is successful.
Watch the video - an expert’s opinion on personal self-realization and finding a worthy goal in life.
