Speaking well is simply thinking out loud well. Joseph Ernest Renan
Communication with strangers is always associated with the fear of seeming stupid: saying something wrong, doing something wrong and thereby spoiling your impression of yourself. This anxiety is normal, because you will not have a second chance to make a good impression, which is why it is so important not to look stupid in the conversation with which you open your acquaintance.
The obsessive and unreasonable fear of looking stupid is called social phobia. This is a serious psychological problem that has nothing to do with natural anxiety in stressful situations.
You should understand that anyone can say or do something stupid; you don’t have to be a stupid person to do this. This is not yet a characteristic and, moreover, not a diagnosis. Often people speak out of place, out of place, get confused, or say something they don’t want to say due to confusion, anxiety, and overzealousness. Constant self-control leads to the fact that a person spends all his attention on himself in an attempt not to seem stupid in communication, and because of this he is completely disconnected from the real conversation.
Appearance
Pay attention to your appearance.
It largely determines how people perceive you. Look at yourself with a critical eye. Determine whether your hairstyle and makeup suits you, whether it matches your age, general style, and whether it meets fashion trends. Think about how appropriate it is for you to wear makeup and comb your hair for certain occasions. Evaluate your wardrobe. It should contain only those things that suit you and in which you feel confident. There is simply no need for other things. Make sure that the items of clothing in your outfit match each other and are not from collections ten years ago. Otherwise you will look funny and out of date.
How to get rid of ignorance? Where to begin?
Let's imagine that an amazing event happened to you, thoughtful reader. You began to think deeply about the meaning of your life and human life in general. I wanted to get rid of ignorance and stupidity, from evil in thoughts, words and actions, to become honest and do good to people.
Don't miss this moment. From this day you can start a new life, take the Path of spiritual rebirth.
The process of positive value self-realization may begin in you, and the perception of yourself and other people will change. You become capable of doing good deeds for the benefit of others and yourself. And, as a consequence of these thoughts, an ever-increasing desire to become different appears! You will no longer be able to live as before, not one day, not one hour, not one minute. Keep and strengthen this desire.
There is another sure sign of the beginning of a new life. You are overcome by disgust for your own and other people's meanness! You no longer feel joy from deceiving another, from your dishonest act towards your neighbor. Surprisingly, your conscience begins to torment you! You suddenly suddenly find out that you have it. Maintain and strengthen this state of your soul! In order to practically realize these desires and change yourself, you need to know in which direction and how you should change. To do this, you need to answer the fundamental questions of human existence: “Who am I? Why am I?" In answering these questions, you will need nothing less than how to become wise.
The movement of humanity in this direction is especially hampered by two diseases of our consciousness, acquired relatively recently. One of them is scientism, the identification of knowledge and wisdom. “Scientific” stupidity, scientific ignorance, are, oddly enough, a consequence of the rapid development of sciences, which led to the absolutization of the role of scientific knowledge. This very serious disease of the human consciousness of the twentieth century can be described as the deification of science or scientism (from the Latin “scientia” - science). Let my dear reader not suspect me of scientific obscurantism. I value science, scientific knowledge and scientific information. But in everything you need to observe moderation. The first signs of scientism as an absolutization of the scientific understanding of the world and a scientific explanation of human nature appear in modern times along with the emergence and flourishing of the sciences, when F. Bacon formulated his famous paradigm: “Knowledge is power.”
Gradually this idea acquired enormous significance. A real cult of knowledge and scientific information arose. Knowledge and wisdom have been equated in Western culture. Since “the main strength is scientific knowledge,” then a person does not need any special intelligence, much less wisdom. The main task of a person, they argue, suffering from the disease of scientism, is to be able to collect information, comprehend the sciences of the outside world, acquire a profession and master the art of “making money.”
The second serious illness of the consciousness of people of the twentieth century, besides scientism, is the technocratic nature of thinking. To a large extent, the flourishing of technocracy was facilitated by the successes of the technical revolution, and later by scientific and technological progress, since in the literal sense, technocracy is the power of technology. In real life, technocratic thinking means exaggerating the role of technology, science and technology, and technical progress in human life and society.
But besides the direct meaning, another meaning has appeared in the use of this term.
Technocratic thinking is a whole worldview, the essential features of which are: a) the priority of the means over the end; b) treating a person as an instrument to achieve a goal; c) this is the mind of a person devoid of conscience and wisdom. This type of mentality became a worldview, a methodology of knowledge and action for rulers and government officials, businessmen of an industrial society, for the nomenklatura bureaucracy of the period of totalitarianism, as well as for other segments of the population serving those in power. This type of consciousness is inherent in many of us today.
To get rid of these diseases, one more obstacle must be overcome: ignorance. Socrates also said: “There is only one good - knowledge, and only one evil - ignorance.” The existence of ignorant people and ignorance among so many people is the greatest evil and one of the most serious, along with selfishness, social diseases of the modern era. All human troubles: illness, suffering, poverty, misery, wars, conflicts, rampant international terrorism - stem from our ignorance, from our stupidity.
To get rid of ignorance, you first need to learn to distinguish the ignorant from the ignorant. The latter, according to V. Dahl, is a person who does not know decency, decency in a hostel, or who does not know how to behave, how to behave in public, who does not comply with the established rules of treatment between people. As for the ignorant, this is not just an ignorant person, but one who thinks of himself that he knows everything. Therefore, ignorance almost always has a militant character against knowledgeable people. Very often, an ignoramus is also someone who takes the position: “I don’t know, and I don’t want to know.” But we must look deeper at the evil nature of ignorance, since the most dangerous form of ignorance is metaphysical and philosophical ignorance. For example, let us pose the following question: what is more important for human life: to begin knowledge from the outside world or from oneself, that is, to answer the question “Who am I”? An ignoramus turns primarily to knowledge of the external world and may have good knowledge about it. But he does not understand himself and does not strive to know his Self, his inner world. For this reason, he will never understand the need for his spiritual rebirth. Hence the impossibility of his spiritual transformation.
If we accept the last thesis as a criterion for training and education, then the trouble with our “ignorant” education system is that it teaches the outside world, as well as how to make money. Of course, we cannot do without this knowledge in everyday life. But you need to start learning from yourself, from your inner world and form your character on the basis of rooting universal human values in it. Awareness of this is already the beginning of the path of wisdom!
Ignorance is associated with the stupidity of a person. But the latter, by its nature, is of a slightly different nature. V. Dahl[10] defines stupidity as the property of a stupid, unwise person, unreasonable, slow-witted, and slow-witted. Stupidity, apparently, will be the first stage of ignorance. It must be emphasized that a stupid person is not a moron, but one who, due to the qualities listed above, finds himself in an undesirable situation and cannot find the right way out of it.
It is clear that human behavior is not always distinguished by wisdom, thoughtfulness and rationality. Often ignorance takes possession of us and becomes an obstacle to understanding our inner world and the transition to Sophia consciousness. In order to advance to the knowledge of wisdom, the ignorant must first get rid of stupidity and at the same time germinate in himself the instinct of curiosity, surprise, desire, and then passion for knowledge, and then move on to the gradual comprehension of wisdom. Solving these problems is very important for the spiritual and social healing of people, their ascent to the spiritual age. Since ignorance and stupidity in unity represent a serious obstacle to the spiritual health and spiritual rebirth of a person, then, in the opinion of the author of the book, along with selfishness, they must be qualified as serious diseases in the spiritual and social modes of man and humanity. But when ignorance and stupidity begin to dominate society, they turn into the main obstacle to progressive evolution. Therefore, philosophers have long paid attention to the phenomena of ignorance and stupidity, to their negative role in people’s lives and in the history of society. Plato even believed that wisdom was inaccessible to the ignorant. What prevents them from getting rid of ignorance and taking the path of attaining wisdom? Is it even possible for a person who sets out to take this path to learn wisdom? The author of the book believes that this is not only possible, but also necessary both for individuals and for humanity as a whole. The beginning of this important transformation, the departure from ignorance, will be the recognition of the existence of the divine Spirit within oneself and the desire to get rid of one’s stupidity as the primary stage of ignorance.
Constant effort, hard work and concentration of mind, cultivating love in your heart, will help you rise to that level when you, a thoughtful reader, begin to understand something about yourself, about your “I”. And to begin with, you need to understand such seemingly simple things. You came into this world as a Divine creation. Don't identify yourself with the body. The body, of course, represents a temple for your Spirit, your soul, but the temple is material. The presence of the Spirit in your body is difficult to recognize, and you are often unaware of its supremacy until the end of your life. But, precisely, the human Spirit, as a spark of the Divine Spirit, is the true driver of man in crossing the ocean of life.
The human spirit, provided the individual understands the ways of his spiritual rebirth, can help wisdom fill the work of our mind, and through it our feelings, as well as our bodily functioning with the content of higher, positive values. These important processes of self-realization will be helped by the creation of an individual Sophia philosophy. Developing such a philosophy will give you, reader, pleasure, and its content and effectiveness depend on what you are like, what your soul is, what your character is, what you see as the meaning of your life, what the content of your individual code of values and the direction of social orientations are. To create your personal philosophy, philosophy of spirit and new life orientation, you need to reconsider and shake up the old belief system. This is a very responsible, painstaking work that will require a significant investment of time and effort. But its spiritual value and practical significance of a wise personal philosophy are worth the effort! After all, we are talking about a personal philosophy that will help you achieve spiritual rebirth, gain good health on three levels, achieve material and spiritual well-being, and complete happiness in life based on wisdom.
If you agree with such fundamental principles in understanding the content of the new philosophy - sophiogony, then we become colleagues, and in the future, I hope, we will become good friends “in conscience” in recognizing and understanding this philosophy, in striving to root its principles and laws in our everyday life. life. Otherwise, our paths will diverge, which is undesirable. I really want us to become friends, so that a commonwealth arises between us in terms of common sense, in the forms and content of perception of ourselves and other people, in empathy and understanding of life situations in ourselves and among “others”, close and distant.
I just ask you very much, if you do not agree with any of my views or approaches, do not reject them out of hand, because sophiogony as a form of personal ascent to wisdom is itself in the process of becoming. Try to understand this and take my side. You won't lose anything from this, but you will gain a lot over time. Trust me, believe that a personal philosophy of wisdom, mixed with Sophia’s human knowledge and corresponding worldview, on the basis of worldly wisdom in everyday activities, is a worthy thing, both for personal self-affirmation and for the practical achievement of your success in life.
Personal Sophia philosophy as a philosophy of the human spirit is, in fact, a reliable sail of a person’s life boat. Each of us is a temporary wanderer in this complex and restless world, in which we sail in the ocean of existence on our own boat of life. And since each of us is unique, inimitable, for our life’s boat we select and install an individual ideological sail, with the help of which we try to control our boat in the turbulent whirlwind of life.
This sail must, first of all, be strong, reliable, fully consistent with the peculiarities of your understanding of yourself and other people, the world in yourself, and yourself in the world, the meaning and goals of your life. With its help, you can reliably choose the direction of your life’s path and achieve your goals - health, well-being and happiness. A good and reliable personal philosophy will help you withstand the unfavorable hurricane winds of life's circumstances.
The quality of your personal philosophy should help you stay afloat during the storm and severe everyday shocks, and confidently navigate the whirlwind of life. With the help of such a reliable sail, you will not only be able to maintain the stability of your ship of life, bypass the reefs and underwater rocks of your stupidity, get rid of your ignorance, but also sail into a calm harbor where the sun shines, nature basks, beautiful flowers smell on the shore, beautiful people are having fun and healthy people. Then you too will gain good spirits, optimism in life and the ability to rejoice at every seemingly ordinary green leaf on a tree and any manifestation of life. Thus, Sophia’s practical philosophy is a sail that helps us sail in the restless sea of human life. What determines the success of this voyage? Only from you. On your ability to create a sound personal philosophy, on what your individual nature is, and what views you hold.
If you don’t love people, if you are envious and greedy, if you live only for yourself and your conscience has disappeared (you have become unscrupulous), and in order to achieve success, you are ready to deceive other people, take bribes, steal and the like, then, rest assured, you are ultimately on the path to ruin in life. Temporarily, of course, you can achieve some desired goals, for example, getting rich after a robbery. But people will soon recognize you, your negative qualities, and you will begin to suffer defeat after defeat. It’s a completely different matter if your conscientious life is filled with love for other people, if you yourself are loved and love other people. After all, our main enemy within us is egoism, its extreme level is egocentrism. It is very important for a person to feel the beneficial effects of Love, which neutralizes selfishness, the cleansing influence of freedom of spirit and creative, spiritual thinking. It is important to gain personal responsibility for your own destiny, for your life mission and the realization of the Sophia meaning of life. To do this, you need to squeeze out ignorance and selfishness from your consciousness, and gain an optimistic, spiritual vision of yourself and the world.
Spiritual revival must begin with oneself, and for this it is necessary to get rid of the illusion that the social environment must first change. And only after it, supposedly, can the person himself, the consciousness of people, change. In real life, the opposite is true. The nature and content of relationships between people, their specific goals and methods of activity, and, consequently, the image and direction of their lives depend on what our mentality (consciousness) is. The content of a person’s mentality will depend to a decisive extent on the rooting in our consciousness of the basic qualities of wisdom: Love, deep knowledge-skills and Conscience. It is also important to realize the Spirit within oneself, without which it is unthinkable to comprehend one’s “true self.” In addition, it is necessary to constantly cultivate in ourselves feelings of love and those sprouts of good relationships towards people, towards ourselves, towards nature that arise in us thanks to love. Love is the energy thanks to which we are born. Thanks to love, we become full-fledged people. Through love we build truly human relationships with each other, and a truly human society will emerge. When not many people in the world radiate love from their hearts, it would seem that no change occurs in the world. But when more and more people begin to apply in their practical lives the principles of human ideals and values, the basis of which is love, the time will come when the energy of love will be sufficient for a chain reaction of the energy field of Love to begin. It generates a powerful influence of the energy field of Wisdom. Then love can change the whole world in an instant. This will be the birth of a new era, the era of love. There will be a gradual formation of a civilization of wisdom, since love is the main path of a person’s movement towards wisdom. As for the role of intelligence, knowledge and skills, this is quite well known. The importance of conscience in human life is also quite well known. If you lack conscience, then, of course, you will retain the external appearance of a person, but the human essence will disappear. The famous Kazakh poet and thinker Shakarim Kudaiberdyev said that “no science will help a person without conscience” to become a worthy person.
Apparently, none of us consciously strives to lose our conscience, hate other people and bring harm to them, live in poverty and die in agony from disease. Usually, everyone would like to see themselves in this life as a person of good health, respected and loved by their family and those around them, who has achieved material and spiritual well-being, a person who successfully solves life’s problems not only in their own interests, but also in the interests of other people, near and far.
One of the main problems of sophiogony is the problem of how to overcome human egoism, individual, economic, social, national and other forms of egoism? In the history of philosophy, the main way to solve this problem was formulated long before the new era. And the first who did this, in written sources that have reached us, was the great thinker of China - Confucius (551-479 BC). He formulated the fundamental law of human wisdom, human love as follows: “Do not do to others what you do not wish for yourself!” Later, this Golden Rule found its expression in almost the same words in the Bible, in the Koran, and in the works of many thinkers from different historical eras. The main positions of the Confucius school in understanding human problems turned out to be very close to sophiogony. One and a half thousand years before the Renaissance in Europe, Confucius formulated the task of philosophy as follows: to help Man assert himself and achieve greatness and prosperity in this life, on this earth! For Confucians, it was important to establish a balance between individual diversity and social harmony. Three main principles lead to this: 1) zhen - philanthropy, kindness, righteous life; 2) whether - etiquette, more precisely, the rules of good behavior; 3) zhi – righteousness, proper behavior, wisdom.
The main key to human success is honorable behavior and devotion to duty, or such actions that must be performed under the appropriate situation. Moral excellence consists of the totality of right conduct, right attitude and honesty, which are embodied in a noble personality. These universal principles of human life are fully applicable to our lives today. If we can do this, then life during the development of wisdom civilization will be as stable as in Chinese society - for thousands of years.
For thousands of years, wisdom has fascinated and inspired people on the difficult but beautiful Path of ascent to its shining peaks. The gradual, step by step, ascent to wisdom fills a person’s life with deep joy, making it truly happy. For each of us, the Path to wisdom is our own, unique, but for humanity as a whole it is a pattern. It was love and wisdom that always helped people in the past to survive, find effective methods for achieving success, and harmonize relationships between people and between humans and nature. Let's hope that in the future we will revive and preserve this tradition. Only in this case can humanity be saved.
We must be aware that one of the reasons for the decline of morality and the development of anticulture is human stupidity, our ignorance. And come on, reader, let us together look for ways out of the spiritual impasse, since this is the main route to overcoming the global crisis. The success of your and my individual navigation through life depends, first of all, on personal philosophy, on its quality, its wisdom, as well as on our skill as helmsmen in controlling this powerful lever for solving life's most complex problems.
Human stupidity and carelessness do not yet allow us to understand that without the penetration of love and wisdom into the relations between people and into the relations of people to nature, humanity will simply perish in the near future. Each of us needs to understand that until spiritual values that open up a positive, sophistic vision of ourselves and the world take root in our consciousness and in our culture (in customs, rites, traditions, rituals), society will not emerge from the global crisis. will come out. People must become wise if they do not want to be dead. The emerging Sophia energy field, as a result of our efforts, will grow more and more, involving new people, their entire communities, various social groups, structural elements of state power - then the emergence of a new civilization in the center of Eurasia - the civilization of wisdom - can begin.
Rules of conduct and communication
How others perceive you also largely depends on your behavior. The main rule here, as in the external image, is appropriateness. To look like an adequate girl, adhere to social norms of behavior. It is not customary to talk loudly in public places, at a party there is no need to be sad in the corner, at work you should be serious, and so on.
Think before you say anything. Otherwise, your words may sound stupid. In addition, others may misunderstand you, especially if you express yourself in a rather ambiguous way. If you don’t understand anything about the subject of the conversation, it’s better to say so directly and admit your own ignorance, or remain completely silent. Your off-topic reasoning will create the image of a real fool.
Choose your conversation topics carefully. If you see that the conversation is taking an unpleasant turn for the person, change the subject. Think about the appropriateness of the questions you ask people. You shouldn’t familiarly pry into their souls—only stupid people do that.
Watch your facial expression. Let it be meaningful. Practice your facial expressions in front of a mirror. Sometimes a girl thinks that she is rolling her eyes a little in thought, but in reality she looks like she is bored with herself, and at the same time there is not a single thought in her head.
Control the expression of your own emotions. A self-respecting woman will not throw a tantrum in public, arrange scenes of jealousy with her partner, be capricious and demonstrate her immaturity. Believe me, such concerts are remembered for a long time and work against your image.
Causes of stupidity
This happens because a very large number of people stop working on their development after studying at a university, and many even while studying at a university.
School
While we are studying at school, we are undergoing very strong development, that is, one way or another, we still learn the subject. Our brains are working, even figuring out how to make a cheat sheet for ourselves or how to pass an exam without having to study for it - this is very strong brain activity, plus we go to some sections. In general, people have the strongest brain activity during this stage.
University
Well, we studied at school, many go to college, not all of course, but many go to study at a university. There is also brain activity there, which is basically similar, because There are also exams, tests, you also need to study, you need to prepare. In general, there is also brain activity here, you are still your own person, but at least a little, you are engaged and even if you are not engaged, your brain is active.
Job.
Then the most interesting thing happens. Either in the middle of studying at a university, when everything is already as if it had been established and nothing new happens in terms of brain activity, or after studying at a university there is a sharp decline. Because a person finds a job, goes to work, there is little brain activity in the first days, because there he needs to settle in, understand how to work. But then the brain activity doesn’t move at all, because nothing happens, at work everything is the same, you do everything the same, you come home and watch the same TV, you watch the same thing on the Internet, nothing occurs from the point of view of self-development. This is the main reason.
And if you approach a person and ask what he did after studying at the institute, then 95% of the time they will tell you that he worked. He didn’t take any courses or any trainings, he just worked, and at that time his brain became stiff. While he was at school, he was active, considered different opinions and thoughts, even reading books, but then only work and the same type of days. It’s not interesting to talk to such people, because... they are missing out on a lot.
While you are young, while you are learning and developing, new neural channels, new neural networks are formed in your brain, you have new movement there, but when you constantly do the same thing, this movement does not occur and, accordingly, the brain weanes itself from developing these neural networks. channels and connections.
Development
Calmness, wisdom, rationality, poise, restraint, a good sense of humor, self-confidence and insight will allow you not to look like a fool in the eyes of other people. Develop yourself, learn something new, master complex terms, the use of which can demonstrate your intelligence. Just before doing this, make sure that you understand how they should sound in context, otherwise you will get the opposite effect to the desired one.
Read more. This develops thinking, imagination, and the ability to construct phrases in oral and written speech. Watch serious, extraordinary films that you can discuss later, attend worthwhile events. Be a well-rounded person, then it will be interesting to be with you.
What is necessary for wisdom?
In fact, to begin your journey to the heights of wisdom, you should admit your stupidity. We are used to calling people stupid only because their motives for their actions are incomprehensible to us. To evaluate, we need to process the information that we are able to perceive. It is enough for a stupid person to receive a little information, and he will be confident in his conclusions and rightness.
No one wants to admit that they are stupid, so they will furiously prove to others that they are right. A smart person always leaves room for doubt.
Basing your behavior on far from complete data about the nature of the situation is a common property of the human mind. We assimilate and perceive only part of the information, but we are able to grasp the connection between events and objects, highlighting significant and insignificant details and features. Fools do the same, but they do not learn from the past, or they extract small, insignificant experience.
Fools are free from doubt.
I will paraphrase one statement: “conviction is the last thing for which I am ready to give my life, because I may be mistaken.” In a situation with fools, education does not enlighten, but aggravates, becoming the foundation of self-confidence, the shield and sword of stupidity. On the other hand, ignorance can be considered gunpowder for stupidity.
Stupidity or not stupidity?
In conclusion, I want to recall another real story that I was lucky enough to witness. A woman with a very young and lively voice asked for a meeting on the phone because she was experiencing certain life difficulties. When we met, I was very surprised, because she was a woman of near-retirement age, but she looked amazingly lively, she was beaming all over, like someone in love. It turned out that after 19 years of not the most successful marriage, of which for the last 10 years she did not live with her husband, but remained married, when she had already buried herself as a woman many years ago, she suddenly met a man of her own age. Based on her description, he also seems to have romantic feelings for her. He is from another city, and she had a lot of doubts and fears about their possible continuation of the relationship. They both did not dare to admit their feelings, both were in doubt. The woman then said: “I'm afraid! What will people think, what will they say? How can I say something myself?” I asked her, “Do you seem to be happy with this man?” She replied: “Yes!” Then I couldn’t find anything better than to add: “You know, with all due respect to your age and how it suits you now, you have lived enough to now have the right to do stupid things!”
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At school
Until the sixth grade I studied very well. I was especially good at mathematics, physics and chemistry. I even considered myself smarter than many, because the topics that interested me - how stars coexist in space, how the world works, what the meaning of life is - seemed more mature than the interests of my classmates. I went to the Olympics and brought certificates from republican competitions.
Dullness appeared somewhere in the 10th grade. We were already prepared for the fact that in the coming year we would have to study hard so that the entire lyceum class would enter universities. I was very stressed: “How will I pass the final exams if I stupidly don’t understand anything?”
It was almost impossible for me to focus on the teacher's words. I perceived letters and individual words, remembered their meaning, but could not comprehend them entirely. It was as if there was white noise in my head: someone was saying something, but I just didn’t understand anything - it was dregs.
During the breaks, worried about my condition, I could hardly talk to anyone. I just couldn’t find what to answer, everything seemed out of place. And everything seemed meaningless. Talk about parties and get-togethers in the city, even about girls, didn’t appeal to me. Cars, new mobile applications... I was not interested. It seemed to me that I no longer wanted anything in life. I froze, was dumb, and couldn’t carry on a conversation. What to say, what to do if you feel stupid? How can we continue to exist in this world?
How not to give in to cravings
There are two news - good and bad. Good: You can make smart decisions despite your emotions. Understand that your worries, obsessions and nervousness are just a state of your own psyche, and not an objective reality. Focusing on your own experiences can only make problems worse.
“Most of the problems caused by negative emotions are explained by your attempts to hide painful experiences and resist them. When you act this way, you return to the negative experience again and again, consolidating it in your memory. Don’t dwell on the negative, let new impressions and feelings crowd it out.”
The ability to recognize and manage your emotions is called emotional intelligence. Some research suggests that this ability can have a significant impact on a person's effective decision-making. However, you can increase your emotional intelligence by writing down your experiences or discussing them with others. Here are some exercises for developing emotional intelligence published on HelpGuide.org:
- Having realized that you are experiencing stress, try to breathe deeply, relax your muscles - this will help to cool down the fervor of your feelings a little and avoid committing rash acts.
- Control your emotions. This applies not only to obviously destructive emotional impulses, such as anger, but also to the expression of your romantic feelings - you should not succumb to their provocations every time and do something out of the ordinary. Be aware of your actions.
- Learn the basics of nonverbal communication. People around you, without realizing it, send you many silent signals. Having learned to understand them, you will be able to more objectively assess the situation and more competently build a strategy for your behavior.
- Use humor to solve problems and connect with people. You don't have to be a world-class stand-up comedian to do this. Make jokes more often and, most importantly, to the point - people like it, this way you can reduce some brewing conflicts to nothing.
- Resolve disputes constructively. You shouldn’t turn a discussion of a problem into asking the question “Who’s in charge here?!” or an ordinary quarrel, your task is to find a way out of this situation together.
There is some bad news, have you forgotten? Developing your emotional intelligence and practicing your decision-making skills will undoubtedly benefit yourself and those around you, but ultimately, there is no truly effective cure for love fever. Knowing the mechanisms of its occurrence, you will be able to behave a little more prudently, but still you will not be able to ignore the “disease” that is millions of years old.
