How to find a boyfriend: 7 tips for desperate girls
There are girls and women who have no end to suitors, even if they are for... They can choose. But there are “gray mice” to whom the opposite sex does not pay much attention. But they also want a prince. Or at least not a prince, but someone simpler and more reliable.
But for some reason the relationship doesn’t work out all the time. As soon as you meet a person whom you want to trust and love, for some reason he quickly breaks off the relationship. If this is not the first time this happens, the reason is you, and you need to be able to learn from your mistakes.
To find someone, you need to do something. At least for starters, turn away from the usual work-home path or register on a dating site. You need to take action!
What to do first? Don't push away guys who want to meet you or ask you out on a date. It seems that this is not yours, there is no love? But first take a closer look at the person, and then decide.
A girl, Svetlana, worked in one team. She was already 30 years old, but she only dreamed of a family. Once at a corporate party, she got into a conversation with her colleague and peer Yulia, who had a good husband and a wonderful son.
“Good for you,” said Svetlana, “you have found your happiness.” And I try so hard to find a husband, but nothing works.
-Are you sure what you're doing? I didn't notice something. Max looked after you for so long. What didn't you like about programmer Sasha? Why didn't you even want to give him a phone number? Are you waiting for the prince?
- What does the prince have to do with it? I want love. Real and mutual? After all, you love your husband?
- Certainly. But do you know what I'll tell you? We built love together. I didn’t want to go on the first date either, but I changed my mind in time. After a couple of meetings, I fell madly in love. As a result, I came to a happy marriage. And if you wait for the prince and refuse every potential candidate, you will be left with nothing.
You need to know how to look for a potential husband. Our advice will help you with this
- “Men love with their eyes,” remember this and watch your appearance.
- Don't be afraid to take the initiative. The opposite sex likes independent women.
- Smile and radiate sexual energy. A smile attracts, and when you smile from the heart, your eyes begin to glow.
- Visit “fishy” places more often, such as parties. That's where the good guys are.
- Don't go on a date, even if the guy didn't make a very good impression. Who knows, maybe this is your destiny.
- Love yourself. Then guys will love you.
- Don't be afraid of loneliness. Sometimes you need it to understand yourself and learn to simply enjoy life.
No empty expectations or lack of faith!
Now that the request to the Universe has been sent, it is extremely important that you do not plunge into tedious and anxious waiting, constantly overthinking yourself.
Well, how to find a man? Where? When will he appear in my life? How much longer to wait?
If you really want to attract the man of your dreams into your life, stop endlessly tormenting yourself with these questions!
Stop worrying forever about what you might not succeed. Stop worrying that the perfect man won't find you. Stop worrying and worrying.
You have sent a request. Now rest assured that you will meet your loved one very soon. He will find you himself!
And now:
- Anticipate love;
- Enjoy life;
- Be happy every day;
- Make yourself happy and love yourself;
- Feel love everywhere and give it to others;
- Stop sadly wondering: how to find a man?
Try it! Just write a list - create an image of your ideal loved one. This technique is so effective and efficient that I am already waiting for incredible stories from you about attracting the man of your dreams and ideal relationships into your life.
Share your stories in the comments. I will post the best one on my Instagram stories and give the author a gift.
What to do if you want a guy but can't find one
Most likely, you just think that you are not able to find a boyfriend. This is easier to do than it seems. First, clearly define what exactly you want and what your boyfriend should be like:
- high or low;
- brunette or blond;
- humorous or very serious
- a homebody or party animal;
- a good athlete or a person far from sports;
In general, try to draw an image of your future chosen one. It’s not for nothing that they say that thoughts are visualized.
When you analyze the qualities of your chosen one, try not to use the particle “not”: “was not”, “was not attracted”, “was not a member”. If you want to find a person who does not drink, write specifically “teetotaler.”
Once the list is complete, read it out loud and wait. Remember: you can’t change anything on the list. The process has started and you will get exactly what you dreamed of. But making a list doesn't mean you just have to sit still. You need to socialize more and attend parties and other events.
You're too complex
In order for others to love you, you must love yourself. This wisdom is the main secret of human popularity and attractiveness. Because of some mysticism, confident people who love themselves are liked by others much more than depressed and insecure people.
Usually people are too focused on themselves to notice other people's shortcomings, so you don't have to worry about your own.
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How to find a normal guy: places to "bite"
Where do girls find their other halves? In hobby clubs, in gyms, at work or in educational institutions.
The last two options are preferable. When you spend whole days with a person, he is in front of you in full view. It is clear how he treats his colleagues, what his character is, whether he strives to earn or spend money. Yes, you are unlikely to meet the prince. But you will have a good understanding of what you can expect from your chosen one and what not.
If a guy has a reputation as a Don Juan, you'll find out about it very quickly. If he likes to drink, does not strive to repay debts, or is a gambling addict, you will also be in the know. And it’s up to you to decide whether to stay with such a person or not.
But such relationships have a significant disadvantage. They may not work out. If you fall in love, it will hurt you to be next to a person who is no longer interested in you. If you don’t want to date, and the guy insists, unpleasant moments will also arise.
Dating in clubs or gyms will create fewer problems. But you will also receive less information about the person. There is no need to rush here: get to know your chosen one better.
What's next?
I hope you no longer wonder “How to find a man?”
You have done everything that was required of you: you realized what you want, clearly formulated your order and created your list.
“What next?” - you ask.
There are two options.
Option #1. Liberation
You can turn working with your list into a real ritual.
- Choose a special day and time;
- Read the entire list with anticipation that soon this ideal will burst into your life and you will be together;
- Burn this sheet of paper. As soon as your request turns into ashes, you can be sure that the Universe has already begun to attract your man to you;
- “Release” the ashes. You can bury it in the garden or scatter it in the wind.
If you don't like the idea of burning, you can roll the sheet into a tube, tie it to a balloon and release it into the sky. Imagine: your order is being sent into the Universe right now!
On the subject: How can a woman reduce the importance of desire when attracting love?
Option #2. Storage
There is another way to work with a list. You can put it in a box or a beautiful holiday envelope and hide it somewhere in the apartment. Find a cozy shelf for your box or envelope, or hide it in your closet under your clothes.
By the way! You can re-read your miracle list from time to time, experiencing positive emotions and feeling high vibrations. Imagine your loved one in all its glory with all the described qualities. Feel how good you are, how great you are having time together.
How to find a guy quickly
Or you still think that normal guys are an endangered species and it’s very difficult to find them, then try your luck on dating sites. The possibilities there are unlimited. If you don't mind looking for a needle in a haystack, then go ahead. The Internet is an excellent platform for meeting and getting to know each other. People quickly fall in love there because they do not see the shortcomings that are clearly visible in real life. Why not take a risk?
A lot of people met on Tinder. There are more and more happy couples who met on this resource.
But at the same time, not everyone believes that intersections on the Internet can be serious. Practice proves the opposite. Start communicating and you will understand what kind of person is in front of you.
No need to register on a large number of sites. 1-2 is enough. Or you will start spending all your free time on communication. If you come across an interesting person, you can continue communicating with him by maintaining constant correspondence. Over time, you will get to know him offline.
Perhaps a personal meeting will be disappointing, but it’s worth a try, who knows, maybe the love of your life lives on the other side of the country or even abroad.
Should a man look for a lover after 35 years?
Psychologists clarify that there is really no need to look for anyone. This is the wrong wording. It should be remembered, firstly, that you will not be nice by force, and, secondly, you need to search by criteria, but by what exactly? For example, a guy set himself the goal of finding a long-legged blonde with sky-blue eyes, who speaks three foreign languages and certainly has a higher education. Let's say luck smiles on him and he even begins an affair with such a girl. What's next? Most likely, he will be disappointed, since initially the guy began to choose according to criteria (with his mind), and not with his feelings.
Remember the movie "Fanfan Tulip"? There, the handsome young man Fanfan dreamed that he would become the husband of the king’s daughter and made efforts to fulfill his dream, but in the end he realized that the gypsy Adeline was dearer to him than anyone in the world.
“Why can’t I find a guy?”: what to do when all means have been exhausted
Sometimes it seems that all means have been tried, but a normal guy has not appeared in your life. A good guy is hard to find when
- you have low self-esteem;
- you don’t take care of yourself;
- afraid of the first date;
- too lazy to leave the house;
- you have bad manners;
- you are too self-confident;
- prefer to look for a prince rather than pay attention to mere mortals.
Perhaps you have other reasons. Understand them. If you need help from a psychologist, visit him. Maybe the reason lies in the inability to communicate, or fear of men.
Sometimes some little thing is missing to hook a guy. Start by working on yourself. Need to improve your posture or lose weight? It's not a problem. Exercising at the gym, especially dancing, will help you overcome your shortcomings. You will get endorphins, become slimmer and gain a flying gait. If you don’t have enough time to attend classes, you can practice yoga and dancing at home. The Internet is full of video tutorials!
Consider changing your wardrobe. Perhaps you dress boringly or very extravagantly. Clothes that are too revealing or not very neat sometimes spoil the first impression. Go shopping, visit a stylist. It is likely that if you wear different clothes, you will be more likely to attract the attention of the opposite sex.
If you are tired of running around parties and other places where you think you can meet a decent guy, think about your hobby that will take you out of the house and lead you to the right place. If you are interested in reconstruction, diving, mountaineering, then you have a high probability of meeting your soul mate.
Finally, breathe and relax. Don’t try to go hunting every evening and, trembling with impatience, lie in wait for your “prey.” Guys feel very well when they are trying to be lassoed and get a little scared. They would rather meet a woman who doesn't want anything from them and fall in love.
You're suppressing
In a series about your life, you are the main villain. You're sarcastic, witty and extremely smart, but the male ego, let us remind you, is damn fragile. Even a soap bubble is stronger than a man’s self-esteem. If a man notices that someone is smarter than him, the unfortunate ego is torn to shreds and that’s all - only his heels sparkle in the distance.
Try not to turn your first date into putting your potential boyfriend down and you might even get a second one. Or read The Art of War and develop a relationship strategy.
