TOP 100 questions to ask a girl in correspondence: interesting, tricky, funny, vulgar

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Very often in life the following situation occurs: a guy met a girl by correspondence, they exchanged a few phrases, and then there was an awkward pause. They have nothing to talk about. In this case, a man should have at least a small list of questions for the girl in his head. They will help to interest a girl in correspondence and start a relationship with her.

To select questions taking into account the woman’s age, her interests and your plans for the relationship, use the advice of psychologists:

Think in advance what questions you can ask a girl via correspondence, and which ones are best excluded from communication, or left for another time.
Don't be afraid to be a little vulgar and provocative. Pepper in SMS helps create excitement and intrigues lovers.
Read the answers carefully to avoid getting into trouble later. If a girl understands that the questions are being asked without interest, she will lie or ignore your letters.
Search and come up with non-standard phrases for communication. Banality is a guy’s enemy when meeting girls.
Communication must involve two people. If you ask questions and the lady answers them frankly, be prepared to be tested too.
Be sure to choose funny phrases and tasks. Humor and an ambiguous hint in a question help relieve tension and make people closer to each other.
Consider how busy the girl is at the time of communication and correspondence. If a question requires a deep, meaningful, detailed answer, ask it in the evening. And during the day, when you’re busy at work or school, use a list of quick phrases.

Is it possible to kiss a girl on the Nth date?

The Nth date refers to the current meeting or the current stage of the relationship. And the real significance of the issue is not at all about permission to kiss a girl. This phrase will let you know:

how liberated the girl is . If she doesn’t allow herself to be kissed for too long, then perhaps she’s simply selling herself out or isn’t interested in the guy enough;
how he behaves when he’s a little nervous . Does he change the topic, falls into a stupor, or, on the contrary, begins to talk a lot and quickly, or laughs it off;
does he already want a kiss ? An embarrassed smile, a direct positive response, licking or biting her lips indicate that she is waiting to be kissed;
how straightforward she is . How does she respond? Clearly, extremely understandably, frankly, without complexes? Or evasively, with hints, blushing?

After such a question, the girl will really expect a kiss at the end of the meeting. If she clearly wants him, and the man leaves her with nothing, she may suspect that she is being played with and change her opinion about the interlocutor not for the better.

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Interesting questions

List of unique phrases that can be used as questions in correspondence with a girl:

Do you have any talents?
Have you read the book...(title, author)? Liked?
Who is the boss in the family?
Does love make a person happy?
How long does it take to fall in love and trust a person?
Do you have fears, phobias?
What lengths will you go to to achieve your goal?
What kind of relationship do you think is ideal?
What do you live for?
China, Japan, Korea, what will you choose for your next trip?
Why did you like me?
How do you see your future, for example, in 5, 10, 15 years?
What annoys you about men?
How do you feel about men’s hobbies: fishing, hunting, racing, tanks?
What don't you allow in a relationship?
What would you say to Putin when you meet?
Do you have an idol?
Who do you aspire to be like?
Are there any taboo topics to talk to me about?
Do you believe in Santa Claus?
What did your classmates call you?
What event in your life do you consider the most unforgettable?
Have you made a difficult decision in life?
What should a guy do to make you fall in love?
Do you have any weaknesses?
Do you dream of moving to another city?
Did you fall in love in kindergarten? At school?
Do you have pets?
What irritates you about people?
Do you have a favorite dish?
Which guys are not your type?
What do your parents mean to you?
What kind of ice cream do you like?
Do you believe in God?
How do you feel about same-sex love?
Is there life on other planets?
What is your dream home?
How do you feel about smoking and alcohol?
Are you gossiping with your friends about me?
Is sex possible before marriage?
Are children giving up their careers?
Do you see dreams?
Do you believe in psychics?
Do you know how to restrain your emotions, even joyful ones?
If you had a month or a year to live, what would you do?
What gifts are the most valuable?
What needs to be added to the world to make it kinder and more beautiful?
What is happiness?
Can you forgive the betrayal of your friend or husband?
What moment from the past do you really want to return and correct?

Take a few questions and weave them into the conversation one by one. Then the dialogue will be complete, and in a couple of days you will learn a lot of interesting things about the girl.

Are you against your boyfriend watching 18+ movies?

The answer reflects the degree of constraint of the lady, how ready she is and whether she even allows talking about such topics. Sometimes this phrase helps a girl reveal her sense of humor and ability to understand it.

Although the question itself is a little comical, among couples there are a lot of those who quarrel because of problems with sex or with emancipation. That's why it's really best to take a woman's answer seriously. Just for fun, you can also ask what a girl would do if she caught her boyfriend watching a pornographic film:

joined the viewing;
calmly explained that she didn’t like it and asked to stop;
got offended, made a scandal or played “keep silent”;
turned attention to herself by offering sex;
switched attention to anything other than sex;
pretended not to notice anything;
broke off relations with him.

Her answer will reflect her attitude to this issue, her reaction to differences of views, her ability to discuss this and solve such problems.

Cool

Do you think baldness suits girls?
Are there any differences between the frog princess and the toad princess?
How to take revenge on your boss: put pepper in your tea or feed herring with milk?
Platypus or duckbill, which is correct?
If you pour water into an aquarium for a fish, will it drown?
If I were an animal, what kind would I be?
I don't understand what the difference is between a snowman and a snowwoman. And you?
How did ancient women shave their legs?
Do woodpeckers get concussions?
Do bald people have dandruff?

Accompany humorous SMS with emoticons, gifs, pictures. React violently to the lady’s answer if you find it funny. Make jokes in response so that the chain of letters is not interrupted by silence.

Am I better than your ex?

The differences between the ex-boyfriend and the current interlocutor do not play a big role. What matters is how a woman responds to people from her past. Since she broke up with her previous boyfriend, it means that something did not suit her in their relationship. The manner in which she speaks about such negativity is a litmus test of her character. What's alarming:

aggression when mentioning ex-partners: screaming, obvious anger, obscene language, outright disdain, gloating;
blaming only ex-boyfriends for everything, focusing specifically on their disadvantages and mistakes;
presenting oneself as a victim, absolute denial of one’s mistakes;
a direct message that the man from the past was the best and the current interlocutor cannot compare with him;
a combination of several of the above points.

A normal reaction would be to talk about the previous relationship in a neutral way or even with a drop of gratitude for the experience. If she doesn’t want to talk about it because she’s not ready yet, it’s better not to question her further, but to show respect for her personal space.

Tricky

Unusual, tricky questions to a friend allow you to get to know the lady better, putting your interlocutor at a dead end. Please note that awkward phrases with a catch do not imply humiliation of female dignity, it is simply a provocation for a frank conversation.

Girls deceive men so often, do they like it? Why?
Imagine becoming a man for 1 day. Your actions?
Why can't you forgive a guy?
Do you have a price?
Is vulgarity cool?
Do you want to get married and become a housewife?
Do you have complexes about your appearance?
Which guys are not your type?
Do you do crazy things?
Ever danced a striptease?

Before asking a tricky question, think about whether you are ready to receive a frank answer. Practice shows that men are not always satisfied.

Why do you think I have a complex?

Another way to hear all the ins and outs about yourself without asking directly about your disadvantages. What do the different types of reactions to this question mean:

thinks and examines the guy for a long time - knows him poorly, is not yet aware of his shortcomings;
immediately answers that he has no complexes - he idealizes the guy or considers him very confident (although this can also be part of idealization);
names several possible complexes - she has studied the interlocutor well, she is interested in him. However, among the listed options there may be hidden things that she herself does not like about this man;
she presses her head into her shoulders a little, makes a guilty look and hesitates to answer - she worries about the guy’s feelings, although she has something to say. It is not a fact that the shortcomings of the interlocutor, which she managed to see, are critical for her.

Here, too, as in questions No. 3-4, the degree of straightforwardness, honesty, and constraint during unusual conversations is expressed. After waiting for her answer, you can tell her about your real experiences, uncertainty about something and ask how she feels about it. This will also express her level of empathy, desire to understand another person, and ability to support.

About relationships and love

If you don’t know what to ask a girl about in correspondence, move on to the topic of love and relationships. Ladies love to carry on conversations on personal topics. A conversation about relationships helps to get to know your interlocutor and establish close contact.

Do you often fall in love?
Did you confess your love first?
Do you know what unrequited love is?
Is romance a necessary part of a relationship or can you do without it?
Can you call first after a fight with a guy?
If a man cheats, will you forgive him?
Do you believe in horoscopes?
Does friendship between a man and a girl exist?
The ideal guy, what is he like?
Do you believe in love at first sight?

“Paradise in a hut” or marrying an unloved but rich man?

Both money and personal life are two very important parts. It is extremely difficult to single out the main one, and there is no particular need. However, one component will still outweigh the priorities. And the main thing is to understand whether these principles are in conflict between a guy and a girl. And what answers from the lady herself can be alarming, regardless of the degree of compatibility of the couple in such views:

an instant, unambiguous choice in favor of a relationship. Most often this indicates insincerity, an attempt to impress at any cost;
avoidance of answer in general - unwillingness to admit one’s “cons” or to be honest;
a clear, almost categorical emphasis on money and attempts to find out about the guy’s income. Why then does the girl even communicate with him, hope for something? And what is she ready to offer in return?

Everyone wants to live in abundance, this is a normal desire. However, only as long as this does not include manipulation of other people, attempts to be happy, while hurting someone.

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Vulgar

Use intimate questions when communicating with a girl you don’t know well, if you feel that she doesn’t mind, they won’t confuse her. In other cases, leave them for later, when the relationship is a little stronger.

Vulgar phrases in correspondence take communication to another level, help create an intimate atmosphere and give a reason for a date. But they must be correct, careful, so that the guy does not look like a sexual maniac.

What was your first sex like?
Have you experienced a real orgasm?
Do you have unfulfilled sexual fantasies?
Do you like making love in unusual places?
Do you approve of unconventional sex?
What part of a man's body seems most attractive in bed?
Does the size of your manhood matter to you?
How do you feel about hard sex?
Do you go to adult stores?
Favorite position for making love?

On a note! Girls themselves can hint at a meeting with the help of provocative questions, hints at a love meeting. The main thing is to notice the ambiguity of the correspondence and get your bearings in time and take a decisive step.

Are you ready for marriage?

A good question to determine the level of self-esteem and goals of a young lady. The answer also shows how seriously she takes marriage, which she believes is the key to a strong and healthy relationship. Whether she is ready to give something in return, and not just consume a man’s resources, is another feature that can be learned from her words. What's alarming? If a girl answers that she is ready for marriage and gives reasons for this:

by his age (“the clock is ticking”);
only the desire to have children;
the fact that all her friends are already married;
a strong desire to become “ringed”;
nothing, cannot explain the reasons for his “readiness”.

The potential spouse will talk about her qualities that will help in the couple’s relationship. She will reasonably explain why she considers herself quite mature and what, in her opinion, a strong family looks like. Her words are logical, clear and practical. A girl who is close to the role of a wife and may become one in the future, but is not yet ready for this, will also give arguments in favor of her opinion. She will let the guy know what exactly is important for her to improve in order to consider herself a good wife.

Blitz questions

Questions for a girl to get to know her better in correspondence on VK do not have to be long. You need to answer blitz tasks quickly, briefly, and frankly. Discuss the terms in advance.

Favorite toy as a child?
Why are you ashamed?
Favorite book (movie, actor, car brand, etc.)?
What do you do perfectly?
How do you feel about me?
Are you a morning person or a night owl?
What country do you dream of visiting?
Favorite cartoon character?
Can you describe me in three words?
Do you believe in fate?

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Ask her about sex in public, but without others hearing you

Briefly, the main rule: a girl should be comfortable refusing you, for this, do not drive her into a corner.

Before you bring up this very sensitive topic, make sure that you and your girlfriend are in a relaxed and safe environment so that your date will feel comfortable if she refuses.

If you are already alone with each other behind closed doors, she may become anxious. Ask if a girl would like to have sex with you while you are sitting in a restaurant or while walking. Just speak more quietly so that your conversation is not heard by strangers, this will put both of you in an awkward position.

What not to ask

Some questions from men make a girl blush or make her feel angry. A careless word can ruin the prospect of a relationship forever. To prevent this from happening, remember the black list of questions that under no circumstances should you ask a lady at the beginning of your acquaintance, and in the future too. They concern a woman’s appearance, her friends, former relationships.

Do you have a beautiful girlfriend? Is your sister pretty?
Why do you look so bad, haven’t you gotten enough sleep?
Don't you think you're too thin (fat)? Maybe it's time to go on a diet?
Why don't you have a boyfriend?
Why did the previous relationship end, did the guy have any complaints against you?
Where do you get so much hair on your body? Would you like to give me a certificate for going to a beauty salon?
What do you use to remove acne?
Are you sure this dress suits your legs? Is it for skinny people?
Why don’t you use foundation (hair dye, lipstick)?
What PMS hit?

In addition, there is a list of banal phrases that greatly infuriate the fairer sex. They should not be asked to an unfamiliar girl as a reason to start correspondence:

Does your mother need a son-in-law?
Are you afraid of being an old maid?
Do you have a husband?
Virgin?
Do you want children?
How much do you weigh?
What is your breast size?
Will you lend me some money?
How much do you earn?
Can I give you a compliment?
Do you have an apartment?
Can you give me your phone number?

Now you know what you can ask and find out from a girl in correspondence at the very beginning of a relationship. Do not limit yourself to just questions, actively talk about yourself, but carefully avoid rudeness, banality, and monosyllabic answers. Friendly dialogue helps build trusting relationships that will stand the test of time.

How to conquer you?

Allows you to understand whether the girl knows what she wants, whether she is aware of her interests, and whether they are too changeable. It is unlikely that she will give clear instructions on how to conquer herself, but she will still throw in a few ideas and thoughts. What answers indicate that she herself does not understand her own desires and will most likely be difficult with her?

“I don’t know”, “I never thought about it” and other vague phrases, as well as a long silence.
“Guess for yourself,” “What do you think?” - coquetry along with attempts to remove responsibility for words.
Conflicting answers, like: “Be persistent, active, but not in the way, not looming before my eyes.”
Common phrases: “Just love”, “Be a real man.”
Disproportionate requests: “To be a successful, smart, handsome president named Alfred and that his blood type must be fourth.”

With such a lady you will have to guess, read minds, be prepared for whims and sudden changes in mood and desires. But it will definitely appeal to guys who love tricky riddles, chaos and ways to complicate their lives.

Funny answers

If a trivial question is asked, or you don’t want to answer directly, the best option is humor. Funny answers will enliven the most sluggish conversation.

A joke is appropriate in any situation; it can smooth out awkward moments and amuse a partner.

Some possible funny answers:

Do you like guys - I like ice cream.
You get up late - I'm in no hurry.
Do you remember the first time you kissed - you were too drunk, the details were not remembered.
If you like alcohol, I simply respect it.
I agree to sex without obligations - I prefer obligations without sex.
Capable of compromise - I give in only in hopeless situations.
I prefer curled or straight hair - in the first case, if straightened, in the second - after curlers.

Do not forget that platitudes can repel a communication partner more than tactlessness or vulgarity. But when moving on to an intimate topic, try to remain delicate, and everything will work out.

Reflections on the future

Do you like your current place of work? Would you like to work there for the rest of your life?
When would you like to get married and have children? Are you for a civil marriage, official or wedding?
How different will your life be in five years from today?
Do you have any long-term goals in life, that is, longer than one year?
Would you like to take any courses for professional and personal growth? What kind of courses would these be?
Would you like to buy your own (additional) home or car?
How would you raise your children? Using some method or focusing on the experience of your parents, a specific situation, natural instincts?
Are you planning to travel in the next 10 years? Where and why?
Do you rather want to live as a large family in one house (parents, children, grandchildren, several families) or just with your spouse and your children?
How long after meeting a man are you ready to meet his family and friends and start living with him?

Questions to ask a girl during correspondence that you can ask when communicating with her on the Internet

Now it has become very popular to communicate in virtual networks - VK, Odnoklassniki and others. Therefore, it’s important what questions to ask a girl when communicating online? In correspondence, you can ask different, even very frank questions. Moreover, in the virtual world there is no place for embarrassment and there is no visible blush on the cheeks of the questioner and answerer. Therefore, it is easier to communicate virtually, but there is a risk that the answer will not be very truthful. But this does not spoil the pleasant emotions from the process.

What flowers do you like?
What are your plans for the future?
What do you like to do on the weekend?
What's your favorite place in the city?
Do you like to go out with your friends?
What are your hobbies?
Where do you study/work?
What kind of music do you prefer to listen to?
Do you have any favorite actors?
Do you like going to the cinema?
Do you like to be in nature?
What do you prefer - mountains or sea?
Do you like going to the theater?
Are you an optimist or a pessimist?
You're a night owl or an early bird?
How often do you watch TV? What are your favorite TV shows?
Do you collect anything?
Can you skate? Do you often go to the skating rink?
Are you a conservative or do you like something new, unusual, interesting?
Do you like to dance?
Do you like visiting museums?
You often meet people on social media. networks?
Do you like extreme entertainment?
Do you like soft toys?
Where would you like to meet me?

Features of communication by correspondence in VK

Communication by correspondence in VK has characteristic features that differ from direct conversation, its own advantages and disadvantages.

The advantages of correspondence include:

Great lightness and ease, leveling the constraint and isolation inherent in individual people. Without seeing a partner in front of you, it is easier to overcome indecision and become more relaxed.
Communication with remote interlocutors.
Impersonate someone else using someone else's embellished photographs; it is impossible to verify the authenticity of the data presented.
Correct errors made at any time.
Voluntary contacts and relationships. If you don’t like the interlocutor, communication ends at the request of either partner.
Find a partner with your desired tastes and preferences, discuss a topic of interest, and much more.

But there are also some disadvantages:

Changes in consciousness, loss of real communication skills.
Escaping into an imaginary world.
The person communicating is not always what he appears to be online.
Inability to check what your partner says.

These disadvantages do not prevent the growth of popularity of virtual communication.

Everyone decides for themselves the question of the priority of correspondence on social networks, whether it can replace a real meeting with old friends.

Don’t forget, live conversation is the best alternative to going into a fictional world.