Hello! My name is Igor Lapin, I am a professional pickup trainer. This time let's cover a topic like stories for girls. What can you tell your loved one? Which story can work, and which one may turn out to be superfluous and ruin the relationship? Finding topics for communication with a lady is the key to a successful pickup and building relationships. If you can’t put two words together, then you shouldn’t hope that the girl will do it for you. Rather, she will simply spit on a boring person and go to someone else. If you don’t shine with intelligence, then take care of learning something relevant about the world. At least tell us about the reproduction of frogs, the main thing is that it is exciting. We can definitely say that it will be better than awkward silence!
To simplify, I will divide the stories that you can tell a girl into several types:
- funny incidents from life;
- adventures and travel;
- educational stories (space, nature and much more);
- mystical stories;
- stories about exes and sexual experiences (things that should not be told).
Of course, you can come up with topics ad infinitum, but there is not much point in this.
It is enough to select at least a few points and enrich your brain with valuable information. My advice: look for something that interests you. If you talk without inspiration and enthusiasm, then it will be of no use.
About her
The first thing guys should talk about with the fairer sex is her. Her life, interests, studies, family, friends. You can discuss whatever the girl wants.
Start the meeting by asking about your friend’s mood, her well-being. This is a good sign for a girl; she will understand that you are not indifferent to you. If a woman complains about lack of sleep, fatigue, or boredom, ask about the reasons for her dissatisfaction. So slowly but surely a fascinating conversation will begin.
Interesting fact! The more a guy asks a girl about her, the more she thinks he likes her. If a guy talks only about himself, without even being interested in the opinion of his interlocutor, the lower his chances of getting into a relationship.
What can you ask
With the help of questions, you can not only get to know your new friend, but also interest her. Therefore, the list of questions and topics for conversation with a girl should be extensive and varied.
Here are some options:
- Which superhero do you identify with?
- What upsets you most in this life?
- Where would you like to travel?
Each of these questions is a reason for a productive and meaningful conversation that can take the whole evening.
About Me
In addition to the woman’s questions and her answers, the conversation should include the man’s stories. But it is necessary to observe the limits of decency, to share not everything, but only interesting facts.
So, what can you tell a girl about yourself, what topics are best to cover:
- Success at work, in education, in sports.
- Future plans.
- Trips.
- Funny stories in which we ourselves participated.
- Family, friends.
- Neutral description of a former relationship.
- Views on love, money, happiness, family in the future, children.
- Weaknesses, bad habits.
You shouldn’t get too carried away with the topic of breakup in past relationships or betrayal; keep silent about the fact that your ex was very beautiful, smart and sexually attractive. Spend more time on funny stories from school and university life, and interest them in discussions about the future.
A little psychology! When talking, men are guided by logic, women by images. Take this into account when communicating with women: add more colorful information to stories about yourself, alternate the presentation of material to create a positive image of your interlocutor in your imagination.
Wikipedia is a source of useful information
“Do you like Wikipedia?” - this phrase can be an excellent continuation of a conversation if all the popular topics have already been raised and there is an awkward silence.
All you need to do is look at the main page - it contains selected interesting facts about everything in the world. Women like men who excel at something. Can't boast of ideal physical data? Why not show that you are smarter than others? You can, on occasion, amaze her by telling her a few interesting facts about Peter the Great, Australian platypuses or the moons of Jupiter.
Ideal for communicating on the Internet, for example on VK. It’s enough to just end the conversation and Google any topic of interest.
The main thing is not to overdo it, otherwise the girl may think that you are a nerd.
Interesting Facts
It’s easy for a guy to keep a girl’s interest if he knows a lot of interesting and educational things. And you don’t need to be a “nerd” at school to do this.
Find legends about landmarks, cool facts about historical figures, and rare poems by famous poets online. Read educational articles more often, memorize the information and share it with your beloved. Remember original stories during the conversation, insert them into the topic, the interlocutor will probably be impressed.
Movies
A universal topic for communication between a guy and a girl. Go to her profile on VK, look at her likes, bookmarks, film distribution groups, or ask in correspondence in advance what films she prefers to go to with her friends.
The conversation about the last part of the acclaimed trilogy can drag on for a long time. Discuss your favorite actors, directors, screenwriters, fantasize about what the next part will be about.
Advice from psychologists
Psychologists advise keeping communication as casual as possible. Often people on the Internet create an image that does not correspond to reality. Because of this, after a date, communication stops. A person must remain himself. You cannot try on other people's masks. You need to conquer a girl with your own qualities, and not someone else’s.
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Communication with a friend on VKontakte can last a long time. It is important to learn how to talk with any interlocutor. There is no universal formula for success. Only by getting to know different girls can you understand what to talk to them about.
If you are antisocial and don’t know how to communicate, then it’s time to loosen up. Start with dialogues with family and friends. You will soon become a skilled conversationalist.
Conversations on social networks can liberate a person and make him brighter. It’s easy to figure out what to talk about with a girl in contact. You can have a conversation about anything.
Hobby
Describing a hobby if you are truly passionate about it is very simple. Start by telling us how it all started. For example, you received a T-shirt with the signatures of your favorite football players as a gift and now you collect such exclusive items.
On a note! But teach your hobby to be original. The interlocutor will definitely get tired of hearing about rims on cars, silver bolts, rivets. Think about what interesting things you can tell a girl about your hobby, describe examples of famous people who are interested in the same thing.
Travel and adventure
Who doesn’t like to listen to stories about distant countries or long journeys around their homeland?
This is one of the best topics for conversation. Of course, if you have such experience. And if there is one, then there’s probably enough to remember! Don’t brag about your vacation in expensive hotels and how you got high in the company of Thai ladyboys. It’s better to tell us how you got out of difficult situations, for example:
- They didn’t give me a visa at the airport upon arrival and I had to go all the way to the top management of the migration service to resolve the issue.
- How you lost your passport or had your things stolen, and then everything was miraculously found.
- You can talk about strange Asian food made from larvae and insects.
- How to find a language with foreigners and more.
Stick to one important point: in every story, you are first a victim, and then you get out and turn into a hero.
Let the girl know that you are very resourceful and know a way out of any difficult situation!
Stories
If there is a pause during a date, remember any funny story and tell it. Speak emotionally to make your interlocutor laugh out loud. This way you can relieve tension and establish contact faster.
The following topics are suitable for interesting stories:
- Funny antics from school life (about teachers, friends, yourself).
- About animals. For example, how a cat stole a stick of sausage in a store and brought it home.
- Situations on the way (on the train, on the plane).
During the story, it is important to maintain the thread of the conversation with emotions. Gesture, make faces, parade the participants in the situation.
Jokes
Humor relieves the situation. Use short jokes on the topic of conversation to lift the girl's mood. Also, with the help of funny stories or poems, you can hint to the cutie about her attractiveness.
-I want to get married! -On whom? Choose the one with whom you can live well. -No, I’ll marry someone I can’t live without.
-My wife picked mushrooms, picked them and washed them herself. I sent it to my relatives. -And what? -Now we have no relatives
Dialogue of lovers. Guy: We were at the cinema. We were at the theater. We were at the club. Where else will we go? Girl: At the registry office...
"Celestial"
Once a peasant’s daughter fell ill. He called the celestial being to heal her. Since then, the guy became a frequent guest of the peasant, drinking, eating with him and relaxing.
The celestial realized that it was good to have a lot of money, and now began to sell his medicines and treat people for coins. They found out about this in heaven and scolded him, deprived him of his magical powers and sent him to live on earth.
Then the celestial inhabitant settled near the river bank and began to cultivate the land to feed himself. He took a peasant's daughter as his wife, and they began to live together, giving birth to many children.
Many people began to come to that area, and a village grew there. The land here was considered very lucky, because a celestial inhabitant settled here.
Rules for communicating with a girl
What interesting things to tell your girlfriend on a date have already been decided, now pay attention to some features of the dialogue structure:
- A guy must be able to listen.
Do not interrupt your friend when she talks about her secrets, do not be distracted by phone calls, communication with other people, food, drinks.
- Reaction to words, story.
Simply listening is not enough. The girl will want to know your attitude to the story, your opinion, maybe your advice. And at the same time, she will check whether you listened to her carefully.
- After the woman speaks, it is better for the man to pick up the topic and continue the dialogue with a similar story from his own life.
- You don't need a lot of flattery and compliments.
- Answer your interlocutor’s questions quickly and truthfully.
Wait a few minutes to answer; you shouldn’t reveal all the ins and outs on the first date.
How to move from online communication to a real date
You won’t be satisfied with dialogues on social networks alone. I want more, real conversations by candlelight. Don't delay your first date. If you communicate on a social network for too long, the girl will decide that she is not interesting. Therefore, it is worth making do with friendship alone.
You need to invite them to a meeting directly. Say that you would be glad to see each other and spend time together. If you like your new friend, then there will be no refusal.
Communicating in life is more difficult. Be confident and stately. Show off your best sides. The girl should feel that in front of her is the same person with whom she had been communicating for a long time.
The ideal place for a date would be a restaurant. You can show off your knowledge about the life of your interlocutor. For example, make an order for her. She will be surprised how you know her so well. All thanks to information obtained from conversations on social networks.
You can’t ask to continue the evening in an intimate setting. One such action cancels out all previous efforts.
After the cafe, it’s worth taking a walk around the evening city, discussing face to face all that is left unsaid. Night time will create the necessary atmosphere, and the meeting will be unforgettable.
What to talk about in VK correspondence
Chatting and meeting people online is much easier than in real life. But guys are still scratching their heads about what they can tell a girl about themselves in correspondence. We offer the following topic options so that your interlocutor can like you:
- Recent impressions of a vacation, meeting celebrities, reading a book. Show the girl a photo of your trip, send her the latest album of your favorite singer.
- Plans for the evening, next vacation. Hint that you can invite her with you.
- Favorite places in the city, in the world. At the same time, ask your interlocutor about her preferences.
- About interesting work, educational project. Tell us what you are doing and what results you expect.
Ask questions on any neutral topics, but be sure to write a compliment to the girl, ask how she is doing. Make jokes during the conversation. But don’t write anything vulgar; such jokes and phrases repel young people.
Examples of humorous phrases for all occasions
When communicating with a girl, you can use interesting phrases on occasion. Here are some examples of statements by Mikhail Zhvanetsky:
- There is always a place for heroic deeds in life. You just need to stay away from this place.
- Anything can happen in life. But over the years it becomes less and less common.
- Everything is going well, just passing by.
- Let's argue about the taste of oysters with those who have eaten them.
- Good always defeats evil, which means whoever wins is good.
- What roof doesn't like driving fast?
