Greetings, dear reader!
Each of us periodically asks the question: what is success? Some may feel it on an intuitive level, and can imagine in their heads what a truly successful life looks like for them. However, the signs of success are different for each of us : for some it is expensive premium cars, and for others it is a feeling of importance among loved ones. It all depends on the goals, worldview and personal qualities of a particular person. However, there are several main components that make up real success. Let's figure out what is included in this concept.
Basic mistakes
What prevents a person from achieving success?
- The opinion that nothing can be changed.
- Self-doubt and fear of failure.
- Fear of change.
- Fussiness is when a person rushes from one idea to another.
- Shifting responsibility to others. As a result, the person continues to do things that lead to an even greater aggravation of the problem.
- Self-pity. Sometimes you need to suffer a little in the current moment in order to get something more in the future. And if you feel sorry for yourself excessively, a person begins to avoid negative experiences and, as a result, misses the result. After some time, the habit of feeling sorry for oneself goes into the subconscious, and the person ceases to be aware of it, but it continues to destroy his life.
- Lack of flexibility of thinking. There is a very good metaphor that describes the differences between a successful person and an unsuccessful one. The last one will come to the party to find love. If you fail to meet a person of the opposite sex, then unsuccessful men or women leave in upset feelings. A successful person, even if he doesn’t find love, meets good friends.
- Thinking in a negative way. Anthony Robbins said that we often overestimate ourselves in the present moment and underestimate ourselves in the future. Therefore, you need to be optimistic and understand that everything will end well in the end. Then they won’t give up if something doesn’t work out now. Moreover, in order to become rich and successful, psychologists say that you need to set goals in a positive form. It is correct to ask the question: “how to become financially independent”, “how to get out among people” instead of “how to stop being a loser” or “how to get out of poverty”. The dominant motivation of successful people is to achieve, not to avoid. The same goes for envy. Successful people learn from people who have achieved more. Losers simply envy them and do nothing.
- The lack of support and understanding from others unsettles you. A successful person does not depend on other people's opinions.
THE CONCEPT OF SUCCESS IN RUSSIA
The word success is of Russian origin, but the concept itself in our society bears a touch of Western worldview.
The attitude towards success and successful people in our country and in the West is very different. If in the West there are entire schools of development of success and success is cultivated as a certain style of behavior and life, then our attitude to this topic is more complex. In Soviet times, successful people were called upstarts and careerists; the ideal was modest heroes without silver. Today, rich and successful people are often the targets of all sorts of attacks - although in our country they often deserve such treatment. There is no cult of success in our society and never has been. This goes back to the Christian tradition, which condemned earthly prosperity and believed that it interfered with spiritual growth and advancement. The more you humiliate yourself in the earthly world, the higher you rise in spirit - such a cause-and-effect relationship was recognized as obvious. The transfer of religious concepts to worldly life has largely become part of the flesh and blood of our people. We do not have a developed harmonious theory of success, but we have natural complexes and an almost archetypal rejection of it, there is no culture of success. Our country and nation have not come to a consensus on what success in life is. For some, these are only spiritual aspirations and the denial of the worldly; for others, the worldly is also important, but they are unsuccessful, and this is the source of their protest against success as such. Still others have achieved success, but through unjust means (as Ostap Bender said, “all modern large fortunes were acquired dishonestly”), but they do not think at all about others and, out of habit, are busy demonstrating their own wealth. They play success with absolutely no rules, sometimes frightening with their barbaric worldview and behavior. These three classes of people cannot agree among themselves: they do not have common criteria for life. The large gap between rich and poor people - and in our country it is tens of times greater than in the West - does not contribute to the success of the country as a whole. Russia's crises largely stem from the lack of common ideals of success. What is success, where and how to look for it, the question of the combination of spiritual and worldly principles - there are no general socially accepted criteria for answering these questions, which gives rise to conflicts in society. Trying to define these concepts without calling for copying the Western worldview, but focusing on the Russian mentality is the author’s goal. I hope that this book will help you properly manage your psychological, mental and spiritual capital, and not waste it.
Option 3
Success is one of the topics that gets talked about a lot these days. Books are devoted to this topic, various courses, trainings and seminars are organized where they teach how to become a successful person and what needs to be done for this. Today, it has become very fashionable to be successful, because when they say “successful person,” this phrase immediately raises the person’s self-esteem and makes him higher in the eyes of others. That's why many people want to be classified as successful people. but in order to get any closer to this category, you need to work on yourself, develop your skills and overcome difficulties.
Very often, many people confuse the concept of “success” with the concept of “luck”. Luck can strike at any time, for example, winning a super prize in the lottery. And success is also a kind of prize, but to win it, you need to make a lot of effort. Success doesn't just happen, it's created. and you need to be prepared to spend more than one day, month and even more than one year to achieve success. For example, Henry Ford, the creator of a famous car brand, spent years of his life developing his idea, although many people thought it was stupid, but the opinions of those around him did not stop him, and years later his idea brought him worldwide fame and wealth.
Each person has a different definition of what success is and what it should be. It could be money and fame or a strong and loving family. It all depends on the values, worldview and character of a person
But first of all, success is an achieved goal, large or small, and no matter in what area of life, if it is achieved, then the person has definitely achieved success. Success occurs in different situations
For example, it may appear:
1. In acquiring certain skills, such as playing the guitar, dancing, drawing, cooking, studying.
2. Psychological success is manifested in changing one’s character or eliminating a bad habit.
3. Career success involves achieving the desired position at work, receiving career growth or taking an honorable place in the team.
4. Personal success manifests itself in communication, friendship, love and family.
There is a simple algorithm for achieving success. First, you need to set a goal, then plan actions to achieve it and consolidate everything with motivation.
Success plays an important role in a person's life. When a person achieves success, he not only gets the desired result, but also enjoys the result achieved. Confidence in yourself and your capabilities appears, the attitude towards life becomes more positive and the person’s emotional state becomes much better.
INTRODUCTION
One of the signs of the psychology of modern people is their desire for success. The word “success” is written on the banner of many endeavors and is present in commercials of a wide variety of firms and companies. A large amount of literature is published on this topic, business trainings are conducted to help people move towards success. Success is the slogan of our time.
Success is most often understood as a person’s achievements in the outside world, as material success. Today's time is called the esoteric teachings of Kali Yuga, the Iron Age, and is characterized by a massive desire of people for material values. No matter who they declare themselves to be, atheists or religious people, their real behavior is the behavior of materialists who view the external world as an arena for the manifestation of their own ambitions, and in fact profess the psychology of “we live only once.” Hence the cult of external success, the desire to own a lot of money, achieve high positions, and receive various pleasures. One of the signs of the modern world is the dominance of quantity over quality. The French esoteric philosopher Rene Guenon called one of his books “The Kingdom of Quantity and the Signs of the Times.” Nowadays, quantity is recognized as the measure of success. However, the amount of material wealth on earth is limited, so competition, battles and fights arise, sometimes taking rough and sometimes sophisticated forms.
Despite their desire, despite a large number of benefits and trainings, a huge number of people do not achieve success. Someone comes to external achievements, but does not experience even a small amount of the expected satisfaction.
Mass culture has led to a certain shift in people's consciousness in understanding what success is, and this is clearly expressed in modern literature on this topic. There are purely esoteric books that talk about inner growth and inner success. I have been involved in esoteric teachings for twenty-five years, and therefore I see how focusing only on these areas affects people’s lives. Quite often this turns into an attitude towards recluse, non-participation in the world and its affairs, which makes followers of this way of thinking unsuitable for life in society. Most people who take this path experience a feeling of inferiority when they see others overtaking them in worldly affairs. A good half of esoteric and religious books do not provide knowledge on how to combine external and internal success, being hostile or indifferent to the topic of external success.
Vulgar esoteric books are full of advice to meditate on the image of money. Calls of this level, as a rule, do not work, and I have been convinced of this many times. Books of this kind are graceless; they lack the proper energy saturation and correct understanding of the problems. Primitive psychological books focus a person on wealth at any cost, however, often to the detriment of his inner world, spiritual growth and inner depth.
From my point of view, there is a very serious shortage of books that present a balanced theory of life, aimed at achieving a balance between inner and outer life, helping to understand and build it. The problem of success is the problem of a person’s realization on a difficult life path.
As a practicing psychologist, I met a variety of people, among them there were many interesting and happy people who were realized on the external plane. At some point, I began to specifically study the lives of successful people who set big external goals and achieved them. I was interested in the patterns that unite dissimilar stories. Of course, it is impossible to copy someone’s life, and a person learns all serious truths on his own, opening his inner experience. Everyone has their own unique path to success. However, many methods and correct approaches can be learned: that’s why knowledge transfer systems exist.
The trainings that I have been conducting for many years do not so much teach people success in the purely external, philistine sense of the word, but are designed to help them discover their inner path, their as yet unrecognized road on which they would be happy and fulfilled. Nevertheless, many, having gone through training, also achieve external success.
People who want to become successful, both poor and rich, often came to me for consultations. The poor, as a rule, were interested in their external situation, the rich wanted either to strengthen themselves even more materially, or were looking for solutions to internal problems. The very fact that they come suggests that these people cannot successfully solve problems on their own. As a rule, behind every problem that cannot be solved independently, there is an incorrect attitude towards life in general. The solution to one particular problem in such cases is ineffective: the stigma of failure will be placed on the person’s subsequent actions until he understands the underlying reasons for his failure and begins to educate himself as a new, successful person.
Here is another book in the “Key to Awakening” series, dedicated to the secrets of success in life. I approached the coverage of this very important topic for our time after in the book “Invisible Armor,” which was published first, we examined in detail the issues of human security at different levels, in the second book, “Master of Life,” we examined what concerns mastery in everyday behavior, and in the third book - “The Path to Yourself” - we focused on the problems of man’s spiritual quest.
Indeed, only a secure person who strives to become a master of life and is a spiritual seeker can be truly successful. Many people have suffered a fiasco in life precisely because either they turned out to be very weak, and life penetrated their personal defenses, or they did not know how to live well, work and communicate with other people, or they went against spiritual laws and were far from the sphere of the spirit.
I have always really wanted to help people become more successful, able to choose the right goals, achieve them and experience happiness at the same time. In order to master the secret science of life success, which is not taught in schools and universities, I had to study many areas of knowledge - Western and Eastern religions, philosophical doctrines, the latest psychological systems, world history, biographies of famous people who had major achievements both in terms of external life, so in spiritual improvement, finally, ancient and modern esoteric teachings.
The question may arise: how can religions and esoteric teachings, which much more often speak not about worldly, but about spiritual matters, help people in the area of success in life? However, this is only true at first glance, if we understand success only in the external sense of the word. Upon careful examination, you can see that true success, which unites both the external and internal aspects of life, is a deeply sacred concept, involving the use of hidden forces and resources. In addition, many esoteric teachings of the twentieth century, which orient a person not towards monastery-ashram methods of work, but towards serving the truth in the world and life’s struggles, contain invaluable advice and practical knowledge that helps to achieve just such external-internal success.
Everything that I was able to extract from this treasury of esoteric teachings - both ancient and modern, I tried to present in the book, using the language and concepts of today. The book also draws on the experience of my many years of psychological consultations and training seminars, through which thousands of people interested in improving their lives have passed. I am convinced that the most serious systems that help a person achieve good heights must synthesize ancient and new knowledge about man and the world.
The book includes chapters, each of which highlights one facet of success. It contains not only discussions about success in various types of human activity, but also direct advice, stories, examples, exercises, psychological techniques and methods of various traditions. I would recommend reading the book carefully, thinking and listening to yourself. Look with your inner vision at the impulse in your heart that is born in you when reading its pages - it is quite possible that the awakened energy will help you achieve what you dream of in the depths of your own heart. Try not just to read this book and be inspired by its sentiments, but also to apply what you read in relation to your own life, observing the principle of environmental friendliness in relation to your nature and selecting, first of all, what is in tune with you.
This book should not be considered as a kind of textbook containing rigid schemes and algorithms for life success that you just need to learn and mechanically implement into your life. Alas, success cannot be taught as some set of techniques and prescribed operations. Just like the miracle of life, born from nothingness in a mysterious and incomprehensible way, success contains mysterious and inexplicable moments. His achievement is always associated with creativity and the discovery of a new combination of life experiences, a new view of the world. Achieving success means not so much learning something from the outside, but rather discovering something new within yourself. Training presupposes mastery of practical methods leading to such a discovery.
While working on the book, I wanted to help people who want to become more successful, teach them how to build their lives more harmoniously. While dealing with this problem, I tried to combine the approaches of esotericism and the most modern psychological concepts, technologies and methods. As a result, I managed to create a practical system that makes it easier for a person to get closer to his desired goal. Over the years, many people have gone through it, some of whom later admitted to me that the resulting attitudes, energy charge and psychological techniques radically changed their lives. I would like to introduce the reader to the general provisions of this system in this book.
The concept of success is deeply connected with karma. If karma does not allow, a person can do anything and fight like a fish against ice, but still not achieve his plans. Therefore, it is important to learn how to work with your karma, as they say in the East, to work it off. The book contains several chapters devoted to the influence of karma on the success of human endeavors, as well as the topic of specific methods of a person’s work to improve his karma.
Striving for success, we must not forget that success is a fusion of many aspects, a balance between external and internal, between the ability to accept oneself and the mindset for comprehensive self-improvement.
Success brings, first of all, the ability to maintain a positive attitude in life in a variety of situations: in routine, in extreme situations, in a state of fatigue or overflowing with vitality. A successful life attitude helps in various areas of life: when studying, when applying for a job, when building relationships with colleagues, subordinates and superiors, when getting a promotion, when changing jobs. Everywhere we are faced with the problems of competent goal setting and following our intentions, with the problems of preserving and accumulating energy. To achieve success, it is very important to act correctly in situations of opposition to your goals: to respond correctly to obstacles, failures and misfortunes. Success in family life requires the ability to build plans and relationships, the ability to determine your priorities, and focus on harmony. Success implies a certain way of life that does not interfere with the realization of our goals, but works for them and brings us the greatest satisfaction. Success in communication lies in the ability to attract the people you need and distance yourself from those whose influence you perceive as harmful. All this is included in the complex of success. These topics will be covered in our book, accompanied by examples and exercises. I hope that the advice and exercises I have given will help those who need it in overcoming negative karma and creating positive karma that contributes to success.
“Success is a matter of pure chance.
Any loser will tell you that."
(Earl Wilson)
Success
In the book “The Brain of Winners,” Harvard University scientists, namely psychologists D. Brown and M. Fenske, put forward the following theory: “Success has never been dependent on intelligence, financial status, or prevailing circumstances. Even luck does not guarantee success. It is often associated with a person’s ability to control his mind and be resilient in the face of defeat and failure.”
Therefore, we can say that success is, first of all, an activity that is aimed at achieving results while getting pleasure. And secondly, success is public recognition of the results achieved.
The theory of success is nothing more than a sequence of events that lead to the final goal. And no matter what the situation may be, those who really strive for real success must draw conclusions and find benefits for themselves.
SUCCESS AND REPUTATION
It happens that a person is seen as successful, spends a lot of effort to maintain the created image, shows off, puffs out his cheeks, but in reality he is a complete bankrupt, an empty creature who has nothing but an external image. Sooner or later, this imaginary, empty success will need to be confirmed, the bills will need to be paid - such a moment always comes. The collective opinion created about you in society, of course, has a great influence on your self-esteem and opportunities for self-disclosure, so maintaining the image of a successful person is an important task. Human behavior largely depends on the socio-psychological expectations of society and its immediate circle of friends. Others are drawn to people with a reputation for success and behave with them in accordance with their expectations - as if they were successful. And as a result, more favorable circumstances actually develop around them, a certain field is created in which they can easily solve their problems.
It is true that successful people are not always loved by public opinion, especially if they are provocatively successful. An intelligent person is unlikely to ostentatiously demonstrate his satiety in front of hungry people. This kind of people usually causes envy and irritation, attracting other people's negative emotions. Successful people are always visible and their shortcomings become all the more noticeable. If success is bought at the cost of losing the soul, causing harm to other people, then it will be difficult for such a person to count on a good attitude towards himself.
But it is important to think not only about the external side of the issue, but to fill your image with real content that corresponds to the image, to develop, and not engage in falsification. The fact is that, with time and effort, you can really become different, happier, more harmonious, more successful, and find a face you like. So why do you need a mask, a mask that is so easy to tear off? What about the fear of exposure, the danger of losing an unsupported reputation? A bad reputation is a much more lasting thing than a good reputation. This is the property of the human race - to pay more attention to other people's vices, shortcomings, defects than to the merits and achievements of fellow human beings. A bad reputation is a certain subtle material force, a certain energy that envelops a person, lowers his capabilities, and forces him to behave in accordance with the negative expectations of other people. It is extremely difficult for a person with a bad reputation to break out of this ring, since each of us depends to a huge extent on socio-psychological expectations, on the roles that society imposes on us. If a person is used to playing the role of a jester, then he will look very strange in the role of a serious tragedian, and most likely he will simply not be offered such a role. Therefore, in order to become successful, you should never demonstrate your past defeats and failures. It is better not to advertise your problems in society too much. Such honest confessions and revelations can only have a positive impact on people close to you who want to help you, while those far away have less reason to love you and help you. They try to avoid losers, and all they can do is try to break through the walls of the prison that they have built for themselves.
Option 2
One way or another, every person strives to become successful, but success has a different concept for everyone. And only the person himself determines the mark upon reaching which he can consider the journey he has made a success.
First of all, success is achieving your goal, enjoying it and being recognized by significant people. These three points are the constant companions of success. Let's figure it out in order.
A person always has some goal to which he strives. He overcomes the obstacles and difficulties that stand in his way and reaches his goal. This is the first stage of success - achieving what you set out to do.
The second stage is receiving pleasure from what has happened. When a person receives what he strived for, he is captured by a storm of positive emotions, which form pleasure.
The third integral part of success is recognition from others.
If no one pays attention to what a person considers to be his success, he may be offended. Moreover, many people, due to lack of self-confidence, simply do not consider their victory a success unless someone helps them with this, paying attention or praising them for their work.
It is also worth noting that for different people, different victories are success. For example, for Napoleon, the French emperor of the early 19th century, only a completely conquered world could be considered a success. For a small child, learning to ride a bicycle is already a success. But can we say that Napoleon would have experienced greater happiness than a little boy? I think no. The size, immensity and enormity of a goal do not affect a person's level of satisfaction. If for a child to ride a bicycle without falling for the first time in his life is something out of fantasy, then if he achieves this goal, he will be immensely happy. Just as Napoleon would be happy if he achieved his goal.
To summarize, in order to become happier, you need to set achievable goals. It is necessary to rejoice at every local success, and not just global, otherwise life will become unsatisfactory, and the person will be consumed by frustration. Also, any success strives to be appreciated, so that a person’s self-esteem is maintained at a level, so that a person values himself, but this should not be abused: the consequences can result in a groundlessly inflated self-esteem, an overestimation of one’s own importance in society.
INTERNAL POSITION OF A SUCCESSFUL PERSON
On the one hand, you don’t need to create an empty image of yourself, far from your inner content, on the other hand, you need to hide your failures from outsiders. It would seem that these two theses contradict each other, but they are two sides of the same coin. Indeed, external success, an external image, not supported by internal strength and perfection, like any education that is empty inside, will be destroyed by an aggressive environment, stronger and more successful people. Otherwise, if we want to move towards success, we must master the territory of success, get used to the image of a successful person. If we talk about our defeats at every corner, we create a real material force that keeps us in the circle of imperfection. When a person is humiliated in his own eyes, it is difficult for others to treat him differently. The problem of success is largely a problem of taking the right internal position in relation to oneself and to the world. We should neither reject this world nor merge with it completely, but take our and only our place in it, find in it the points of space that suit us most. At the same time, it is imperative to color your actions with some higher spiritual meaning. True success is impossible without the participation of the soul and spirit. The body, money, fame, profession and success in this area, like everything external, does not bring complete satisfaction.
If these benefits are the only thing a person strives for, then even acquiring them becomes very difficult. It often happens that all these benefits are given to a person, and then successively taken away if he does not cease to focus only on them, not understanding the relativity of earthly things. External goals are one of the conditions for full-fledged success, but that’s not everything. Of course, in modern society it is unlikely that a person sitting in rags next to a barrel will be recognized as successful, especially in our climatic conditions. External life must be debugged: some position in society, financial solvency, family happiness, a sense of need for society for a modern successful person are necessary. Basic needs must be met. However, success largely depends not on the amount of money and other benefits, but on a person’s attitude towards himself. For one hundred dollars is wealth, for another ten thousand dollars is the limit of poverty and the source of suffering, because his neighbor has a million dollars. He who has a million is jealous of a billionaire. These are the consequences of comparisons. When a person constantly compares his success with the achievements of other people, this means that he does not have true success. Real success is realized happiness, confirmed by deeds and inner sense of self. There are no comparisons there. When a person, comparing himself with others, seeks opportunities to tell himself how unhappy he is, to envy someone, this does not lead to anything good.
Setting goals
The main obstacle to achieving success is incorrectly set goals or lack of them. A purposeless existence determines dependence on external circumstances and complete inaction.
Continuing to go with the flow, a person constantly complains that nothing happens in his routine life.
In fact, what happens to a person depends only on himself
To change your usual circumstances, it is important to decide on a goal. Imagine your life in the future when you have achieved success and write down your main (long-term) goal
Many people look back at the achievements of famous and successful people. It would seem that someone else's success should push us to new achievements. But often the opposite happens - a person gives up, considering his goals to be meager and worthless.
In fact, you don’t understand that you won’t be able to fly to the top in a short time. The path to success will be long and thorny. To assess your own capabilities realistically, a long-term goal must be realistic, understandable and have specific deadlines. The path to it needs to be divided into components, and progress towards the main result gradually, like along the steps of a ladder. Then, every time you succeed in achieving a short-term goal, your self-confidence will strengthen and ultimately your success will be constant.
Practical tips:
To increase your own motivation, keep a diary of achievements and write down the tasks set and completed.
State a main goal that seems important. The main thing is that it is not an abstract phrase (such as “become successful”), but tangible and understandable. Imagine what you need to do in the next week to move towards what you want and create an action plan. You need to set goals for yourself at least once a week.
Drawing up a plan and maintaining reports promotes self-organization and proper time management. A person will imagine the time frame for achieving success and will not be disappointed in case of unjustified hopes.
What does “successful success” look like?
Most often, people who earn good money and talk about their lives on the Internet do not want anything bad, do not shove wads of money and packages from expensive stores in their subscribers’ faces, do not give out advice, and do not impose their point of view.
And adherents of “successful success” behave completely differently:
- It's almost never possible to tell what they're actually doing. It is only clear that they are “stirring up a startup” or “developing a project,” but, as a rule, it will not be possible to achieve specifics.
- They love to teach others - they tell how many opportunities there are, how stupid it is not to use them, and how great they are, adepts, unlike everyone else.
- They love to show off luxury. Each post involves dinners in luxury restaurants, trips in business class cars, flights on private jets, trying on branded items, etc.
- They are trying to sell something, such as courses or advertising on a blog, and sometimes they offer to invest in their project.
- They don't show their product or tell you in detail how they achieved success.
Let's say the owner of a clothing brand usually writes about fabrics, dresses and shirts, the owner of a cheese factory usually posts photos of happy goats and heads of cheese. And only representatives of “successful success” are engaged in selling exclusively certain “consulting services”, and not tangible items.
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