If your husband is texting someone else, what to do: advice from a psychologist

One fine morning, your loved one will go to the toilet, forgetting to take his phone with him, and you will find on his screen “Hello, honey! How did you sleep?"

Your sleepy mood will disappear as if by hand and from this moment a new page of your life will begin. Restless, but interesting.

If you didn’t throw your loved one’s phone out the window, or push him out the door in his underpants, read this article carefully. We tell you why a man corresponds with another, how to react to this, what you definitely shouldn’t do, and in what case you need to break off the relationship.

How to understand that he is corresponding with someone else

You can guess that your boyfriend has started flirting or cheating online based on obvious signs:

Behavior has changed. May become rude and irritable, as if he is tired of spending time with his family. On the other hand, sometimes men become surprisingly sweet and polite - out of guilt, they make up for their virtual romance with good deeds.
A man spends a lot of time on his phone and at the computer, while the sound of a notification about a new message is constantly heard.
If the sound is turned off, you can read the emotions on his face: a smile, occasional laughter, an enthusiastic sparkle in his eyes, complete involvement in the conversation.
Even if he is not texting right now, he constantly looks at his phone, checks for messages, and never leaves his equipment unattended and without a password.
Many women discover romantic correspondence in passing, accidentally seeing a message. A quick glance over the shoulder snatches piquant words. When using a computer, a pop-up notification appears about a new message in which the interlocutor openly flirts.

A accidentally noticed message can change your whole life.
Life story : “My husband constantly corresponded with someone on a social network, but when I approached, he closed the tab. I deliberately broke my laptop and asked to use his computer to send a letter. When he left, I copied all their correspondence and emailed it to myself. Then I slowly read all their romantic correspondence and printed out the hottest phrases. He couldn’t get away with it, and I couldn’t forgive.”

Wow, what a one!i

The “boredomed” guy was wandering through the pages of his acquaintances and unexpectedly came across the profile of a former classmate. Wow, as a child she was an ugly duckling, and years later she blossomed like the Swan Princess. Instead of thin braids, the beauty’s shoulders are shrouded in snow-white curls, and her plain eyes, under the hand of an experienced makeup artist, shone with new colors.

The man remembers that during his school years a girl was in love with him and his interest in the young lady grows. He writes a greeting, she replies, and the innocent correspondence begins to gain momentum. At night before going to bed, hugging his other half, the guy recalls her new appearance with interest and plans to update her avatar so that the interlocutor will show mutual interest and awaken old feelings.

Why do men text other women?

The problem is quite common in the modern world, and there are many reasons for it. In general, psychologists name 12 events that precede online correspondence with another:

Spouses have no time to communicate - they are busy with work, home, and children.
The desire to escape from everyday and financial problems.
Fatigue from raising children, which takes up all the time.
The couple hasn’t gone anywhere together for a long time, they want romance.
There is no passion in bed.
There was irritation from each other.
There are no common interests with my wife and nothing to talk about.
Spouses do not share their impressions of the past day: what happened, how work was, how the meeting went.
The desire to be distracted and get new sensations, as routine has set in in life.
I want to get the attention of women, but I don’t dare to commit real betrayal.
My husband has no real friends with similar interests with whom he can simply have a heart-to-heart talk.
Curiosity and interest, a desire to get to know new people.
Internet addiction: second life, virtual.

This is an incomplete list of reasons why husbands begin to actively or passively flirt with girls online.

The most common reason: the search for new sensations and emotions.

The perpetrators of flirting themselves, in an anonymous survey, named the following reasons for virtual romances:

search for new sensations (14%);
communication started by accident and away we go (12.5%)
I want to flirt, at least virtually (12%);
lack of self-confidence, increased self-esteem (10%);
sexual problems in the family (9%);
love for another (7%);
from idleness (4%).

To understand why a guy is texting another girl in your situation, you need to talk frankly with him or go to family counseling. The psychologist's answer sometimes helps save the family and restore harmonious relationships.

Polygamy and female jealousy

One of the differences between the stronger sex and the weaker sex is their polygamy. It is vital for guys to make new acquaintances. It’s better to let them be on the Internet and limit themselves to just correspondence than to cheat in reality.

Women's jealousy sometimes leads to separation, to hallucinations, they see rivals everywhere, they even think that in a dream a guy is communicating with another girl. Here you may need the help of a specialist.

You need to be very careful about a young man’s communication with his ex-girlfriend or wife, because the continuation of this relationship may be due to children. But if there is no child, then such contacts must be stopped, otherwise she will constantly return him to the past.

The surest way to find out the reason why a man communicates with someone is to ask him himself. And if the answer satisfies curiosity, then you need to leave him alone with such interrogations.

How to behave if you find your loved one texting

If you discover that a man is corresponding with another woman, do not panic and do not start a scandal. If emotions take over, you can cause trouble or make yourself look unsightly. So first, drink something calming and get some privacy to calm down. And then talk.

You need to talk in a calm voice, without reproaches and with a smile. Start with simple questions: “who writes this?”, “what do they write?”

Depending on the chosen one’s answer, you will either calm down or confirm your suspicions:

Ex-wife . If they have common children and their communication is connected with them, do not forbid them to do this. On the contrary, you can sympathize or offer your help.
Colleague . Usually this is a harmless correspondence about work issues that did not have time to be resolved in the office. Just in case, you can casually ask, “Did something happen?” and move closer to the screen to read the correspondence. If he hurriedly closes the window and waves it off, you can doubt the working relationship. But if there is nothing to hide, most likely the man will irritably comment on his colleague’s intrusiveness and show the messages. Defuse the situation by asking if he corresponds with everyone or only with pretty and unmarried girls.
Another woman . You won’t get a direct answer; it’s rare for a man to immediately admit to a virtual affair. Most likely he will say that an acquaintance is simply imposing her communication, and he is responding out of politeness. The excuses may be different, but everything will be clear from the behavior. He will start to get nervous, mumble something, quickly close the chat, and try to take the conversation in a different direction.

If, upon hearing such a harmless question, a man explodes, starts screaming and accuses him of being overly curious, this is most likely a defensive reaction. When he was caught red-handed, he became nervous and decided to attack first. Out of confusion, the woman will begin to make excuses, and he will get away with it.

Some don’t even hide the correspondence, considering it innocent flirting.

In any case, it is necessary to react to this event in order to prevent or stop flirting. If you close your eyes to such behavior, it will become the norm - because he sees that you don’t mind.

Check the young man's phone and social networks

If a lady has the following thought in her head: “My boyfriend talks to other girls,” then the first thing to do is look at her beloved’s mobile phone. No matter how wrong it may seem, the whole truth most likely lies there. Initially, SMS correspondence is checked. Of course, if a young man hides his passion for others, then the entire story will be deleted, and the new object of desire will be renamed by some nickname or even signed as a man or an organization, for example, “car wash”, “locksmith”, “Tolyan”, etc. .

If you couldn’t find anything on the phone itself, then you need to get to social networks. There is a high probability that communication will remain intact in some of them. But if there is no correspondence there, then the list of his female friends is carefully studied. And if you go from his page, then, most likely, the competitor will be on the list of people hidden from all network users.

The phone call history also tells a lot. The number that is dialed most often should arouse suspicion. The length of the telephone conversation is especially important. It is unlikely that a guy will be able to communicate with men for hours.

When your loved one's phone rings, you need to pay attention to the number, and then to the person's behavior. If he immediately hangs up, picks up the phone and quickly says he'll call back later, or goes into another room to talk, then it's safe to assume that the guy is talking to other girls.

If the telephone conversation is long and always takes place alone, then there is a high probability that the interlocutor on the other end of the line may be one of your former lovers. When a guy suddenly begins to deprive his significant other of attention, doesn’t give her flowers, doesn’t give her surprises as before, doesn’t even give trivial compliments, then he’s infatuated with someone else, and all the lust has transferred to her. And his once beloved girl began to irritate him.

How to save a relationship

First of all, a man must understand that correspondence with other women is a betrayal. Only if he realizes his mistake will it be possible to move on and resolve everything peacefully.

Relationships are the daily work of both spouses, so without his help nothing will work out. He must agree to help and assist you. The ability to find the right solution and compromise is very important. But you must meet each other halfway.

Read the correspondence

But only if you want it yourself. Many women are able to come up with scenarios in their heads that are much more terrible than they actually are. Therefore, in some cases it is better to familiarize yourself with real texts than to beat yourself up from ignorance.

Ask your husband to provide access, and calmly read all the information. So you can understand the level of your husband’s offense:

friendly correspondence with light flirting, where the initiative came from the woman;
virtual sex with the exchange of intimate photos, discussion of real meetings, active flirting of the husband.

Depending on the severity of the crime, you can consider the punishment.

Find out the reasons for the correspondence

In a friendly manner, ask your spouse about his relationship with virtual girls. Take an interest in the reasons that prompted the correspondence. What didn’t suit you in the relationship, what made you interested in it, what emotions it gave.

Most often, men say that they were simply curious, interested in communicating with someone else and getting new emotions.

Curiosity is the first step to betrayal.

Above you can see the common reasons that usually push men to correspond, but in your case the situation may be different. Listen carefully to your spouse and hear. Don't be offended if he criticizes and blames you, try to understand what didn't suit him. Then it will be easier to fix everything.

Explain that this is unpleasant for you

Tell your husband how you feel. Try to speak “I-message”, focusing on your experiences, and not on his mistakes. Eg:

“When you text other women, I feel lonely and deceived.”
“When you talk to her, I’m afraid
that you don’t love me anymore and we’ll break up.”
“When I found out about your correspondence, I was afraid that you would commit real betrayal.”
“When you ignore me, I am offended by your indifference.”
“When you don’t want to discuss the issue, I worry that you don’t care about my feelings.”
“When I found out that you were communicating with someone on the Internet, I was angry and still cannot forgive you for your betrayal.”

This is especially important in a situation where the husband does not recognize his offense as something serious. Well, he texts, he flirts on the Internet, but in real life he remains faithful. The future of your relationship depends on whether you can communicate your feelings to him.

Spend more time together

Real communication is more attractive than virtual communication, so offer your husband family activities. First, you need to find common ground - common topics of conversation and passion. Remember what you talked about before you lost touch with each other. Renew these conversations or find new topics.

Real communication is always better than virtual communication.

Agree to turn off gadgets in the evenings and on weekends and devote time to your family. Buy board games, go on a picnic, take a walk in the park, play a computer game together.

If you have children, setting aside at least one evening a week or month for romance is very important. Leave them with a nanny or relatives, and go out somewhere together or have a romantic dinner at home. Make love when there are no distractions and you can relax.

Change your behavior

Remember what your man complained about when he explained the reasons for his misconduct. To save the family, you need to change so that the situation does not repeat itself:

Attention husband . In a series of household chores, child care, shopping runs and other routine, you often have to give up something. Women usually refuse time for themselves and their husbands. But it is better to reduce or share household chores with your husband, because this will not hit the family so hard.
Take an interest in his life . At dinner or while cooking together, ask about their day. It’s good if you can ask specific questions - how the meeting with company N went, what was decided at the meeting, how project X is progressing. Such clarifications will let your husband know that you are really listening to him and remember important things.
Look after yourself . After marriage, many women relax and focus on everyday life, forgetting about beauty. But men often love with their eyes, so appearance is very important. Maintain your weight within normal limits, do not wear “lounge” clothes at home, and do a simple hairstyle in the morning.
Stop nagging . Often husbands run away into a virtual romance in order to at least get admiration and approval somewhere. After all, the wife at home only criticizes, reminds of mistakes, compares with others, demands to become better, stronger, faster. Stop putting pressure on your spouse so that he can relax at home and doesn’t have to go online headlong.

Sharing housework brings families together.

In turn, you can ask him to change to make it easier for you to pay attention to him. Divide responsibilities around the house, look after the child in the evening, give a ride home from work, buy groceries after work, don’t go away for the whole weekend with friends.

The main thing is to remember about “I-messages”, it will be easier to agree with them: “I will have more time to communicate with you if you wash the dishes in the evening.”

Bring back the romance

Many couples eventually turn into simple cohabitants who raise children together. There is no passion, romance or fidelity in this relationship. To avoid becoming one of them, you need to work on your relationships. Both.

Without love, husband and wife are just cohabitants.

You don’t need to sing a serenade every day or give 1000 roses, because romance is in the little things:

prepare a delicious lunch by decorating the dish in the shape of a heart;
watch a romantic film (or another genre) in an embrace;
buy beautiful underwear, new perfume and appear in front of your spouse wearing only this;
write a sweet romantic note and stick it in his pocket or hang it on the refrigerator;
While you are preparing dinner, turn on romantic music and slow dance;
kiss and hug each other for no reason;
make small surprises: make a nice gift, bring lunch to work;
help each other in different matters, etc.

Love is shown in actions, not in words. And she slips into little things that are more important than staged scenes.

Don't lie to your neighbor4

“Who are you corresponding with there, dear?” ... “Uh-uh, with a second cousin from Kazan, dear...” the man answers, feeling his nose “increasing in size, like Pinocchio. I never had any relatives in Kazan, my cousin was known as an old, lonely, childless bachelor, but the presence of some kind of sister saves the situation from a brewing conflict. The guy begins to lie, hiding the purpose of his stay on the Internet.

What not to do

In such a situation, you can make mistakes that you will greatly regret later. So no matter how much you want to, avoid the following actions:

Cheating out of revenge on your husband - after discovering betrayal, you may have a desire to do the same. But if you didn’t have such thoughts before, it means that you are actually resentful. Over time, the emotions will pass, and you will be ashamed of your actions.
When writing to your rival , don’t write nasty things, don’t call for conscience, don’t beg her to leave her husband. The problem is not with the stranger, but with your husband. Even if she stops communicating, he can find someone else.
Humiliate yourself - in such a situation, there is no need to beg your husband to stop communicating by promising some benefits or humiliating yourself in any other way. If you show that you will do anything to save the marriage, he will simply sit on your neck.
Hysteria and scandal are an unpleasant situation, the man made a terrible mistake and you have the right to be angry. But there is no need to make a scene, scream until you lose your voice and throw objects. Nobody likes hysterics, and perhaps it was precisely this behavior that led the husband to correspond with another. First calm down, then start a dialogue. Only in such a situation can you achieve something.
Threatening suicide - you cannot keep another person by blackmail; rather, such phrases will push him away from you even more.

A family cannot be saved by fear and pity.

Recommendations for a girl who is worried about her boyfriend

If a guy talks to other girls, what should he do? You can do the following:

Calm down. There is no need to make decisions rashly, this will not lead to anything good.
Find a common hobby or interests.
Talk frankly with your loved one.
To please a guy - cook a romantic dinner, invite him on a date.
5. Start taking care of yourself, change your image, hairstyle, wardrobe, play sports, lose weight.
Explain to the guy that his communication brings pain and anxiety.
Show by example what it’s like when the woman you love communicates with another man.

You can do nothing, but simply wait until the guy gets tired of this communication and he himself returns to his soul mate. But the opposite situation can also happen, when harmless communication turns into betrayal.

What to do if nothing helps

In some situations, a man cannot be changed. He doesn’t see any problems in his behavior, he doesn’t care about his wife’s feelings, it’s more important for him to get pleasant emotions from communicating with strangers online. This can't be fixed.

You will have to find a way out of this situation on your own, and there are not many options.

come to terms

If you are not ready to destroy your family because of your husband’s virtual affair, you need to accept the situation as it is and come to terms with it. In the end, he sits at home, doesn’t spend family money on mistresses, doesn’t get infected with anything and, by and large, just corresponds on the Internet. Many women don’t even see a problem in this situation.

Don't think about it and sleep peacefully.

It is worth understanding that having come to terms with your husband’s action, you need to completely let go of the situation:

do not look through correspondence, do not read SMS, do not try to find out details;
forgive your husband, don’t nag about this situation, don’t reproach, but simply ignore, as if it didn’t happen;
don’t overthink yourself, don’t invent unnecessary things and don’t be jealous, take care of your nerves.

Learn to treat your husband's virtual hobbies as an unpleasant habit. Someone smokes, someone plays tanks, and yours communicates on the Internet. Just believe in your man - he promised that nothing would go beyond correspondence, so it is so. And regular messaging never hurt anyone.

Psychologist's advice

If you cannot convey your feelings to your spouse on your own, the only thing left to do is go to family counseling. Advice from psychologists, looking at the situation from the outside, discussing hidden motives for cheating in the presence of a professional can move the situation forward.

Perhaps the husband will trust a male psychologist more.

Most likely, the spouse will not want to voluntarily go to counseling, because he does not see the problem. Then you will have to make a choice - either a psychologist or a divorce. You do not intend to tolerate such behavior, and are ready for any solution to the problem.

If he wants to save his family, he will agree. And if not, then there is nothing to hold on to.

Breake down

In severe cases, the only correct solution is to break off the relationship. It’s worth deciding on this if:

the spouse refuses to acknowledge the problem, does not want to go to a psychologist and does not try to save the relationship;
if the correspondence indicates not only flirting, but also virtual sex, the exchange of intimate photographs, details about real meetings in the past;
For you, such behavior of your husband is unacceptable and you cannot forgive him for his betrayal, then there is no point in maintaining the relationship.

Before deciding to divorce, make sure that you have tried all the methods, including the help of a psychologist. Sometimes a couple cannot agree on their own, and they need an outside perspective.

Advice from psychologists for girls

Let's look at the recommendations of psychologists:

If a girl does not like the communication of her boyfriend with the opposite sex, then perhaps she has a fear of losing him, she is not confident in herself and is full of complexes. In this case, you need to start by raising your own self-esteem.
Jealousy is a bad quality, you need to get rid of it, as soon as the situation is released, its solution will come.
Don’t beat yourself up if a guy communicates with an ex-girlfriend and their child, their feelings have long cooled down. If you can’t calmly stay at home during such meetings, then you can force yourself on them.
If a woman cannot cope with the problem alone, then she should start by visiting a specialist.
More often you need to communicate and talk with your man, try to understand and hear him, make concessions, help him and just spend time together.

A guy's communication with other girls is not the end of a relationship, but simply a transitional moment that needs to be overcome through joint efforts.

When a guy texts another girl

The situation with young couples has its own nuances that are worth considering separately. After all, the relationship began quite recently, it should not yet have routine, fatigue, or a pile of accumulated problems. So why does a young man need to communicate on the side?

Simple communication . Among young people, communication with the opposite sex can be truly friendly. Many people make friends and girlfriends with whom they communicate in a large company. They can simply exchange funny pictures, gossip about mutual friends, discuss going to a new place, and so on. No romantic inclinations or flirting. In such a situation, there is no need to be nervous and worry, because having friends is normal.
Search for other options . In the first weeks and even months, the couple only takes a closer look and gets used to each other. They seem to be together, but at the same time they are afraid of missing out on something better. In such a situation, a young man can communicate with other ladies, flirt with them, hint at relationships, so that in case of a more winning game he will switch there. Such behavior is a betrayal, and it is not discussed.
Search for new sensations - if at the beginning of your relationship you already need to dispel the routine, then something is wrong in them. You cannot build a future with such a foundation, because even before the everyday routine, monotony and addiction, your passion has faded. What will happen next?

So if a guy is texting another girl, the psychologist’s answer will be unequivocal - break up. Unless, of course, this is friendly communication. In a long-term marriage, such a situation can signal accumulated problems, routine and fading feelings. For the sake of preserving the family, you can try to restore the relationship.

The relationship has just begun, and there is already a chasm between them.

But at the beginning of a relationship there should not be such problems. If now, even before marriage, he is already flirting online with others, what will happen next? Having become a husband, such people will not limit themselves to simple correspondence and will go further. After all, the feeling of dissatisfaction will only grow.

What's wrong in a relationship if a guy is texting another girl? The psychologist's answer may surprise you. In a budding relationship, the problem usually lies not in the girl, but in the boy himself:

unpreparedness for a serious relationship;
reluctance to limit yourself to just one;
desire to assert oneself;
loves attention to his person;
keeps another in reserve;
I don't think it could hurt the girl.

In any case, you should have an honest conversation with the guy. Find out the real reason, communicate your feelings, ask them to stop this behavior. Based on his reaction and the reasons stated, you can understand whether you have a chance for the future.

Is it normal for a man to continue communicating with his ex?

The situation looks more serious if your loved one communicates with someone with whom he already had a relationship. Why a man can keep in touch:

have a common child;
feels sorry for the ex;
feels responsible to her.

Imagine a situation where you are also an ex. Would you like to be treated normally? If you trust your significant other and are sure that things will not go beyond communication, then you should not focus on this. In any case, he will communicate with his child or help a woman whom he treats well.

Pay attention to how the guy communicates. If this is friendly communication, neutral, then there is nothing to worry about. But when light flirting appears, then under certain conditions it can develop into something more. In such a situation, you cannot wait, otherwise the young man will go to his ex-girlfriend.

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Women's opinion

Here's what female representatives say about this:

Ekaterina (35 years old): “I think that all men can sometimes indulge in some kind of flirting, just to assert themselves. Therefore, when I found my husband’s correspondence with someone else, I was not at all surprised. He wants to feel attractive to women. He stays at home, I don’t mind.”

Natalya (25 years old): “My husband constantly corresponds with other women and lies to me, so we often have scandals on this basis. It calms down for a while, but then everything repeats itself again. I no longer believe that anything can change for the better. Maybe I don’t want anything anymore.”

Anastasia (39 years old): “I didn’t find such correspondence with my husband, but I think that he corresponds with other women who has too much free time. This will lead to intimacy. I could not tolerate such behavior!”

Many relationships begin with correspondence on the Internet.

Anna (21 years old): “I’m in love and I think if I read the guy’s correspondence with someone else, I would break up. That means he doesn't like it. And there’s no reason to continue living together.”

Angelina (19 years old): “My relationship with my boyfriend began with correspondence, and he was still dating his ex. So I know where this can lead, and I forbid him to communicate with others.”

Oksana (33 years old): “When I realized that my husband was cheating on me, I didn’t ask him anything, since I was at home on maternity leave to care for a child. I felt very bad and hard, but I didn’t want to make the situation worse. The husband behaved as usual at home. When the child grew up, I began to pay more attention to my husband and my appearance, and went in for sports so that he understood what he could lose. Gradually, the husband began to be at home more often, perhaps leaving his hobby in the past. Now ours have improved, but I haven’t forgotten.”

Katya (28 years old): “I sometimes communicate with my ex-boyfriends, but nothing serious, we broke up a long time ago. It’s just interesting to remember and talk. Therefore, I don’t mind if my boyfriend is interested in the future fate of his ex, there’s nothing wrong with that.”

Women assess this situation ambiguously; all opinions are subjective.

Common interests

A guy can find a girl in one of the social network groups who shares his interests on the topic of this community. And all their communication will be devoted only to discussing this topic, and he will not hide the fact that he is not free.

It happens that men maintain contact with classmates or childhood friends, in which case jealousy is unnecessary.

When a young man’s communication with other girls does not go beyond what is permitted, then it is better not to interfere with this, but, on the contrary, try to become part of their circle of interests. Because you cannot prohibit a man from communicating with anyone. In any case, he will continue to do this, but only secretly.

A woman who wants to stop all conversations between her lover and the opposite sex should think about how often she herself corresponds with guys or has contact with them at work, in stores, at the gym. It is impossible to limit the freedom of another person. And a man should imagine what would happen if his girlfriend started communicating with another guy and reconsider his attitude towards her.

You deserve more

Friendly relationships, full of mutual understanding and sympathy, have the ability to develop like a romance between a couple in love. Virtual interlocutors are interested in each other's personal lives, look through photos of husbands and wives, and experience some germs of jealousy. “You know, your Fedor is not as good as you wrote about him” ... “Is that blonde on the left your Natalya? You said she was beautiful! ..."

The desire to play a major role in the life of a virtual interlocutor takes over, giving rise to unpleasant dialogues and emotions. Being in a state of complete secrecy, the guy complains about his girlfriend’s shortcomings, and the girlfriend “on the other side of the monitor” expresses grievances about her friend.

What to do if a man is often in the company of other women

Even healthy and progressively developing relationships can, in a certain environment, become the basis for mistrust and disagreement.

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Virginia Satir, an American psychotherapist of the last century, during couples' consultations, first of all tried to establish where most of the partners' day was spent, where they lived together and separately. She is confident that the communication climate influences the development of the relationship itself. A guy's regular presence with other women will make his partner feel a sense of mistrust. This is not about self-acceptance, low self-esteem and attachment to a man, as most incompetent psychologists tend to believe. A biological factor comes into force.

In the wild, females are forced to fight for the right to procreate. There are usually much fewer males. They are at greater risk of premature death. For this reason, for every one male there are 3-5 females. Throughout her entire existence, the female is forced to defend the right to be with her chosen one and the father of her offspring. Human society is not without such attitudes.

The main problem remains the problem of retaining one’s chosen one in the conditions of a daily communicative society.

Studying at the University

The educational team, with the exception of specialized educational institutions, does not distribute its participants by gender. As a rule, the faculty consists of an equal number of women and men. Take, for example, the average group of students. The number of students there is approximately 30 people. Of these people, 1/3 are women. A girl who studies with her lover at different universities torments herself with guesses about how many young ladies study with him, how his study time goes.

First of all, you should calm down and remember what format the establishment has. Perhaps the guy is studying in a paramilitary institution, where there are 1-2 women per group. They clearly enjoy the attention of single men, so there is no reason to panic. Technical educational institutions that graduate installers, builders, mechanics and auto mechanics enjoy similar characteristics. If a guy masters one of these professions, it means his group is predominantly male. Next, you need to remember the volume of study.

If the institution is prestigious and there is a lot of competition for places, then the training requirements there are appropriate. Only concentration on your studies and a large amount of academic work will help you get a diploma from such a university. It is unlikely that the young man will have time to flirt.

Working in a women's team

A similar situation arises due to mistrust regarding the lover's work environment. There are more women than men in modern society. They outnumber the stronger sex at school and work. Girls who send their loved ones to work are concerned about the increased attention of the female team.

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First you need to do some “reconnaissance.” In an informal setting, you should find out how many women work with their partner, what their marital status is and how they feel about their professional cooperation. Social networks will also come to the rescue.

It is then a good idea to demonstrate your boundaries. The Internet saves many couples from breaking up. Happy photos together, unambiguous comments under his photo and lunch carefully prepared for work will show other women that any interference in family life is pointless.