A man does not want to communicate: reasons, signs and solutions to the problem

At the beginning of a relationship, everything develops according to an ideal scenario, and a woman can live in the illusion that the fairy tale will last forever. But after some time, questions begin to appear: “Why did the man begin to pay less attention?”, “Why do relationships become a burden for a man?” or “Why did a man stop doing things for his beloved?”

Today I will talk about those moments because of which a man can move away from a woman and lose interest in her. If you recognize yourself in some examples, pay attention to this. This will be a kind of signal to change yourself, your attitudes and programs. And these changes will lead you to creating a great and happy relationship.

Read to the end to get answers to these questions:

• Is it true that a woman is a mirror of a man’s success?
• How does a woman's past affect her relationships in the present?
• What is the danger of overprotection in a relationship?
• The “I can do everything myself” program: how to determine if you have it?
• How to keep a man interested in you?
• The formula for creating great relationships.

So that you can choose a convenient format for receiving information, I have recorded a detailed video for you based on the materials in this article. Therefore, get ready to carefully watch, analyze and write down insights. I hope it will be useful!

Why do men run away silently?

What pushes a representative of the stronger sex to such a strange act? Is it always his fault that he disappeared like a fleeting vision? All women whose man has disappeared without explanation want to know the answers to these burning questions. Each situation is individual, but the main psychological reasons for an ugly male act are as follows:

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1. The gentleman is afraid of responsibility. All people are different, and sometimes it is very difficult to recognize the motives of their behavior. A man might seem so reliable and serious to you, but in reality he just wanted to have fun. You opened your heart and soul to him, told him that you dream of a house, three children and a French bulldog, and it dawned on the gentleman: “It’s time to get out before I’m lured to the registry office.” If a man disappears after intimacy, then everything is even simpler. You gave him what he wants, and now the ladies' man has gone in search of a new victim, having relieved himself of all responsibility for the ugly act. It's not your fault, you just came across such an unscrupulous guy.
2. I'm not used to explaining myself. There is another situation: a man wants to break up because the relationship has exhausted itself, but is afraid to say it to his face. After all, then it will be he who will turn out to be the scoundrel who initiated the unpleasant conversation and left the lady in tears and with a broken heart. It is possible that the gentleman is simply avoiding unnecessary reproaches and explanations, so he decides to leave in English. In any case, such an act does not make a man look good and does not make him a knight.
3. He feels like a victim. Most women consider men to be guilty of all mortal sins, although in reality they themselves turn out to be noble shrews. Look at the situation from the outside: didn’t you bully your boyfriend so much that he could simply run away from you, his heels sparkling? Does the gentleman feel like a victim of circumstances? Regular brainwashing on the part of a woman can provoke a completely understandable male impulse - to hide far away and not answer calls and messages. The hope that they will finally leave him alone is much stronger than the feeling of tact and education.
4. He doesn't need a scandal. Moments of separation rarely go smoothly and at the same time the phrase is said: “Let's remain friends!” The mostly unsuspecting woman is overcome by a storm of emotions during a farewell conversation. She splashes out waves of negativity, accompanied by beating dishes or the head of a failed boyfriend. Then revenge may follow: broken car windows and a painted hood, plaintive calls to the man’s mother or work boss. It’s not in vain that the gentleman who decides to leave is afraid of all this and takes the easy path: he simply disappears.
5. He found another one. The best thing to do in this case is to confess and courageously accept the wrath of your ex-woman. But most loving guys try to avoid this situation for obvious reasons. The negativity from separation is doubly intensified due to the betrayal that occurred. In addition, now not only the man, but also his current passion can suffer.

Now you know the reasons why a man disappears without explanation. It’s unlikely that this will make your soul feel any better, but at least you realize the true state of things. It's time to complain about the scoundrel to your girlfriends, buy yourself a couple of new dresses and not do anything stupid. And now we will tell you exactly what nonsense offended and insulted girls most often allow themselves to do.

Very long messages

If you were asked how your day was, you don’t need to write a long, detailed essay in response. Tell everything when we meet. In correspondence, it is better to limit yourself to general introductory remarks and jokes.

Take an artificial pause before answering

Some people believe that responding to messages instantly is bad manners. But artificially waiting is also bad form. Be natural. If you are not able to send a message at the moment, he will, of course, wait. If you have the time and desire to correspond, write to your health.

Why is it difficult to communicate with guys?

What to do when a guy suddenly stops communicating? Modern psychology tends to conclude that everything is to blame for new technologies that replaced the romance of the last century. Men show less and less caring, courage, and romance.

Nowadays, it is more pleasant for a guy to spend time at home, staring at his phone, than to walk down the street, meet with friends or with his significant other. In some cases, guys have a gaming addiction, in which they can completely forget that a person is a social being and requires live communication with real people.

Due to such nuances, the development of relations in our time is radically different from relations in the last century. Basically, communication between people begins through social networks, and not, as before, during a walk. Communication via the Internet does not bring anything good, unlike live communication between people.

Guys get used to communicating only on social networks because there is no responsibility. If I didn’t like something, I added it to the black list and stopped communicating; in general, they became capricious. This does not mean that all men are like this. Among my friends there are good guys who have not lost their care, attention and courtship towards girls in real life.

Last tip

Men are not as difficult to communicate as we make them out to be. If they want to communicate with us, they will do so. If they don’t want to, it means they have a reason for it, and we will not be able to influence this in any way and will not be able to force them to act as we would like. Give the guy some time in his personal space.

If this state of affairs has dragged on for a long time, then it is better not to beat around the bush, but to directly ask him if everything is okay in his relationship with you. If he answers yes, then just leave him alone. If he says “no”, then don’t create scandals and hysterics - it won’t help. Just completely destroy all chances of change for the better. And if he says “I don’t know,” then ask him what the problem is, what confuses him. Be direct, but not too pushy, and speak calmly. If he says again that he doesn't know what's causing his mood, just ask him to let you know when you can talk about it. And give him the opportunity to be alone with himself as much as he needs.

Believe me, a man will properly appreciate your attitude if you give him the opportunity to think calmly before making a decision and moving forward in building your relationship.

No free time to write

Men and women are built completely differently.
If a girl, going about her daily affairs, does not let her betrothed out of her head and can periodically send him tender messages, then for a guy things are completely different. When a man is busy, he thinks exclusively about what he is doing now. If there is a rush at work, then the guy’s thoughts will be occupied only with quickly dealing with the accumulated work. Perhaps the car broke down and needs to be fixed urgently, or your mother called and needed help. Most likely, you should have warned your girlfriend about how busy she is, but in fact this doesn’t always happen.

Why can a guy suddenly break off a relationship?

If a guy stops calling and texting and doesn’t answer calls himself, it’s not at all necessary that the fault lies with the woman. Often this behavior is characteristic of people with a certain character:

• Cold and unemotional. He does not realize that his behavior causes pain, he does not experience serious love in the relationship, he does not care how it ends.
• Manipulator. Such a person leaves in the midst of a relationship in order to achieve certain concessions from a woman - more freedom, expensive gifts, obedience. Another reason is the reluctance to fulfill the woman’s requests. For example, she asks to give her at least part of the salary or starts talking about the birth of a child, so the man disappears so that she comes to her senses. After her lover crosses the threshold of the house again 2 days later, the woman will completely forget about her unreasonable desires.
• Infantile. He leaves suddenly and without warning because he doesn't know how to say it. It's like a little child: I got tired - I left.
• Coward. He is afraid to look a woman in the eyes and tell the truth, so he prefers to simply hide and never appear on the horizon again. He is afraid to take responsibility for a woman; he wants easy and non-binding meetings.

If a guy suddenly stopped communicating with you and simply disappeared for no apparent reason, this is not normal. Thank fate that it so quickly took such an unreliable person away from you, and do not look for meetings with him anymore.

Other reasons for stopping communication

When a woman is not to blame, and the characters described do not at all fit the description of her lover, it is worth looking for the reason elsewhere.

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Why did he stop writing?

If you just communicated with a guy via the Internet for a long time, and then he simply stopped writing and responding to messages, then this can be explained by the following reasons:

1. Force Majeure. For example, a man had to leave urgently, but there was no way to warn about this, or he simply did not attach any importance to it. Or maybe his network simply disappeared (thunderstorm, rain, power outage, forgot to pay for operator services).
2. I realized the pointlessness. If a guy hinted several times about dating in person, but did not receive consent, then he began to worry about the refusal and realized that he was not interested in you as a partner, and your correspondence would lead nowhere.
3. I found a more interesting pen pal or a girl in real life, after which I decided to stop corresponding with you.
4. I realized that you are deceiving. For example, you sent him a photo, but it turned out to be from the Internet, or you said that you don’t have a lover, but on a social network you posted a photo of yourself kissing a guy.
5. Being stuck at work or school. There is no free time to even open a social network, not to mention long conversations.

These are the most common reasons if a man suddenly stops writing on social networks and does not respond to your messages. If the reason is not force majeure, which will become clear in a few days, then stop pestering the guy with your messages and cut him out of your life.

After sex

If a man suddenly stopped communicating immediately after the first sex, this means that he most likely did not consider you for a serious relationship. The reasons for the disappearance in this case may be the following:

• I only needed sex from you;
• considered you as a mistress, but did not suit him in bed;
• considered for a long-term relationship, but was disappointed due to the fact that she quickly gave up;
• I didn’t like my behavior in bed: for example, I laughed when I saw a small penis, or I pretended to have an orgasm too much.

Although men want to get a girl into bed faster, this does not mean that they will offer to date after the first sex. Few people are ready to consider an easily accessible woman as a life partner.

Shortly before the wedding

The most painful and unpleasant thing for a girl is when a guy disappears shortly before such a bright holiday as a wedding. You have already formed clear plans for your future life, invitations have been sent out to guests, a restaurant and a dress have been chosen, but suddenly your partner stops communicating and it is impossible to find him. This behavior may occur for the following reasons:

1. The groom was afraid of responsibility. This often happens when a woman or her parents insist on a wedding, and also when a girl finds out about pregnancy, after which the guy has only 2 options - to be a scoundrel or to propose marriage. He chooses the second option, but realizes that he doesn't want it.
2. I met another girl and realized that I didn’t really love my fiancée.
3. He cheated, for example, on a bachelor party, now he is ashamed to even talk about it. He considers himself the last scoundrel who is unworthy of such a beautiful woman.
4. I found out about a girl’s betrayal and cannot forgive her for it.

If there was no quarrel between you, but your loved one suddenly disappears, then you need to find him and find out the reason for this behavior. Perhaps it is still possible to fix everything, resume the relationship and have a wedding.

For no apparent reason

If a guy stopped communicating for no reason, perhaps an unpleasant situation happened to him, or a tragedy occurred:

• lost a close relative (or he became seriously ill), so the man urgently left for a long time in another city;
• became a victim of a robbery and is now in a hospital or morgue;
• urgent unscheduled business trip to a place where there is no cellular coverage;
• I lost (broke) my phone and doesn’t know your number by heart.

Of course, such situations occur rarely, but still you shouldn’t write them off right away.

After the first date

After the first date, a man's attitude can change dramatically. He will not want to get to know the girl better for the following reasons:

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1. I wasn't happy with the appearance. On social networks, girls post edited photos in which they have a model appearance. And if instead of a beautiful long-legged blonde a pimply and plump lady with glasses comes on a date, then she is unlikely to see him again. And there is no point in calling a man to re-arrange a meeting.
2. Too talkative. A date is not a marathon “Tell your biography from the cradle in 1 hour.” If you chat without giving a man even a chance to get a word in, if you lay out information that is absolutely uninteresting to him, then he is unlikely to want to see you again. Communication should be pleasant for both.
3. Runs ahead of the locomotive. You just met, and you are already planning your next weekend together or finding out who you will live with after you decide to move in together. Men, by their psychology, avoid such conversations even in serious relationships, not to mention the first date.
4. I didn't like it. This is a banal, but the most obvious reason. It seems that the girl is pretty, sweet, smart, and has something to talk to her about, and listens attentively, but does not catch on.

After the date is over, a man may say that he will call, but will not do it. You shouldn’t intrude and call, you need to accept the situation and move on with your life, especially since nothing serious happened.

Someone influenced his opinion

If you stopped communicating with a guy, although everything was fine before, think maybe someone influenced his opinion. For example, while walking, you met a mutual friend, and then he “opened the eyes” of your lover by telling him something unpleasant. Or the guy decided to introduce you to his best friend, but he didn’t like your appearance, and he started teasing: “Why do you need such a scary story?” Or maybe the man talked about his new beloved mother, telling details about you that did not suit her, for example, that you are divorced or have a child.

Typical mistakes of suddenly abandoned ladies

If a man stops communicating without explanation, then it is probably difficult for you to collect your thoughts and behave wisely. Resentment, anger, the desire to return everything as it was - these feelings prevent you from doing the right thing. Try to control your emotions so as not to do the following stupid things:

1. To pester the disappeared gentleman with calls and messages. Call or write once, this will be enough to express your excitement and indignation. Believe me, if a man wants, he will contact you himself when, for example, he cools down after a quarrel and realizes that he got excited. Calling him hundreds of times will only let the guy know how much you depend on him. In the future, he can use you, knowing how afraid you are of losing him. Do not humiliate yourself for the sake of a dubious reconciliation. Your destiny will not escape you. It's not appropriate for a girl to run after guys. Rise above it and love yourself.
2. Conduct surveillance and try to meet. The man hasn’t called for several days, and at nine in the evening you went for a walk and suddenly found yourself in another area of ​​the city under the windows of his house and casually decided to check if the lights were on. Or you want to stage a chance meeting while standing outside his office at the end of the work day. You definitely don’t need to do this! It is not you who should run after the man, but he should run after you! And the missing gentleman, after such persecution, may even think that you are a real maniac.
3. Threaten and blackmail. If a man abruptly stops communication, you should not use sadistic methods. You are not a collector extorting money from a debtor, but a fragile and tender girl with a wounded soul. Even if a guy is afraid of punishment and agrees to be with you until death, then this certainly cannot be called true love. He will forcefully smile at you sourly, kiss you without pleasure and dream of a free life. It’s better to start looking for your real soulmate, and leave this traitor to someone else.
4. Change to please a man. Of course, you must develop, take into account behavioral mistakes, grow up and learn from your own experience. But the desire for self-improvement should be mutual. If you are not ideal for him, then you are unlikely to become one. Your boyfriend dumped you, and you run to dye your hair blonde, change your wardrobe and learn how to cook jellied meat like his mother? Think for yourself, this is absurd! You should be loved for who you are, and not remade to suit your own comb. You can change, become his dream. But sooner or later the man will not like something again, and your true nature will come out. And remember: those who quit once will do it again.

We have clearly described to you what actions should be avoided in a situation where a guy has disappeared without explanation. The pressing question remains: what can be done then?

Two outcomes

As a result, the situation can develop in two ways. This leads to two natural outcomes:

1. The girl does not want to let her partner go, putting pressure on him. He feels the loss of himself as an individual next to his partner and dissolves in the relationship. The guy feels discomfort, so he subconsciously leaves the woman in order to regain his own “I”. He needs to be alone for some time, even if there are no thoughts of separation or divorce. Without understanding this, the girl herself ruins the relationship. Constant calls and thirst for explanations only push your partner away. The likelihood of him returning becomes less likely. There is no need to talk about a situation where the guy initially did not plan for further development of the relationship, but the girl thinks differently, since self-humiliation cannot solve the problem.
2. If the man disappeared, but appeared after the woman’s call, then all is not lost. He is open to conversation, that is, he has not yet decided on his feelings. The further situation develops according to the partner’s scenario and depends on how competent her behavior is. There is no need to give in to the impulse to take revenge on him, to fall in love with him again and trample him. It’s better to analyze your attitude towards a man, think about what attracts you in him: appearance, status, personal qualities, or all at once. If it turns out that there are no feelings, and the girl is driven only by excitement, then you should refuse to continue the romance. But when you have feelings, you don’t need to immediately rush into his arms. It is important here to make it clear to the man that such behavior is not the norm. But there is no need to reproach him for anything, since this is another crisis that both of them successfully survived.

If a man has disappeared without explanation (stopped communicating or showing up on the doorstep), you should think about it and analyze the situation. There can be many reasons. First, you should try to find out the reason directly from him. But if he ignores the question, there is no need to be persistent and aggressive. Waiting will be the best tactic.

At the beginning of a serious relationship, when the couple does not yet live in the same territory

Your relationship is filled with romance - you wish each other good night, know your parents, plan a future together, meet mutual friends on weekends... And the man suddenly disappears without explanation.

What could be on his mind?

1. It seems to him that the relationship has nowhere else to develop. Everything is a dead end, the end. It’s logical, but the development is obvious - wedding, family, children. But no! We don't want to take responsibility!
2. The woman has become predictable and boring. By the way, this happens quite often, so women's magazines shout from all sides about how important it is not to lose yourself.
3. Doubts his feelings. Here the man disappears for about a week - during this time he fully comes to the realization of how dear you are to him.
4. Usual manipulations. A man does such tricks in order to teach his chosen one a lesson.
5. It seems to a man that you are not suitable for him or that the relationship is not developing according to the scenario that he has drawn for himself. Why didn't I understand earlier? He understood everything before, he simply delayed the decision, giving some imaginary chance to both of you. Then I got tired and saw that after all, no – you are completely different people.
6. It seems to a man that disappearing in silence is the act of a real male, for whom words are superfluous. Girls need to immediately adopt this trait, otherwise this will become the norm in later life.
7. He likes this adrenaline, passion, your angry look, stormy reconciliatory sex. Give your man more emotions, attend extreme sports, join role-playing games.

When a man leaves a seemingly happy relationship, step aside. The most you can do is write an SMS: “Hi, I’m worried, are you okay?” That's it, continue to live your life, without self-flagellation and feverish analyzes of your behavior.