Tenderness is... Definition, features and interesting facts

• December 15, 2018
• Psychological terms
• Natali Michaelis

Tenderness is a feeling that spreads from the very heart of a loving person, it is the warmth that warms your loved ones in stormy times. Tenderness means joy for the success of your significant other or awkward pauses in communication with the person you like. In general, the concept of “tenderness” is very multifaceted, so each person can create a definition of a warm feeling on their own, but we will be happy to help you with this.

Definition of tenderness

To understand what “tenderness” is (the definition will be presented below), you need to turn to reliable sources. They give a clear concept of tenderness, but I would immediately like to warn our readers that for each person it must be formed in the depths of their own consciousness. Try to remember the feelings you felt while being touched by a loved one or dear family member. This is one of the few cases when the heart turns out to be much truer than the mind.

So, tenderness is a form of affection for a person, which is characterized by high sensitivity towards a loved one. Most often, tenderness is caused by love, but this does not mean that a person cannot experience tender feelings towards an animal or a representative of the same sex. Love can be completely different, just like tenderness.

Words of great people

There are many quotes about tenderness

Finally, I would like to note a few of the most colorful and capacious of them.

Pierre Boist, a French lexicographer, said: “Tenderness is compassion for those we love.”

Good words also belong to Anton Pavlovich Chekhov. The classic of world literature said: “When you love, you discover such wealth in yourself, so much affection and tenderness! And I can’t even believe that you know how to love so much.”

And finally, an aphorism by a 13th-century Persian moral poet named Saadi, which can be equated with wisdom. He said: “You can lead an elephant by a thread with kindness and gentle words.”

Of course, there are many other beautiful and thoughtful expressions. But there are not as many quotes about tenderness as there are poems and stories. Hundreds of writers dedicated their works to this feeling. And, reading them, we can be convinced: although times change, love continues to live in the hearts of people.

What is tenderness?

You can think about this question for hours, citing various examples from life. Especially for our readers, we have collected several such examples in one list to make it easier to find the definition of tenderness. So, tenderness is:

• go somewhere together, intertwining fingers;
• touch his nose with the tip of your finger;
• a better proof of love than any oath;
• looking at a sleeping person and being afraid to wake him up;
• hug your loved one until your bones crunch when you meet.

Yes, each person’s expression of tenderness is strictly individual. Someone is not used to saying kind words to each other - and there is nothing wrong with that. However, tenderness can melt even the coldest ice in the heart, which has fettered the feelings of another person for years.

Development of feeling

The definition of tenderness should be understood not only in sexual connotations. This feeling manifests itself throughout life, outside of sex. We demonstrate our tenderness when we kiss our parents after separation, embrace our friends in a tight hug when we meet, and stroke a friend on the shoulder when he is sad. This is how we show our loved ones that they are dear to us.

Tenderness is a personality quality that develops from childhood. This process is associated with the skin, which is the largest sensory organ. It is thanks to her that from early childhood we feel how the world around us accepts us.

It all starts from a young age. Science has proven that in the absence of affection and positive physical contact, developmental delays occur in children. Why? Because the so-called emotional foundation is not laid. Children who have not received enough affection and love perceive the world around them as something hostile and cold. And both at an early age and while growing up.

How is tenderness shown?

Feelings, including tenderness, can manifest themselves in a variety of ways depending on the situation. If your loved one does not kiss you 20 times a day, this does not mean that he does not have warm feelings for you. Sometimes caring for a loved one is the best show of affection you can imagine. Run around the bed of your loved one so that he recovers quickly, carry your loved one in your arms all the way home if she sprains her ankle. It is in those situations when care is required from you that showing tenderness is simply necessary.

However, we experience feelings for other people not only in stressful situations, so tenderness can also manifest itself in everyday life. Bring your loved one breakfast in bed, prepared with your own hands with love. Or help her do some of the household chores so she can get more rest. Tenderness can manifest itself in the smallest details that you may not immediately see, so you should take a closer look at the actions of your other half.

How to tell a man about your tender feelings for him

Once in a relationship between a man and a woman, the time comes when it is necessary to openly talk about your feelings. And you can make this moment truly special for both of you. To do this, you need to prepare an original confession that will help you express everything that is in your soul. You can do it like this:

• Start with small nice gifts. These could be cute but practical souvenirs, sweets or other little things. If a person cares about you, be sure that he will notice and appreciate any manifestation of tenderness on your part. Then you can include a note with your recognition in one of these gifts.
• A man will be pleased to receive a card that you made yourself. Imagine: a woman’s love and tenderness for a man will be proven by a photo on a postcard, fabric, jewelry.

  
  Feelings are especially clearly manifested through gifts made with your own hands. Write about your feelings in a postcard, and your partner will not remain indifferent.

• You can also confess your love on the radio. If you know exactly when your chosen one listens to the radio and what programs he likes, you can order a romantic composition for him or call him live to tell him about your love. You can even record a song for him yourself using amateur equipment or in a recording studio.
• The atmosphere of the evening city is conducive to romance. Take a few candles with you, arrange them in the shape of a heart and light them - this way you can show your loved one all the warmth of your feelings for him. You can also write a confession in the snow or on the asphalt.

• If you want to surprise your lover with a romantic gesture, make a confession poster and then hang it in front of his window. Just remember that to place such structures on houses you need permission from the residents.
• A woman’s tenderness and love does not always need material expression. Often the most sincere and warm words are those spoken without preparation, on the spur of the moment. If you feel that the moment has come when confession would be appropriate, just look your man in the eyes and say: “I love you!”

Why doesn't everyone show affection?

Not all people can show tenderness equally well - there is nothing wrong with that. Imagine the situation. You picked up a stray puppy who was subjected to various abuses every day, slept in the cold, and ate only a couple of times a week. If you were this poor animal, would you behave tenderly with the new owner? Yes, the man did a good deed by taking the pet into his home, feeding and warming the little puppy. However, it did not relieve him of the fear of his past life. Over time, all the bad things will be forgotten, but intuitively the dog will still not trust people 100 percent.

The same thing happens with people. Not everyone is born with the same living conditions, not everyone is equally lucky with friends and loved ones. If you fall in love with a girl whose heart was once broken, she may not immediately show tender feelings for you, even if she does experience them. It is worth understanding that such a person, like a homeless puppy, will subconsciously expect that sooner or later you will abandon her. Therefore, you should not be offended that your beloved does not take you first by the hand while walking or does not kiss you on the cheek when you meet.

Detailed consideration of the concept

Well, the definition of tenderness is clear. In fact, this quality and emotional state of a person was considered by psychologists at the end of the 19th century. Domestic specialist V. A. Snegirev studied this phenomenon in detail. And here are some of his conclusions:

• Tenderness is a special pleasure that is associated with a decrease in physical and spiritual activity, but does not turn into powerlessness and disorganization. On the contrary, it favors the harmonious flow of human existence.
• The triggers of tenderness are spiritual and physical agents. They even out the flow of life. When a person comes into contact with them, he feels a special peace and harmony.
• Tenderness, having arisen once, subsequently appears involuntarily - upon contact with someone for whom it is felt in principle. Real conditions, whatever they may be, are replaced by idealized ones, since at that moment there is a source of harmony and peace nearby.

How to learn to show tenderness?

Tenderness is an emotion that can be quite difficult to express, especially if you have previously experienced not the most pleasant situations. However, remaining alone all your life is not an option. Try to let go of the past and forget all the bad things that happened to you. Start your life from scratch and understand that the present and future are much more important.

Also, some people are embarrassed to show affection because they consider it weakness. This is especially true for men and boys. They should understand that tenderness is a manifestation of masculinity in all its glory. If one of your friends sees you walking with your significant other and holding her hand, then they will only envy you, and will not consider you a weakling.

Pros and cons of the variety

• Among the advantages of the variety, gardeners note the following qualities:
• high yield. During a season, with good care, you can harvest about 2.5 kg of peppers;
• the variety ripens very early;
• good taste;
• The fruits can be eaten fresh or added to various dishes. Can be preserved or frozen in winter;
• resistant to many diseases;
• the plant does not need to be tied to a support, and it is also suitable for growing both in the garden and in a greenhouse;
• delicate and juicy taste of the fruit;
• The fruits have thick walls, which makes them well suited for stuffing.

The fruits contain a large amount of vitamin C, which allows the body to receive the necessary substances to preserve youthful tissues and strengthen the immune system. The fruits of this variety help improve digestion and improve heart function.

Thanks to the vitamin composition of the fruit, this pepper can have a beneficial effect on the nervous system. If you introduce pepper into your daily diet, it will help lower cholesterol and reduce blood pressure.

Examples of displays of tenderness

Especially for those people who do not know how to show tender feelings towards a loved one, we offer a small top of the most common examples of manifestations of tenderness. You can do something similar with your loved one until you learn to show your feelings the way you want.

1. Place your palms on your lover's cheeks and gaze deeply into his eyes. Your heart will quickly let you know that you have strong feelings for this person that you would not trade for anything. A gentle, leisurely kiss will be an excellent continuation.
2. Go out into the yard with your loved one in the late evening and just sit on a bench, looking at the stars. If it happens on a warm summer night, then you can even take out the blanket and spread it in some interesting place. Try to touch your loved one more during the entire process.
3. Give your loved one a bouquet of delicate pink roses or lilies. Do it just like that, without any reason. Such a gesture is the best way to show your beloved that you are far from indifferent to her. Although this technique can be used not only with flowers.

Try to give your loved one the warmth that you experience yourself. Don't be afraid to show your feelings, even if it seems ridiculous.

About the variety

The “Tenderness” pepper variety is a vegetable that has been tested by more than one generation of summer residents. It was included in the GOST register back in the 80s of the last century. Gardeners and summer residents prefer it for its good adaptation to any soil, frost resistance and active resistance to diseases and various microorganisms that harm plants. Pepper fruits with delicate and thin skin have a pyramidal shape, slightly elongated. They are very juicy and fleshy, thanks to the thickness of their walls, which reaches 8 mm. The weight of one pepper varies from 90 to 115 grams. Thanks to its qualities, it has become so popular among farmers. According to reviews, this pepper is also the best for use in cooking. It is perfectly stuffed and does not deform during heat treatment. Pepper gives canned salads a rich taste and thick consistency.

But, of course, eating fresh peppers, which are naturally rich in various vitamins and minerals, will bring more benefits. Its qualities do not disappear even after drying under the summer sun.

Planting and care

Pear seedlings are best planted in a permanent place in the spring (in the first half of March), and the “Tenderness” variety is no exception. Early planting will allow the seedlings to better adapt to temperature changes. This has a good effect on increasing plant resistance to disease.

In order for the plant to take root successfully, the basic requirements of agricultural technology must be observed. Although the variety is not particularly picky about many factors.

Conditions for development

• the soil on the site should be fertile, loose, well permeable to air and water;
• The planting site is prepared in the fall by adding superphosphate mixed with wood ash, humus, sand, and peat into the ground when digging;
• To ensure that the fruits are juicy in the future, choose a sunny, slightly elevated area for planting pears.

Moderate humidity is important for the variety, but its excess can cause root rot (despite its resistance to disease). Therefore, pear trees are not planted in lowlands.

Disembarkation rules

• prepare a hole of standard sizes - 0.6-0.8 m in diameter, 1-1.2 m deep (slightly less on peat soil);
• a wooden stake half a meter long is driven into the hole - with its help, the seedling is then given a stable position;
• 2/3 of the holes are filled with a nutrient mixture - soil mixed with fertilizers (the same ones that were used during autumn digging); you can also take ordinary organic matter (humus or compost) in the amount of 7 kg;
• fertilizers are sprinkled with a layer of clean soil (this will protect the roots from burns);
• after 2 weeks, the tree is lowered onto the formed tubercle, carefully distributing the roots.

Having filled the hole to the top with soil, the seedling is tied to a peg and the plant is watered abundantly. Then the tree trunk circle is covered with mulch (rotted humus, peat, sawdust, etc.) so that the moisture does not evaporate.

Further care

the main attention should be paid to pruning, even though the tree’s crown is not too thick; in the temperate climate zone, thinning is carried out more often; the leading shoot after pruning should rise 40 cm above the skeletal branches; if too many ovaries have formed on the tree, the excess ones should be removed; Watering is carried out as needed, but only heated water is used; fertilizing begins to be applied from the 3rd year of the plant’s life, tying it to the growing season; The “Tenderness” variety is too productive, so when there is an abundance of fruit, supports are installed under the branches.

Despite the disease resistance, preventive treatment of trees with fungicides in the spring should not be ruled out.

Common Mistakes

Some girls make a lot of mistakes when dating a guy. Because of this, they fail at every meeting. To prevent such an outcome, carefully study the main nuances:

1. Don't drink a lot of alcohol. A fresh head and adequate behavior are what you need to finish the meeting well.
2. Don't be smart. It's nice to talk to an erudite person, but only if he doesn't act arrogant.
3. Don't come to a meeting with a friend. The third one will always be superfluous. And it’s not a fact that this is a friend.
4. Don't choose an expensive restaurant. Perhaps the man does not have enough money. As a result, he will find himself in an awkward position.

Don’t make hasty conclusions, be attentive to your partner, behave naturally - then the date will definitely happen again. Perhaps this will be the beginning of a great love.

Plant care

The seedlings adapt to new conditions in about 10 days. Be sure to cover them with film. If the region is warm and the weather has already improved, you can allow them to “breathe” fresh air during the day, but hide them again at night. During this period, they do not require abundant watering; you can simply lightly moisten the soil near the sprouts. It is best to take water heated to 30 degrees, and after watering, loosen the soil to saturate it with oxygen.

The crop requires feeding; for this you can use mineral fertilizer “Mullein”, which is diluted 1/10. Other fertilizers are also used. For example, in the early period, plants are fertilized with nitrogen subcrusts, and during the period of bud ripening, potassium-phosphorus fertilizers are used. Remember to strictly follow the instructions on the packaging. Overfeeding plants is no less harmful than underfeeding them.

To avoid obvious greening of the bushes, it is necessary to cut off the lower young leaves. This will enable the bush to bear more fruit. When they reach a height of 30 cm, the top is slightly cut off.

In warm regions, peppers have time to ripen to red color. In the northern regions, it is best to pick them green and place them in a dark and warm place for further ripening. In this case, the place should be very well ventilated.

Disease Prevention

Pepper “Tenderness” is certainly considered the most resistant to various diseases, but it also requires special processing. The most common diseases are:

• Phytophthora/late blight;
• Verticillosis (caused by fungi of the genus Verticillium);
• White rot.

These diseases can only be avoided by prevention:

• carefully prepare the soil for new plantings in the fall: completely remove, loosen;
• select seeds before using them and disinfect them;
• do not plant other crops nearby;
• weed the ground from the first week of sprouts appearing in it;
• never water with cold water;
• treat/spray the foliage of the bush with solutions of wormwood or celandine;
• use wood ash (according to the instructions) as fertilizer;
• remove affected foliage;
• Take good care and promptly notice signs of disease.