If a husband loses interest in his wife, the woman begins to panic almost immediately. Moreover, the stronger the lady is attached to her lover, the higher the intensity of passions. The wife, as a rule, immediately thinks that since her husband has lost interest in her, it means he has found a mistress. The poor woman is killed and suffers. Although, if a husband has lost interest in his wife, this, in principle, does not mean anything. After all, there are many reasons why this can happen, and the scenarios are not always tragic. So, if you ask the question “What to do if your husband has lost his temper?”, then first of all you need to find out the reason for the cooling, as well as the signs of this phenomenon. After all, sometimes women make mountains out of molehills, thinking that everything is very bad, but it turns out that this was completely temporary and did not mean anything.
Let’s first understand that the cooling of feelings is not their loss. It is a temporary phenomenon that tends to return to the starting point. So, if this happens, it means that either the cooling will worsen, or it will pass and everything will be as before.
What are the reasons and signs that the husband has lost interest in his wife, and what should she do now?
Reasons for cooling feelings
There are several reasons why the husband has lost interest in his wife:
- Everyday problems
Can a person change his attitude towards his wife because of everyday problems? Of course it can. Everyday life is something that accompanies our lives constantly. And against this background many phenomena occur in family relationships. Let's say there isn't enough money in your joint budget. Not only do you have to constantly save (and this is no longer so fun for you, nor for your husband, nor for your children), you do not have the opportunity for a good rest, where, as a rule, all grievances are quickly forgotten. So, most likely, you blame not only yourself, but also your spouse for not having the required amount of money. How do you do it? Do you look him in the eye every day? Or do you start quarrels, from which the main thing for you is to emerge victorious? Or you generally humiliate your husband by talking about how “a real man cannot behave like that, a real man would certainly find an opportunity to earn extra money.” Where is love then? After all, it may well be that, firstly, your spouse was never ready for such feats, but you married him, and secondly, men also have periods of depression and moments of failure. What does your husband do in response? He begins to avoid you, because you don’t understand him! Everyday life can corrode any human relationship, remember this.
- Financial difficulties
Financial difficulties are not the same as everyday problems, although in both cases we are talking about money. These are the troubles that only your husband knows. You may not even know that your spouse has them. Either this does not yet have any impact on your everyday life, or we are talking about money (for example, in business) that concerns life in general. A man generally tends to always think about finances and the future (with the exception, of course, of some representatives of the stronger sex). And since this constantly occupies his mind and is of great importance to him, then in the event of financial difficulties, your husband may completely move away from you (and not only from you!), because this is a serious problem for him that needs to be solved.
- Problems at work
Work is where we spend most of our lives, at least a significant part. It is difficult for women to understand the cooling of feelings on the part of their husband for this reason because they most often put family, children and husband in the first and unconditional place in life. Men, of course, not all prefer work to their loved ones, but there are some among them, and there are quite a lot of them. In addition, representatives of the stronger sex are still less conflict-resistant than women, so the reason for their cooling towards you may be due precisely to the fact that all the man’s thoughts are currently revolving around the situation at work. And if this problem is so serious that it threatens a demotion, a reduction in wages or dismissal, and the spouse is not yet ready to discuss this with anyone, then his behavior may not seem strange to you at all. He has no time for you. Although this is wrong. Indeed, in any difficult situation, in a harmonious relationship between husband and wife there can be no secrets, because in such families love and trust and mutual assistance reign. Therefore, if this is the reason for the cooling, you should still think: what’s wrong with you? Why did problems at work begin to affect your relationships?
- Depression, stress, overwork
Each of us experiences overwork, stress, and depression when we don’t want to see or hear anyone. At such moments, we can really change our attitude towards people, even very close ones. For example, in a situation of depression, a person does not care about anyone, he is passive, he feels bad even on a physiological level. You never know for some reason all this is happening to your husband. It is worth finding out the circumstances that preceded this. At the very least, if your spouse is stressed or depressed, you will definitely understand this and be able to distinguish between such conditions and other causes of cooling. By the way, after the end of their similar crisis, your husband will safely treat you the same way as before.
- Decreased sexual desire for wife
Unfortunately, decreased sexual desire is a fairly common cause of cooling between spouses. It occurs equally on both the male and female side. But for girls it is always unpleasant and offensive. Why does this happen? This can begin during a woman’s pregnancy, when the husband is afraid of hurting the child or is frightened by his wife’s appearance. The phenomenon is temporary and goes away with pregnancy. Also, a decrease in desire occurs if a woman stops taking care of herself, thinking that her husband will not escape from her. And along with the loss of sexual interest in the wife, cooling appears on the part of the man. After all, sex means a lot in the lives of representatives of the stronger sex.
- Relationships on the side
It's no secret that there are connections on the side. Here it is important to understand what kind of person is your spouse? There are men who, having connections on the side, on the contrary, strive with all their might to show their wife their love, care and devotion, thereby seeming to compensate for betrayal. There are a lot of such male representatives (they, as a rule, have enough affection for all women). But there are other husbands. Having plunged headlong into a new relationship, they begin to forget about the one who was faithful and devoted to them with all her soul. And if there is no gratitude for home and comfort, for love and children, then cooling occurs even faster. Or if, in addition to the other woman, there were other problems in the family: misunderstanding, mistrust, poorly organized life, etc.
And the woman suffers: “My husband has lost interest in me, what should I do?” However, we should not forget that cooling is still not the absence of love, which means that everything can be corrected. Let's look at the signs by which you can understand that your husband has cooled off towards you. They are, of course, a reflection of the underlying causes.
Discover common interests
Another positive way to energize your marriage is to return to activities you both enjoyed early in the relationship. Think about all the things that brought them together - it could be a passion for dancing or a love for mountain biking.
Buy tickets to the game if you met at the stadium, or try a new restaurant in town if you're both foodies. Learn something new together so that you not only have something to talk about, but also be able to rediscover each other's character traits that have long been forgotten.
Once you start participating in general enjoyable activities, it is likely that you will regain your interest.
Signs that a man has lost his temper
By what signs can you understand that a man’s feelings have cooled:
- Lack of attention from your spouse
This week you dyed your hair, changed your hairstyle, and he didn’t notice? And this didn’t happen within two or three days (let’s say he was a little out of sorts on the first day)? Or did you buy new outfits, change them every day, and your husband has zero emotions? Perhaps you began to dress much sexier than before (strangers even began to stare at you more often!), but your loved one does not see this at all? You lost weight (for his sake!), but he didn’t even appreciate it? Have you noticed that you do housework that is mostly male? If you ask your spouse what you've been doing without him lately, what would he say? These are the signs of inattention that a husband may demonstrate if he becomes cold. In general, constant attention to your spouse is one of the signs of deep concern (although it may not be entirely healthy). However, if you suspect your husband, you should try everything that was listed and find out the result.
- Decreased sexual activity
Have you had sex much more often before, and the initiative often came from your husband? Try to entice him again. Buy beautiful sexy lingerie and have a romantic evening. Seduce your spouse as before. Nothing changes? Or does it change only at once (on the night of passion suggested by you)? Almost no man disdains variety in sex, especially with a trusted partner. But if there is still little attention and sexual activity for a certain time has not become the same as before, then cooling is taking place and it is necessary to find out its true cause.
- Frequent reproaches, quarrels
Everything seemed to be going well for you, and then suddenly you started swearing out of nowhere. And it started with reproaches addressed to you (“I ironed my trousers or shirt wrong”, “I cooked it wrong, and in general my mother cooks better”, “I should have looked after my child better”, “Your dishes are always not washed”, etc.). ). Of course, you didn’t stand aside either. And mutual claims poured in from all sides. This led to the fact that quarrels between you began to arise more and more often. And this is a reason to cool your feelings, because you probably don’t want to often communicate with a person whose appearance is always accompanied by a scandal. This causes dull irritation and detachment. Yes, this may be a sign of cooling on your husband’s part towards you. But here it is important to understand the reason for frequent reproaches and quarrels, if before you seemed to live in peace and harmony.
- Spends free time separately from his wife
Previously, you spent all your free time together, perhaps with your children and other members of your family (brothers, sisters, grandparents). But it so happened that the spouse suddenly began to be alone more often, or at least without you. You can know exactly where it is. Or he doesn't say anything about his whereabouts. But the fact remains a fact - without you. So something is happening. Something is bothering him. Or he's happy somewhere. In general, he wants to be without you. And with whom, it is still unknown. This is also a serious sign of cooling of feelings, and here you also need to think about the reasons for what is happening.
- Lack of jealousy
It’s not that jealousy is the main indicator of feelings. It happens that a person is terribly and passionately jealous, but at the same time we are not talking about love - he himself may not even be faithful to his beloved, but he is immediately jealous of her for every pillar. But jealousy in this situation is a sign of attention and spiritual concern. And, if your husband suddenly stopped reacting at all to the presence of strangers in your life, next to you, especially those who pay you attention, then it’s worth thinking: what’s the matter?
In what situation should you end a relationship?
