What helps creatures progress in evolution is interest.
Interest is an emotion, feeling, attention, curiosity towards objects, with the determination to learn, to expand one's horizons.
The child begins to explore this world. At first he sees colors and images around, but does not understand their meaning. Then there is an interest in touching everything, tasting it. It is curiosity, like an emotional feeling, that helps him develop and learn more and more new things.
As a child grows up, this feeling develops and his horizons expand. Curiosity leads the mind to development, inquisitiveness, which makes a person unique. This emotion can also lead to bad tendencies that many cannot give up.
Needs
Since a person cannot do without sleep, water, food, warmth, needs arise. They encourage action. This is an internal state of the psyche, a lack of something. From this need, personality, individuality is formed. There are two types: conscious - they become interests; unconscious ones are revealed emotionally.
Needs influence the state of the individual, his thinking. The extent to which they are satisfied, the person feels happy. The need can be so strong that until a person satisfies it, he will not be able to think about anything else. For example: feeling cold or hot. Until he warms up or escapes the heat, he will look for a means to achieve these goals.
The level of development and living conditions depend on the number of needs.
The broader your horizons, the more interesting and exciting life becomes. It is a conscious need that reveals interest.
Emotions, not order
To become popular on the Internet now, it is not enough just to be rich, smart or beautiful. It is important to evoke emotions in those people who saw you.
For example, 50-year-old Italian millionaire Gianluca Vacchi is an Instagram star. He has an athletic tattooed body, dancing scantily clad with his wife on his yacht! He evokes a smile, respect, and in some people envy, but does not leave you indifferent. It "catches".
A Russian marketing company conducted an experiment. Having found a pensioner from the outback, marketers and stylists rented expensive clothes and cars, conducted several photo sessions and registered the elderly man on Instagram. For two months they maintained his account, posting gorgeous photos from beaches, restaurants, expensive apartments and houses. All images were captioned with humor and intrigue. Within a few weeks, the pseudo-millionaire’s number of subscribers exceeded 10,000, and he was invited to appear on television and to appear in commercials.
We live in a world of stories, where reality TV has long left the screens and has become our natural environment of existence. Our time is a time of emotions. In my opinion, this is neither good nor bad - it is the evolution of society’s thinking.
Steve Jobs was once asked what makes Apple's operating system so great? To which he replied: “We made the icons on the screen so beautiful that you will want to lick them.”
Not a word about megahertz and gigabytes. Feelings are stronger than reason.
Conclusion number two: Make the person worry
Find something that can evoke different emotions in your activities and enhance this effect.
Common interests
Natural connections between interests in the field of life and their determination in the place of the general system according to the nature of people classify interests.
- Personal – consist of development, satisfaction of one’s wishes, one’s needs.
- Social – a union of people with common goals to maintain society, traditions, culture and their development.
- State – political system. Protection of the territory of the country, people, economic and social stability, protection of laws, law and order, development of the state, international relations with other countries.
Transforming the hobbies of individual subjects with the interests of society and the state is the basis of life.
This factor drives the development of the country and its inhabitants.
Family
Creating a family is a responsible step that people decide to take by mutual consent, by joint decision to become support and protection for each other. Meanwhile, there is an opinion in society that every citizen is obliged to have a family. In fact, a person should strive for this only when he is internally ready for daily service in the name of another person, even the closest one on Earth. You cannot get married without realizing the obligations that you will still have to take on. Marriage requires constant selfless giving, so it would be a good idea to first learn to care for others.
A question that causes much debate: is a person’s family the one where he comes from? After all, even in the Bible, the greatest of books, it is written that “everyone leaves father and mother” for the sake of his own future. However, this does not mean that parents should be forgotten. Still, children have obligations to the dearest people who raised them. Only by learning to live independently, becoming self-sufficient, can you fully help them.
Human interest
These emotions can be stable or unstable. Stable - lasts a long time. They talk about overcoming obstacles and difficulties in achieving goals in order to achieve their interests. Unstable when interest disappears or difficulties frighten you.
These feelings are also divided into passive and active. When an interesting event flashes past a person, which will not affect him in any way, or he contemplates pictures, reads books and watches films, and does not need to take any action - this is passive interest. When active, on the contrary, action plays a significant role. It can also serve as an impetus for the development of abilities and skills.
Use people's names
In all your communications, written or oral, first or repeated, make it a point to use the person's name.
In Dale Carnegie's endless book How to Win Friends and Influence People, he wrote: “If you want to win friends, be sure to remember them. If you remember my name, you are paying me a subtle compliment. You indicate that I have impressed you. Remember my name and you will give me importance.
Kinds
- Material – achievement and satisfaction of desires. As well as needs for personal purposes, a better life, with the help of material values: find a well-paid job, buy clothes, an apartment, a house, travel, entertainment...
- Spiritual – personal growth through self-education, self-knowledge. Identifying and developing your potential and talents: in music, in authorship, in spiritual development, in science, painting...
- Personal – individual desires, needs in which the person himself is interested. This is taste, clothing, style, hobby...
- Socially public - generalization and attention to the activities of a group of people, a country, a nation... Manifests itself in politics, educational institutions, ecology, economics...
- Direct – purposeful desire to achieve results. A person is carried away by the process of activity, he is completely absorbed in it. For example: learn to dance or draw for yourself, and not for performances and exhibitions. Get an education for development purposes, not for a diploma...
- Indirect – inert achievement for the sake of the result itself. Getting an education for a diploma. Buy something unnecessary for the sake of prestige. Choose a profession that is uninteresting, but profitable...
Stories make History
Everyone who has achieved greatness today is a great story teller!
Our world, civilization, culture, relationships are built on bright scenarios. Since information rules the world, the greatest art is to learn how to manage information. And you can do this by telling stories.
Take any type of activity: music, choreography, television, politics - everywhere there are people telling stories, and those who do it best achieve success.
Starbucks, McDonald's, Disney, Facebook, Tesla, Apple, Metallica, Lady Gaga, Donald Trump - these are all, above all, great stories that people rally around. Society of Speakers and Ventriloquists.
When adults teach a child, they tell him stories. A child learns about friendship, hatred, love, betrayal and courage from fairy tales that parents read and cartoons that he watches.
Civilization began with history. Ancient Greece was created by Homer, who told the story of the gods who control the destinies of people.
Let's look at North and South Korea. One people. Same natural conditions. Same geography. But some people were told one story, others another. And in just a few decades, these are not just two different peoples - they are two different biological species.
What about Korea? There is division in one country only because people watch news on different TV channels.
History is stronger than nationality. History is stronger than man.
And, of course, the Fate of a person depends precisely on the story that he tells himself about himself. If you tell yourself a story about a loser whom no one loves, you will be a loser, because you will constantly look for (and find) confirmation of your story in the world around you. If you tell yourself a story about a great guy (or girl) who easily copes with temporary difficulties and confidently moves towards his goal, so it will be.
Of course, we are greatly influenced by the stories that others tell us, especially if these stories are believed. If from childhood we are told about “keep your head down,” “you want a lot, you get little,” “curious Varvara...” and so on, then we will live our lives without raising our heads.
Our history is always stronger than us.
So the first conclusion is: tell stories!
- Learn to meet new people.
- Know how to introduce yourself and interest your interlocutor.
- Have some interesting stories from your life with you.
- Read jokes and remember the funniest ones.
- Watch quality films and read good books.
- Develop your ability to compose, write, rhyme.
Inclinations and inclinations
There are many similarities and differences between these concepts.
An individual who is prone to something may not show interest in action. For example: a person has a penchant for mathematics, but a person loves to read. He is more interested in exploring the world of literature than in solving problems.
Inclination can also reveal abilities, determine the future activities and fate of the subject. Reveal his talents and potential. The direction of your horizons is also determined by your attraction to the subject of your hobby.
If inclination is an ability, then inclinations are a craving for something with passion. They are revealed in the form of bad inclinations: the desire to kill, alcoholism, drug addiction. There is a theory that tendencies manifest themselves due to mental trauma. With birth at the genetic level.
In Dahl's dictionary
m. French benefit, benefit, profit; | interest, growth on money; | sympathy for someone or something, participation, care. | Interest or significance, importance of the matter. | Donsk. zemstvo duty? Interesting, self-interested; | entertaining, enticing, tempting or curious, arousing participation; funny. Interestingness property, property of interesting, entertaining. An interested person is a selfish person who protects only his own benefits. To interest someone, to occupy someone, to excite participation, to amuse or entice. - by whom or what; take part in someone or something.
How to develop interest
It is important that interest does not wane, otherwise it will lead to dissatisfaction with life and depression. We need to keep it in good shape and develop it. The feeling of passion is the main thing in the development of this emotion.
- Remember the feeling of joy and satisfaction when you were passionately doing something. We didn’t notice how time passed while doing our favorite activity. You were not interested in people, distractions, you created and created.
- Even the slightest bias matters. Any unsatisfied desire will lead to psychological consequences. It’s better to go through different hobbies to find your interest.
- Boredom, despondency, and idleness must be avoided. If you are not interested in anything, take a walk in the fresh air, listen to yourself - your subconscious and body will tell you the answer to the question. Trust yourself and also your intuition.
- Learn to bring everything to the end. This should become a rule that you pass on to your children. Since the first passion for an idea, if you do not bring it to completion, will not produce results, and the process, in itself, will turn into an adventure.
- Abilities must be developed, since everything is built not only on emotions, but also on skill. Working on yourself will reveal your abilities, and it is in your hands to develop them. If you want to achieve results, you don’t have to lose passion.
- Meet, communicate with people, look around. Be surprised and captivated. There are a lot of different ideas and emotions around, absorb them.
Give sincere compliments
When people take the time to give you a sincere compliment, how do you feel about them? You are naturally drawn to people who speak positively about you. If you take an extra 10 seconds to give people a genuine compliment, your interest in them can have a much bigger impact than you think.
