Dear friend! If you are reading these lines, it means that not everything is so smooth in your relationship with your girlfriend. Most likely, you have already begun to think about whether she is cheating on you? Of course, when starting a relationship, all people plan to live happily ever after. This love that excites hearts, these wonderful moments of first timid dates, confessions, long conversations during which you forget about all your affairs and worries... And it seems that these happy moments will last forever, and a long and happy life together awaits you.
But, unfortunately, very often reality turns out to be far from our ideas. And then, at one not-so-wonderful moment, suspicions begin to creep in that the girl you love is most likely cheating. But are there any signs at all to confirm or refute these doubts? Of course they exist! Let's talk about this.
Why does the thought of the other half’s infidelity creep in?
It is absolutely impossible to build normal relationships without trust. As soon as the feeling of love arises, the thought that someone might cheat on someone does not even occur to them. But over time, a wonderful feeling can be replaced by everyday life and serious problems in relationships.
Thoughts about a girl’s infidelity begin to visit a young man when his beloved’s behavior changes greatly. But you shouldn’t immediately accuse her of betrayal if she simply didn’t answer a few calls.
First you need to figure out what kind of betrayal can be and whether such a problem really exists.
Treason can be:
- physical;
- emotional.
In the case of physical cheating, the only reason it happened is hormones. If we talk about emotional things, then everything is much more complicated. It can happen for completely different reasons.
In most cases, it is men who cheat physically. In other words, they become attached to the sexual partner with whom they cheated on their woman. It is wrong to make excuses based on the effect of hormones, but still, many people can forgive such betrayal. Because even though a person betrayed his soulmate, this does not mean that his feelings have disappeared.
Quite often, such betrayal is forgiven, and the couple’s relationship only strengthens. But to each his own. And there are a lot of opinions on this matter.
Girls most often cheat emotionally. They begin to develop feelings for the man with whom they cheated on their boyfriend. This type of betrayal is much more dangerous, since after it it is impossible to save the relationship. Besides, if a girl is emotionally attached to another guy, then you shouldn’t even try to save them.
The relationship will never be the same again, and if it continues, it will become worse every day. Such betrayal indicates that the woman has fallen out of love with her current man.
She began to take an active interest in your daily routine.
For example, she constantly asks you about which bar you meet your friends at. Or where you are having your corporate event. Which shopping center did you go to?
She begins to recognize every detail, time, place. Don’t be afraid to ask questions in response like “What?”, “Why are you asking?” or “Why are you suddenly so interested in this?”
At a minimum, you can understand from her answers whether she is lying to you or not. And hear whether she will wriggle out or answer the question directly.
First signs
You should think about whether a girl is cheating after the first signs of cheating have been noticed. Among them:
- Password on your computer and smartphone. You need to pay attention to this if she didn’t have passwords anywhere before. After all, their appearance suggests that she wants to hide information that no one needs to know about.
- The woman resumed communication with her ex-lover. Many guys have a bad attitude towards the fact that their girlfriends communicate with ex-boyfriends, which is quite logical. Very often such communication ends in something more significant. If a guy notices that his girlfriend is communicating with her ex, then he needs to carefully monitor the development of these events.
- The partner closes the smartphone screen when she receives a new message or immediately rejects the call. It is indecent to read other people’s correspondence, but if she constantly tries to hide them from her boyfriend, then most likely her lover is writing to her.
- The beloved began to avoid her boyfriend's friends. If she used to communicate well with them, but now she doesn’t, then you need to find out from her the reason for this change in behavior.
- She changed her social network password. Quite often, people in relationships exchange their passwords for pages on various web resources. Therefore, if a guy previously knew the password for his girlfriend’s account, but now she changed it for some reason, then it’s worth thinking about. If, when asked about changing the password, she talks about personal space, then this is a lie.
- Relaxing with friends in nightclubs. Every person needs to rest periodically in this way. But if a girl’s nightly meetings with her friends have become too frequent, then you need to talk to her. After all, one fine morning after a fun night, she may wake up next not to her boyfriend, but to an acquaintance from the club.
- The girl does not talk on the phone in the presence of her boyfriend. This suggests that her boyfriend is unlikely to like her interlocutor, so she wants to hide him.
- Attacks of tenderness and care. It would seem that there is something wrong with this. But if a girl, completely without reason, begins to surround her boyfriend with excessive care and tenderness, then most likely she wants to make amends for her guilt in this way.
- It is difficult to reach her because her phone is always busy. In this case, you need to find out from her who she talks to so often. If a girl claims that she is talking to her friends, then most likely this is a lie.
Sudden curiosity 3
Many ladies are extremely imprudent when they plan their cunning plan to hide their infidelity. They try to be too sympathetic and friendly so that you are happy and do not show increased interest in her. However, this is their main mistake. It is impossible to build a harmonious relationship without quarreling and arguing at least once. In addition, people may simply be tired, irritable and simply upset. It's unavoidable. However, if a girl literally shines every minute and always carefully checks your schedule, then you should be wary.
Many believe that this is exactly what a lady of the heart should be - obsequious, affectionate, eloquent. However, in fact, such a beauty simply plans when you are not at home, where you will be, so as not to cross paths. All this is necessary to compose a more or less plausible legend about your betrayal.
No one denies the fact that a friend can sometimes simply ask what time you will be back in order to have time to cook dinner or ask you to grab something from the store. But more often than not, the reality turns out to be much sadder.
Physiological signs
If a girl cheats, then this will definitely affect the intimate life of the couple.
If we talk about men who cheat, their behavior changes in that they become more active sexually. Girls behave differently.
If a woman falls in love with another man, then she will avoid intimacy with her boyfriend, because she feels guilty towards him or because he has become no longer interesting to her. Therefore, if there were no problems with sex in a relationship before, but then they appeared, then it is possible that another man satisfies her.
The girl will also so that her partner does not see her like that. Will be wrapped in a blanket.
Naturally, the reason for refusal of sex can be dissatisfaction with the relationship or with your life in general. But if she flirts with others and denies her boyfriend attention, then most likely there are big problems in the relationship.
Bodily changes
Many people are concerned about how you can tell from your body that your girlfriend is cheating on you. There are no direct signs, but there are several indirect ones:
- she has lost weight or gained weight. This may be due both to nervous experiences associated with the need to constantly lie, and to the desire to please the new gentleman more; she hides her neck with a choker or scarf. After passionate sex, “material evidence” of betrayal may remain on the neck;
- she smells like men's perfume. People who have extensive experience of “going to the left” often ask their partners not to use toilet water. After all, someone else's smell can arouse suspicion. But if the betrayal was spontaneous or the lovers were not sufficiently prudent, this evidence may appear;
- she often takes "closed" poses. This is a common sign of lying. Closedness is indicated by crossed legs and arms, a slightly lowered head and raised shoulders. The person seems to be trying to hide, feeling ashamed or not wanting to reveal their secrets.
How to understand behavior with 100% accuracy?
A cheating girl tries to limit her personal space to the maximum. Of course, any girl can behave this way. But if at the beginning of the relationship everything was different, and then she began to sharply isolate herself from her partner, then this is an alarming bell.
A woman begins to pay more attention to her appearance. Changes her wardrobe, image, wears makeup often. She once did this for the sake of her current boyfriend, but with the development of the relationship, routine came, so the long preparations for a date stopped.
If the beloved again began to preen for a long time in front of the mirror, it means she has a new boyfriend.
Another woman begins to notice the shortcomings of her young man. She criticizes his lifestyle, behavior and even the way he eats. If she once called it cute little things, now it really irritates her. Therefore, this indicates possible betrayal. Using this method, a woman compares her chosen ones, and the benefit is clearly not in the direction of the current man.
She also begins to ignore calls and messages. She says she didn’t hear or didn’t have time to answer. But most likely, at this time she is next to her lover.
You can understand that your beloved is cheating by the fact that she is no longer interested in where and with whom her boyfriend is. She rarely communicates with him and does not pay attention to what he says. Gradually the chosen one moves away.
We recommend watching a video about 5 clear signs of obvious betrayal:
She doesn't have time to see you.
Let's say you used to always spend weekends together, but now she has some urgent matters. Or you went to the cinema on Wednesdays, and now she says that she signed up for courses. She refuses your proposals to spend time together, citing her constant employment.
She suddenly started going to the gym? Or did you regularly start staying late at work? Didn't you think that this was just a man's excuse?
If she dresses up, preens, turns on music and is in a playful mood, then she is going on a date with another man.
How to check the fact of infidelity?
If a guy notices some features in his girlfriend’s behavior that indicate she’s cheating, then he needs to check it out immediately. On the one hand, such an act is not very correct, but on the other hand, doubts may be justified.
You can check the girl as follows:
- View her messages on your phone or laptop.
- Follow your beloved. If she said that she was going to meet a friend, then you should follow her to make sure who she is with.
- Ask your best friend for help. He should write the girl a message like “I know everything!” If she really has something to worry about, she can ask her friend not to tell her boyfriend anything. Well, if not, then such a message can always be translated into a joke.
- Arrive at her house earlier than agreed. Perhaps you will be able to catch your chosen one with her lover.
- Catch her on inaccuracies in her words. If she is confused about what she is telling, then most likely it is a lie.
- Unexpectedly for her, come to meet her from work or school. Perhaps another guy will do it too.
- You can lie about your schedule. And when she thinks her boyfriend is at work, come to her house unannounced.
- Just ask her directly about cheating. But you need to be aware that she can lie.
Cheating is an unpleasant situation that couples in love face. But she always has her own reason. There is no need to relax and stop working on your relationships, because there are no irreplaceable people.
She stopped paying attention to you.
All couples have quarrels. And that's absolutely normal. It's much worse when they aren't there. If you begin to notice that your girlfriend doesn’t care about those things that could previously drive her crazy, then something has gone wrong.
That is, she thinks about another person, is completely captivated by him. And what happens there in your everyday life is the tenth thing.
There is no need to deliberately provoke her and do things that she clearly won’t like in order to test her reaction. It’s better to find out everything calmly and ask directly what’s going on between you. And why did she suddenly become so cold towards you? She might have the courage to tell you the truth.
Or maybe it's just you?
Few people wonder what could be the reason for cheating, but even fewer people are ready to assume that it’s not just about the girl. Yes, a good relationship is the result of the work of both partners.
Having suspected your girlfriend of cheating, it’s time to think - perhaps it was your behavior and attitude that pushed her to take such a step.
- You don't spend enough time with her. Remember how many times you postponed your meetings because of friends, your hobbies. Yes, perhaps your significant other reacts calmly, but just imagine how offended she is that you put your preferences above hers!
- You have become cooler towards her. Any girl instantly feels any change in your relationship, coldness and distance.
- You gave her a reason to be jealous. Remember, your friend only wants to see herself next to you. All other females are suspicious, and if you are hugging or walking with someone, consider that an explosion has occurred inside your beloved.
- You don't listen to her. This is one of the biggest disasters when you ignore all her words, do not share her interests and criticize her actions. This attitude is a reason for betrayal, especially if you stubbornly do not want to change something.
In general, if you don’t listen to what a girl says, treat her without respect and think that she’s not going anywhere, she will. Maybe just to cause pain, to annoy. Or maybe he will leave for good.
What to do?
The simplest and most logical way that first comes to mind is to simply talk to your girlfriend. Of course, you shouldn’t make a drama out of this conversation - just calmly ask what is the reason for such unusual changes. As already mentioned, not everyone knows how to lie, everything will become clear immediately. But many are great at pretending, so pay special attention to facial expressions, gaze, and some external reactions. This is more than enough for one to draw conclusions about the fact of treason.
But it may happen that the conversation will go calmly and your jealousy will turn out to be groundless. How trustworthy is this outcome? After all, few people admit to taking sides.
If, nevertheless, many of the listed signs are present, but recognition is absent, it may be worth resorting to not entirely ethical methods. It's time to play detective and quietly conduct an investigation: where does the girl go when she talks about important matters? What is the reason for her behavior? You can casually ask her friends or parents if you communicate well with them. But be careful! Such conversations quickly give rise to rumors, which quickly become embellished and spread around the world.
But in general, it’s worth thinking about - what could be the reason? There are rare cases when today everything is simply amazing, and tomorrow the relationship is already destroyed and the love has passed. Most often, girls are not inclined to cheat if there are sincere feelings. Of course, a lot depends on upbringing laid down at an early age, but nowadays people still talk about free views at the beginning of a relationship.
Remember that the basis of a strong relationship is trust in each other. Now you will hurry, and the real reason will be far from betrayal. Think about it, can you save your relationship in this case?
Think about it, didn’t you give yourself a reason?
